Forgive me for being oblivious, but what is a bi lesbian?
some label people came up with to try and define sapphic folks with a preference for women. it’s not around on tumblr a lot so i get the confusion but it’s a whole thing on twitter. the General WLW Consensus is that this harms both bi women (by saying that just being bi means you can’t have a preference) and lesbians (feeding into the stereotype that some lesbians will give men a chance)
Bi lesbian is not a new label. It is a historic label that people are rediscovering.
Independent Voices
I'm no authority on bi or lesbian stuff, especially as I am neither. You would be better of asking older queer people, especially ones who identify as bi lesbians, such as @vaspider. (Apologizes for bothering you, Spider. I just felt you might be better equiped to explain this.)
Bi lesbians, bi dykes, or bykes, are not a new thing, and the meaning of the phrase varies. A few (but not all) meanings!
"But bi lesbian/bi dykes are only a Twitter thing, no one in the real world has ever accepted that!"
Mmmm, no, that's not correct. You'll find offline spaces organized by older queers accept us bi dykes very much!
"But bi lesbians are harmful to REAL lesbians because they invalidate bi women and make men think that they have a chance with..."
Wow, that's some nice victim-blaming you've got going on, there. So dykes are responsible for the behavior of the men who attack and harass them and others? Are you going to ask what they were wearing next? 🙄
Please take your not at all recycled biphobia and go, ffs.
"But why can't you just identify as Sapphic?"
Why can't you just identify as Sapphic, or bi, or straight? Oh, because that's not who you are? Funny how that works for monosexual people but not m-spec people. 🤔
"That invalidates..."
No one else's queer identity oppresses or invalidates yours, and the sooner you come to see the truth of that, the sooner you'll stop playing into the hands of the people who would love us to splinter our community so they can easily do things like "take away marriage equality" and "strip LGBTQ people of the right to medical treatment."
You know, the stuff they're definitely already trying to do. So the sooner we stop putting our energy to eating our own and refocus it to fighting back, the better off we'll be.
Anyway, bi lesbians have been around, we're not a Twitter invention, and we're not going anywhere.
