It is a joyous thing for me! Not eating my own cum, but being Dominated and pegged by all Superior Females! For that exchange, Iâm more than willing!
My husband introduced me to Male Chastity. He brought to my attention there was something called a Cock Cage. I thought that sounded immediately fun, and told him to go ahead and order one.
A week or so later this plastic CB-600 cage showed up! Yes, letâs put it on right now!
I immediately thought it was great fun, and loved to make him wear it and torture him with teasing. What was not to like? I just thought it was fun. It immediately put a smile on my face, but then again, I didnât take it more seriously than that. It was fun.
But he always wanted âmoreâ⌠and I admit I saw it as just âanother thing to doâ. Itâs not that I didnât want to do things for my husband, I did, I just started to see it as something more I had to do, and we were both busy.
But what changed was when I saw that Male Chastity games were for ME TOO. I wanted him locked, because I got what I wanted. And I really liked getting what I wanted. I was good at receiving what I wanted.
I just didnât want to work for it as if it were a burden! But then I saw it as a co creative game between the two of us. And I started to really look at what I got from this arrangement.Â
What do I get from Male Chastity?
A Body Servant - My husband daily rubs my shoulders, or my feet. At least once a week he sets up the massage table and I get a deep, full, 2 hour massage. When we watch TV, he sits behind me and rubs my shoulders. I donât get tired of this. I donât rub him back, though I am affectionate with him. Iâve gotten used to his strong hands giving my body the work it needs, daily. This is just the way it is, and I love it. I hear from other women whose men hardly ever touch them, and Iâm shocked. Iâm spoiled for usre.
A Sex Slave â My husbandâs focus is on pleasing me sexually. I donât care about pleasing him sexually. We have sex when I want, and I get the orgasms. There is an old Quinn Klaxon caption that says: Only She Cums. Yep. I have as many orgasms as I want, and I want far more now that we have this arrangement, and he doesnât have any, or very few. Doesnât bother me at all. My sexual pleasure first, and really⌠only my sexual pleasure. He serves me fully in this regard. (And yes, I realize he gains great sexual pleasure from serving me, and touching me, and seeing me in pleasure).
Cook/Housekeeper â My husband does a lot of housekeeping, and most of the cooking. I clean dishes once in a while, and the house, because I enjoy helping out and Iâm a part of the family.  But he does the most of it, and Iâm happy about that. The best part is that he does it the WAY I LIKE IT.
Gentleman â My husband treats me with deep masculine respect, and takes care of me like a true gentleman. In speech, in attention, and in service. Heâs there for me, heâs strong, heâs mostly silent, heâs still, and heâs my rock upon which I am secure. I love his deep masculine strength and how he takes care of me.Â
Fun â Itâs a lot of fun to keep your man locked and focused on you. The power, the teasing, the love, the service, sometimes even the sadism (just a little!). Yeah⌠I get a lot of fun and creativity from the whole thing.
So What Does He Get?
Writing that out it sounds very one sided, but itâs actually not. To understand that letâs look at something I read years ago.Â
A Submissive wants to told what to do.Â
A masochist needs pain.Â
A slave is pure service to his/her Domme/Dom.
While we have fun with me telling him what to do, and punishing him and torturing him and teasing him⌠deeply my husband loves me and channels all of his sexual energy into a depth of connection through service. Itâs kinky weird, but it really isnât. Itâs love. Deep service not just to me, but to the FEMININE. Heâs powerful man who chooses to channel is love in a certain way. Heâs not unlike Taoist sexual masters who avoid orgasm and circulate their energy in full body orgasms. Again, we are kinky, and have a shit ton of fun with that stuff⌠but deep underneath it all, this is a loving partnership relationship that keeps the spice going long, long, after most peopleâs has faded.
He also gets a shit ton of sexual energy from me. We play like we were kids. Still. Year after year. Something about teasing the shit out of himâŚ
So What Are My Duties?
