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Hi!
Rules and other muses can be found on my main blog, @distant-wcrlds (last edited 01/16/25)
Bio
Wishlist
Default World State
Interest Checker
Companion Verses
Relevant tags are in the tags, bc Tumblr's search function sucks.
𝐎𝐂 𝐄𝐌𝐎𝐉𝐈 𝐀𝐒𝐊𝐒!
feel free to tweak questions + all emojis r listed in text form bc i can't see some of them aAAaaAA! sorry if any of these questions are too similar i tried to avoid that but .. there's a lot lol! categorized by emoji type.
i wanted to make one because i could not find one on tumblr already that had a ton of questions. this was created by combining ones under the #oc ask game tag + my own contributions. hi charmymemes nation i'm back.
people
👁️ EYE - what colour are their eyes? do people notice their eyes? is there anything special about them (shows emotion easily, literally magical...)?
🤥 LYING - are they good liars? do they have tells to show they're lying?
👻 GHOST - do they believe in ghosts? what are their "ghostly experiences", if any?
💥 COLLISON - what emotions do they have trouble dealing with?
😭 CRYING - what makes them cry? do they cry easily?
👊 PUNCH - are they quick to violence?
💢 ANGER - what are some habits they have that will take some getting used to?
👪 FAMILY - what is their family like? what is your ocs relationship to them? does your oc have any siblings?
😨 FEARFUL - when scared, do they go into "flight" or "fight"?
💤 SLEEPING - do they fall asleep easily? what helps them sleep?
food & drinks
🥞 PANCAKE - what is their comfort breakfast?
🎂 BIRTHDAY CAKE - when is their birthday? do they like celebrating it?
🍩 DONUT - favourite sweet treat?
🍟 FRIES - do they order food often? or they prefer to cook their own food?
☕️ HOT BEVERAGE - do they prefer hot or cold drinks? what is their favourite drink?
🍓 STRAWBERRY - do they eat their fruit & veg? what is their favourite fruit or vegetable?
🍰 CAKE SLICE - favourite cake flavour? are they specific about types of cakes?
🍧 SHAVED ICE - do they still have any objects from their childhood? what significance does it have to them? what would their reaction be if they lost it?
plants & nature
💐 BOUQUET - create a bouqet for them! what do those flowers mean? are any of the flowers their particular favourite?
🌙 MOON - what is your oc's greatest wish? how far are they willing to go for it?
🌋 VOLCANO - how bad is their temper? is it a slow boil, or a instant explosion?
🌺 HIBISCUS - do they have any allergies?
🍁 MAPLE LEAF - what is their favourite season? why?
🍃 FALLING LEAF - do they enjoy being in nature? what is their favourite outdoor activity?
☀️ SUN - are they a morning person? what is the first thing they do in the morning?
🕷️ SPIDER - what is their biggest fear? do they have any irrational / mundane fears?
🌹 ROSE - do they like valentines day? have they been confessed to before? have they confessed to anyone before?
🙈 SEE-NO-EVIL - whats a side of your oc that they don't want to show other people?
🙊 SPEAK-NO-EVIL - what is something your oc will refuse to stay quiet about?
🙉 HEAR-NO-EVIL - what is the worse thing your oc could hear from someone?
🌱 SEEDLING - what is their most vivid memory from childhood?
🍀 CLOVER - do they believe in luck? are they lucky?
🌏 EARTH - will they give up the world for someone they love? is this decision easy for them?
🌌 MILKY WAY - what was the inspiration behind your oc? what was the first thing you decided about them?
activity
⚾ BASEBALL - can they play sports? what is their best position if they play a team sport? what's their strong suit (speed, power etc.)?
🏊 SWIMMING - can they swim? or are they afraid of water? how well do they swim? how do they feel about swimming in the ocean?
objects
📣 MEGAPHONE - how loud are they? what do they speak like? got a voice claim?
📖 OPEN BOOK - do they like reading? what's their favourite genre?
🪤 MOUSE TRAP - what will always lure them into certain danger? a loved one in danger? a promise of something they are always searching for?
📸 CAMERA - do they enjoy having their picture taken? what's their go-to pose? do they like taking photos? what do they take photos of?
🎭 MASKS - do they act differently around certain people? what's different between the way they act around friends, family, strangers, etc.?
