ok but are you willing to date a trans woman even if she never wants to have sex? will you still love her if she's ace or has sensory issues or has dysphoria or just doesn't want to ever have sex for any reason? do you still see her as a full human being worthy of respect, kindness, care, and love even knowing she will never have sex with you?
I don't think it's healthy to frame it like this. Some people want sex in a relationship and some people don't. Ostracizing people that want sex in their relationship isn't helpful.
if your trans girlfriend comes out as ace and you need sex in a relationship that she doesn't feel comfortable doing with you, then you should either work something out so that you can get your sexual needs filled elsewhere or stop dating her. this applies to all relationships of course but so many trans women are valued exclusively for their willingness to be sex objects and I'm fucking sick of it. can you imagine what it's like to be one of the most fetishized minorities in the world while being ace? do you have any idea how much it fucks with trans women's self-esteem when people lose interest in them and stop even pretending to care about them because they don't want to have sex? do you know how many of them stay with partners who coerce them into sex that they don't want so that they can at least feel like someone cares about them? you'll have to forgive me if my sympathies lie with my fellow ace trans women instead of the people who treat them as sex toys they can dispose of when they're deemed no longer useful.



