This was the part that got me started writing. You see, I wanted him to do all of the things above without me having to do anything. I know. Kind of shitty, but it went back to old stuff in my head about sexual duties. Iâve got to do all this stuff⌠FOR HIM. Then I realized A) I like doing things for him, and B) keeping him in chastity actually is a FUN sexual duty and C) It pays off (see above list).
Keep Him In Slave Mode
There is a place he goes to in service to me, that is slave, itâs an emotionally charged depth of love and service, and itâs what keeps him going. It sexually charged submission slave service. Itâs not the submission I was talking about above, itâs the SLAVE offering, of a man willing to die for his family to protect them. Intimately connected to death in some ways. But this is a âsexually chargedâ submission, a state of being. Thatâs my job, to feed that state. Keep him in this âsubmissiveâ state. That requires me to be dominant, and these are the things I do to stay dominant, and keep him submissive.
One â Control His Cock With a Cock Cage â Control the orgasm, control the male. He is kept in chastity longer and longer now. It works. He enjoys it, itâs a fun challenge for him, and I enjoy, it gives me power and pleasure, and it deepens his submission. Gives him access to a deeper masculine focus on the feminine.
Two âService â He wants to do things for me. Give him things to do, and do it in a sexy way. Part of the game is MAKING him do it. FORCING him to do it. Now of course, he doesnât have to do anything he doesnât want to, heâs grown man, but if I TELL HIM to lick my pussy, or clean the house, in a dominant sexy way, we both have a lot more fun. I used to think it was a job to give him things to do, but then I realized I was doing that all the time anyway. Can you take the trash out? Can you pick up eggs on the way home? Can you call your Mother and tell her we are going to be late for Sunday dinner? Can you give me a footrub, my heels are killing me from walking in them all day at work? Can you change the oil in the car? I ask him for things ALL THE TIME⌠anyway. So why not making it a game and TELL HIM he has to do it because heâs a slave? Yes, itâs more work, but it works, and itâs actually fun. And why not make taking the trash out fun?
Three â Discipline â My husband benefits from being beaten once in a while, I think itâs a BODY thing, not that he needs it, and I have a bit of a sadist streak liking to beat him. Also⌠there is the sexy POWER dynamic. I tell him to do something, he doesnât do it, there are consequences. Itâs sexy. Itâs powerful. He breaks the rules once in a while just to feel my power, which then gives him that deep slave feeling. So yes, I have to discipline him sometimes, and it can be really fun, and really creative. Iâve come up with some really fucked up punishments. I impress myself sometimes. He tests the limits of my rule⌠and sometimes I get tired of that⌠but things are always better if I stay firm and consistent.
Four â Tease and Denial â Build suspense. Give him energy, give him energy⌠and pull it back last second. This seems cruel, if someone did it to me I would slit their throat, but he loves it and I love it too. Itâs a big part of the work⌠giving him that pleasure of teasing⌠and it helps put him into slave mode, which gives me more focus on me.Â
Five â Experience as much pleasure as possible. Porn stars make ridiculous noise for a reason. The masculine LOVES to see the feminine in pleasure. Women I talk with have a hard time understanding this, they feel embarrassed, etc. But if you have loud orgasms, and with as much energy as possible enjoy his slavery⌠heâs going to fucking love it. And itâs something that really keeps him going and keeps him in slave mode.
Sum it Up
Cage his cock and lower his status (heâs a slave, you are a mistress)âŚ
Give him things to do in a fun sexy wayâŚ
Punish him regularly for not doing them or not doing them correctly (in a fun nasty dirty sexy way)âŚ
Tease him sadistically with tons and tons of feminine sexual energy but denial him that ultimate ejaculationâŚ
While enjoying it so deeply and thoroughly with such feminine bliss and radiance and pleasure that he canât help but worship you.
Good morning Tumblr world, thought it's actual more into afternoon. But... let's discuss this, shall we? What is Chastity? Another term that gets thrown around is FLR, which means Female Led Relationship, or WLR, Wife Led Relationship.
