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Wine in Witchcraft!
I saw this post by @cosmic-witch and realized… I don’t think I’ve ever seen correspondences written up for types of wine before! So I spent some time and put some together based on their flavors/aromas/etc. Enjoy, wine-loving witches!
Wine in general is associated with happiness, success, love, relationships, and offerings.
Red Wine
In General
Element: Earth Season: Winter Associations: Love, warmth, contemplation, happiness, success, money, passion, health, lust
Cabernet Sauvignon
Tastes Like: Full-bodied, bell pepper, olives, herbs, black cherry, tannic/rough Element: Earth Associations: Grounding, protection, banishing, strength, energy, lust, fertility, ancestors, written magic such as sigils
Merlot
Tastes Like: Soft/round, blackberry, cherry, plum, herbal notes Element: Water, fire Associations: Unity, love, passion, self-care, protection, healing, prosperity, sexuality, sea witchcraft, water magic
Pinot Noir
Tastes Like: Delicate and fresh, fruity, tea leaf, worn leather, tomato leaf, pale cherry, beet root, strawberry, blackberry, earthy Element: Earth, air Associations: Prosperity, protection, wealth, success, beauty, passion, glamours
Shiraz
Tastes Like: Hearty, spicy, black pepper, black currant, clove, blackberry, plum, leather, tar Element: Fire, earth Associations: Wealth, banishing, divination, tech witchcraft, comfort, mystery, secrets, endings
Zinfandel
Tastes Like: Rich, zesty, raspberry, raisin, black cherry, blackberry, pepper Element: Earth Associations: Growth, wealth, plant magic, vigor, stamina, happiness, love, healing, versatility
White Wine
In General
Element: Air Season: Summer Associations: Joy, happiness, love, relationships, friendships, endings, success, energy, purification
Chardonnay
Tastes Like: Wider-bodied, light, velvety, apricot, mango, green apple, citrus, melon, vanilla Element: Water Associations: Peace, emotions, safety, success, happiness, balance, polarity, purification, mental power/abilities
Muscat
Tastes Like: Sweet, acidic, fruity, grapefruit, musk, citrus, apricot, rose, caramel Element: Air Associations: Love, mystery, lust, relationships, fertility, purity, cleansing, healing, love magic
Pinot Grigio
Tastes Like: Crisp, dry, fruity, peach, pear, acidic Element: Air Associations: Rebirth, endings, new beginnings, happiness, reality, creativity, longevity, divination (especially open-ended, like tarot)
Riesling
Tastes Like: Steely, crisp, fresh, slightly sweet, pear, apple, peach, petrol, honey Element: Fire, water Associations: Energy, movement, growth, rebirth, love, friendship, attraction, activity such as dance, preparation, cleansing
Sauvignon Blanc
Tastes Like: Herbal, grass, bell pepper, green apple, lime, gooseberry, jalapeno, melon, mango, black currant, passionfruit, peach Element: Air, earth Associations: Love, peace, friendship, companionship, arts, healing, happiness, joy, spirit work
Rosé Wine
In General
Element: Air Season: Spring Associations: Beginnings, happiness, excitement, friendship, new romance, love, passion, playfulness, relaxation, luck
Sparkling Wine
In General
Element: Fire Season: Summer Associations: Success, completion, celebration, wealth, opportunity, setting things in motion, prosperity, space witchcraft, weather magic, adding a “spark”
Feel free to use these however you’d like and add your favorite wines!
Witchy Items for Your Altar
I share a very small room with my sister, and obviously don’t have much room for an altar. I use most of my space for my Hellenic shrines and altar. I keep my witchy stuff on my shared bedside table. Here is what I use, and how I store/display it. This is element based, but you can use it however you like.
North (Earth)
Small Himalayan Rock Salt Lamp - This is a tool I use all the time. It detoxifies my room, and cleanses the space. I feel so much more at ease with it on, like it’s washing everything away!
Crystals - You might want to move these or switch them out depending on what spell you’re doing, as all energy contributes to the working, but while you’re in your room, or even while you’re away, you can leave these here to represent Earth.
Salt - Little packets of salt work, or you can place a bowl with some salt in it on your altar. I use my rock salt lamp.
