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Dom red flags: a checklist for less experienced submissives
This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.
Aftercare - Always mandatory. While it will look different from different people aftercare is still an essential part of a dynamic. If a dom has a problem with aftercare, either your version of it or the concept in general 🚩🚩🚩
Safe words - Always mandatory. Safe words are essential for both doms and subs. It’s valid to use them at any time for any reason. I suggest two safewords for every dynamic. A pause word and a stop word. Yellow and Red are pretty standard in many BDSM circles and they’re fantastic for explaining the concept of each. Yellow or Pause meaning take a breath, check in, and communicate. Red or Stop meaning immediately end the scene and provide aftercare. If the sub is gagged or otherwise speech impaired, a particular noise they can annunciate like “Nuh uh," snapping your fingers, or holding onto a loud object they can drop to create a distinct noise are fantastic alternatives. No one should ever be made to feel guilty for using a safeword. If a dom has a problem with safe words, punishes their sub for using it, or doesn’t immidiately stop when the safeword is used 🚩🚩🚩
Check-ins - Recommended. In any dynamic, the dom has a responsibility to make sure their sub is comfortable with the scene as it’s being carried out. Sometimes things can get intense, and if the sub is in subspace, they may not always be able to catch when something starts to overwhelm them. To avoid negative outcomes, I suggest regular check-ins. They can be as simple as “would you like another slap, baby?” or “how does that feel?" or as in-depth as a full pause of the scene. I recomend simple check ins for short scenes (under 10 minutes) and longer water breaks and full pauses during longer scenes. Check-ins are especially important for inexperienced subs and anyone exploring a new type of play. If you think check-ins sound like a good idea, then ask for them! And if your dom refuses 🚩🚩🚩
Boundaries - Always Mandatory. You and your dom both have a responsibility to communicate your boundaries with each other. You also have the responsibility not to cross each other’s boundaries intentionally. Ever. If a dom doesn’t listen to your boundaries, repeatedly crosses them, pushes you to do things you explicitly aren't okay with, or refuses to admit that you don’t like something 🚩🚩🚩
Adapting/Taking critism - Very important. No dynamic will be perfect from the start. Expectations and desires change over time, and even the deepest of connections will evolve. This means that consistant communication and feedback during the dynamic is essential. Bdsm is not about a dom molding a sub into whatever they want. It's about exploring mutually held desires. Both a dom and a sub need to be able to tweak their approaches to each other with time, listen to critisms from each other, and continously adapt as your perceptions of the dynamic change over time. If you have a 24/7 dynamic, I would recomend a regularly scheduled pause every day to talk about the dynamic, voice any critisms, and adjust accordingly. If a dom doesn't want to adjust their approach for you, or shift things in your dynamic based on what you want and like🚩🚩🚩
Punishments - the dynamics conceptualization of punishments should always be pre-negotiated. What is the purpose of punishments? Are they meant to be fun for both parties? Does the sub even want to be punished? Does the dom want to preform punishments? What activities are both parties okay with? If a dom refuses to take all this int account, or wants to give you punishments you dissgree with despite any out-of-dynamic protests🚩🚩🚩
General tips:
Trust your gut - If a situation feels wrong, back out. If someone feels off, or if something isn’t adding up, don't do it. If your gut tells you to run, run. Most BDSM carries inherent risk, if you aren't 100% sure you're willing to accept that risk, don't do it.
Don’t compromise on your boundaries. Ever. - If you feel uncomfortable doing something don’t do it. If a fantasy or scene seems like too much, refuse. There are plenty of doms out there, ignoring your feelings for one that makes you uncomfortable is never worth it.
Talk to others in the community - Please please please for the love of god talk to other subs. Talk to doms that aren’t interested in you. Talk with your dom’s other playmates. Talk with your friends who do kink. Other members of the community are an essential resource and act as a great bullshit detector if something doesn't seem right. Provide support to each other, be as open about your dynamic/potential partners as you comfortably can be. Listen to their feedback.
Sub drop/dom drop - Drops are completely normal during kink. I’ve had them, subs I’ve been with have had them, friends who participate in kink have had them. If you do kink, you’ll probably have a drop at some point, and that’s okay. Your dom should be someone who can comfort you during a drop, the same way you would comfort them if they have one. Your dom should be someone who can make you feel safe during a drop. They should be someone who is willing to comfort you and be there for you while you feel those feelings.