For us, I can't imagine having an FLR or WLR. We are a team, we have children, and family, and honestly, he leads our family. He's an inspired leader in that way, whether it's vacations, or yard projects or house projects or even new businesses.
I want and desire things too, but not like he does. He keeps the house running, he organizes shit, he sets the tone and direction and keeps us all on time and going, not just in a sense of control, but a sense of inspiration, surprising us all the time (The us here if the family, though all our children are out of the house, and it's just me and him and the cats and dogs at home now.)
I express my desires... but in a less directed way. I'll explain: Recently, we were in our bed, and he was locked in chastity, and I was riding him, naked, torturing him, twisting his nipples, hard, pinching them hard, falling forward shoving my tits in his face. All of this is delightful torture for him... and me. He is trained to put his hands behind his neck when I torture him like this, and he can't lurch at my tits when I come down towards his face. He can't kiss them or lick them or bite them, though I rub them in his face. He has to endure. Of course, I lament that I want his cock inside me so bad, but sadly it's locked and I just have to suffer and take it out on him...
Okay... that was and is a hot scene... but that's not the point. We have bedroom windows out into a big field, and as I was riding him, I whined and complained... the windows are so dirty... my view is ruined by the dirty windows.... I whine a bit about the windows, cruelly twist his nipples, and then move onto something else.
Well... guess what? Next day he came home from work before I did, and by the time I got to the bedroom from my work, the windows were spotless, inside and out. And that means he had to climb out on a second story roof to get that done.
So I told him I wanted the windows cleaned... in a way. By expressing how sad it made me that they were dirty. That's it. I didn't say CLEAN THE FUCKING WINDOWS YOU DIRTBAG SLAVE BITCH! I just don't do things like that. I express my emotions about things, and then they get done...
But here's the thing... when he's my slave, he's in chastity... or some combination of those... expressing sadness about dirty windows ALWAYS works. If we were in a vanilla stage.... and I just expressed sadness about the windows... he MIGHT have cleaned them, but chances are he wouldn't. I could have ASKED HIM... and then he would of... but he also might have said I'm busy, you clean them.
Do you get the sense of what I'm saying here? I can clean my own fucking windows. But when he's in Chastity, I can express my sadness at dirty windows and it's going to work 100% of the time. He WILL clean those windows, and happily. And he wants me to express MORE about what I want in the house that way. He asks me to ask more of him, and that's how I do it. Mostly.
So... that is a part of what Chastity is for us. More to come. (And this goes back to a previous discussion of standards that I had, which is my rising standards. - In the old days I would have seen the dirty window, wished it was clean, and just shut up about it. I know he's busy. I'm busy. And I'm too nice a girl to ask him to do more for me, he already does enough.)
One I found over on BDSMLR under Mistress Sorry Not Sorry. First of all, there is no set time for him to be released, other than we are going on vacation and he is flying, then he knows he'll be released regardless of what I want, because he can't walk through a metal detector with a hunk of metal on his junk.
But around here, he stays locked till I say he's unlocked. And... he has been trained. Don't ask to be unlocked.
So, I guess if he asked, just for fun, to test me, I would have to come up with something, but he doesn't ask, because... I told him not to. đ
Jillags shared this over on BDSMLR and I thought I would comment (after the quote).
"Learning how to lengthen the arousal and erection period while delaying orgasm is an important part of maximizing enjoyment from sex. As the erection proceeds, the physical sensations become increasingly more and more exciting, and the psychological pressure to ejaculate becomes more and more intense. The trick is to learn to keep the stimulation just below the level required for ejaculation while learning to deal with the increasing psychological pressure to ejaculate. Like driving a racing car closer and closer to a wall at ever high speeds, the psychological pleasure becomes more and more intense, the longer the arousal can be maintained without ejaculation, but the greater the enjoyment for the man. Furthermore, the longer this stage can be maintained, the more powerful and enjoyable the orgasm will be for the man. Thus, developing skills for doing this and dealing with the psychological desire to ejaculate for as long as possible are essential for the full enjoyment of partner (and solo) sex, and this is what requires practice. Women usually require a somewhat longer period of time to become fully aroused, so being able to delay orgasm potentially increases the enjoyment of sex by both partnersâŚ
Many women believe that men are happier the more frequently they can have intercourse. This is not really accurate. What men truly enjoy is being aroused with their partner (and as their partner is also aroused) while both remain in an aroused state for a long period of time, delaying orgasm for as long as is comfortable and possibleâŚ"
So there are a lot of delayed orgasm advocates here, for both men and women.
