Kelly

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Another woman was murdered.

Another woman was murdered.

Vanita Nowell, Tracey Kidd, Nelly Mustafa, Zahiba Bi, Josephine Kaye, Shadika Mohsin Patel, Maureen Kidd, Wendy Morse, Nageeba Alariqy, Elsie Smith, Kelly Stewart, Gwendoline Bound, Ruth Williams, Victoria Woodhall, Kelly Fitzgibbons, Caroline Walker, Katie Walker, Zobaidah Salangy, Betty Dobbin, Sonia Calvi, Maryan Ismail, Daniella Espirito Santo, Ruth Brown, Denise Keane-Barnett-Simmons,…

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Back At It!

This year I have been more inconsistent with my fitness than I have been in years! Partly due to lockdowns, partly due to working more, partly due to my complete lack of motivation and self dicsipline. But guess what, I’m not beating myself up about it. I’m not mad. I’m not disappointed. I’m learning to be kinder to myself and how can I do that whilst I make myself feel bad for falling out of my…

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What a week...

What a week…

On Monday the 8th of March we celebrated International Women’s Day. We spoke out about how inspiring the women we know are, we appreciated our friends, mums, aunties, sisters and daughters. We spoke of our strength, our resilliance, our fierceness. We admired our beauty, our bodies, our differences and our similarities. We felt loved. For a day. On Tuesday the 9th of March, the morning after…

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Body Talk: Body Language

Body Talk: Body Language

We’ve all seen the word “Real” be put in front of various images supposed to reflect what “real people” or “real bodies” look like. I support the sharing of these images as I think we need to encompass all body shapes and sizes, not just thin ones, but I hate the message that the word “real” is putting out. All bodies are real bodies. The language we use around bodies dictates how we view them.…

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Thank You 2020.

Normally, this time of year makes me motivated. I see the new year as a new start, a chance to improve, change habits, create better routines. And regardless of how much I fail to actually stick to my new habits and routines, the initial motivation is there. This year, though? Nothing. I’m exhausted. I’m tired of feeling sad, helpless, stuck. I’m tired of covid – like the bilions of other people…

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Body Talk: Fitness & Weightloss

Body Talk: Fitness & Weightloss

When we think of fitness, it’s almost natural to think of weight loss. Society has created this idea that if you want to be fit, you’re trying to lose weight. Weight loss has been pushed on us so much it’s become more normal to be unhappy with our bodies and be trying to lose weight than it is to be content with our size. That’s fucked up. The focus on weight loss, instead of fitness, is…

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Body Talk: Diet Culture

Body Talk: Diet Culture

Diet Culture is a system of beliefs that value thinness above health, pressures women to lose weight to achieve the desired look (thinness), promotes unhealthy eating habits as a form of health, equates thin to healthy, describes food as good/bad or clean/dirty, encourages and increases fatphobia in society, causes body image issues, and oppresses anyone who doesn’t meet society’s body ideals.

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Body Talk: Introduction

I’m starting an essay series called Body Talk where I will be sharing views, opinions and perspectives about bodies, diets, fitness, and everything in between. As much as I think women have been conditioned to care too much about the size of our bodies, I also think there’s a lot of misguided information that is damaging not only the way we view our bodies, but also the way we look after them.…

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I'm Speaking

I’m Speaking

I’m speaking.

Can you not interrupt?

I’m speaking.

Are you even listening?

I’m speaking.

I have the right to be heard.

I’m speaking.

Leave your questions until the end.

I’m speaking.

Can you let me finish?

I’m speaking.

You’re all shouting at once.

I’m speaking.

You don’t care about my words.

I’m speaking.

My voice is important.

I’m speaking.

Sto…

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The world's a mess and I don't care

The world’s a mess and I don’t care

I’m sitting in my kitchen looking at the mess on the side from a weekend of ignoring the washing up and eating too much. I’m reading about the mess that is the world. The difference being once I’ve finished writing whatever this is, my kitchen side can easily be cleaned up. I’ll wash my dishes, dry them and put them back into the cupboards. I’ll wipe up the crumbs and disinfect the surfaces. I’ll…

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Everyone has an opinion on WAP...

Everyone has an opinion on WAP…

Cardi B & Meghan Thee Stallion’s new song WAP – Wet Ass Pussy – has ignited quite the debate. Some see it as a feminist anthem, some see it as a step back for women’s rights and some see it as a vulgar, ungodly song that is a danger to young girls everywhere.

Most of the objections are coming from men. Pretends to be shocked. It’s of no surprise that men are objecting to a song about sex that…

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Nothing Really Matters

I spend a lot of time reading stuff on the internet. I spend even more time trying to find something to read on the internet. So many bloggers create content without substance. There’s a lot of surface level content, superficial content, bullshit content I don’t want to read or write about. “Lessons I learned in my 20’s” no one cares. “What I eat in a day” no one cares. “5 Reasons blah blah blah”…

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I've really missed the harassment.

I’ve really missed the harassment.

Out of all the things I missed during lockdown, walking down the street and being sexually harassed is definitely up near the top of the list.

I mean, there’s really nothing better than walking down the street on a sunny day, feeling relatively content considering the current state of the world, and hearing something vulgar leave the lips of a man I happen to walk past.

I love being reminded that…

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Thoughts on the week

Thoughts on the week

Last Monday I overheard a colleague talking about the statue in Bristol that protesters threw in the harbour. They said they thought it had all gone too far and “that’s not how you protest”. Unfortunately, I wasn’t in the same office at the time I overheard this so I couldn’t offer my opposing opinion. My sentiments are that having statues of slave traders is the same as having statues of human…

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"But, I'm not racist"

“But, I’m not racist”

I got a bit of anger out in my last post about racism. Anger might be the instigator of change, but anger alone doesn’t change anything. I’ve been telling any white person who’ll listen that now is the time to educate ourselves and be allies. Now isn’t the time to deny our racist heritage, or our racist society. It’s the time to change it.

I’ve heard a lot of: “But, I’m not racist” and “But, the…

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We need to be Allies.

We need to be Allies.

The emotions I feel when it’s reported that yet another black man, woman or child has died at the hands of a white person are a fraction of what the black people in my life must feel; my best friend, numerous other friends and acquaintances, several of the men I’ve dated. I think of them all when it happens. I try to empathise but I could never understand the depths of pain these tragedies cause…

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We can't just blame our Government

We can’t just blame our Government

I’m not a Boris supporter. I didn’t vote for him. I do not like his political party, their views, their opinions or their promises. But even as an anti-Tory I can see how hard it must be to be put in charge of a country and be almost instantly faced with a global pandemic. In my opinion Boris isn’t a leader. His and his party’s handling of the pandemic is proof of that. However, as much as I’d…

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