Forms of self harm you probably see or engage in but don’t realize
eating things you know will make you sick
being around people who make you miserable
seeking out/engaging with bigotry on the internet to ultimately make yourself upset
exposing yourself to your triggers
engaging with media that upsets you
exposing yourself to potentially dangerous situations (ex: going for walks in the middle of the night with the thought that you could be potentially hurt)
seeking out sexual relationships that you know will leave you feeling unhappy or self conscious
getting so high you cant function
overexercising or staying in bed all day
isolating yourself from people who make you happy
asking (as in literally) for criticisms that you know will not be productive, but will upset you. (ex: posting on r/roastme when you know the comments will upset you, making a “do i pass” post in an environment where people will ostracize you for not “passing”)
Binding/tucking when it is uncomfortable
Picking at your face and skin
Seeking validation through sex
Skipping therapy, rejecting help that you want and need
Depriving yourself of warmth/intimacy
Instead of seeking attention healthily by asking, dredging up drama or arguments with your loved ones to get it. (Attention seeking is perfectly normal, and seeking negative attention is normal too, but not healthy.)
Calling yourself a “transtrender” “not black enough” “Faking mental illness” “LUG” etc… and invalidating your own identity and struggles.
Overspending
Please remember that self harm is not something to be ashamed of, but something to grow from as you learn healthy ways to cope with your natural human need for love, attention and respect. Please notice these things and teach yourself not to bully yourself. So many people engage in these behaviours, and they are very hard to confront and move away from. You are not weak or wrong for how you are suffering.
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