One thing to add is that there are Eastern Traditions, Tibetan, Tantric, Taoist (check out Mantak Chia) that help men learn to have full body orgasms, circulate their energy, and stay present through these psychologically intense needs that can really strengthen the work of Chastity.
My husband used to fuck me for hours, making me cum many many times, and then end the session without ejaculation.
So... for what it's worth, torturing him to the point of wanting the cage off and wanting to cum is a treat, since he's trained himself not to want to do that. The secret we discovered is two fold: His nipples. Play with them enough, and he WILL want to cum. And then the cage, or me imposing my will on him, that turns him on and out the window goes all that tantric training shit. đ
If I wasn't so shy about a dirty bum, I think it would be hot to deny hubby any kissing, mouth or vagina, or even feet, allowing only kissing and licking of my asshole.
This is a real thing, at least in the realms of Chastity and energy.
It's so interesting, because if you truly neglected your man, your marriage is going to go downhill. Truly.
But Chastity isn't neglect. It's far more focus attention, it just happens to have the polarity of power and submission in it, and light and dark energies. Please feminine and masculine energies. So there isn't any neglect.
I've put him in chastity during stressful times, thinking I'll take a break and get my feet under me. Essentialy saying, I'll ignore him, or neglect him while I'm in this time.
But, and this always makes me smile, when he's locked, I'm way more interested in play, teasing, and denying. So I never neglect, even if I'm really tired, because even when I'm really tired, and going to bed... I turn that into a short tease and denia session.
What Men Think They Want in FLR vs. What They Actually Need
Most men come into FLR with a very specific picture in their head.
She locks his dick. She teases him. She denies him. She keeps him on a short leash.
He imagines himself caged, henpecked, used. He imagines her in latex, smirking down at him, holding the key.
And he believes, with full sincerity, that this is the life that will finally make him feel complete.
He is not wrong about the picture. He is wrong about why it would work.
Because here is the truth I have watched play out in marriage after marriage: those things will give him dopamine. They will not fulfill him.
Read:Â Female Led Relationship or Just a Sexual Fetish?
The Performance Trap
Picture the scene most men describe to me when they first reach out.
Her on top. Him in a cage. Some toys. Some spanking. Maybe a little tease and denial thrown in. She is performing femdom on him.
She does the actions because he asked her to. Not because she wants to. Not because she is expressing her own authority. He handed her a script. She is reading it back.
What happens next is something almost every couple in this dynamic eventually feels but rarely names.
He stops feeling submissive.
Because he is the one in control.
He told her what to do. He explained the cage. He researched the toys. He requested the denial. The entire scene is choreographed by his fantasy, and she is the performer in it.
After some weeks of this, the dopamine dries up. The submission feels hollow.
And worse, she feels hollow too. She is tired of pretending. She does not actually want to play the villain in his porn script.
You both walk away from those sessions feeling something is off. Because something is off. This is not D/s. This is two people acting out his fantasies.
Recommended Read â When your Mistress falls into the Vanilla zone
The Forgotten Cage
Or take the opposite version of the same problem.
She agrees to lock him. Mostly because he was so persistent.
And then she forgets.
She does not tease him. She does not acknowledge it. Days pass. He is the only one thinking about that cage. He waits for her to mention it. She does not.
He starts feeling alone in his own dynamic. Like he is wearing a wedding ring for a marriage she did not agree to.
