Leeniela

it's leens or leenie or finch (he/him/she/her), i'm just chilling queer, genderqueer, early 30s, Aotearoa

[leeniela]

Started a sideblog for poetry @finchrospection

Might put some of mine there at some point if you're interested

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[cantabilechaos]

I like when cats are like busy doing something and not really in the mood to be pet so they like walk past you at exactly the right distance to be just barely out of reach and if you lean forward they very slightly increase their pace to avoid getting caught in the affection zone. Like oh sorry sir I didn’t realize you were in the middle of important business. We can reschedule this for another time

[devilishdescent]

>the goblin leaps to attack!

>the goblin misses!

>the goblin has scraped his little knee!

>oh, his little knee!

>oh, his little knee!

[mattpresents]

How do you know you're not Asexual? Maybe you just haven't met the right nobody.

[aroaceenjolras]

This "allosexuality" thing is just a phase. You just need to have really bad sex, and then maybe you'll change your mind.

[princess-of-phyresis]

they're selling anti-ai slogans on sweatshop-produced t-shirts. i don't need to write the poem for you to get it do i

[anarchistmemedistro]

[inchofsalt]

This includes not working for free. Shift is over and work is left to do? Leave it for the next person who is paid to take care of it. Is that you and it'll sit all weekend? Well, they should hire someone else to help with the workload. They don't pay you to worry about that.

I see this with coworkers who will stay 30 min past their shift because they don't want to leave unfinished tasks for the next person. We are chronically understaffed and the employer is not inclined to change this fact if the work is still getting done and service isn't impacted.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[queersatanic]

When a cop pulls you over and asks what you’re up to, he isn’t interested in the goings-on of your day. He’s asking you, “Can you tell me something I can use to hurt you?”

When a hiring manager asks about a gap in your resume or why you left your last job, she isn’t chatting out of curiosity. She’s looking for a reason not to hire you.

Even when your doctor asks you questions about your thoughts of self-harming, they aren’t necessarily really asking you about this for your own benefit because sometimes they’re asking, “Would you like to be abducted and forcibly restrained for a minimum of a few days?”

The difference here is power. Power changes things because what’s associated is the threat of violence, direct or indirect. A guy holding a gun asking, “That’s a nice phone. Can I see it?” is not paying a compliment or making a request but giving a pretty direct threat while mugging you.

It’s not even autism; it’s just understanding realistic social dynamics.

Your landlord is not your friend. They don’t have to live up to their handshake agreements and verbal contracts. You should not be revealing information to them that they can use to hurt you, even if you think they won’t.

Snitching is not telling the truth, and covering for someone else by deceit is not lying (better to shut the fuck up, though). Because power transmutes social relations with the magic of violence, implied and direct.

[wiisagi-maiingan]

hi trans indigenous people I love you

[wiisagi-maiingan]

hi indigenous people who don't identify with the label trans because you exist outside of the Western gender binary I love you

[mybloodstream-caffeine]

You need to kill the lawyer in your brain that keeps insisting that your blorbo has to be an Ethical Dom Top™. You need to stop your knee jerk desire to pathologize and explain away a character's sexual desire to dominate as a symptom of their mental illness or abusive childhood. You need to stop thinking of a desire to dominate as inherently less intimate than other sex acts. You need to stop framing dominance as something to be fixed or that will eventually change with the right partner. You need to stop twisting a Dom's role in the bedroom into one that is secretly subservient because they're 'actually' beholden to their sub's desires - "My Dom doesn't WANT to dominate, he just wants to fulfill his sub's desire to BE dominated. When you look at it that way, they're actually the submissive one!!" - STOP!!! STOP DOING THAT!!!!

[mybloodstream-caffeine]

Adding @antlered-vixen's tags because they Get It™

[teaboot]

My mom likes to tell me about how when I was a little kid riding public transport with her I'd always smile and giggle and chat with weird old ladies who smelled like cat pee and homeless folks and strangers dressed in bizarre outfits but any time a tidy and respectable businessman in a suit and tie waved at me I'd immediately clam up, and she takes a great deal of pride in my supposed inherentability to clock personalities but the truth is I do vaguely remember those bus rides, and it was never about the clothes or the hair or the smell, but more because everyone "strange" asked interesting questions and listened to what I had to say and seemed to think about what I said while the neat and tidy and rigid folks only ever acted like they were going through the motions, which was boring as hell and also pretty annoying

[teaboot]

Well-to-do finance manager with tidy shoes: "Why hello, sweetheart. Can you say 'hi'? Aren't you cute. Are you on a trip with your mom?"

4 year old me: why must we do this

Fantastic old woman in the leopard print coat: "Why yes, my tooth IS real silver! Nobody ever asks me that. Do you like cats?"

4 year old me, suddenly paying attention: Finally, A Person Of Intellect

[tongue-twists]

if you're bored and want to do something simple but fulfilling I recommend wikisource's proofread of the month. you can help public domain works be transcribed to be more accessible for everyone! even just validating a few pages helps a lot and there's a bunch of simple guides on the site.

[thescholars]

ive had the image of this meme in my head for so long

[valtsv]

just found ur blog and I'm loving this shit. Finally, someone who understands the urge to have the Character have bad sex that they don't enjoy! And then they'll jerk off while crying!! AND they won't even finish Yipee!!!

[scribefindegil]

So many ruthless/pragmatic characters get revealed as hypocrites when the sacrifice required is personal, and that's why it's really important to me that Stratt does genuinely care about Grace and also it doesn't make her hesitate for a second. That's her friend and she dragged him screaming to the sacrificial altar with clear eyes and no apology and she would do it again. What a woman.

[sapphireh3arts]

i know folks are gonna call me a pedo for this one, but i grew up seeing my mom and grandma naked. they had health issues and at times needed care and help showering. and i truly think more kids need to be shown the nonsexual reality of naked women at a young age. there is nothing sexual about my grandmothers breasts, they were simply body parts. more women die of heart attacks because people are too afraid of breasts to do real chest compressions, because they are scared to touch their breasts. the sexualization of our bodies literally kills us. i need people to be more normal about naked bodies and i'm 100% serious.

[scarsofmybliss]

I grew up around naked old people who weren't even my family! Gasp! And it was a good thing. I grew up around old-school hippies at a place called Lothlorien (in Indiana) and one of my friends dads held a sauna day every Sunday in the middle of the woods (like you cannot drive to their house, you park about a quarter mile away and walk into the woods kind of woods). All day random old people came to get naked, high (pot), and sweaty. Just random old peen and boobs swaying with the leaves. No big deal. These are things that I believe made me more at home in my body, made me more excited about aging, made me more willing to fight for my security and safety.

[dee-the-red-witch]

Bodies are just bodies. Nothing sacred and nothing inherently shameful or sinful either. The fact that we still can't get that through everyone in however many years it's been is just fucking idiotic.

[bsaka7]

excerpts from erin in the morning's article on the ioc's ban on transgender women and sex testing policy

[zinesbycee]

(nods sagely) (nods basily) (nods rosemarily) (nods saltly) (nods star anisely)