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@kriserek

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chastitywifeguide

Chasity is a game of tease AND denial. If you are not teasing regularly with the denial, then you are just denying. And just the act of denial is neglect.

denial does not mean the absence of sexual activity. denial is specifically the denial of release and or orgasm. In fact, you should be participating in intimate activity regularly in order to keep Chastity game interesting for both of you.

If you’re having a hard time of thinking of things to do, here are some ideas:

Whenever you want in public or in private, make him pull out his cage so you can inspect it. Don’t just look at it. inspect it. grab it. take a picture of it. Kiss it. fondle it. put it away. This could be done at home while he’s driving or out in public.

When you’re apart, make him send you a picture of his cage.

If you’re out at dinner, play Footsy with it.

If you’re out dancing, grab it and play with it while you’re dancing

Give him a caged blowjob . In the bedroom, but other places too like while he’s driving. Or maybe crawl underneath his desk while he’s working and give him a cage BJ there.

Make him wear a butt plug for a certain period of time during the day. Tell him it’s to get ready for later when you plan to peg him or just tell him to wear it for fun even if you’re not gonna take him later it’s just fun to watch him walk around with it.

get a remote controlled but plug and use it at dinner, or use it like a service bell to let him know you need something.

Make him wear lingerie underneath his clothes when he goes out! There is nothing cuter than a pink cage, surrounded by a garter belt in stockings. Take a picture or a video to keep in your phone. This is especially fun if he’s going somewhere with his friends. Imagine his embarrassment while he has to wear his cute pink cage with a garter belt and stockings while he’s golfing! 🫢🤣 ⛳️

Put on your strap on and walk around the house displaying it. Then you can either use it or not either way it’s going to drive him crazy with anticipation. Maybe you just make him give it a blow job and then put it away. You could even watch TV while he does it. No need to interrupt your day.

Next time you’re going somewhere tell him that you’re going to drive. Surprise him when you pull out your strap on dildo and make him give you road head. (Maybe just drive around the neighborhood so it is safe). Take a video!

have him clean the house, naked and nothing but his Chasity cage. Or for extra bonus fun, making him dress up like a slutty maid and wait on you hand and foot. Have him get you a beer while he cleans waits on you while you catch up on your shows. Make him your little house wife. Use the remote controlled plug to beckon him for a refill. At some point bend him over the counter and give him a reward. make him wear a strapon over his cage. Jerk off his strapon or even give it a blow job.

ask him if he wants to be allowed to jerk off. When he says yes, have him put his strapon on and he can jerk off his strapon for as long as he wants.

Have him lay naked on the bed. Sit on him reverse cowgirl style and bounce back and forth on his cage like you were having sex and just make him watch. This will drive him crazy!

Bend over the bed in front of him and let him try to fuck you with the cage. Make a collection of photos of him in compromising situations (caged, dress in outfits, give you a bj, getting pegged, etc) and randomly text these photos to him just to remind him of his position as your slutty chastity slave.

does he use his phone too much? Make him put one of these pbotos as his background when he unlicks his phone. It will remind and humiliate him ever time he opens his phone but i guarantee it will also keep him from using his phone a lot more. Which is good because he should be focusing on you and his chores!

Tell him that you told one of your friends about his cage (or actually do!) but dont tell him who. He’ll constantly be wondering who it is and be so embarrassed around all of them. Schedule a text message with a picture of him sucking your strapon that will send to one of your friends in 1 hour (or whatever time) if he doesn’t get one of these chores done by that timeframe. You’ll never see a man move faster!

make him shave his whole body and keep it shaved (except during summer where others will see his shaved legs).

Paint his toe nails with gel nail polish (he wont be able to get if off even if he tries) or make him keep his own nails painted. get temporary tattoos and make him wear ones that say bitch, sissy, slut, princess, caged, a queen of spades symbol, or some other embarrassing thing. Make him give you naked massages every night.

wear the key to his cage around a necklace. Let people see it. If they know, the know 🤷‍♀️

hook the key to his cage around your garter belt or panties when you are having sex. Let him see it but not touch!