✂️ SCISSORS - what is the "last straw" for them to cut someone out of their life? how easily do they let go of people?
💡 LIGHTBULB - is your oc a planner? do they write down every small detail or just wing it?
💎 DIAMOND - how rich are they? can they live the lifestyle they want to?
🎁 PRESENT - what types of presents would they be most happy to receive? are they good at gift giving?
🍼 BABY BOTTLE - what are their thoughts on children?
🔪 KNIFE - how do they react to injury / misfortune befalling their loved ones (significant other, family, friends)? do they put themselves at blame?
👑 CROWN - what does your oc want to be remembered as? why?
✏️ PENCIL - is there a particular quote / lyric that you associate with them?
🎵 MUSIC NOTE - what is their playlist like? their favourite artists? do you associate a particular song with them?
🎤 MICROPHONE - are they good at singing? what is their go-to karaoke song?
🎷 SAXOPHONE - do they play any instruments? are they any good at it?
📚 BOOKS - how were they at school? what is their best subject? what is their worst subject? do they have a favourite subject?
👖 JEANS - what is their go-to outfit?
🎨 PALETTE - can they draw? what do they like to draw?
🎡 FERRIS WHEEL - are they someone who wants to kiss at the top of the ferris wheel?
⏳ HOURGLASS - are they usually late or on-time?
🔫 PISTOL - do they trust people easily? how easily will they turn their back to someone? have they been backstabbed before? will they betray someone if given an ultimatum?
🎀 RIBBON - how would they fit into other worlds / aus? what aus would you like to try out? what fictional world would they fit / not fit into?
📎 PAPERCLIP - a random fact.
📦 PACKAGE - what are some "most likely to..." that can apply to them?
🖍️ CRAYON - what advice would you give to them?
⚙️ GEAR - what are your ocs thoughts on science & art? which do they give more importance to? how much value do they place on each?
🔧 WRENCH - are they good at fixing relationships? or do they tend to avoid doing so?
❇️ SPARKLE - what is their most prized possession? what do they value?
📏 RULER - is your oc well educated? where did they get their learning from?
transport
🚆 TRAIN - what is their answer to the trolley problem?
🚲 BICYCLE - can they ride a bike? what do they remember from learning to ride a bicycle?
weather
🌩️ LIGHTNING - are they scared of lightning?
💧 DROPLET - random angst headcanon
❄️ SNOWFLAKE - do people consider them cold? if so, what made them this way?
🌪️ TORNADO - what is the biggest change you've ever made to them? how have they changed from their original version?
🌈 RAINBOW - what advice would they give to their younger self?
🔥 FIRE - do they have any self destructive tendencies? what habits do they have that hinder them from becoming their best self?
☁️ CLOUD - a soft headcanon
🌟 GLOWING STAR - what do they think about when they look at the night sky? is there someone they want to star gaze with?
🌠 SHOOTING STAR - if they could make any wish with no repercussions, what wish would they make?
☄️ COMET - what do people assume about them? are they right?
hearts
💓 BEATING HEART - what gets their heart racing?
💘 HEART W/ ARROW - what traits do they look for in a relationship? do they believe in love at first sight?
💗 GROWING HEART - if they have a crush, is it noticable? what changes when they're in love?
❤️ RED HEART - their love language(s)?
💙 BLUE HEART - do they miss their s/o easily? how do they act when their s/o isn't around?
💚 GREEN HEART - what things make your oc feel comforted? hugs, kisses, food?
💖 SPARKLING HEART - are they a subtle or a showy lover?
💌 LOVE LETTER - do they like love letters? what kind of messages do they leave for their partner?
💔 BROKEN HEART - what could their partner do that would absolutely break their heart?
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3. What are some features of others that attract them from the outset?
//Competence and confidence. Not that the occasional goof-up isn't cute, but seeing someone dominate a battlefield or soundly win an argument will immediately put them on his radar. Power, talent, and intelligence are incredibly attractive to him. He also loves learning new things, so a tendency to prattle on about various subjects, especially in a theoretical sense, is great, and even moreso if they have a soothing voice. And as far as physical features? He has a strong preference for "pretty" faces, regardless of gender. That sort of ethereal beauty that makes it easy to imagine a person could be a god or monarch regardless of their actual station in life, with soft and/or regal features, mesmerizing eyes, and full lips, but not necessarily perfect complexion, because scars and markings often add to a person's beauty to him.
