i feel like i've gotten a lot better about establishing that i like tickling and being able to communicate that, but i think i still need to work on communicating about the How i like it. i enjoy being tickled in all forms, so it's never something i dislike, but here are the top ten ways i especially want to be tickled:
1. i want you to really try and get me to laugh. light tickles will leave me moaning and squirming and are certainly still ticklish, but if you really use your hands to dig in and squeeze and vibrate... yeah that'll do it.
2. i want you to talk about tickling. this one is embarrassing to admit but i latch on to any variations of the word i hear or read, and it's always a surprise somehow. i like being teased about how ticklish i am while being tickled, BUT i also love being threatened about it before, during, and after. "bold of you to say that when you're in tickling range" would have me die on the spot. even over text is super effective.
remind me that i'm not the only one thinking about tickling, remind me that you Know i'm ticklish and Will use it against me. and teasing me during and trying to get me to respond (i have to get tickled, think, and Speak, too?????) is always fun. you can keep the dialogue up when i can't.
3. i want you to find my worst spots and stay on them. a lot of people feel compelled to move around a bunch. that's fun, but your best bet at really making me lose it is finding A Bad Spot and just narrowing in on it until i can't stand it. thennn heading to the next one :3 (hint: ribs, belly/waist, thighs... idk come over here and find them yourself).
4. i want you to move me however you want to. i tend to offer myself up for tickling and encourage it cuz i don't play with many people with tickling kinks. but my favorite thing is to just be grabbed however you need to tickle me better. pin me down. pin my wrists over my head. straddle me. cover my mouth with your hand. put me into whatever position you want. flip me over, spread my legs, etc. i'm good for it. manhandle me!!
5. i want you to get access to my bare skin. there are some spots i'm more ticklish with softer touches over clothes (nipples, crotch), but Most places, bare skin is best. slide your hands under my clothes. don't wait for me to raise up my shirt for you or pull down my pants. do it yourself or ask me to. it'll tickle worse and has the added benefit of you treating my body like a toy.
6. i want you to tie me down. bondage isn't always possible (and sometimes pinning is more fun), but in the situations it is, i really enjoy it. i like not being able to struggle well or get away. i imagine tickle sessions that go on for hours, gang tickling i can't escape from, and being completely nude and at your mercy. obviously a session can be much shorter or less intense, but i am very open and very willing for it to get more sadistic and into the realm of tickle torture.
7. i want you to make me cry. not everyone is into sadistic tickling, but i for one am very much a masochist when it comes to the subject. i want to be made to scream and cry and beg. i want to be made to hate being tickled in that moment and every moment after until you stop. i want to not be able to take anymore and have you keep going. i'm reallllly open to the torture. i've never cried from being tickled before. could you be the first to make me?
8. i want you to keep tickling me, no matter what my other reactions are. i like it being the center of what we're doing/what you're doing to me. i never want it to stop (except, of course, when i desperately need it to. but even then i don't really want it to stop because i want you to torture me). but here's the thing. uh. it's gonna get pretty obvious that i'm aroused pretty quickly. i genuinely can't help how i start moaning or squirming for stimulation, but that doesn't mean you should stop and move on to the next activity.
there is a certain love-hatred i have for getting tickled when i desperately want your hands on me somewhere else. it can stay completely nonsexual orrrrr you can make me beg for you to touch me orrrrr just start touching me while continuing to tickle me. the possibilities are endless. tickling is the Event, not just the foreplay.
9. if you're gonna get me off, i want you to tickle me while you do it. giving me orgasms isn't an expectation during tickling moments, but, believe me, i am never opposed to one. i'm a hair trigger (quick to cum soon after the touching begins.. and again... and again...), but tickling definitely keeps me from cumming as quickly as i usually do or as fast as i'd like. it's another love-hate relationship with not being able to cum as easily and being forced to cum while struggling with being tickled. the sensations are so contrary i never know whether to laugh or moan or start screaming in frustration.
10. i want you to enjoy tickling me. at the end of the day, whether you have a tickling kink/fetish or not, we all have our preferences. i certainly have mine, but i want us to be able to meet in the middle. i don't want you doing anything you don't want to or me enduring anything i don't want (me volunteering for torture earlier aside......). tickling with me can range from completely clothed to nude, from casual to sadistic, from nonsexual to sexual. i just want to be sure both/all of us are enjoying it. communicate!! and check in!!
since i'll be the one being tickled, it's hard for me to start the check in. the best way to do so is for you to stop tickling for real and ask your question instead of expecting me to respond coherently while being tickled. in the end, i have these wants, but i have other likes and wants too that we can figure out together. i'm always open to new ideas and new changes and just making sure everyone's comfortable.
disclaimer: this is my tamer list for introducing friends and play partners into my basic tickling preferences. maybe i should make one with my more elaborate, kinkier desires later 👀