Make him watch you masturbate. make him show you his porn collection.

make him wear a strapon and jerk off to his porn collection.

anything you want! Just throw something into it that makes it fun!

themodernmarriage

A fun new toy

As a surprisingly 'vanilla' couple (besides the whole chastity thing obviously !), we don't really have much in the way on 'bondage / bdsm' gear, other than some simple wrist restraints. These were purchased when I unlocked him once for teasing and had to leave the room to fetch something and I came back and saw him making contact with my nub. I missed most of it but it looked like he had run his index finger from the balls all the way up the shaft to the tip, which is obviously against our rules. Since then, I have never trusted him to control his hands while unlocked, so they are restrained during all releases. I recently made a new 'toy' purchase after seeing it in a twitter post. This device is a simple black wooden 'stockade' toy called a 'Humbler'. You pull the male's testicles between his legs and insert them through a gap and then tighten the two pieces in order to trap them behind his legs. The ring of his chastity cage makes it quite easy to get his balls in the right position to tighten the screws, and once tightened the humbler and the cage make really neat little package.

The humbler is shaped in such a way that the sides press up against the back of his legs. This pulls his balls back sharply and makes it nearly impossible for him to stand up straight. This is delightful to watch, as it makes him move around in a constant 'bowing' position as if he's in constant deference to me - which, of course, he is ;). The humbler that I got has eye bolts on each side which you attach your male's wrist restraints to, so that they are firmly attached to his sides, and any attempts to move them pull sharply on his tightly trapped balls.

I have found myself using it fairly regularly - to the point where I’ve called it his ‘uniform’. If I feel like having him give me head before bed, I’m put on his new uniform and make him work really hard 😂. It’s super hot when he’s going down on me and his arms are tightly strained back and his back is arched to relieve pressure on his balls, which are beautifully presented behind him and within easy reach for a squeeze or slap. He quickly works up a sweat, and the amount of leaking from the chastity cage must mean it gets his juices flowing too, so to speak. It has made my think I need to get a dildo gag so that he can please me with that while still locked in the humbler.

I also use it every time I unlock him for teasing. He lies on his back with humbler on and his hands locked to the sides of the humbler. He needs to arch his back to relieve pressure, which is pretty hard work for his abs. In this position his balls are pulled far back and are out of the way with his nub cage presented beautifully forward. When I unlock the cage and he gets hard, it sticks straight up in there air like a flagpole with the nub skin very tightly pulled. This makes it very easy to tickle, stroke and whip, which is most ideal. After the teasing I leave him in this position until the stress and fatigue helps him get the nub back to cageable size for locking.

All in all, a really fun new addition!

Wow! 😲🥵🥵🥵🥵

It doesn’t matter if we’re in public or in the bedroom; if mommy wants to inspect her property, then she does just that

mistress-peyton-deactivated2026

If this is wrong then I don't want to be right 😂🤣🤣

Ladies,

You deserve the best version of your beloved.

Your loving selfishness, loving cruelty, and loving manipulations are bringing joy, happiness, passion, intimacy, and harmony to your relationship.

Is it wrong for your male to love, cherish, adore, and obey you? Is it wrong for his female to love him, guide him, and mould him into a better version of himself?

With loving intent, accept that YOU know what is best for both of you, take the reins, and leave the guilt and second guessing in the past.

deniedbetahusband4

Ladies,

Please become comfortable with sensual pleasure.

Revel in your power to command him to provide you pleasing attention, even if you have no intention to continue to an eventual orgasm.

Every interaction doesn't need to end in an orgasm, but they do need to contribute to your sense of power, well being, and satisfaction.

Relax and serenely enjoy his obedience and service.