5. What are their most common turn-ons?
//Teasing touches, casual displays of skill, flirtatious comments, suggestive looks, and heated moments. Basically, anything that involves the other person showing off or trying to get a reaction out of him.
13. Are they openly flirtatious/sexual, or are they quite private?
//Honestly, he's more open than you'd expect and is very publicly affectionate, but he has a healthy enough level of embarrassment/shame to avoid anything truly wild in front of others. It also depends on how confident he is in the other person being receptive to his advances. Earlier, shier forms of flirting are likely to involve mostly a lot of staring and taking advantage of opportunities to spend time together, but as he grows confident enough to become more coy and playful, he might whisper scandalous things to them, try to tease them with his body language, or sneak in subtle touches that can't be seen by others. Pleasant shock and weak "admonishment" (especially while grinning or trying to suppress a smile) are his favorite reactions to evoke in such cases.
valentine's day application
Name: Age: Do you like to cuddle?: Can we make-out?: A night in or dinner out?: Ice cream or chocolate covered strawberries?: What makes you a good Valentine?: Would you cook for me?: Would you let me cook for you?:
//Actually, while I'm at it, I'm going to post some of my favorite headcanons for each active muse to start things off.
Hawke:
He doesn't like to kill. It's never his immediate goal, and he only does so when he sees no other option. Killing the Arishok, who he had seen as a friend of sorts, was only done because he was backed into a corner, and it avoided potentially even more deaths being on his head. Still, he hated himself for it, and he hated that statue even more. This is also part of why Anders's choice to involve him in gathering those ingredients made him feel more deeply betrayed and why he nearly spiraled out in panic at Sebastian's ultimatum. He didn't want to kill anyone, but especially not a (former?) friend, and especially not the man he owed his brother's life to...
Lavellan:
This is probably going to be the most lighthearted one here, and I'm not sure if I already mentioned it on his individual blog, but I just want everyone to know or remember that this poor amnesiac little elf didn't even know his own name when he woke up. Unfortunately, due to the legend now surrounding him, everyone else addressed him as if they knew him, and for a brief period of time, he had to deal with the disappointment and horror of thinking his name might be "Harold".
Raven:
Less of a headcanon than legitimately a way you can interpret the canon events of the show, but you know the whole Trigon arc? Raven did not think she would survive. She did not think her friends would find a way to defeat her father and undo his destruction of Earth. She literally sacrificed herself and the rest of the world to protect the only real family she'd ever had. And given that she wasn't even sure if the protection she'd placed on them would work, at the very least, she wanted to protect herself from being able to experience their deaths.
Leia:
So, this was never intended and was actually a recent discovery, but I do pride myself on doing more research than the CW writers when it comes to scientific plausibility (no "absolute heat" gun, that struggles to even melt metal doors btw, here). Anyway, while researching fire, heat, motion, density, and calories, I had the startling realization, that in order for Leia's powers to plausibly work without killing her, she'd need new organ structures that make her no longer completely human, she might be somewhat immortal (probably not invulnerable, though), and if she ever reached real absolute heat, she'd create a black hole, create a new universe, and/or break the laws of physics as we know them. She doesn't realize any of this, and she probably won't handle it well if she learns about it, but that's science for you! ✌️
Bruce:
So, there's one kinda fucked up thing in Bruce's past that almost nobody knows about, and that's the fact that he almost killed Joe Chill before he became Batman. When he didn't go through with it, he confided in exactly one person (Alfred by default, but potentially Harvey in threads where they were childhood friends). What nobody but Bruce knows (now that Joe Chill's dead), is that when Jason died, and Bruce was faced with the first murder of a direct family member since his parents, he decided to ask the man who helped create his no-kill rule what he should do about wanting nothing more than to break it. There's a lot more to this, but the short version is that Joe kind of avoided answering but strongly pointed Bruce towards not going through with it by asking how Jason would feel, and Bruce planned to ignore that, but while beating the Joker to death, he couldn't stop thinking about that question and restrained himself from going through with it for the sake of not tainting Jason's memory. Needless to say, the whole Red Hood thing had him feeling extra fucked up.
