Real talk
I want to share this because I think it’s so important to remember:
“Today I want to address something that is incredibly important to keep in perspective as we move into the new year.
It is often an elephant in the room; our bodies and our relationships with significant others.
To really tackle this topic we really need to define something… namely attraction versus love.
Attraction is: 1) the act, power, or property of attracting. 2) attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement: the subtle attraction of her strange personality. 3) a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices: The main attraction was the after-dinner speaker. 4) a characteristic or quality that provides pleasure; attractive feature: The chief attractions of the evening were the good drinks and witty conversation. 5) Physics. the electric or magnetic force that acts between oppositely charged bodies, tending to draw them together. 6)an entertainment offered to the public.
When you look at what attraction is realize that people can be attracted to your body but they can’t love your body.
People love you, the person.
They love your kindness, your compassion, your love, your selflessness, your joy, your passion, you pain…. they don’t love your six pack.
Now that doesn’t mean you can take pride and joy in crafting a beautiful body.
I for one do.
I enjoy the aesthetic aspect (vanity, when well placed isn’t in and of itself a bad thing)… . I enjoy knowing the hard work that it took to craft it… I do enjoy the compliments from other people… and I enjoy the attraction from my significant other…. but that isn’t what defines the relationship or love.
Value the attraction, build the attraction, but also embrace the work.
This year you can and should work hard toward your goals, be relentless in the pursuit. Find the inner strength to reach far and push hard. Push to make yourself better, push to love yourself more.
Here is my task to you. Know that you, your worth, and other’s love of you is not dependent upon your body fat %, the number on the scale, your current 1RM… You are worth far more than any of those things. Your worthiness of someone else’s love resides within yourself, who you are, and who you are is something incredible and worthy of more love than you know.
Much love to all of you!”
-Dr. Brad Dieter
Very very good food for thought.