I send my husband similar pictures during his work day letting him know I am waiting for his head to be between my thighs when he gets home.

justafool2believe

Ladies,

Please read the caption above, reflect upon it, and ponder the thought.

It is true, when we beg, we do want to be denied for YOU, by YOU! Don't hesitate to display your arousal, amusement, or enjoyment of his denial and suffering at YOUR hands.

While you probably don't understand the "why," the important aspect is that you have gained the power and knowledge of the "how" your sub is thinking. The insight into your submissive's thoughts, wants, and needs.

The concept above is likely the first epiphany for beginners. It is crucial as it gives you the leverage to deeper delve into what makes your submissive tick; what excites them, what possibly frightens them, and what makes their submission blossom. The more knowledge you amass, the more vulnerable they become and your power grows.

This sounds so very clinical, but actually you'll find it an act of love, as you are making the effort to truly understand your love's needs and wants at a much deeper level than ever before. You are exploring ways to bring his deepest erotic fantasies and dreams to fruition.

Understand that he is not only consenting to your dominance, but wants to be nakedly vulnerable for YOU. He wants to feel powerless before YOU. He wants to feel YOUR love and need for him through your power and dominance.

Lastly, amassing this power offers YOU the freedom and safety to explore YOUR deepest fantasies and dreams in a loving, safe, secure environment, with a so willing lover whose only goal is to cater to your every whim and pleasure.

universally4youreyes

First part: http://goldpheey.tumblr.com/post/111612291793/here-it-is-a-very-special-set-that-day-we-choose

That evening I worn a beautiful pair of leather wedges and he obviously couldn’t take his eyes off them, except for the moment I started playing footsie under the restaurant table..after hours of provoking and tickling games, we came to the hotel quite late. In a blink of an eye he was already in the bedroom, ready for what I promised. I laughed and said: “not so fast honey, why don’t you roll a joint before”? He was to the limit, but he knew how near he was, so he got started.

When everything was ready he took off his clothes and I took off mine, except for the underwear and the wedges. We sat down on the bed and he lighted the joint, then gave it to me after a bit..as I was smoking I pushed one shoe against his chest and put the other right in front of his face. I didn’t say anything, he just started to kiss my foot. The small room became smoky, but i could see how excited he was. I let him take my shoes off and sniff my soles. I knew how much he loved the scent of the leather on my feet. He got crazy when I let him suck my toes.

The joint was quite over so I stopped him and said :“I’m so tired baby..I’m gonna rest now, you can massage my feet as I try to fall asleep. I know what you’ll do then, but pay attention, I demand two things : first, DON’T wake me up or you won’t be allowed to touch my feet for a week. Second, you’ll have to clean up your mess…you know what I mean. Don’t forget to take some pics, I want to see the proofs tomorrow morning. Goodnight!”

You were in no way prepared for what was waiting for you at home when you finally got back after a week long trip for work. The trip suck ass and you were quite tired.

You even struggled to slide the key in the lock and when you finally did the door opened up and you were greeted by your wife, Dichen.

"Hey, honey! I missed you." You greeted even before you looked up at her. When you did she was giving you a feral look that instantly had you hard and aching.

latex-bondage-chastity

Ladies,

The moment you accept, embrace, and run with your power is the moment your lives will change forever - for the better when done with love, caring, and thoughtfulness.

And yes, instilling a little fear/dread in him means you are successfully pushing him, dominating him, enforcing YOUR will, and stoking his fires of submission and ecstasy.

Live your dreams, love your life, have fun together exploring your new found power and majesty!

Fine wine

My Job

My husband introduced me to Male Chastity. He brought to my attention there was something called a Cock Cage. I thought that sounded immediately fun, and told him to go ahead and order one.

A week or so later this plastic CB-600 cage showed up! Yes, let’s put it on right now!

I immediately thought it was great fun, and loved to make him wear it and torture him with teasing. What was not to like? I just thought it was fun. It immediately put a smile on my face, but then again, I didn’t take it more seriously than that. It was fun.