𝐒𝐄𝐗𝐔𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐎𝐍𝐒 & 𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒
intended for mature audiences, minors dni. specify muse if interacting with a multimuse.
what is their sexuality/sexual preference?
what is their romantic preference or inclination?
what are some features of others that attract them from the outset?
what are some features of others that arouse them, or they find arousing in a sexual situation?
what are their most common turn-ons?
what are some more situational or contextual turn-ons?
what attire do they feel most attractive in?
what attire do they find others most attractive in?
what is their favourite sexual act?
do they indulge in masturbation or personal fantasies?
how do they feel about foreplay?
how do they feel about one-night stands?
are they openly flirtatious/sexual, or are they quite private?
how open are they, or how do they feel about sexual experimentation? elaborate if needed.
what is something they consider a kink of their own?
have they engaged in sexual acts beyond themselves and a single partner (group sex, swinging, polyamory, etc.)?
how satisfactory has their sex life been thus far?
what is something they wish to try? why haven't they tried this yet?
are they dominant, submissive, switch, partner/context-dependent, or unsure?
do they prefer to give or receive sexually?
+ established ship question. in any/all verses, with any/all ships, have your character/s speak about that ship's intimate & sexual dynamic, and how they feel about it.
Send in Kinks and My muse will rate them.
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Bonus: Giving | Receiving | Both
sex+romance headcanons!
Send me a symbol. Please note that some answers may be NSFW.
🌟 What is my muse’s sexual/romantic orientation? 💦 At what age did my muse lose their virginity? 😘 Would my muse have sex on the first date? 😊 Would my muse ever ask someone on a date? 👍 Does my muse prefer to be asked on a date, or would they rather do the asking? 😉 What are my muse’s fetishes/kinks? 💬 When did my muse go on their first date? 💯 What is my muse’s ideal date? 💗 Has my muse ever been in love? 👠 What was my muse’s last serious relationship like? 👰 Would my muse ever get married? 🌼 Would my muse prefer a big wedding or a small wedding? 🍬 Is my muse a sub, dom, or switch? 🏩 What was my muse’s first time like? 🎆 Is my muse into monogamy? 💕 Would my muse ever be in a polyamorous relationship? 🔥 Would my muse ever be up for a threesome? 👮 Has my muse ever had sex in public? 💔 What was my muse’s first heartbreak? 💑 What are my muse’s requirements for a potential partner? 💋 How many people has my muse slept with? 👀 Is my muse the type to sleep around? 👎 Would my muse ever cheat on their partner? 😳 What was my muse’s worst romantic/sexual relationship? 💲Would my muse ever date/marry/sleep with someone because they were rich? 👓 Would my muse ever lie for sex? 👿 Would my muse ever blackmail someone into sex? 🎥 Who is my muse’s celebrity crush? 🎀 Who would my muse sleep with if nobody ever had to know? 💍 Has my muse ever had a one-night stand? 💝 Does my muse like Valentine’s Day? 💘 What are the ways my muse says ‘I love you’ without actually saying it?
Shipping Bingos
//Reminder that the best way to think of Raven's age is 2 years younger than Dick (since my portrayal of her is anywhere between 14-24) so I guess don't fill one out for her if he would also be too young for your muse at whatever point in time you think they'd meet? Also, you don't have to actually plan on shipping with any of my muses. These are just for fun.
