measure twice cut once

how come?

I don’t want to talk about it

and asher has confiscated my phone after midnight so I can’t made 3am sadposts

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s and jeanne moved out

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[Lev posts a bunch of sad Cascadian folk music. Because it is Cascadian, much of it is about nuclear war.]

I thought you were bi, is your house not open to hot Gileadite *girls* who need heart-shaped pancakes? (or enbies, I guess, but I get the impression that not many Gileadites identify that way)

I dunno @lilies-on-water is my house open to hot ex-Gileadite girls this week

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I am extremely unqualified to make judgments about hot girls, but hopefully it’s open to hot ex-Gileadite people with genders difficult to describe in a single word

always <3

You're still gileadite, aren't you? Are you sure you *want* a mixed religion marriage?

…..I am genuinely baffled at the idea that you think I wasn’t aware that Lev and Asher are Jewish. Do straight people not talk to their partners before getting married??

I feel like I barely count anyway

princesssilkmoth

Went with Gardenia to the doctor since we had appointments around the same time. We’ll see soon if mine took! And then we got Indian food. I liked my egg curry more than I expected to. I don’t know what the Indian bread is all called in English or I’d talk about what Gardenia got, I got a taste and it was good! It had a lot of layers.

I think the English word is ‘naan’?

also I love my fiancés very very much but you are not wearing jeans to our wedding even if it is the nice pair

we both wore jeans to our LAST wedding

we are EXPERIENCED WEDDING EXPERTS and you are definitely allowed to wear jeans

I did not say that a person in general is not allowed to wear jeans to their wedding, just that at our wedding in particular you in particular will not be wearing jeans. if I have to enlist Jeanne for this I will.

I am going to wear a suit because I love you

I hope you appreciate this sacrifice

… lingerie ads??

listen I love this country but this is a wedding dress:

and this is lingerie:

lev keeps telling me that I am wrong about this but actually I am right and he is the one who is wrong.

how is it lingerie? it’s got the whole long drapey skirt bit. because it is a dress.

the only part of her torso that is covered is the nipples! if you saw someone in pasties and a skirt you would not say “oh what a pretty dress” even though it has the long drapey skirt bit

obviously? pasties are not attached to the dress

… lingerie ads??

listen I love this country but this is a wedding dress:

and this is lingerie:

lev keeps telling me that I am wrong about this but actually I am right and he is the one who is wrong.

how is it lingerie? it’s got the whole long drapey skirt bit. because it is a dress.

also I love my fiancés very very much but you are not wearing jeans to our wedding even if it is the nice pair

we both wore jeans to our LAST wedding

we are EXPERIENCED WEDDING EXPERTS and you are definitely allowed to wear jeans

I thought you were bi, is your house not open to hot Gileadite *girls* who need heart-shaped pancakes? (or enbies, I guess, but I get the impression that not many Gileadites identify that way)

I dunno @lilies-on-water is my house open to hot ex-Gileadite girls this week

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I guess I can pretend to be Gileadite if you're giving out free housing and pancakes, what address do I show up at?

I only give people free housing if I love them

or their spouses I guess

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Surely it's 50% of the house that has security clearances, because I doubt the baby somehow has three fifths of a clearance

actually it’s 67% of the house that has clearances because Jeanne said she was going to talk about her work to S whether he had a clearance or not and they decided they should probably check whether he’s a Secret Eye

so the people that are left out are... sasha. and the baby.

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you're *marrying them???* are you serious?????

of course I’m serious, I love them and want to spend the rest of our lives together and want to affirm that commitment. (were you seriously expecting me to say “no, I was joking”?)

satisfy-you-always

I have followed your blog for a while and prayed about you, and I believe God is laying it on my heart to express my concerns.

Heterosexual sex is special. It is the only kind of sex which can conceive a child and through which we can participate in God’s creative act of making the world.

Men and women were designed to be complementary. The man is active, solid, and a leader; the woman is receptive, yielding, and submissive. Two men simply cannot have the same complementarity relationship that a man and a woman can. Who makes the final decision when a decision must be made? Surely you have noticed the way your natural activity and desire to lead has led to conflict with another man with similar desires. You might think you can resolve these conflicts by wearing a dress and behaving femininely, but you are still a man, you will always be a man, and you have a man’s emotional needs.

And it seems most regrettable of all to marry more than one man, particularly men who were already married to each other. Do you really think you will be the priority in their lives? You deserve a spouse who loves you and only you, Lily.

Many people believe that SSA treatment will involve ending their relationships with other men. And perhaps that is true, if the relationship were only based on sex, or for a season to flee temptation. But I believe you are marrying your partners because you love them. The desire for same-sex love and affection is pure and good; it is just inappropriate to express it through sexuality. After treatment, you will still be able to have a loving relationship with your partners! But it will be a happier relationship because you aren’t trying to force them into a mold into which they don’t fit, in order to resolve your childhood conflicts and traumas.

Your SSA is treatable and perhaps even curable. You don’t have to make these choices.

there is so much to unpack here — I was going to say “but let’s just throw away the whole suitcase” but no, seriously, there is a lot to unpack here.

First of all, I don’t want to have children, so describing heterosexual sex as “the only kind which can conceive a child” is actually the opposite of persuasive. To the extent that “participating in God’s creative act of making the world” is appealing at all, it’s appealing in the way that making art is appealing, and that’s not the mindset one should have when creating a human being who will have to live with the results of this decision.

I… actually really worry about straight people sometimes. Do you not have the concept of “talking about your concerns with each other and reaching a solution that everyone is okay with”? I have had conflicts but I would not describe any of them as being caused by “natural activity and desire to lead,” whatever that even means; the way I dress has nothing to do with solving my relationship conflicts, I just like it.

Yes! Yes, I absolutely think I will be a priority in Lev and Asher’s lives! I am a priority in Lev and Asher’s lives! I wouldn’t be marrying them if I wasn’t! I wouldn’t marry someone who didn’t love me! This is the kind of thing that makes me worry about straight people!

I am marrying my partners because I love them. I guess I could, potentially, self-modify into not wanting to do that anymore. But holy fuck, why would I?

I’m pretty sure the way you dress has ever solved a relationship conflict

because sometimes you are in a floofy skirt and it’s really hot and you’re so happy about it and then I forget what I was annoyed about

But do you really think you can avoid stealing more Gileadites, you seem like a veritable magnet for them :p

I dunno is there anyone else on here who’s a really hot Gileadite guy who needs to be stolen and introduced to the joy of heart-shaped pancakes

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Better idea: Steal all of the Gileadites! Thereby becoming their benevolent overlord, at which point you can remove all their stupid laws and disable all their nukes

do I look like the sort of person who would do a good job at running a government

there’s a reason there’s a separation of forecasting and parliament

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