inside and out, including the bottoms, many, many times! you get to taste all sorts of things, some edible, and some far from edible - pebbles, dirt, mud, leaves, dog waste, vomit, among other nasty items. you don't do it because you enjoy it. you do it because you are told to, because it humiliates you and gives your owner pleasure watching you humiliate yourself
Submission Is Offered, Not Extracted: The Truth About a Female Led Relationship
A man walks into a bar.
He tells the woman beside him that he leads a top tech firm. That he has been an alpha since childhood. That every decision in his office, in his family, in his life â runs through him.
She smiles. She tells him she is not like the other women he has met.
He smirks. He tells her he has met dominant women before. None of them could make him submit.
She takes him home. She has a dungeon â the kind you only see in captions. She ties him to a cross. She whips him until he cries. She orders him to kneel and apologise for undermining her.
From that day, she owns him.
She keeps him locked. She has allowed him to cum three times in five years. She records videos of him in compromising positions. She blackmails him into obedience.
Five years later, he is still her slave.
Beautiful story, isnât it?
Except it is not a story. It is a porn script. And thousands of men who discover a Female Led Relationship through the wrong corners of the internet genuinely believe this is how submission is born.
It isnât.
Submission is not enforced. Submission is offered.
Let me explain why this distinction is not a technicality â it is the entire foundation of a real FLR.
Recommended Read â Female Led Relationship or Just a Sexual Fetish?
What Submission Actually Is
Before we go anywhere, letâs get the definition right.
Submission is the conscious choice to prioritise your partnerâs authority, needs, and vision â expressed through consistent actions, respect, and accountability. It is the willing surrender of control in specific areas of life to create structure and purpose within the relationship.
Every word in that sentence matters. Let me break it down.
Conscious Choice
Submission is a choice. And a conscious one.
It is not introduced through manipulation. It is not extracted through coercion. It is not the result of a woman tricking a man into a cage while he was asleep.
A submissive man knows he is choosing this. He wakes up every morning and re-chooses it. (Read â The Importance of Consent in a Female Led Relationship)
Consistent Actions
Submission is not a fantasy you lie down with at night.
It is not the Instagram message you sent a random Dom woman at 2 a.m. calling her âGoddessâ. It is not the one time you cleaned the kitchen because your wife had a long day.
Submission is what you do on a Tuesday afternoon when no one is watching. It is what you do when it is inconvenient. It is what you do when you are tired.
One-time actions are not submission. Consistency is.
Specific Areas
Here is the part most men skip.
Submission does not mean you have no say. It does not mean she controls every breath you take.
A real submissive chooses the areas where he submits â finances, sex, chores, chastity, scheduling, social behaviour â and discusses them with his Dom. The rest of life remains his own domain. (Read â What is a Female Led Relationship?)
This is not a loophole. This is what makes submission sustainable for decades.
Structure and Purpose
Submission creates structure. Both partners know their role. A hierarchy is formed, and hierarchy is not oppression â it is clarity.
Submission also creates purpose. The submissive man finds meaning in making her life easier. The Dom finds purpose in shaping him. Together, they build something neither of them could build alone.
Why Submission Cannot Be Enforced
Enforced submission is the most common fantasy among FLR-lurking men. Thanks to porn. Thanks to the caption blogs with their strict-looking, picture-perfect women. Thanks to the Reddit threads where some anonymous account claims his wife drugged him into chastity.
You have seen all of it. I know.
Let me walk you through why none of it holds up in the real world.
âShe Beat Me Into Submissionâ
Really?
A grown man cannot walk out of a room? He cannot file a complaint? He cannot break up with her?
If a woman is physically assaulting you against your will, that is not domination. That is abuse. And the solution is not to call her Goddess â it is to leave and, if needed, involve the police.
âShe Locked My Cock Without My Consentâ
No cage goes on a wide-awake man without his cooperation. None.
The only way this happens is if she drugs him. And if that is your fantasy, you are not looking for a Female Led Relationship â you are looking for a crime scene.
Also, if she is drugging you, should you even be with her?
