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11-14-18

You’re on your way home from work right now and we always talked on the phone when you left work😔 not hearing your voice at this time of day sucks. I miss hearing about your day and how work went. It’s only been a few days but it’s still weird not having my normal daily routine.

#ryan

11-11-18

I was with a guy for 3 months. No label. But no big deal to me, I don’t care about a relationship label as long as you’re loyal to me and respect me. So this guy yesterday tells me that I’m great and everything blah blah but isn’t sure if he wants to take it to the next step of actually putting a label on the relationship because he doesn’t know if he’s ready due to his old relationship and how things ended. Which I’m pretty sure it ended over a year ago. 3 months I have spent with this guy. He now decides to tell me he isn’t sure even though at the beginning of the whole start of things it’s what the goal was once we got to know each other better. He says he’s been down with himself, which I could tell but neither of us said anything to each other about it. I have done my best in these three months to always let him know that he looks good and is great and all of that. But something isn’t right with himself and I’ve been there. I get it. But it hurts. Why so suddenly, just why. I’m lost and confused and hurt. I seen it all with this guy. I mean maybe we can try again when he’s out of his funk but what the heck dude. This fucking sucks balls.

Advice needed

I need some advice, timblr universe please help

Relationship help.

I am and have been in love with a guy, he currently has a girlfriend but he has expressed the same feelings to me (we dated in the past). I have recently been broken up with by a guy whom a feel I love but I don’t think I love the same way I love the other. I just don’t know what to do. I plan to talk to the first lover boy soon about all of this shit and once I get some of that and other shit figured out I plan to reach out to the most recent lover boy. Help

#advice #please #help #relationship

Help

How do you tell someone that you have invested time with and at first wanted a future with that you don’t see a future with them anymore without being super freaking blunt about it

I graduated from college

#collegegrad #educated

khar1313-blog

2/20/18

Yanno, I reopened my account initially because I was in such a horrible relationship and I needed a place to vent out about it where he couldn’t find me. Still to this day I’m trying to forget the ways he made me feel. I still think of things he did to me that made me feel so belittled and everyday I am thankful to be with someone now who is literally the polar opposite of him. I have a really great friend who actually helped me realize that my relationship with this guy was mentally and emotionally abusive, and then my other great friends who helped me get through the breakup and the roller coaster of emotions I went through afterwards. Another thanks goes out to the guys I spent my time with after him that helped me realize that I didn’t need someone to be happy. I know how to love myself now, by myself. And now I have myself a great man who knows how to treat me right and loves his momma.

If you aren’t sure if you’re in an emotionally and or mentally abusive relationship talk to someone about it. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone personal about it all, visit thehotline.org to talk to someone online or on the phone. They help with all types of domestic abuse. I urge you to reach out.

This is the list of things my ex made me feel, if you relate at all please talk to someone:

How he made me feel

Like I couldn’t do anything without permission or on my own

As if I had to be with him 24/7

Like I was drowning

That he was the only one who would ever love me

That I wasn’t my own person anymore

Insecure

That i wasn’t able to do anything for myself

Are cats supposed to mouth breath, like a lot?

2/20/18

Yanno, I reopened my account initially because I was in such a horrible relationship and I needed a place to vent out about it where he couldn’t find me. Still to this day I’m trying to forget the ways he made me feel. I still think of things he did to me that made me feel so belittled and everyday I am thankful to be with someone now who is literally the polar opposite of him. I have a really great friend who actually helped me realize that my relationship with this guy was mentally and emotionally abusive, and then my other great friends who helped me get through the breakup and the roller coaster of emotions I went through afterwards. Another thanks goes out to the guys I spent my time with after him that helped me realize that I didn’t need someone to be happy. I know how to love myself now, by myself. And now I have myself a great man who knows how to treat me right and loves his momma.

If you aren’t sure if you’re in an emotionally and or mentally abusive relationship talk to someone about it. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone personal about it all, visit thehotline.org to talk to someone online or on the phone. They help with all types of domestic abuse. I urge you to reach out.