But he always wanted ‘more’… and I admit I saw it as just ‘another thing to do’. It’s not that I didn’t want to do things for my husband, I did, I just started to see it as something more I had to do, and we were both busy.

But what changed was when I saw that Male Chastity games were for ME TOO. I wanted him locked, because I got what I wanted. And I really liked getting what I wanted. I was good at receiving what I wanted.

I just didn’t want to work for it as if it were a burden! But then I saw it as a co creative game between the two of us. And I started to really look at what I got from this arrangement.

What do I get from Male Chastity?

A Body Servant - My husband daily rubs my shoulders, or my feet. At least once a week he sets up the massage table and I get a deep, full, 2 hour massage. When we watch TV, he sits behind me and rubs my shoulders. I don’t get tired of this. I don’t rub him back, though I am affectionate with him. I’ve gotten used to his strong hands giving my body the work it needs, daily. This is just the way it is, and I love it. I hear from other women whose men hardly ever touch them, and I’m shocked. I’m spoiled for usre.

A Sex Slave – My husband’s focus is on pleasing me sexually. I don’t care about pleasing him sexually. We have sex when I want, and I get the orgasms. There is an old Quinn Klaxon caption that says: Only She Cums. Yep. I have as many orgasms as I want, and I want far more now that we have this arrangement, and he doesn’t have any, or very few. Doesn’t bother me at all. My sexual pleasure first, and really… only my sexual pleasure. He serves me fully in this regard. (And yes, I realize he gains great sexual pleasure from serving me, and touching me, and seeing me in pleasure).

Cook/Housekeeper – My husband does a lot of housekeeping, and most of the cooking. I clean dishes once in a while, and the house, because I enjoy helping out and I’m a part of the family. But he does the most of it, and I’m happy about that. The best part is that he does it the WAY I LIKE IT.

Gentleman – My husband treats me with deep masculine respect, and takes care of me like a true gentleman. In speech, in attention, and in service. He’s there for me, he’s strong, he’s mostly silent, he’s still, and he’s my rock upon which I am secure. I love his deep masculine strength and how he takes care of me.

Fun – It’s a lot of fun to keep your man locked and focused on you. The power, the teasing, the love, the service, sometimes even the sadism (just a little!). Yeah… I get a lot of fun and creativity from the whole thing.

So What Does He Get?

Writing that out it sounds very one sided, but it’s actually not. To understand that let’s look at something I read years ago.

A Submissive wants to told what to do.

A masochist needs pain.

A slave is pure service to his/her Domme/Dom.

While we have fun with me telling him what to do, and punishing him and torturing him and teasing him… deeply my husband loves me and channels all of his sexual energy into a depth of connection through service. It’s kinky weird, but it really isn’t. It’s love. Deep service not just to me, but to the FEMININE. He’s powerful man who chooses to channel is love in a certain way. He’s not unlike Taoist sexual masters who avoid orgasm and circulate their energy in full body orgasms. Again, we are kinky, and have a shit ton of fun with that stuff… but deep underneath it all, this is a loving partnership relationship that keeps the spice going long, long, after most people’s has faded.

He also gets a shit ton of sexual energy from me. We play like we were kids. Still. Year after year. Something about teasing the shit out of him…

So What Are My Duties?

This was the part that got me started writing. You see, I wanted him to do all of the things above without me having to do anything. I know. Kind of shitty, but it went back to old stuff in my head about sexual duties. I’ve got to do all this stuff… FOR HIM. Then I realized A) I like doing things for him, and B) keeping him in chastity actually is a FUN sexual duty and C) It pays off (see above list).

Keep Him In Slave Mode

There is a place he goes to in service to me, that is slave, it’s an emotionally charged depth of love and service, and it’s what keeps him going. It sexually charged submission slave service. It’s not the submission I was talking about above, it’s the SLAVE offering, of a man willing to die for his family to protect them. Intimately connected to death in some ways. But this is a ‘sexually charged’ submission, a state of being. That’s my job, to feed that state. Keep him in this ‘submissive’ state. That requires me to be dominant, and these are the things I do to stay dominant, and keep him submissive.

