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18+ NSFW  Proudly collared submissive... 

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[1fireryredhead-deactivated20250]

So much more~~~❌❤️

[zevypoo2-deactivated20201011]

No fear

[queerbitchdiaz-archived]

i really needed this today, so for anyone else who might

[scarygoodfanfics-deactivated201]

Thanks I needed this also. I’ll pass it on

[lonewolf7130]

Just the Rock blessing your feed

[calculatedmadness]

Thanks, Mr. The Rock.

[lightdroprain]

I saw his smiling face and just like that I started smiling and feeling better. :) I have always found him very reassurance, and sometimes all you need is a happy and reassuring face to feel happy, too. :)

[justanotherlittlered]

[daddydomshouse]

[thegingerpowers]

[abadgentleman]

Visit: http://abadgentleman.tumblr.com

[inkdnready]

…⚓️😈

[freedomforeverybody118]

Turkish:

Tüm hayallerini başarmayı kendine borçlusun.

[simplysmexy]

[a-poetic-dominant-deactivated20]

Never let her doubt that she belongs to you.

[thegingerpowers]

[thepersonalquotes]

[thepersonalquotes]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, Stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.”

— lyanla Vanzant

[mscogsworthy-deactivated2022111]

The secret about D/s is

There is no secret. Friends. Really. There’s not. There’s no secret to making kinky partnerships work or to communicating with a partner or any other aspect of being two people in a consenting arrangement.

At least, there’s no secret that you don’t already know.

D/s is a relationship. That’s it. It’s a relationship, just like dating, just like living together, just like marriage. And the secret to managing relationships?

99% of the time, the key to managing a relationship is communication. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. Tell your partner what you want, what you don’t want, what feels good and for God’s sake what doesn’t feel good. 

I browse a lot of the BDSM advice blogs & groups, and I swear to God, almost every question could be answered with TALK TO YOUR PARTNER.

(The other 1% can be answered with LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS, but that’s another post entirely.)

There is very little in any healthy D/s relationship that can’t be handled with the application of a little patience and a lot of communication. And seriously, if you’re finding that the communication isn’t working, there are counselors and therapists out there who specialize in “non-traditional” relationships. Therapy is probably one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself, and as a tool for the maintenance of self and relationships, there’s not much else I’d recommend more highly. 

So yeah. That’s it. There’s the Big Secret everyone always wants to know.

[instructor144]

I concur wholeheartedly with this ^^^^.

[let-theoceandrain]

Bohemian blog☀

[goodhotwife-deactivated20260527]

Tasks and Order

I think I am typical for the species Submissive. I need structure and clear expectations. I flourished as a student, because I had the objectives presented for me and *all I had to do was fulfill them.* Then, I got the reward: a high grade or honor. When expectations are vague or fuzzy, I struggle. I get overwhelmed; I feel like I’m spinning out. When I’m stressed or going through a transition, my need for structure ratchets up higher.

For example, I have anxiety that mushroom clouds up in my life at inopportune times, like when I need to go to the grocery store. As I prepare to exit the car, I think of how many choices I’ll need to make. How will I not overspend? What’s on sale? What do I need for this recipe?. . .so many questions batter by brain. My husband, aka, Daddy, if I ask him ahead of time, will tell me some grocery items to get. I already will have a list, arranged by the order of the store layout. I’ll already have done a meal plan for at least 5/7 days. So, his few specific items are additional but they *matter* to me.

Routine is my friend. I plan a specific day to shop, ask him at least a day before, and he’ll tell me a few specific items to get. How this helps is, it takes away one of the million questions anxiety hurtles at me when I do this weekly shop.

In order to prevent the “spin out” feeling, it helps me to plan ahead for my whole day. I have a day planner, calendars, and to do lists. I write down tasks, appointments, and errands. If I do this, I feel more able to manage my life. I’m less likely to get overwhelmed. Not saying it doesn’t happen, but it’s less likely. And I ask my husband what I can do for him. If he gives me a simple task, it is easy to manage and accomplish. Then, I feel like I’ve done one helpful thing for him. This helps me to feel *secure,* which is critical when I’m feeling that aimless, frustrated, in-a-rowboat-with-no-oars feeling. And if I can’t talk with him at the time when I’m feeling that way, I decide on one small objective to accomplish. Something to organize, or clean, so I can look at the tangible end result. I remember then that I can accomplish small tasks and loftier goals as well.

[reflectedtruthsblog]

I can relate to this so much! I often find myself feeling overwhelmed by too many choices especially when it comes to planning meals.

[dominantthoughts]

[pleasurable-visions]

Always was..who the man Iam..always proud.