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Tagging: @bushelofmuses @who-is-muses @twcfaces and anyone else who wants to do one for any of their muses
Verses
//For the most part, I just tag things based on what part of the canon timeline they fall into. Veilguard will not be considered canon on this blog, so I will continue to use post-Trespasser for events that align with it. The verses listed below are simply to allow Lavellan to interact with other Inquisitors and Rooks
1. DA:I Companion
Lavellan was still sent to the Conclave, and may still be the one who received the Mark (maybe they even both have it). If he did, however, rather than putting him in charge based on nothing but superstitious rumors and the fact that he seemed easy to manipulate, the advisors decided to name someone more competent as the Inquisitor. If he didn't, maybe he was running late (and therefore wasn't close enough to be killed) or maybe he just got really lucky, but he was only caught up in the explosion enough to still be left with total amnesia. If you come from the same clan and were close to the orphaned outsider who never quite fit in, you can try to help him remember who he is, and maybe that's why you take him along with you occasionally. If you think he's better off not knowing that he was dropped off with the clan because his mother died and that his presence was mostly just tolerated and not truly wanted there, if you had never paid much attention to him before, or if you were part of a different group attending the Conclave, he would instead be approached by Solas for help with restoring his memories, and he'd likely approach him for help remembering his past before the clan, regardless. It's possible Solas even tried to prime him as an agent of Fen'Harel during this process, but he would never accept the heavy loss of life brought on by tearing down the Veil. And there are various reasons he could end up tagging along on certain missions with the Inquisitor, like still having the Mark, advisors requiring him to in hopes he can be used to report honestly on the Inquisitor's actions, members of the Inner Circle he's grown close to bringing him for their own reasons, or your genuine interest in having him join you, but no matter what, he'll be eager to fight injustice and help others, will prove himself a decent tracker and, eventually, fighter, and will be a loyal friend if given the chance to.
2. DA:4 Companion (spoilers below)
//Okay, so, hiatus is officially ending for some of my blogs. I finished all the replies that I know of, and all of them were from Discord. There are a couple threads that involved planning from much earlier I might prioritize my continuation of with new starters for them, but as far as I know, every thread I'm involved in on here was last responded to by me. I'm not saying that to pressure others to continue, but because if there's any threads I didn't reply to, I am unaware of them and would love to be reminded! Eventually, I'll get a thread tracker set up, but for now, all I have to check such things is the ever unreliable notes section of this app. 🙃✌️
Over the next few days, I'll be updating my rules, reaching out to old rp partners I've noticed are active again, and plotting with potential new ones. Over a possibly longer period of time, I will also be migrating my asks on any active blogs over here. It's just an experiment for now, but I think the best way to get engagement for some of my less popular muses and avoid the annoyance that is reblogging ask memes or ooc posts multiple times is to keep my threads on individual blogs but everything else on my main. I used to recommend not following this blog and only following the individual blogs you were interested in, but I now suggest the opposite, or at least, I think it'll be unnecessary to follow any of my individual blogs. I believe this will be the best scenario for everyone else too, because threads can clutter dashes much more than answers, and this solution seems like a better way to appeal to those overwhelmed by multimuses. I'll reblog answers to any relevant individual blogs, so you won't miss anything except personal (not muse-relevant) ooc posts if you choose to still only follow the individual ones. Whether or not ask memes will ever be reblogged on those blogs depends on if I notice there's a large number of people that choose not to follow this one, but I'm sure it's no less annoying to my mutuals than it is to me to suddenly have to scroll past the same thing reblogged up to 9 times in a row.
That being said, the blogs/muses officially out of hiatus are Batman, Raven, Swelter, Hawke, and Lavellan. All of them except Raven have active threads or plots at least on Discord, but I added Raven because she used to be my most popular muse on an old account, and I'm hoping that utilizing this blog as an ask hub of sorts will generate more engagement with her. I will be updating her information to match her current age and circumstances in her shared universe with Batman (though asks will still default to Teen Titans era until I'm able to flesh out my version of the team getting back together to avoid too much angst and misery in her answers), but I will not be updating my DA blogs to match the current events of canon. The reason Lavellan is being brought back sooner than planned is because I did manage to finish Veilguard a few days ago, but unfortunately, I was mostly disappointed by the game. There were portions I enjoyed, and I will make a clearer post later on what I'm willing to adopt from it into the events of my own muses' canons, but Hawke will continue to default to some time in Act 2 or 3 of DA2 for his answers, and Lavellan will still default to an unspecified period post-Trespasser.
//Okay, so obviously, it's been more than a few weeks, but I've had a lot more complications come up that I don't feel like listing entirely right now, and my mental health continues to be a struggle. That being said, I've put out the majority of the most pressing fires, and I do think writing helps improve my mental health when I get into a groove with it, so I'm going to end my hiatus on a couple blogs in the next week or two, primarily Bruce Wayne and Garrett Hawke. Raven and my CW Flash oc, Leia Morales, might become active again as well if people show any interest in them. I'm not really feeling much muse for Aya right now, and Lavellan will have to at least wait until I finish Veilguard (even though I expect to be ignoring a good portion of canon based on spoilers I've been exposed to). My Star Wars and Riordanverse muses will remain on hiatus until I can muster up the enthusiasm to re-engage with the source materials. Whenever that eventually happens, I'll likely be focusing on Damus Tall, one of my Zabrak twins on this blog, because he's the least depressingly affected by his trauma, which is a nice break from how heavy things can get with my other muses.