Also, let me tell you something most men donât want to hear: most cages can be escaped. If a man says he âcannotâ get out of his cage, what he means is he chooses not to. Because submission is a choice. Even from inside the cage.
âShe Has Videos to Blackmail Meâ
The activity in those videos was consensual, wasnât it?
If she filmed you without consent, that is a serious offence she has committed â not a hold she has on you. The law in India (and as a matter of fact, anywhere else) is very clear on this.
But here is the harder truth: a woman who needs to blackmail you to keep you submissive is not dominant. She is insecure. A real Dom does not need leverage. Her submissive wants to obey. (Read â Earn her Dominance â Etiquette for approaching a Dominant woman)
Submission Is a Gift â And Gifts Arenât Given to Just Anyone
A submissive manâs service, his devotion, his obedience â all of it is a gift.
He offers himself because he wants to. His greatest joy is in serving his Dom. His ultimate source of happiness is her happiness.
But a gift only has value when it is given thoughtfully.
âIf submission is my gift, shouldnât I be careful about who I give it to?â
Yes. Absolutely yes.
This is where most men stumble. Rahul discovers FLR on a Sunday evening. By Monday morning, he is messaging every woman on a kink forum calling her Mistress. He is ready to kneel for anyone who acknowledges him.
That is not devotion. That is desperation.
A man looking for a traditional marriage does not propose to the first woman he meets on a matrimony site. He takes his time. He evaluates character, values, compatibility. He waits for the right one.
A submissive man should do exactly the same. (Read â Mistake that Men Looking for a Mistress Make)
Not all Dom women are the same. Some are cruel. Some are immature. Some are in it for the ego trip. Some have no interest in building a relationship â they just want a wallet and a foot stool.
The right Dom woman will not need to extract submission from you. You will want to make her life easier. You will want to gift her your obedience. (Read â Serving Your Dom is a Privilege)
Submission Does Not Mean Losing Your Self-Respect
Let me say this clearly.
Submitting to a woman does not jeopardise your self-respect. But submitting to just any woman absolutely does.
I see men in forums every week looking for someone â anyone â who will piss on them, spit on them, make them lick her feet, order them to clean her house, treat them like an ATM.
No context. No relationship. No emotional foundation. Just a strangerâs permission to be humiliated.
If your sense of self-worth is so low that any random woman can spit on you in exchange for her attention, you have a problem that a Female Led Relationship cannot solve. You have a problem that needs a therapist, not a Mistress.
My slave understands this clearly. He serves me. He is a gentleman to other women â polite, respectful, helpful. But he is submissive only to me. Not to my friends. Not to strangers on the internet. Not to any woman who happens to have a dominant-sounding Instagram bio. (Read â Be a SMART Submissive)
That distinction is what keeps submission sacred.
Final Thoughts
The porn version of a Female Led Relationship is seductive because it removes responsibility from the man. If she forced him into the cage, he is not accountable for being there. If she blackmailed him, he is not accountable for staying. The fantasy lets him surrender without ever having chosen.
But that is not submission. That is fiction.
Real submission is harder. It requires you to wake up every day and choose her all over again. It requires you to find the right woman, earn her leadership, and offer yourself as a gift â not as a prisoner.
âShe didnât capture me. I chose her.â
That single sentence is the difference between a man who has found a Female Led Relationship and a man who is still watching porn.
She doesnât own you because she took you. She owns you because you gave yourself.
And that is the only submission worth having.
If you have to be forced into submission, it is not submission. If you can walk away but choose to stay and serve â that is submission.
If Sana was my priestess, Iâd be shouting âAmen!â every time she speaks. Another brilliant post from her. There was so much I loved about this one, but Iâll just mention how apt I found her definition of submission. My favorite quote overall was:
Submission creates structure. Both partners know their role. A hierarchy is formed, and hierarchy is not oppression â it is clarity.
Submission also creates purpose. The submissive man finds meaning in making her life easier.
This little tidbit of wisdom should be part of every submissive man's mantra.
I also really liked:
A real Dom does not need leverage. Her submissive wants to obey.
Thereâs so much porn-based faux flr internet content, that if this message got spread around, 90% of flr content would disappear. But the remaining 10% would get a lot more of the attention it deserves.
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