KansasWife

Recent transplant to Oregon. Just a collection of things I enjoy and blurbs about my husband and I. Feel free to say hi :) Absolutely 18+. Under 18? Go the fuck away.

[cottagelf]

Mentally, I’m here

[weltenwellen]

Audrey Hepburn / Margarita Karapanou, tr. by Karen Emmerich, Rien ne va plus / Mary Oliver, Long Life : Essays and Other Writings

[fitnesstreats]

Stand Like This for 2 Minutes Per Day from http://jamesclear.com/body-language-how-to-be-confident

[pink-and-posi-deactivated201405]

No, for real, though—this is a thing.  Not sure about the science behind it, but it makes me feel fancy and powerful regardless.  I highly recommend it.

[natti-karlo]

[edgebug]

There actually is legit science behind this. In fact, here’s an entire TED Talk about the science behind it, and the confidence-related chemicals that your brain produces JUST BY YOU STANDING LIKE THIS.

[cmwich-deactivated20150323]

This the best post I could have seen today. I’m going to stand like Wonder Woman.

[of-foolish-and-wise]

oh, to be the owner of a small bookshop on a cobblestone street with roses climbing the front of the building, where books are stacked about in piles and there’s always coffee brewing and a sleepy shop dog lifts his head at the sound of the door’s bell and thumps his tail against the hardwood

[xeroticaax-deactivated20210918]

[live1972-deactivated20151203]

horny for a meaningful relationship

[sift]

[nsfw-for-life]

[1five1two]

Ioannis Nikiforakis.

[ameliexnurse]

[kelseydashmarie]

I never related to a shirt so much.

cc: @femalecollective

[kansaswife]

Every time I think I'm getting better, getting over it a little, I remember that it was the most honest love I've ever given to another person and, hey...look at that! Not actually fucking over it. Even if the honesty was unidirectional.

[kansaswife]

For the love of god, can someone just remind me that I had damn good reasons to leave him? Following that, can you then confiscate my phone so I don't text him, tell him he's the missing half of my soul and beg him to take me back? As a grand slam, can you please please PLEASE erase him from all living memory so that maybe...just maybe I can go the fuck to SLEEP SOMETIME TONIGHT????

I'd be eternally grateful.

[kansaswife]

How has it only been two weeks?

Two weeks of silence since I decided to end our farce. No more texts, calls, videos. Two weeks since you made that decision for us with your lack of courage.

Can't sleep...the images I have of you are stamped inside my eyelids, and they won't let me rest. I toss and turn in a cold puddle of tears that scream TWO YEARS at me.

The person I love was never real. It's like you evaporated or died. He was a figment, a shell, a ghost. So why can I not move on from the wisp to a new reality grounded in truth?

Because that phantom was my mate, a piece of my soul that I didn't know was missing. Now I know...and I regret the knowledge. I regret not cutting things off when I saw where it was heading. When I felt the first twinge of serious affection. I am sorry I put us both through that hell for so long.

How I miss you, my love, my holy grail. I hope you're okay. I hope you're taking care of yourself. I will always long for you to find me again...mind your compass, and set your sights due West someday. You know, when you're ready to put yourself first for a change.

[connerys]

Notorious (1946) dir. Alfred Hitchcock

[anxietyproblem]

[accidental-muse]

hey, bdsm tumblr women! please stop calling yourselves “dumb” and making that part of your aesthetic. it’s not cute. it will get you attention from the wrong people (ones who want to manipulate you) and perpetuate your own shaky self-esteem issues for who the hell knows how long.

ignoring me on this is fine, dudes, no one’s holding a gun to your head about it.

but seeing this shit as much as I do in this place? it just bums me the fuck out.

[cherishedproperty]

Nothing turns me off like seeing “dumb” or “inferior” related to women as if it’s part of BDSM. It’s not. It is its own kink, and that’s ok if you dig that. I do believe this is one where long-term damage is entirely possible, between attracting shitty people and internalizing the kink. But if you accept the risk, then you do you.

That said, this is NOT BDSM or D/s. Power exchange can and does exist between completely equal people who choose to organize their relationship in a certain way. I know my partner sees me as an equal. He knows I’m smart as fuck and have worked my ass off to get where I am. He knows I don’t need his leadership because I’m inferior or incapable of leading myself. He shows me constantly that he values my opinions and takes them into account, even if he makes a different choice than I would.

And I know my submission means more to him because I’m his equal. I’m not some helpless puppy walking around looking for someone—anyone—to take my leash. I am a fully capable person who chooses to give myself to a person who is worthy of it. He decides and I obey, but not because I’m less than him in any way. I obey him because his leadership makes me feel happy and loved. That’s it.

This “dumb” and “inferior” stuff is not inherently part of submission or BDSM. It’s fire, and if you want to play with it, be sure it’s properly labeled and that you’ve read the manual on how it works. Be informed.