In the week or two leading up to the hiatus ending for at least two of my blogs, I'll be working on replies I owe (although, I might need to pause a couple threads that don't come naturally to me and take more effort to write right now), trying to finish Veilguard, and working on the last of my especially pressing irl issues. I don't expect to get all that done, but the only official roadblock to the hiatus ending will be finishing replies. Most, if not all, of those are for mutuals on discord, so if it seems like I'm taking a while but posting little to nothing on any of my blogs, that's why. The week or two I've given myself is a generous estimate to allow me to not rush through everything and overwhelm myself. In the meantime, feel free to reach out to plot things in advance or send asks, though only the former will receive a response before the hiatus is officially over. Replies to asks and thread responses I don't already owe will start post-hiatus, again focusing on Bruce and Hawke only, unless Leia and Raven have any interest shown towards them. Fun fact: Bruce is actually meant to share a canon with Raven, which would make her 24 (same age as the mun) currently; I'll likely add a verse to explain what's gone on with her for the past decade, but I'd probably still default to her teenage self to answer any asks. Whenever I get around to reading the Nightwing comics with the old team back together, that might change, but the truth is, she's just not fun to write consistently during a time where the team isn't together, and I don't think it'd be fun for others to engage with that version of her all the time. It's the same reason I tend to default to act 2 or a relatively happy portion of act 3 for Hawke when answering asks, except at least his self-destructive behaviors can make for more interesting interactions than Raven's complete isolation from the world after their respective breaking points.
Anyway, TLDR: Batman and default purple mage Hawke from DA2 will be coming back in a week or two. Veilguard will be largely ignored and/or altered when added to verses for my Dragon Age muses, but I'm not bringing Lavellan back until I finish it. I always have a lot of muse for Raven and Leia, so they could come back too, but only if it seems like people might actually engage with them. All other muses are on the back burner. Hiatus on the aforementioned blogs will officially end after I finish any replies I owe (mostly or entirely on Discord). I expect that to happen in the next week or two. I'll reply to PMs for plotting, but asks and new starters won't be responded to until I finish what I already owe (still welcome to send them my way before then if you're okay waiting til then, though). Post-hiatus, anything left unanswered without a request to pause is just something I'm not aware it was my turn for. I'll work on a thread tracker eventually, but until then, just message me. Expect replies to be slow, at least to start, but I'll try to get back to each thread within a week. See you guys soon if you write for DC or Dragon Age!
To one day increase engagement with less popular muses, I might make some variation of a multimuse. Which option would you prefer?
Continue separate blogs (but I'd still follow/write with you as a multimuse)
Continue separate blogs (I would not follow/write with you as a multimuse)
Continue as a straight up multimuse
Continue separate blogs for threads, but create a multimuse for asks
Continue as 4+ blogs, with a multimuse for each shared fandom
//Indefinite Hiatus
Hopefully this won't take longer than a few more weeks at most, but an ant infestation we thought we'd dealt with 3 times now has had another spike, and this time they've breached my bedroom. Knowing that the feeling of things crawling all over me is in my head doesn't make the feeling any less overstimulating, and on top of stress from work, I'm honestly barely holding it together. The traps to get rid of them usually bring a whole flood of them in for a few days, so I'm probably going to get very poor sleep on the couch (right next to the desk my mom works at and makes calls from) during that time to avoid panicking by seeing an endless swarm of them crawl on the walls all around me in my room. Sorry, I really would like to be more active, but apparently life's favorite hobby is kicking me while I'm already down.
//Hi again.
So, the walls in our old place finally got fixed like a week before Christmas, but we continued to live in chaos bc we were convinced 2x that we were going to be able to buy a house, so we weren't really trying to settle in.
I did a 2 month long depression treatment that involved driving 30-45 minutes out every weekday to get my head strapped into a machine that tapped on it really loudly for 20 minutes. All I got was a complete absence of free time and an increase in headaches. Also worth noting that I was still living in a tarped up home for the entirety of the treatment, so the effectiveness of the treatments may have been compromised.
