nur ein Mädchen

Ich bin nicht glücklich aber ich versuche es

[badwritermedia]

the elusive 7 act Structure

[lizormianillustration]

whatever was left, that was ours for a while.

sunrise - louise glück

[chrispineofficial]

one of the biggest things i believe to be true about relationships is that you must make it feel safe for the people you love to call you out on shit. like obviously don’t let anyone emotionally manipulate or terrorize you but in general, in healthy adult relationships, there is always a pattern of rupture/repair. someone does something (unintentionally!) that makes someone else feel not great, and it needs to be addressed. the best thing you can do to preserve and improve your interpersonal relationships is to be open to these conversations. you have to be able to hear how your words or actions have affected someone, even if it absolutely wasn’t your intention, and you have to be able to simply acknowledge and apologize. it doesn’t matter if you didn’t see it that way. someone you love did, and they care enough to tell you, and that’s a gift. be grateful for the opportunity to do better.

[ohwyrmies]

my first knitting pattern is live!

remember that strawberry sweater I’ve been posting about? I turned it into a pattern! It’s available on Ravelry, or you could toss me $5 on ko-fi with a note and I’ll send the PDF to you directly!

[sosuperawesome]

Katerina Marchenko on Etsy

[ungalobrando-deactivated2022073]

If you neglected yourself for a long time, there might come a moment where it hits you just how much damage you've done to yourself. Maybe your skin is scarred forever. Maybe you have scars from picking it all the time. Maybe your hair is thinning and falling out from bad sleep, bad diet, pulling, dyeing, for whatever reason really. Maybe your teeth are getting soft or starting to rot inside your mouth. Maybe your relationships have fallen apart. Maybe your apartment hasn't been cleaned in weeks, maybe even months.

You're not a lost cause, you know. It's okay to grieve the person you could have been, the people who could still be in your life, and the health you could still have if you cared for yourself better.

You can start now, brush your teeth now, be gentle with your skin, use lotion, eat better, take care of your hair and nails... and every day your body will get better. Your body is forgiving. Your body is a fighter. And your future self will thank you.

[soracities]

when e.e. cummings said “i’ll live my life if it kills me”

[softspringsolace]

when andrea gibson said “i suppose i love this life, in spite of my clenched fist.” & when ellen bass said “to love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it”

[thoughtkick]

“My life is made up of ‘I’m sorry’. I feel like I have to apologize to people, to things, to life itself. It’s like, ‘I’m sorry to be here’. I don’t want to disturb anyone.”

— Yohji Yamamoto

[stinkykatie]

[gaycommunist]

i’m all the ages i have ever been

@swarnpert // haruki murakami “norwegian wood” // laura mathis “no most” // russian dolls // sue zhao // “eleven” sandra cisneros // “deathless” catherynne m valente // “memento mori” crywank // “untitled” keith haring, 1982 // dante and aristotle discover // jenny slate // @psychicdonuts

[paddymayne]

[brambleton-deactivated20220426]

concept art for studio ghibli's spirited away

[angel0logy]

Beautifully said.

[exeuntnoctis-deactivated2025103]

I M P O R T A N T

[positivelypastelpink]

[sunshineandkindness]

A bad day/ a bad week.

You're doing great.

[mockiatoh]

You can’t deserve a person’s love. You’ll drive yourself crazy thinking like that. They either love you, or they don’t. That doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough for them to love you, because love isn’t something you earn by being good enough. It isn’t something that can be quantified or doled out. Don’t blame yourself for not being loved how you need to, just teach yourself how to look for love where love lives.

[mockiatoh]

This isn’t just about romantic love, or even skewed towards romantic love, although it does apply there too. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to accept is that my mother simply wasn’t someone who was capable of loving me, and there is no version of me that I could have ever been that would have earned that love. But with acceptance came healing. I was able to love myself more instead of resenting myself for not being more than any one person could be.

[mockiatoh]

Are you listening? Even love for yourself isn’t earned. It is a kindness you give yourself.

[charamells-deactivated20220424]

Succulents

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

[byrneing]

today my therapist told me that sometimes negative feelings like guilt, anxiety, self loathing, etc are like the hiccups. they’re uncomfortable, we don’t like them, there’s no way to turn them off; they can even be incapacitating for a while. we don’t always know where they came from or when they’ll go away, so sometimes instead of focusing on why we feel a certain way we need to get better at recognizing its temporary nature, keeping perspective, and enduring discomfort. i feel like a lot of self-improvement rhetoric is about pinpointing specific causes for negative thoughts/behaviors so you can eradicate them, but people with chronic mental illness really need to work on allowing themselves to experience these feelings without going into a downward spiral.

[honoriaw]

thank you for this

I want to think on this

I think this may help

[softcore-revolutionary]

Lol I conveniently have hiccups now

[queerpontmercy]

my therapist often reminds me that “why do i feel like this?” can sometimes be a dangerous question to ask yourself alone and leave you digging through all the times you’ve felt guilty/rejected/ashamed before. it’s easy to spiral that way if you’re not careful. with practice, i’ve started asking myself “what do i need to get through this?” the answers to that one are a bit more useful in the moment, and the shift has also helped me be kinder to myself when these feelings come up.