She, on the other hand, feels confused. What am I supposed to do after locking him? He never explained that part. She locked it because he wanted her to. Now what?
This is what happens when there is no real authority behind the act. The cage is just plastic. The denial is just absence. The dynamic exists only inside his head.
What Was Missing
There is one ingredient. The whole thing rests on it.
Intention.
A woman who intends to keep him locked. A woman who intends to hold power in the relationship. A woman who intends to dominate her husband, prioritise her own opinions, respect her own voice, hold her own standards without flinching.
That is the woman who creates real submission in him. Not the woman in latex. Not the woman with a fancy toy collection. The woman with the intention.
And here is the thing I want every man reading this to sit with for a moment.
Read that paragraph again. Notice which version of her your body actually responds to.
It is not the playful femdom girlfriend who spanks you on Saturday nights. It is the wife who corrects you on a Tuesday afternoon, in a kurta, in your own kitchen, in a tone that makes you stand up straighter without thinking about it.
Recommended Read â Strict Wife vs Owning your Standards
Men chase the costume. They miss the woman underneath.
You will fall harder for a woman who spanks you to correct you than one who spanks you as funishment.
You will feel more submissive to a woman who denies you her pussy because she wants to keep you denied, than to one who locks you because you asked her to.
You will respect a wife who refuses to lower her standards more than a girlfriend who plays domme on weekends.
This is the difference between dopamine and devotion. Dopamine is the spike. Devotion is the deep, settled feeling of belonging to someone whose authority over you is real.
One you chase. The other you surrender to.
Recommended Read â The Truth About Rewards in FLR: Devotional vs Transactional Submission
What Men Actually Chase (And Why)
Most men are not chasing power. They are chasing the symbols of power.
The cage. The latex. The collar. The âyes Mistress.â The orgasm denial counter. The findom screenshots. The public humiliation fantasy.
These are props. And props are addictive because they are easy. They give you something to feel, something to look at, something to add to your spank bank.
But none of it builds a real dynamic. You can collect every prop on the market and still not have FLR. You will just have an expensive shelf and a wife who is humouring you.
Men chase symbols because porn taught them to. Online forums taught them to. Every reel and tube clip taught them that femdom is a visual aesthetic, not a relationship structure.
It is not entirely their fault. But it becomes their responsibility the moment they realise the difference.
Recommended Read â What Every Submissive Husband Must Stop Doing If He Wants a Real FLR
What He Actually Needs
He does not need a woman who performs for him.
He needs a woman who holds him.
He needs a woman who refuses to let him be small, lazy, dishonest, or ego-driven. A woman who uses her authority over him to make him a better man, not to keep him entertained.
He needs her to be dominant in a nightsuit. In a saree. Over a difficult conversation. In the way she handles his time, his money, his attention.
He needs her to have lines he is not allowed to cross, ever, for any reason. Not lines that flex when he begs hard enough. (Read â Modern Husband and the Male Ego in Female Led Relationships)
He needs her to want her own life, not just to play a role inside his.
That is the woman a submissive man will actually surrender to. That is the woman his fantasies were always pointing toward, even when he could not see it. Every cage he asked for, every spanking he requested, was a clumsy attempt to summon her into the room.
Recommended Read â Becoming a Devoted Submissive: A Practical Roadmap for Men New to FLR
Final Thoughts
If you are a husband reading this and you have been quietly handing your wife scripts for months, stop.
Stop asking her to lock you. Start helping her become the woman who would lock you of her own will, and then forget about it because her own life kept her busy.
Help her stand in her power. Encourage her opinions. Respect her time. Listen the first time. Be the kind of husband she finds it easy to lead.
The fetishes will still be there. The cage, the denial, the corner time, all of it. But they will sit inside a real dynamic instead of pretending to be one.
And you will finally feel what you were always trying to feel.
One a recent post I reposted someone mentioned two levels of chastity. One was the kink level, and the other was HER level. And the suggestion was that the kink level should lead to HER level.
