🦋lapis🦋 (they/them)

hi! i’m lapis (they/them), bi, 15, i make music and vlogs on my youtube channel lapisthelovely ! i post about my life and my music and my many many fandoms.

[stuckinapril]

I love it when girls show me their Pinterest boards & tell me about their interests & favorite music. I love it when girls tell me about their hair care routines. I love it when they show me their nails. I love it when they tell me about their day. I love it when they talk about their outfits. I love it when girls are living their best lives & having fun I love it I love it

[feralkwe]

i'm bisexual and tired. rb if you're bisexual and tired.

[lalalloronaa-deactivated2024041]

people when teenage girls aren’t wearing makeup or are flat or are wearing comfy clothes: ew wtf you look twelve 🤮🤬

people when girls are wearing makeup or dressed up or have a body: no way she’s 15 omg girls are such sluts why can’t they act their age 🤮🤬

[loveliestangel]

our coming of age has come and goneeeee. suddenly the summer, it’s clearrr

[lapisthelovely]

i never had the courage of myyy convictions, as long as danger is nearrr

[what-iz-life]

Normalize not forcing connections with people. If somebody doesn't see the value in having you by their side, don’t try to convince them.

[lapisthelovely]

maybe i will finally learn my lesson.

[daydream-of-a-wallflower-deacti]

...are there any gold rush lovers out there?

[poster-girl-lover]

YES it’s so good oh my goodness it’s just perfection and so vibey and easy to dance to and perfect lyrics and beat and everything is *chefs kiss*

[lapisthelovely]

AT DINNER PARTIES I CALL YOU OUT ON YOUR CONTRAÍAN SHIT AND THE COASTAL TOWN WE WANDERED ROUND HAD NEVER SEEN A LOVE AS PURE AS IT AND IT FADES INTO THE GRAY OF MY DAY OLD TEA CUZ IT WILL NEVER BE.

[wowevenmoreloveonearth]

You know what? I have become a gaylor sympathiser

This is going to be a long post, sorry! Please read the full post before even thinking about commenting.

Over the past few days I’ve seen a few posts on my dash about taylor swift and her fans that have left a bad taste in my mouth.

I know that a lot of people think that some fans of her are “trying to make her gay” and I just wanted to put the record straight and defend some people after actually looking at what’s going on. And I know I’m probably opening myself up for tumblr’s poor reading comprehension but before I start I’m going to say this:

I do not think taylor swift is a lesbian

Ok? Now let’s have a conversation.

First of all from what I’ve seen most of the fans who talk about Taylor swift and queerness do it from a point of literary analysis and learning queer history. This is a huge part of the community and lots of people have said that they never would have learnt so much about queer history without reading taylor swift’s works through a queer lens.

Adding on to that point, it seems a little hypocritical for the gay site which loves queer readings of books, tv shows, songs, musicals, films etc to be bullying a pretty small group of people who are mainly doing queer readings of lyrics. Especially when those people get near constant death threats. Instead of bullying these people (who don’t think or do what you think they think and do) why don’t you go outside and think “does this affect me? No. Do I agree with them? No. Am I going to cyber bully them because of this? No.”

Secondly, for the people who believe that any speculation on a real persons sexuality is 100% wrong. I used to think this too but I have changed my mind a bit about this recently after stopping and thinking about it properly. I’m not trying to change your mind at all I just want you to stop and think for a minute.

If you only get mad when speculation is queer in nature, then maybe think about that for a minute. Why is it totally wrong to think a person might be queer. We probably do it in our daily lives with people we know and they likely do it with us, back in the day that’s how queer people found each other-by speculating on sexuality. Would you be upset if you found out someone that you know thought you might be queer? I wouldn’t, maybe you would but if you would, why? Why is it terrible to think someone might be queer (this is NOT about hounding a person to admit to being queer like shawn mendes, this is just thinking in your head and on your small blog that the person will likely never see). Also this is literally the website where we talk about historical (real people) being gay even when they would have never said something to the equivalent.