Dirt - A literal baby jar of dirt works, or you can put a plant on your altar if it’s by a window. I have a succulent!
Earth Imagery - A mini globe would be pretty cool! Or even a little eraser or what not. Having an actual picture of the Earth would be amazing, especially if the clouds were visible, and maybe if it had the sun in the background. Then it could be all encompassing of the elements.
Herbs, Flowers, Plants, etc - As with the crystals, you may want to change these out or put them away during spells, or switch them out. However, they would look really cool as you went with the seasons!
Fossils - I think fossils are awesome Earth representations. They have been in the ground for a very long time! I used to have some really cool fossils I used to represent Earth on my altar.
Tree Slice - Have you ever seen those little wooden slices that come from a tree stump? The ones that definitely had huge roots? Those would be perfect to represent Earth!
South (Fire)
Birthday Candles/Tea Lights - You can colour code! These are great for short workings, or even to call the elements. To make these stand up, place them in a bit of clay and let it harden.
Matches - Double whammy here- light your candles and have a representation!
Ash - I used to have volcanic ash, which was perfect. It got spilled, but for the while that I had it, it was awesome. Collect ash from incense, a fire, etc, and use it (just wait for it to cool!!!)
Charcoal - I always thought charcoal looked kinda witchy. I think a dish of it would make a good rep.
Charred Wood - If you have a bonfire, or just so happen to light a piece of wood on fire, you could let it cool and use it for your altar.
Lamp - If you have a secret altar, a little lamp could be an inconspicuous representation for fire, as it does produce light and heat.
Lantern - You can buy super cute mini lanterns at the Dollar Store. I love them, but haven’t gotten one yet. I think they would be fun to use for Fire.
West (Water)
Glass of Water - You can use whatever type of water you’d like; moon water, rose water, purified water, gem elixir; take your pick! Just make sure it doesn’t get moldy and stay moldy. Change it out each day/week.
Sea Shells - You can get these in super small sizes! Or, you can get them big and bulky.
Sea Glass - These little stone-like fragments are so pretty! They look just like crystals, and can be found on the beach or in the store!
Sea Salt - Sea Salt could work to represent Water, especially if you pour it into a seashell or add in sea glass to it. It could be like a little potpourri of water related objects!
Rain Cloud - You can create clouds out of things like stuffing for toys, cotton balls, and sometimes led lights. It could be a fun project, or you can buy one of them off of etsy.
Mermaid Image - I have a mermaid book mark made of metal, and it sits with my other water-related objects. I feel like it adds that feel of majesty to my water representation.
Drift Wood - This is so pretty! The pieces are smooth, have a fun shape, and definitely capture the essence of water!
Sand - If you go to a beach, collect some sand, and place it somewhere on your altar! Be sure to put it in a bowl, though, because it is hard to clean up.
Sea Weed - You can hang this somewhere, or put it directly on your altar. Either way, it looks great.
Coral - If you find some coral, you can place it on your altar. It looks so neat!
Starfishes/Sand Dollars/etc. - These are a little harder to find on the beach, but if you do, place them on your altar.
East (Air)
Wind Chimes - These add a little decoration to your altar, as well as give you an air representaiton. You can even listen for the tinkling of bells to see if any fae are around!
Bells - If you ring a bell, it disperses stagnant energy, and helps to cleanse a space. Having one on your altar is a great way to keep it fresh!
Feathers - This is a pretty obvious one, an oldie but a goodie. If you have some feathers, you can use them, but make sure there are no laws against collecting them in your area. Alternatively, you can use fake ones from a craft store.
Empty Glass or Bottle - Air is all around us. Use that to your advantage!
Dandelion Puff - This is what I immediately think of when I picture the wind. You can collect some puffs and put them in a glass.
Bird’s Nest (fake) - You can buy or make a fake bird’s nest. They look pretty real, and have this awesome rustic naturey vibe to them!
Leaves - They were once high in the sky! Collect them during the fal season or after a storm.
Incense - Another well-known one. You can burn this and use the smoke.
Tornado Making Jar - You know those little jars that you can shake up, and they make a tornado? Those would be a fun water-air duo!
Other:
Small Jewelry Box - This can store crystals, herbs, essential oils, etc. I use to use mine to cleanse my crystals becuase it played music!
