•Try to say what you do like instead of what you don’t like, try saying “I prefer men under 30…” instead of “NO OLDER GUYS”.
•Try to stay away from saying “disease free”, “bug
free” or “clean” or “clear of STDs” if you are HIV
negative, maybe say “negative for HIV and STDs”
that way it’s less offensive.
•Some people suggest not being too nit picky about your tastes. If you are narrow with your hookup criteria, you may get fewer responses. Instead of writing a very specific post like “Looking for tall muscular red head with an amazing ass and a 9inch cock who loves to pop balloons with his feet” try, “Seeking fit guys who take care of their bodies, who are open for experimentation and have a bigger than average dick”.
•Have your “preferred” list and then your“required” list, that way you let others know what you’re open to and what would be a deal breaker.
•READ his post THOROUGHLY.
•Gently ask how recent the photos are
•Make sure to know what kind
of party situation you’re getting
into; is it a group or solo event?
•Ask what sexual practices
they’re into and what they’re
looking for.
•Ask how long/how many days
the guy has been partying for so
that you are as close to being on
the same page as possible.
•Asking how much time they have
available to play is definitely a
good idea, are you looking for a
quickie or a 4 hour session?
•Check if they have a boyfriend or not. If they live
together, how much time do they have before the bf
comes home? Not a good surprise most of the time…
•Have the conversation about HIV/STDs before hooking up.
•Discuss barebacking or condom use before as well… that way everybody knows what they are getting into.
•Ask them to bring their favorite porn… that way you get an idea of what that person may like sexually.
•Another good thing to ask is what other drugs are in the picture and how he likes to use his crystal (ie. Smoke, snort, slam) Some guys like to hook up with people who party the same way with the same drugs so that their headspaces are similar.
•Have a phone conversation before meeting up, a good indicator of where their headspace is at.
•Asking if he would like you to bring over water, Gatorade, food, lube or condoms is always a good idea (latex or non-latex? – not everyone’s hole or dick likes latex). Better to not be stuck somewhere without the things that you may need and want to party safer.
•Make sure you have sun-
glasses for when you leave
someone’s place.
•Stock up, if you can, on cheap
sunglasses for people who may
need them when leaving – you
will be remembered for your
compassion and care.
•Ask when the last time he or
the group ate, perhaps you
could bring some snacks for
him or the guys in the group.
Ensure or fruit are quick,
healthy and easy to swallow
and digest, especially if your
stomach feels like it is the size
of a pea.
•If you’re allergic to pets – ask
if they have pets.
•If it is an issue for you, ask if that guy likes to smoke cigs.
•If you get an email from someone that you’re not into, thank them for their compliment (if they leave you one) or for emailing you and leave it at that – that way they know you are not into them but you are being cool about it. Of course you can always say the universal, “Sorry, but I don’t think we’re a match.”
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