If you have questions about any of this please dm me or send me an ask.
Stay right there whore.... swallowing every drop milk my balls dry while I finish down your throat slut.... don't fuck up good head now finish what you start bitch your just a fucking cumdumpster cumslut
Every fucking day until it can touch it's nose for 30 mississippis.....then it can get it in the cunt and try to cum. Not one second sooner......it has to concentrate on his pleasure before it gets some also
If you add a bell counter with a longer dildo, you can make her go balls deep and make sure her nose hits the counter for the bell to go off. When she hits to 10,000 dings, she will get a chance for an anal orgasm. This is where daddy shoves his cock as deep in her ass as possible and rams the shit out of it, and if she can cum before I do, she gets to cum, if not back to the dildo and we can go again.
Make it normal and acceptable to talk disparagingly about girls in an objectifying manner. Belittle them and make fun of them if they take offence. Humiliate them publicly. Use terms such as “cunts” when talking about them, preferably when in company with other girls. Make them understand you view them as nothing but dumb little things, or eye candy at best. Talk to them, not with them. Yawn openly and often if they get carried away or try to come off as “intellectual.” Look at their tits, not their eyes. Compare their physical attributes to other girls, openly and publicly, and if you’re not impressed let them know. Compliment their attributes and not their “personality” or wit. Grab girls’ ass and tits.
As a stupid bitch I can tell you we NEED men to objectify us. We NEED men to degrade us. As a pair of tits and 3 holes we are pathetic and should be grateful for ANY man’s attention.
Always let men grope you in public. It’s their way of giving compliments to you without saying a word. Dress revealing on purpose to let men know that your ass and tits are theirs for the taking. Don’t fight it when they start to grab at you. Smile. Thank them. Act dumber, hornier, happier. Tell them they can do whatever they want. And if they grab you by the arms and say you’re coming with them? Then that’s exactly where you’re going. You don’t go anywhere until men have had their fix of you. You owe yourself, your dignity, your body to them. Because they own you. Because you’re nothing without men.
The thing i miss most about working is being the office slut! So many coworkers and clients have used me, exposed me, groped me, and fucked me. I felt so useful helping them relieve their stress.
When I used to work I went from being a professional prude feminist to the office slut. Coworkers and clients had groped me and exposed me and fucked my holes!
Wanting to be spanked and disciplined in public is normal behavior
Wanting your body to be exposed in public without warning is normal behavior
Wanting someone to push you against something or bend you over something to expose your holes is normal behavior
Wanting someone's hands to explore and inspect your holes is normal behavior
Wanting to show your tits and holes without being asked is normal behavior
Wanting to send people pictures of your tits and holes for whatever use they want is normal behavior
Wanting to be fucked anywhere and everywhere by anyone and everyone is normal behavior
Embrace being a slut, toy, whore, cunt, fuckmeat, set of holes. That's how you were born, accept it, embrace it, live it. Serve those around you by putting yourself on display and making yourself useful however they want or need at all times.
Daddy's friends will stop by fir this reason alone. Their wives are prudes and they need a fucktoy slut! They know they can use any hole the want to drain their balls.
Last year I had a window salesman stop by the house. As usual I was naked cause that’s Daddy’s rules at home. I swear it wasn’t 10 minutes and I was sucking his cock and a couple minutes after that he was pounding me like this against a wall! Didn’t buy any windows but GODDAMNIT ot was hot!!!
Elin could easily drive to work an back, her company even offered a chauffeured vehicle (no wonder as she was the boss's pet), but she loved the feel of public transport.
Always made her feel so appreciated, felt like she was part of a larger community, that she was doing some thing good for the society and she reached whichever destination it was (home or office), well appreciated and leaking and ready for more.
What would you do if a group of tgirls came up to you, grabbed you, and just dragged you away?~ Just basically kidnapping you in broad daylight, I know youd just go along with it. We aalll know how much you want all your tgirl follower to fuck you sensless, to rape you, get you pregnant, and do it aaalll over again and again and again
this is a genuine dream I WISH a group of tgirls would kidnap and rape me
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