Due to a combination of switching from opening to closing shifts in order to make it to the aforementioned treatments, which apparently left me with lower seniority, and scheduling being the hot messes they've always been, I ended up being subjected to a dramatic increase in physical and emotional stimuli. I did not comprehend this extra overstimulation until it was too late, much like one likely wouldn't notice their pipes were leaking if their house had already been caught in a flood. All I knew was that I ended up calling out a lot more, and because I was trying to look good for a home loan, I ended up using all my vacation time to pay myself out. I had been planning to ask for a vacation at the beginning of the year just to give my mind a break for a bit, but honestly, who knows if that actually would've done anything at this point.
Thanks to the bitchiest seller's agent in existence, the house my mom and I should be living in right now got to sit on the market for months longer waiting for a cash offer bc apparently an FHA loan with underwriter's approval for over asking wasn't fancy enough to be trusted to close. Our home-owning dreams unfortunately hit a massive roadblock when the new year started, bc my mom finally had to file her last round of taxes, which decreased any loan we might qualify for to basically nothing in our state.
With the threads my mental health was hanging on by having snapped several times over by now, I finally went on medical leave in February. It just seemed pointless continuing to pretend I was in working condition given all the shifts, meals, and meds I continued to skip. Almost a month in, my mom found a new rental opportunity for us, and we started packing to move out.
April's our first month in this new place. I'm nowhere near being unpacked, and I don't know how I'm going to be when I have to go back to work (which is farther now) until I can quit sometime soon, hopefully. However, I am seeing some progress in my depressive symptoms, and I'm mostly healed from the injuries I sustained during the move-in process. Anyway, I'm obviously not in a stable enough place to completely end my hiatus, but I would like to write a bit on here again, so if that sounds fun and you're willing to be patient with replies in the meantime, hit me up, I guess?
//Brief Update:
House has mold -> guys came to tear up walls -> did not have permits and weren't very professional -> half of house has been unusable since mid-August -> also, most of the remaining half looks like a warzone from setting things aside
Social security is giving my mom less than she was supposed to get -> qualifying for a real house looking highly unlikely anytime soon
Pain has been flaring up -> worker's comp not communicating quickly if at all -> still waiting on treatment
Heat wave -> passing out after work -> missing meals and meds -> poor mental and physical health
Phone broke -> lost pictures and drafts -> still not logged back into all my apps -> attempts to rewrite replies = writer's block from frustration of losing drafts
Tried to join my mom for part of her vacation to catch a break -> got majorly sunburnt on 1st day -> spent most of second day at hospital because stress regarding current life situation apparently gave my mom shingles and bell's palsy, made worse by her fibromyalgia -> both of us came home early -> next few days will be spent trying to help her with her medication regimen and general health
Probably more, but I lost track a long time ago
Idk what to call this. Semi/Mostly hiatus? May write occasionally, but won't promise consistent activity until life eases up for a significant enough chunk of time to feel safe. Will update when that happens.
//Kind of a self-depricating joke, kind of an ooc update, but if my car gets broken into to steal my old laptop on International Asexuality Day, half of my face starts drooping for 30 minutes on my birthday, and both take place during Autism Acceptance month, should I buy a lottery ticket to see if my luck was preparing to balance itself out, or should I hide in a hole wrapped up in bubble wrap until fate decides to stop dealing me such huge blows?
//Reblogging both for anyone who hasn't seen this and to add an update. I'm going to see a doctor tomorrow for a second opinion on the face thing. Hopefully, they can give me a better explanation than migraines or cluster headaches, neither of which I was in enough pain for. ✌️
//Reblogging again. Second opinion was a number of possible things, but none of them were dangerous. Also, activity levels should get much better after the 7th, when I'll be returning from a trip out of state.
//Kind of a self-depricating joke, kind of an ooc update, but if my car gets broken into to steal my old laptop on International Asexuality Day, half of my face starts drooping for 30 minutes on my birthday, and both take place during Autism Acceptance month, should I buy a lottery ticket to see if my luck was preparing to balance itself out, or should I hide in a hole wrapped up in bubble wrap until fate decides to stop dealing me such huge blows?