KEEP IT SIMPLE (KIS)

Been through a lot and based on my successes and FAILURES I now offer help to people in the form of Life Coaching to help those recover from divorce, enhance their new or existing relationships, or maximize the blended family.

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Slacking and Complaining

Hola! folks sorry for the long delay but a few life changing events have taken place...more to come on that later.  I had to jump on here and get this off my chest people I hope you don't mind. 

Are you working your ass off?  Do you start your days earlier and stay up late?  While everyone else is partying, are you building your business?  Are you saving instead of spending?  If you are doing anything to achieve greatness then at some point you have experienced this.

It burns me to the core when people who are mediocre think they deserve the same benefits as those who operate on a higher level of greatness.  Oh yes folks I have had this experience here and let me tell you I was on fire.  Not only were the mediocrer's (yeh I made that up) whining and complaining, but because there are so many of them, they have the power in numbers and cause the level field to become unbalanced.

If two guys are on a basketball team together and player A gets up early to practice and exercise, followed by a strict diet, and never misses a game, there is no way player B who practices once a week, eats Mcdonald's like his life depends on it, and makes it to every other game, should be looked at in the same regard. 

Yet because player B is the norm in society, their mediocrity sometimes dominates the here and now and causes inconvience for us player A's who go extremely hard to make it happen.

Ultimately those of us on our A games eventually always find a way to dominate while the slackers and complainers are left doing just that...Slacking and Complaining. 

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Peanut Butter & Jelly

Are you a creature of habit?

Answer YES!!  We all are to some degree, but it doesn’t hurt to try something new.  Do you eat the same lunch eat day, peanut butter and jelly with the crust cut off.  While getting dressed do you reach for the white tube socks?  On the way to work, is it the same route each day?

This life that we have offers so much variety and experiences it makes no sense we shy away from anything new or different.  Trying something new brings a sense of excitement to your life.  New and different brings energy and allows your mind to tap into a different place.

So here is what you do, while making your lunch for work this week, skip the PBJ and try packing a chicken salad sandwich.  Instead of the white tubes to cover your feet, go out and buy a pair of red socks and wear them with your seat.  If you’re making a b-line straight to work, get up 15 minutes earlier and take a scenic route to work, who knows what you will discover.

That what life SHOULD be.  DISCOVERY!!

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Out with the OLD, In with the NEW

Summer is around the corner and it is time to finally shed the winter blues, all the snow and ice, time to put this spring behind and the 50 million tornadoes that took place.  It may also be time to let some things go in your life.

I was watching hoarders, where people have this condition and they keep hold on to everything they can get under the sun, and I was thinking wow this is extreme.  I’m glad I'm not like that. 

But am I?  Are we?

As more thought goes into it I come to grips with the reality that we all can be hoarders of some sort.  Think about your facebook page and twitter accounts.  How many people do you have on there just because?  No interaction, not a tweet, or direct message, or a comment on the other persons wall, yet we continue to hold on to these so called friends, and honestly I don't know why.  Speaking for me, I have sent updates on my social network about the new adventures I'm having and I have gotten responses from either the same people or newbie’s.  But, there is a group out there that is basically just there, and we all have them.  There is nothing wrong with them, they just basically taking up space.

I say out with the old in with the NEW!!  Make room for the new interactions in your life.  Don't be afraid to let go of dead weight.  Everything has it's time and place and in your life your responsible for saying what stays and what goes.

Take time this holiday weekend to CLEAN IT UP!!

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FuNnY AcTeRs..

Why is it all good between folks when we are at the same level? As long as we are broke together, or have the same job title, or we complaining about our relationships, have the same type of car, live close to each other we can laugh and joke and everyone is cool. But!! When you decide to take it up a notch and start reaching for new levels in life...boyyyy do these people get funny ACTING!! When you decide you want more out of life, and start doing something about it, while some of those people will be there to support, most will either vanish away or turn their 9mm hate pistols and start blasting off shots at you. If you get a new car, the boss' at work gives you new projects or a new role, you and your honey are back in a state of bliss, you move to the (nice) lol side of town, you take a vacation (and not a week at your mamas) but somewhere that requires a passport, are all qualifiers for your ex peeps to get brand new on you. You kissing ass at work, she really not happy with him (probably has a dude on the side), he really can't afford that car, or her momma gave her the money to start that business. This is a short list of what you will hear. There is no remedy for the FUNNY ACTERS...except to continue to push for where you are trying to get to. Next time you feel the vibe change and they are around, politely say "excuse me, Pardon my back" and exit stage left to your greatness!!

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Hello BS....