An addition to this point before people start saying in the comments is that this is NOT the same situation as with kit connor. The issue there was people assuming that he was straight and taking that role away from a queer person. Speculating that he was queer was the opposite of what happened in that situation. So this is not an example of what happens when you speculate queerness.

Final things to say:

1) don’t believe every post you see with someone looking insane about taylor swift being gay, a lot of them are fake.

2) before anyone says “they should listen to real queer artists instead” most of them very much do. There’s a lot of fans of Hayley kiyoko, girl in red, Janelle monae, tegan and sara, zolita, kehlani etc.

3) there are some queer flags that are there. Sorry but there are. Hairpin drops, lavender, the ladder, flag colours, songs about women, friend of dorothy reference. Whether they are intentional is a different matter.

4) shipping real people is not what is happening for the majority of the people in the community. Also this comes back to queer vs straight again. Plenty of swifties ship taylor with men she’s been seen with and no one goes into their inboxes and sends death threats even when they are the ones making taylor swift all about the men she may or may not have dated.

5) taylor swift has never stated her sexuality. I know this may be hard to belive based off of how some people act, but it’s true. She has made vague statements which could have many meanings but she has never clearly stated anything. When gaylors get upset with taylor it is not because she said she is straight, it’s because they are getting death threats and doxxed and she seems to either be unaware of it (which is unlikely given how she seems to be a little terminally online) or she doesn’t care enough to tell her fans to stop.

6) if she does explicitly say she’s straight then there will probably be disappointment in her use of queer history and flags and her potential queer erasure (as we saw with lavender haze, with straight women describing their relationships as lavender) and centring herself in queer spaces (like the you need to calm down music video) but no one will be angry that she’s not gay. And a lot will probably be grateful that she actually explicitly stated for the record to absolve any confusion. The main issue would likely be other fans ramping up the death threats and bullying.

In conclusion: these people who do queer analysis of Taylor’s work are not trying to out her or make her gay etc. if you don’t understand it that’s fine it’s clearly not for you and you can go quite easily without seeing any of it. It’s not illegal to read works through a queer lens and if it means more people know about queer history then I think that’s a very good thing.

I changed my mind after looking at what a lot of people are actually saying rather than what people perceive them to be saying and maybe you will too?

Just be kinder to people online please and if you don’t like what people are saying block them and do not engage!

[asks-bait]

reblog if you want anonymous personal questions! <3

[woodcutchimera]

"why are you lgbt wrong answers only " to be quite honest the girls always made me be the dog when we played house

[lapisthelovely]

when the guy you like is probably more into your friend 😭

[ihopeucomehomesoon]

don’t want to be a girl i want to be a single star in the night sky shining so bright all the way to lonely people who look up and hope to see a sign

[movedclonekisser-deactivated202]

I don't think you guys know what "be critical of your interests" means. it doesn't mean "know when the bad guy is doing something bad" it means "know when your favorite media is being fucking racist"

[gayhoediaz]

“it sounds like you’re justifying their actions-“ i am. they’re a fictional character. i’m okay with anything they do all the time. hope this helps.

[animentality]

[gerardpilled]

“Thin brows are back in” “skinny jeans are back” “wolfcuts are out” “this style of eyeshadow is soo trendy right now” “big asses are out, slim figures are in”

Hey do you guys ever make your own decisions or form your own ideas on how you would personally like to look that’s not based around what’s currently being sold to you. Is that not possible

[ashstfu]

no but you know what would be nice? experiencing the kind of happiness that doesn’t turn out to be a lesson that I have to mourn over for at least 3 months

[fuckyeahdavidandyonatan]

Are teens really anti-social and non-conversational and stuck on their phones or are you just trying to form a conversation while asking them about stuff like their school curriculum (a tedious repetitive thing they at best suffer and at worst suffer from) while dissmissing them whenever they attempt to talk about their interests?