Multi Colour Light-Up Candle - I found mine at Five Below! It lights up in tons of different colours, but is pretty large. However, it takes up a lot less room than a bunch of different coloured candles.
Your Wand - Having your wand on your altar makes it a sacred, special tool. It will be charged by the witchy items you have there, and will feel natural inn the environment.
A Mini Besom or Real Besom (Broom) - I use a paintbrush as a mini besom, as I can’t have real one. However, it would be nice if I did, and I’d keep it near my altar!
Your Grimoire/Spellbook/BOS/etc - If you aren’t hiding it, you could keep it on your altar!
A Fire-Safe Dish or Cauldron - If you water scry, burn things, or just like to include your cauldron in your spells, you can keep it on your altar.
Incense Tray - Incense can’t be burned without somewhere to place it. Keep your incense holder handy!
Altar Cloth - This ties everything together! It can be switched out for sabbats/festivals/seasons/spells.
Chalice - I’m not Wiccan, but I use the chalice in my workings every once in a while, usually for water-related magic. You can get these beautiful metal ones at antique stores, or regular old wine glasses at the dollar store!
Mortar and Pestle - For practical use and an awesome vibe! You can keep this near your herbs.
Coloured/Enchanted Salts - They display beautifully,and are really good to have on hand.
Spirit Vessels - These can go in their own little corner if you like. They could also be the center of your altar, especially if you work mainly with spirits.
Tarot/Other Cartomancy Cards - Find a nook for your cards to be kept safe and clean. They will be charged by the other objects all around it, which makes it an awesome idea to have on your altar.
Scrying Mirror - Make this the main attraction, or perhaps just a piece of the puzzle. If you have an ornate mirror, it could be a very drawing part of your altar!
Crystal Ball - Like the scrying mirror, it could be a background piece or the focal point.
Runes - If you cast runes, you can keep your bag or box of them on or near your altar.
Other Divination Tools - You cans store these, or just la them throughout your altar. Whatever you choose, having your tools close by will be awesome!
Twig Shapes - You can make sigils out of twigs and hot glue! Add a ribbon or piece of twin in the shape of a loop, and you can hang them above your altar as decoration and as a little energy booster!
Circle (Embroidery Hoop) - I know most people use salt to cast circles, but I actually use an embroidery hoop. I cast one around myself, and one around the items I am working with (ex: what’s in the hoop).
Knife - If you use a ritual or practical knife in your workings, it’s good to have on hand. I can’t have one, but I like my wand better anyway, personally.
Fae Garden - You’ll have to have plenty of sunlight near your altar for this one, but it will definitely be fun to have some Fae living on your altar!
Spell Supplies - Random bits and bobs, like egshells and ribbons, can be kept on your altar as well.
spell jars 101 ⚱
how to craft a spell jar:
gather your ingredients
charge & program each ingredient before adding it to the jar (aka, give power & instructions to your ingredients)
add the ingredients to the jar
close the jar
enchant the jar as a whole object (see my post on enchanting items for further guidance)
seal with wax, ribbon, or string to finalize & cast the spell
optional: decorate your bottle if you wish
what you can use as a jar:
tiny craft store jars
mason jars
pickle / pasta sauce jars
old medication bottles
food storage containers
what you can add to a spell jar:
dried herbs
dried citrus peels
magickal powders
small crystals
gem chips
essential oils (a drop or two will go a long way)
infused oils (carrier oils such as olive or grapeseed oil that have been infused with herbs)
a few drops of charged water (storm water, war water, sea water, holy water, rain water, moon water, sun water, etc.)
paper (with sigils / symbols / glyphs drawn on it, an incantation, a name, a phrase, etc.)