So what does that mean? Well I'm going to tell you where I'm at right now, but this could change any moment.
My husband has a desire to submit to my power in the kinky way of chastity. When he's locked, he's got way more energy, intensity, focus, and desire. It's a ride for him. The boringness that sex can be over time, goes away instantly, and he's an intense, horny teenager again doing anything to get into my pants.
This intensity feels good for him. And I like that he's so nice and interested in me, but for long while I wasn't necessrily happy that it took a cock cage to do it. Why wasn't he as interested in me without it?
Don't know, and less and less, I don't care.
Because when he's caged... something happens for me. I feel powerful. It's a good feeling. I feel pursued, and loved, and wanted, and totally in control. It brings out a sexiness in me, and I had to admit it, but I am FAR more interested in sex when he's locked. I enjoyed teasing him, and despite later guilt, enjoy denying him.
It's a great experience for both of us.
But my husband doesn't want to stop there. After these peak experiences, this kink fun tease and denial session, he explains to me he moves from submission to service. After a deep beating, a tough denial session, seeing me cum and me denying him...
He drops into a space of deep desire to serve and worship. This at times makes perfect sense to me, and at times makes no sense. Why does he need all that to serve me? And if you got me that horny and denied me, I wouldn't want to serve you, I would be angry at you!
And then my husband tells me, it's all really not about him. He sees something beautiful, powerful, and wonderful in me, as a Domme. I often reject that, I want to be wanted and loved separate from that, but he keeps insisting there is an inner Domme, Mistress, wickedly clever deeply loving and perveted woman who enjoys power over her manly man.
Sometimes I sense this. Sometimes I don't believe him and think he's doing all this for himself. But... deep down I suspect he's right. There is a place of power and growth in this all for me, and he truly wants me to step up into the woman I can be.
Does that sound all fluffy and weird?
It might be, and it might all be bullshit, but one thing I know is the depth of his love for me, and even though we have this chastity kinky weird thing going, he does delight in my pleasure, and I do delight in his submission and slavery.
I struggle, I do, I get guilty, and have moments I'm afraid we are broken and weird.
But then we have a night light last night, just settled into his service to me, and rewarding him with some nipple torture, watching me cum, and getting the sacred blessing of rubbing my shoulders and then kissing licking my breasts.
And it feels good. It feels loving and deep, like we are on a journey. We don't know where it ends, but we know we deeply love each other and our lives, and our exploring our 'kinks' in wild, beautiful ways.
I asked him what he thought about being locked for a year. He said: "It's both exciting and makes me nervous. I know there is something on the other side of that, if I stick to it, a dept of love and connection we are exploring, and I know it's on me to stick to it."
He's not wrong, but it's also up to me. We are committed together. Not sure about the year yet, but we are committed.
I hope these ramblings make sense. Some deep devotion he has for me eases my heart and fills me with ease. I should trust there is far more to him and our love than a cock cage, but I don't have to keep rejecting the cage either.
Male chastity is one of those things that is often judged before being understood. Just the idea of locking a device onto a males sex organ, so he canât get an erection or play with himself, often turns both genders off the idea. Itâs like looking in on a bdsm scene for the first time without any knowledge that itâs consensual and being creeped out. However, the taboo is created only out of misunderstanding of what it actually is, and what it actually does.
Male chastity, in itâs most basic sense, is abstinence. Itâs just a device that aids a male to remain abstinent for his partner while giving her the authority to decide if and when his abstinence ends. Â So chastity combined with her authority, just makes abstinence more fun, it makes it something difficult to endure, resulting in much deeper intimacy. Itâs also something that trains him to overcome all of his lust, and focus his attention not on his selfish desires, but on hers. It makes chastity the perfect tool for developing a sex life that works both ways and creates a very satisfied female partner, and a very happy attentive male.