Life brings along times when you are happy and things are going your way. Money is right, relationship is running on all four cylinders, friends have your back and are supporting you, business is showing nothing but growth...and then bam, your whole world is flipped upside down. Your money flow tightens up, your breaking up with your girl, all your so called friends are no where to be found, damn near about to get fired from work, and you only have one cigarette left (playing lol). Where do you go from here? When your sh*t is flowing, you really don't notice how long its been good for you, but the minute it starts to get hectic, you notice each second you have to endure the bullsh*t. Each penny that is being spent is stressful, everyone all up in your business, not to be helpful, but to get some new info to gossip to everyone else about you, and that dreadful feeling of having to spend another 8 hours at the job where it seems like everyone got hired their to work your last nerve. This post is for those in this zone and your head is spinning around like the chick from the exorcist and you don't have any answers. Stand up tall and poke your chest out and with your best 5th grade school picture grin....Salute the BULLSHITTTTT!!!

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PRIME TIME T.V.

Hey world welcome back to my place for another update and a little more encouragement. In this post I want to address the dream haters. Ooh how I love the dream haters. If there is one thing you can count on in your journey, it's that you will encounter a number of these low grade humans. People with nothing better to do in their lives except watching and criticizing the number 1 reality show on TV. YOU’RE LIFE!!!

These haters are dedicated watchers of every episode in your life, and trust and believe if they don't catch an episode live they have definitely set their DVR to record your ass. I mean they sit with a bucket of popcorn and a big cup of RED kool-aid and call one of their buddies to make sure they are tuned in so they can converse every commercial break on all of the things they would do if they were on the show. Stomachs popping out of their shirts and popcorn butter all over the remote from their greasy hands, and pants half way around their legs as they run back from a bathroom break as they plop down and ask WHAT DID I MISS??

How about your freaking life?

I want to pause a episode of my life I am airing, and turn to the person that is watching and as they look in amazement to what is happening, I reach my hand out of the TV and slap the hell out of them and tell them to change the damn channel to their show and stop talking about how my show should run.

Dream Haters understand that I am the producer, director, writer, grip, sound boom and whatever else it takes to run a show, and however I want to run my show, I'm going to run my show that way. If you do choose to continue to watch, I won't be able to pimp slap all of you every single time. I will add the hate to my fuel tank and make sure I work even harder, and occasionally toss the finger up (sorry I'm human too...I get bothered as well), and make my show the best thing on your TV.

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Hold up, I ain't the one!!

Hello world…welcome back..

At a certain point you have choose to blast back at those that will not allow you to become the person you are striving to be. You shouldn't have a problem admitting that you have made mistakes and those mistakes have not only affected you but also people that are close to you.  Now you should know that if you make a mistake and someone else is involved you do have to put time in to make that person feel comfortable dealing with you…but at what point do you say enough is enough and you strike back.

What do I mean??

Well if people want to constantly remind you of what you’ve done wrong by berating and belittling you then it’s time to take a stand and say enough is enough and let them know you don’t have to tolerate that bullshit. There is nothing wrong with letting someone know you are sorry for your actions but if you sorry and they seem to not be able to get over it, then the reality may be that you have to get over them.

How is it healthy that you have said sorry numerous times only to be broken down and reminded how much of a asshole you might HAVE been. Basically whatever steps I’ve made since those mistakes don’t get acknowledged or they or minimalized and references are made back to who you use to be.

I say that’s some bullshit and people like that can have it!!!

So how do you get over it?

Easy…live with your apology and know that if the person was cool they would allow you to be who you are supposed to be, or as a courtesy tell you to go f&ck off. Either way your are not being beat up daily with a variety of adjectives that describe how you might have been.

With that if your still trying to deal, come to the reality that if they were worth it, they wouldn’t make it so impossible to come back from a bad situation, and you just might have to chuck the deuces up…or roll out of they lives.

Know your great and setbacks don’t define who you are, and there will be people who recognize the true you and will allow you to vibe in their life without the drama…ONE

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It's all about me...or is it?

Today is a good day to stop those selfish ways.  If you are use to it being all about you, how about you take the day off and do something for someone else.  There are mad (that means a lot) opportunities to go out and volunteer and help out someone or a particular organization.  Picking up trash, donating blood, reading to kids, or exercising with elderly folks is all available. 

This will not only help the people you are working with but it will also build your character, and help you move away from that place of ME ME ME.  It could also have a impact on your relationship as it will shift your mindset from what can this person do for me to how can I make their day better.  If you are recovering from a broken relationship, this will give you something to do rather than sitting their sulking and reliving all the events that led to the breakup.  You can meet new people and help someone in the process.  This is also a chance for you to show your kids that helping other people is a good thing, and how blessed their lives are.  Instead of redbox DVD’s, and digital cable all day, create the habit where they think of others as well as themselves.

With that said go out and jump into something, anything to get the ball rolling and who knows what may happen.  You might actually do it again.