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last updated: 4/2026

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last updated: 3/2026

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You know what else contributes to how traumatic emotional abuse is? The fact that people think it's not real or at least it's not as bad as physical abuse.

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"Emotional abuse may be the most damaging form of maltreatment due to causing damage to a child’s developing brain affecting their emotional and physical health as well as their social and cognitive development." Specifically, emotional abuse causes physical damage to the brain and nervous system. It "causes changes in the brain, specifically in regions associated with understating and controlling emotions and recognizing and responding to the feelings of others. Their study found thinning in the tissue of the brain that helps with self-awareness and emotional regulation, particularly in the prefrontal cortex and medial temporal lobe."

"Neuropathologists have seen overlapping effects of physical and emotional trauma upon the brain. With such an overlap it can be seen that both of these traumas have a detrimental effect upon the Amygdala, the Hippocampus and the Prefrontal cortex of the brain. Meaning that Emotional Trauma... does indeed result in brain injury/damage."

Further "research indicates that the resulting mental health problems are similar regardless of whether the maltreatment is physical, psychological, sexual, emotional, or some combination." Additionally, "psychological child abuse can be particularly devastating for those victimized by their parents."

Researchers who used the National Child Traumatic Stress Network Core Data Set to examine outcomes found that "children who had been psychologically abused suffered from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, symptoms of post-traumatic stress and suicidality at the same rate and, in some cases, at a greater rate than children who were physically or sexually abused."

Studies show that "emotional abuse (EA) was associated with suicidal ideation and attempts, mainly for serious suicide attempts."

We know that emotional abuse causes (C)PTSD and acts as a compounding factor on other forms of abuse. We know that the symptoms of (C)PTSD have a significant overlap with those of physical TBI (traumatic brain injury).

Studies on grief have provided strong evidence of emotional TBI and that "both physical and emotional TBI have systemic effects due to hormonal and inflammatory mediators, including changes in proinflammatory cytokine levels, immune cell function, and heart rate variability."

[eldritchbauble]

"Oh so mommy yelled at you?"

Emotional abuse is so much more than yelling. It's control, verbal degradation, violating boundaries, gaslighting that destroys a person's ability to trust their own experiences and reality, and putting someone through such convoluted manipulation and mind games that it damages their brain.

But even if it were "just" mommy yelling at you?

"Being frequently yelled at changes the mind, brain and body in a multitude of ways including increasing the activity of the amygdala (the emotional brain), increasing stress hormones in the blood stream, increasing muscular tension and more," and "when fear, for example, is repeatedly triggered by a harsh environment, like one where there is a lot of yelling, automatic physical and emotional reactions occur that cause traumatic stress to a child."

Yelling at children causes low self-esteem, increases anxiety and depression, creates lasting fear responses, contributes to behavioral issues, hinders brain development, and even harms physical health.

"When an individual is subjected to yelling, their body enters a state of heightened stress. The adrenaline and cortisol levels in their system rise, leading to a fight-or-flight response." Once someone has developed PTSD, "Yelling can serve as a powerful trigger for individuals with PTSD, reigniting their traumatic memories and plunging them into a state of overwhelming distress... This triggers a cascade of emotions and physiological responses, further entrenching their symptoms and impeding their ability to cope," so it perpetuates and reinforces through compounding trauma.

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Rat King

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So I heard somewhere that it’s suspected that rat kings aren’t really a natural phenomenon and the only known occurrences were faked by someone doing that with awful intentions. Don’t know if that information is true or not

[eldritchbauble]

They're real! But rare. Older, preserved rat kings were debated over until a handful of modern (including live! found in nature in Estonia!) kings were since discovered.

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Exactly what I need now. Who’s down?

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