The honor system can work, but generally it takes a lot more work, and many more accidents along the way. Tease and denial without chastity is definitely possible, and can be a lot of fun. However, chastity does add an extra dimension, because it is a device that is wrapped around his genitals, and grips him gently all day long, reminding him often of his sacrifice for her. It serves to keep her on his mind, which makes him automatically more romantic, more chivalrous, kind, thoughtful, and overall, far less argumentative. His sexual release being conditional upon her approval, keeps him in constant devotion to her. Â This can really show the difference between the honor system, and using chastity.
The idea that chastity is unsafe and unhygienic is often a concern that puts many off. When done right, and when fitted properly, a male can pee, and keep clean, with minimal removals. This might take a bit of time to get used to, but the better the fit, or even a custom device, and hygiene is not a problem. Neither is safety, because once it fits right, it will not deter him from doing any activity, including swimming, going to the gym, or riding a bicycle. One major concern is that it shrinks the penis over time. Â This is a myth that can never be proven because the penis cannot shrink, just like it cannot be enlarged. The reason for this is because the penis is not a muscle, it is a sponge that fills with blood. After a while in the cage, it gets used to only being able to fill with blood a small amount, and like a sponge, it conforms to the size itâs allowed. Many instances on the internet show a submissiveâs penis getting progressively smaller using chastity. This is true only to the extent that he keeps wearing small devices and never allows for a full erection. Â Once the cage is removed, after a few days or weeks, the penis will naturally begin to grow back to its usual size. So yes, it can shrink it, but only if itâs never allowed to grow to its normal size.
Chastity is meant to be fun. Itâs really not meant to be a method of sexual denial. Itâs meant to be a tool that helps a male deny himself for her. Most males lack the self control, and after a few days, the temptation gets too great and results in gratification. Chastity can really help with this, where the temptation is removed simply because the device reminds him that heâs not allowed to give in to temptation. It becomes a great tool for helping a male conquer lust and develop self control over his own sexual urges. This helps him become a better man, and have more respect for women in general, especially his partner.
Male chastity actually has a long history, and if you look back in time, men have used chastity for hundreds of years. They understood the power of sexual energy, and how it can be used for spiritual exploration, and enhancing and nourishing the physical body for endurance in all things. Many athletes to this day practice abstinence and use their sexual energy to help them win over the competition. Men have also used chastity to bring sexual energy upwards through their body, to cleanse their body of negative energy and old habits, as well as to give themselves multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms extending throughout their whole body. There is a whole lot men can learn from their sexual energy when itâs directed in ways beyond ejaculation. Chastity teaches submissive males this, and it brings them much more in touch with their body, and as a result more in touch with their partners.
When a couple within a female led relationship can see beyond the taboos of male chastity and try it for themselves, then tend to never go back. There is a huge following now, a new trend that is rising, because of male chastity. The benefits speak for themselves, and the more males come in touch with their bodies, the more they understand about their partner creating harmony. Itâs worth trying, even for fun as an experiment, just to attempt to understand it.
Many males fear that going into chastity, and giving up that much control, means that sex will occur less often, but thatâs not true at all. Chastity actually sexually charges the relationship, and helps her to develop her own desire, which is something few women ever do. To really explore her desire, and know itâs okay, guilt free, and encouraged by her partner to do so. This sexual charge, combined with her desire, means there will likely be a lot more sex. Itâll just be a different kind of sex, which a submissive male will come to love. He may not get let out of his cage each time, but heâs going to discover the true value of giving pleasure. It will cater directly to his submissive desire, which will bring him deeper into subspace, that alone will automatically be more powerful than a sexual release for him. He will come to love that depth of subspace, through giving pleasure, far more than being released from it. It will make him crave to give pleasure even more.
Eventually he will reach a point where he craves to give pleasure, more than his own sexual release. He will feel naked without his chastity device on, as a symbol of his submission to her. In the end thatâs all chastity becomes, a symbol that he is dedicated to her, devoted to her, and loves her without any selfishness. Itâs a beautiful symbol and many female led relationship have discovered itâs beauty, and have incorporated it into their lifestyle and never look back.
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