coins
beads
glitter or confetti
seashells / shark teeth / beach sand
leaves
DNA (finger nail clippings, a piece of hair, etc. to be used as a taglock)
animal fur, nail clippings, teeth, or whiskers***
nails, glass, pins, needles, thorns, & other sharp objects (great for cursing, binding, banishing, or protection)
vinegar, lemon juice, pickle juice (mostly for “souring” a situation)
honey, sugar, syrup (to “sweeten” a situation or for attraction)
pretty much anything that fits & corresponds to your intent
what you should avoid putting in a spell jar:
fresh herbs or plant material (this can cause mold to grow inside of the jar)
biological secretions (i mean, you can if you want but it’s not necessarily sanitary & there are cleaner, more easily obtained taglocks to use instead)
what spell jars are good for:
containing your spell, theoretically making it easier to manipulate & control
manifesting goals/intentions over time
manifesting goals continuously
passive manifestation that doesn’t require much ongoing participation from the caster
what to do with your spell jar once it’s been crafted:
keep it on your altar
depending on the intent of the spell, keep it in a different area that you frequent (for glamours, keep it in the bathroom; for sleep or dreams, keep it in the bedroom; for safe travels, keep it in your vehicle; for cursing, keep it concealed in a black box; etc.)
wear it around your neck
put it in your pocket, purse, or backpack
bury it in your backyard or within a potted plant outside (for spells you don’t plan to undo or want to last indefinitely)
if burying is not an option, hide it somewhere on your property
leave it at a crossroads
recharging spell jars:
shake it up
light a candle on top of or next to it
submerge it in a bath of herbs or crystals that are associated with energy
submerge or surround with sea salt (a natural conductor of energy)
anoint with oil / blessed or charged water
pair with a tarot card or rune stone that matches your intent
suffumigate with incense smoke
energy work & visualization
disposing of & reversing spell jars - when you feel like the spell has done its job or you need to undo its effects:
do not throw the entire jar into an open flame - this is incredibly dangerous
remove the contents from the jar & either burn them or bury them
for items you wish to save, cleanse them thoroughly before using them again
take the jar & cleanse it in whatever manner you choose & either save it to be reused; or shatter it & then dispose of it properly
***please practice safe & ethical harvesting when it comes to using parts from a living animal in your craft; don’t ever trim whiskers off of your pet (if they come out naturally then it’s okay to use them); routine grooming is a great way to obtain some of the things i mentioned; you can use the baby teeth that you inevitably find when your puppy or kitten is teething, also!
SAMHAIN
a beginners guide to the biggest sabbat of the year
WHEN IS IT?
northern hemisphere: 31st October - 1st November
souther hemisphere : May 1st
WHAT IS IT?
Samhain is a witches new year (magically or literally it’s up to you). It’s the biggest sabbat of the year and it honours the dead. It reflects how the winter is finally upon us and the days are going to be getting short and shorter which teaches us thag like day and night, you can’t have life without death. It’s a pagans day of the dead and we use it to show our respect and honour the passed. It’s also the last harvest.
HOW CAN I DECORATE?
black tourmine, jet, brass and clear quartz crystals work well i’ve found
fake or real bones and feathers to show death
pumpkins and autumn leaves
rosemary, mint and apple leaf are good herbs to use in spells
for insence i use mryh, mint, nutmeg , apple and rosemary
white, black and other warm colours work well for candles
WHAT YOU CAN DO:
dress in black and other earth colours as a way to show respect
divination is powerful at this time of the year - scrying is extremely powerful as well as ouija boards
perform powerful spells such as protection, love, banish negative energy and sex spells
bonfire and other fire rituals are powerful to perform
it’s the best day of the year to contact spirits and loved ones
carve pumpkins to scare away any evil spirits
leave offerings to the dead on graves or on your alter and windows
eat foods such as seeds, ginger, alcohol, apples, corn, meat
harvest any of the herbs or food you haven’t already and dry it for winter
HELLENIC PAGANISM:
I’m going to use this to worship Hecate and Hades. Hecate is the goddess of witchcraft and so for me it makes sense to worship her. Hades is the God of the dead (not death) and so i will be praying to him to make sure any wandering spirits find somewhere warm and safe for the night along with getting to all their families who welcome them in and whoever doesn’t have a place to take one in my home. I’ll also be praying to him to protect my loved ones as not all the spirits and dead will be friendly.