This is the list of things my ex made me feel, if you relate at all please talk to someone:

How he made me feel

Like I couldn’t do anything without permission or on my own

As if I had to be with him 24/7

Like I was drowning

That he was the only one who would ever love me

That I wasn’t my own person anymore

Insecure

That i wasn’t able to do anything for myself

#love yourself #abuse

Look at my handsome man

#catsofinstagram #cat #catowner #fluffy #cats of tumblr #black cat

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I’m so mad because this worked

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help me roger

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Reblogging myself because

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Reblogging myself because… what was that? Five minutes?

O_O

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………my friend has made me curious

maryburgers

help me roger

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Update: after I reblogged this someone messaged me offering me tickets to the sold out Hausu screening with a Q&A and autograph session with the director

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let’s do it, roger

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Roger helppppp

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I need you Roger!

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ROGER PLEASE

postingwhileblack

Flint still doesn’t have clean water. This is very important.

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Reminder there is no safe level of lead, no matter what the studies and findings may say.

Zero is the only acceptable amount.

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flint still does not have clean water

Donate Here

alphalib22

OCTOBER 25, 2017 - Flint has not had clean water for 1,280 days. We are still dealing with the effects of the water crisis. Children are still being affected by lead poisoning. I have to be very careful about where I fill my water bottle at school (I’m a student at one of the four colleges in the city). PLEASE HELP US.

khar1313-blog

I’ve lived 25 min west of flint my whole life and since this became big, so many people have relocated to our area. They just know it’s going to take a very long time for the levels to go down. It’s so sad to see. It ridiculous actually. This is aiding to the downfall of a city that used to be thriving. This is taking way too long to get under control. Utterly ridiculous and sad and sickening.

fozmeadows

Watching my toddler figure out how to language is fascinating. Yesterday we were stumped when he kept insisting there was a “Lego winner” behind his bookshelf - it turned out to be a little Lego trophy cup. Not knowing the word for “trophy”, he’d extrapolated a word for “thing you can win”. And then, just now, he held up his empty milk container and said, “Mummy? It’s not rubbish. It’s allowed to be a bottle.” - meaning, effectively, “I want this. Don’t throw it away.” But to an adult ear, there’s something quite lovely about “it’s allowed to be a bottle,” as if we’re acknowledging that the object is entitled to keep its title even in the absence of the original function.

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Another good post to read for those writing small human characters.

jennytrout

My son was about three when he came to me in the middle of the day and said, “Mommy, there’s a knight behind the bush.” I thought he meant a toy knight or something. So I follow him outside and he goes, “Listen. Do you hear it? It’s night behind the bush.” It was a cricket. A cricket was standing in the little patch of shade under the bush, chirping. So, my son saw this dark area with accompanying nighttime sounds and decided, okay, well, that is a night right there. Their brains are incredible.

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My little bean knows she’s two, constantly saying proudly ‘I’m two!’ And the other day she saw this very frail old lady who looked one foot in the grave, pulled a face and said ‘oh shiiiit. She’s three.’ I almost screamed.

cantnotknope

I live in Korea and have a lot of international friends, and the same is true with language barriers in adults.

*Looking at a bowl of pears* “Can you please pass me the… apple’s friend?”

masterofbirds

OH SHIT SHE’S THREE

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My 3 year old nephew just calls everyone poopy..

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Reblog retention cat to increase your financial wealth and savings

LOOK AT HIM 😻

#cat

arabwife

The person ur meant to be with will never have to be chased, begged or given an ultimatum

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Will forever reblog when I see this. This is important.

thisisthinprivilege

I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

thecrazygeek-rant

This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)

sinthiasweet

My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.

viergacht

For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn.

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Fatphobia

Is

Real

and it kills

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This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.

bigfatscience

My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight?

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.”

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.

loverofbrownsugar

Wtf…

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A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.

thisisthinprivilege

Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.

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I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.

agreekdoctor

Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!

Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!

clatterbane

(#and this is just when we actually go to the doctor and tell them we have problems #how many of us just give up #or won’t mention anything that seems like too much of a ‘fat’ problem)

thelittlestastronaut

i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.

lesbianfreyja

the phrase “curiosity killed the cat” is actually not the full phrase it actually is “curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back” so don’t let anyone tell you not to be a curious little baby okay go and be interested in the world uwu

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