One – Control His Cock With a Cock Cage – Control the orgasm, control the male. He is kept in chastity longer and longer now. It works. He enjoys it, it’s a fun challenge for him, and I enjoy, it gives me power and pleasure, and it deepens his submission. Gives him access to a deeper masculine focus on the feminine.

Two –Service – He wants to do things for me. Give him things to do, and do it in a sexy way. Part of the game is MAKING him do it. FORCING him to do it. Now of course, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, he’s grown man, but if I TELL HIM to lick my pussy, or clean the house, in a dominant sexy way, we both have a lot more fun. I used to think it was a job to give him things to do, but then I realized I was doing that all the time anyway. Can you take the trash out? Can you pick up eggs on the way home? Can you call your Mother and tell her we are going to be late for Sunday dinner? Can you give me a footrub, my heels are killing me from walking in them all day at work? Can you change the oil in the car? I ask him for things ALL THE TIME… anyway. So why not making it a game and TELL HIM he has to do it because he’s a slave? Yes, it’s more work, but it works, and it’s actually fun. And why not make taking the trash out fun?

Three – Discipline – My husband benefits from being beaten once in a while, I think it’s a BODY thing, not that he needs it, and I have a bit of a sadist streak liking to beat him. Also… there is the sexy POWER dynamic. I tell him to do something, he doesn’t do it, there are consequences. It’s sexy. It’s powerful. He breaks the rules once in a while just to feel my power, which then gives him that deep slave feeling. So yes, I have to discipline him sometimes, and it can be really fun, and really creative. I’ve come up with some really fucked up punishments. I impress myself sometimes. He tests the limits of my rule… and sometimes I get tired of that… but things are always better if I stay firm and consistent.

Four – Tease and Denial – Build suspense. Give him energy, give him energy… and pull it back last second. This seems cruel, if someone did it to me I would slit their throat, but he loves it and I love it too. It’s a big part of the work… giving him that pleasure of teasing… and it helps put him into slave mode, which gives me more focus on me.

Five – Experience as much pleasure as possible. Porn stars make ridiculous noise for a reason. The masculine LOVES to see the feminine in pleasure. Women I talk with have a hard time understanding this, they feel embarrassed, etc. But if you have loud orgasms, and with as much energy as possible enjoy his slavery… he’s going to fucking love it. And it’s something that really keeps him going and keeps him in slave mode.

Sum it Up

Cage his cock and lower his status (he’s a slave, you are a mistress)…

Give him things to do in a fun sexy way…

Punish him regularly for not doing them or not doing them correctly (in a fun nasty dirty sexy way)…

Tease him sadistically with tons and tons of feminine sexual energy but denial him that ultimate ejaculation…

While enjoying it so deeply and thoroughly with such feminine bliss and radiance and pleasure that he can’t help but worship you.

-X

P.S. HAVE FUN!!! It’s so fun.

It took a while to get over the guilty feelings, but realizing that what he really wanted more than orgasms (even though he begs for them now), is the constant excitement feeling and for me to be fully satisfied sexually, and other ways, too.

It is true. Ask your husband/slave which he craves more. Talk to him about it. Play with his mind, you can confidently give him the choice, and rest easy knowing the answer. Relax and enjoy it! Revel in the feelings of love, commitment, and surrender to you and your pleasure!

Remind him often of how he has become yours, how you have changed him, how you have made him dependent on you for your love, pleasure, affection, control, and appreciation. Make sure to TELL him how happy you are!

Love him fiercely, possess him aggressively, lovingly care for him, address his needs, be fully engaged, and be proud and comforted in the knowledge that you are so wonderful, special, loved, and cherished that he has completely surrendered to you - and you alone!

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