Things to do for Samhain
🍁For the Wistful
take a walk, once in the rain, once in the Sun to celebrate Autumn’s duality
collect the falling leaves and make a bouquet to hang on your wall
spare a thought for your ancestors, those whose legacy now belongs to you
research your family tree
visit your ancestors’ graves and adorn them with white chrysanthemum for protection
drink hot cocoa/coffee mixed with cinnamon, pumpkin spice or nutmeg
bake a pumpkin pie or try your hand at any pumpkin-related recipes (they’re all great tbh)
dress in autumnal colours: yellow, orange, red, brown
check your wards and protections around the house
give offerings to the spirits who have breached the veil
🎃 For the Wicked
have yourself a grand feast (leave a meal for the spirits though!)
marathon a horror movie anthology. or multiple.
gather your friends and have a bonfire night (bonus points if fireworks are included)
go to a halloween-themed party and dance the night away
dress up as a witch and let people believe that it’s just a costume
drink spiced apple cider or red wine. get drunk enough to casually chat with the spirits. celebrate outrageously.
trick or treat
Autumn affirmations 🍂
With each Fall, I become softer
As the nights grow darker, I become more rested
The trees are storing their energy, and so will I
I will get sufficient sleep
I look back on this year with gratitude and forgiveness
The cool air restores my energy
I will allow myself room to breathe and relax
There will be time for me to do the things I enjoy
I am at peace with myself
Flower Magick
Geranium- heals domestic conflict and trouble in the workplace, for first or new love, money
Hyacinth- self esteem, rebuilding trust after betrayal, domestic happiness, increasing radiance, attracting beauty
Jasmine- powerful love, sacred sex, optimism
Lavender- love, self-love, fertility, happiness, health, guards against cruelty and spite, all healing, anti stress and addiction
Marigold- positive energy, protects against the night and domestic matters, resolution of justice and legal matters, love and commitment
Rose- Love and reconciliation, self esteem; healing the young, old and abused; attracting money, fertility, (Pink=New love, Red=commitment, Yellow=Love in later years, White=Secret love)
Orchid- Love, Fertility
Daisies- Lust, Luck, Protection
Dandelion- Divination, wishes, calling spirits
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Historically Accurate Offerings to the Theoi
Zeus
Oak
Carnations
Olive branches
Styrax incense
Eagle, bull, swan images
Hera
Lilies
Peacock feathers or images
Pomegranate
Incenses
Cuckoo images
Athena
Olive branch/oil/fruit
Weavings
Myrrh incense
Perfume
Owl images
Apollon
Laurel
Red roses, sunflowers
Frankincense (manna) incense
Palm tree
Raven, swan, wolf, mouse, dolphin images
Artemis
Cedar, palm and cypress trees
Tokens of deer
Jasmine
Myrtle, white flowers
Frankincense (manna) incense
Amaranthus
Peanut
Wormwood
Deer, dog, bear, partidge, quail images
Hestia
Incenses
Chaste-tree
Pig images
Poseidon
Sea anemone
Myrrh incense
Pine
Bull, dolphin, horse images
Dionysos
Ivy
Grape vine
Pine
Styrax incense
Leopard, panther, donkey, bull images
Hermes
Tongue-shaped tokens
Rosemary, saffron
Almond tree and pine tree
Frankincense and styrax incense
Mint (for Kthonios epithet)
Cow, ram, hawk, turtle, hare images
Wild strawberry (purslane)
Ares
Bronze weapons
Frankincense (manna) incense
Swan, vulture, dragon/poisonous snake, owl images
Aphrodite
Roses, myrtle, anemone (poppy)
Quince
Apple, pomegranate
Perfumes and fragrances as incense
Dove, goose, sparrow, turtle images
Hephaistos
Daisies
Frankincense (manna) incense
Donkey, dog, crane images
Asklepios
Frankincense (manna) incense
Bread
Serpent, dog, goose, rooster images
Pan
Pine, beech trees
Fern
Wild flowers
Herbs burnt as incense and the smell of perfumes
Reeds
Goat, turtle images
Demeter
Poppy
Tokens of pigs
Styrax incense
Mint (for Kthonia epithet)
Wheat
Dove, bee, pig images
Persephone
Asphodel
Wheat
Hades
Pitchfork
Pomegranate
Daffodil
Styrax incense
Dried laurel leaves
Poplar, cypress trees
Mint
Daffodil
Hekate
Saffron
Rosemary
Garlic
Red Mullet
Amphiphon (candy)
Styrax incense
Dry laurel leaves
Oak
Ferret, dog, bull, lioness images
Source: LABRYS’ Hellenic Polytheism: Household Worship and Theoi.com
This may just be my experience as an autistic person, but the kids I’ve nannied whose parent’s complain of ‘bad awful in cooperative selfish autistic behavior’ are… Not like that? At all?
