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COFFEE

I work in an office as a receptionist and yes, I fetch coffee. I don’t have to, its not in my job description. When the sales people come in I check if they need anything, coffee, etc. The women salespeople in the office seem surprised and tell me I shouldn’t offer because people will take advantage of me. What they mean by “people” is men. I don’t really care though, when the men ask for their coffee and accept it it makes me feel good because they seem happy. I don’t see why it needs to be so political all the time. There are a few men at work who walk in and sort of snap their fingers and say “coffee” before even saying hello and yes, that is a little rude I guess, but I still get them their coffee and they seem happy when I do.

The whole coffee thing seems like its way too political. Its just coffee and why can’t I get it for the people if I have time and they want it? To me it seems like feminism gone crazy. It makes for a happier work environment for everyone and I like making everyone happy so why not? Just seems so silly that anyone tells me I am doing something wrong or bad by doing this. Its what I want to do and its appreciated usually, so why not? I like being the coffee girl and the men at least appreciate it even if the women look at me like some kind of gender traitor when I do.

Its just coffee people - geez.

katieinthehome

Good for you. do what feels right!

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ACCEPTANCE

A month ago I heard some kids talking outside my window, a boy and a girl. They couldn’t have been more than 14 or 15 years old. They seemed to be laughing and joking around. When a young man said, “Oh you are so f*ucking stupid!” and laughed at his own wittiness, my ears perked up.

“I am not!” the girl protested.

“Oh but you are!” the boy insisted.

I was emotionally invested now so I paid attention. I fully expected the girl to yell at him, maybe slap him and storm off but she didn’t. There was silence for a moment and then the boy said “Oh, you are pouting now?”

Another moment of silence.

The silence was then broken with her giggling and they seemed to have made up. Initially I was surprised by her reaction but then I thought back to that age when there was nothing more important than having a boy like you, even pride and dignity, and I understood and sympathized with her.

I wonder if they are still together and happy. If she kept up that attitude, I suspect they may be.

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First Dinner Date

I started seeing a man recently. He is maybe an unlikely choice for me, at least as far as my friends think. He is older and sort of domineering in a quiet paternal way. We had been planning a dinner date for awhile but many of the restaurants here have been closed until recently, with only a few opening with limited seating.

We had a conversation over top of the menus and he asked me what looked good to me. I told him the chicken pasta entre they had looked good. He raised his eyebrows and crinkled his brow and seemed oddly displeased with my choice.

“That looks good I suppose,” he told me. “Its not what I imagined you ordering in my head though.”

I found it odd that he would have imagined my order before hand and why it would matter that much, expect maybe the price. I was a bit flustered and upset that I had disappointed him already.

“What did you imagine?” I eventually asked him.

“I just pictured you ordering a salad is all. They have some very nice salads here. Not sure why I got that image in my head. But I am sure the pasta will be very good.”

A little pathetically I found myself suggesting, “Salads sound good too”.

To this he smiled softly and nodded.

“Caesar Salad maybe…” I said reading the menu, only to look up and see him frowning slightly.

“I am sure its good, garlicky though I would think….” He paused “The avocado salad I hear is very good.”

I raised by menu because I felt my face blushing a little. This was frustrating and embarrassing to be manipulated this way by him but a very big part of me seemed to like it too.

After a moment I found myself asking his permission. “May I have the avocado salad?”

He grinned a bit smugly and said, “Why of course sweetie you may.” He took my menu at that point and when the waitress arrived he ordered for me. He had a steak. After the meals came he asked me how my salad was. I told him it was delicious and thanked him.

For the record, it was a good salad - just saying.

katieinthehome

He sounds lovely!

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barbee0

To dress up nicely for Him is my outward sign that i do obey my Dearly Beloved Husband.

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Every day regardless if I am inside or outside.

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Really can’t wait till I have a Husband to dress for.

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Submitting to your husband inside the bedroom is easy; submitting to him in everyday public life is the challenge…. but is the most rewarding. ♥️

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Behind Closed Doors

Never question him in public.

If you have a problem with his character or his behavior, you are to take that up with him behind closed doors.

Not in front of your friends.

Not in front of your family.

Not in front of your kids.

You are to respect him.

When you disrespect him in public, both of you look awful and become subject to gossip which is ultimately toxic for your relationship.

No matter how mad or frustrated you are, wait to express this until you are alone.

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So very true ❤❤❤

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Under patriarchy men protect women from other men, under feminism women protect themselves unilaterally. To be more precise under patriarchy there are multiple levels of guardianship of women; firs…

The only way to reestablish trust between the sexes is to reestablish patriarchy