Like, for example, I cared for a kid for a while who was nonverbal and didn’t like being touched. Around six years old? Their parent said that they were fussy and had a strict schedule, and that they had problems getting them to eat. Their last few nannies had quit out of frustration.
So, I showed up. And for the first little while, it was awkward. The kid didn’t know me, I didn’t know them, you know how it is. And for the first… Day and a half, maybe? I fucked up a few times.
I changed their diaper and they screamed at me. I put the TV off and they threw things. Not fun, but regular upset kid stuff.
Next time, I figured, hell, I wouldn’t like being manhandled and ordered around either. Who likes being physically lifted out of whatever it is they’re doing and having their pants yanked off? Fucking few, that’s who.
Next time, I go, ‘hey, kiddo. You need a new diaper?’ and check. ‘I’m gonna go grab a new one and get you clean, okay?’ ‘Wanna find a spot to lay down?’ ‘Alright, almost done. Awesome job, thanks buddy’.
I learned stuff about them. They liked a heads up before I did anything disruptive. They didn’t mind that I rattled of about nothing all day. They didn’t like grass or plastic touching their back. They were okay with carpets and towels. They liked pictionary, and the color yellow, and fish crackers, and painting. They didn’t look me in the face (which was never an issue- I hate that too, it fucking sucks) but I never had reason to believe that they were ignoring me.
Once I learned what I was doing wrong, everything was fine. Did they magically “”“become normal”“” and start talking and laughing and hugging? No, but we had fun and had a good time and found a compromise between what I was comfortable with and what they were comfortable with. (For the record, I didn’t magically sailor-moon transform into a socially adept individual, either. In case anyone was wondering.)
I don’t like eye contact. It’s distracting and painful and stresses me out.
They didn’t like eye contact either.
Is eye contact necessary to communication? No. So we just didn’t do it.
Was there ever a situation where I HAD to force them to drop everything and lay down on the lawn? No. So the thirty second warning came into play, and nobody died.
“But they never talked!”
No, they didn’t. And they didn’t know ASL, and they didn’t like being touched.
So you know what happened?
My third day in, they tugged on my shirt. ‘Hey monkey, what’s up?’ I asked. And they tugged me towards the kitchen. ‘oh, cool. You hungry?’. They raised their hands in an ‘up’ gesture. ‘you want up? Cool.’ and I lifted them up. They pointed to the fridge. I opened it. They grabbed a juice box out of the top shelf, and pushed the door closed again. ‘oh sweet, grape is the best. You are an individual of refined taste.’ I put them down and they went back to their room to play Legos.
“But they didn’t say please or thank you!” “But you should be teaching them communication skills!” “But!” Lalalalala.
1. The entire interaction was entirely considerate and polite. I was never made uncomfortable. I was made aware of the problem so that I could help them solve it. There was no mess, no tears, no bruises, no shouting.
2. Did my brain collapse into a thousand million fragments of shattered diamond dust out of sheer incomprehension? No? Then their communication skills were fine. Goal realized, solution found, objective complete. They found the most simple and painless way to communicate the situation and then did it.
Kids are not stupid. AUTISTIC kids are not stupid.
I’m willing to bet real cash money that the real reason the last few nannies had quit had a million times more to do with their own ability to cope, not the kid’s.
To this day, that was the most relaxed and enjoyable job I’ve ever had.
And I know I don’t speak for everyone. All kids are different. All adults are different. But in my time and experience, pretty much 95% of all my difficulties with children come from ME not being understanding enough. Every single “problem child” I’ve worked with turned out to be a pretty cool person once I started figuring out how to put my ego aside and let them set the pace.
Again, not speaking universally, here. I’m just saying. Sometimes social rules are bullshit, you know? People are people
Have you ever read an article about the study that found that teaching the parents to cope with autistic kids yields better results than other therapies? Because this is exactly what they were talking about.