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8 Questions To Discuss As A Lesbian Couple To Feel More Love
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THIS PROGRAM HAS TWO COMPONENTS!
An On-Demand, From Anywhere Relationship Transformation Training Course
Weekly Group Coaching Events with Online Interaction with Other Couples Led by Dr. Lynda Spann!
TLC (Transforming Lesbian Couples) is for lesbian couples who are 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship for good.
Because of that, TLC is by application only.
Act fast, this popular program fills up quickly. Secure your spot now. Only 10 couples accepted at a time.
(In the pages that follow, you’ll find information about why this program is right for you and your partner, as well as a link to view a masterclass video. Once completed, you will be able to schedule a complimentary introductory call with Dr. Spann in order to qualify for admission into the program).
LOVE IS A JOURNEY WE TAKE TOGETHER.
If you and your partner have found yourselves in need of help on your own relationship journey, then this is the program for you.
Designed by an expert Ph.D. level lesbian therapist with lesbian couples in mind.
This on-demand, available from anywhere course is ideal for busy couples to get the love and relationship coaching they need without the challenges of scheduling and keeping in-person appointments.
Are you in a lesbian relationship that feels listless, lonely, or like it’s moving in the direction of eventual collapse? Is there a part of you that longs to feel cherished and secure in a relationship that’s full of joy, fun, and love, again? This program takes you on a journey of rediscovery and renewal that will have you feeling like the happiest couple in the room. Again.
If your relationship disconnection or distress has gone on for a while, there’s a good chance that either you or your partner are questioning if you’re “right” for each other.
You may be lying awake at night replaying unresolved arguments, feeling alone and misunderstood, or worrying that your relationship is teetering on the edge of a steep cliff.
You’re hesitant to even let yourself imagine feeling alive and in love with your partner, again.
At the same time, you’re looking for a thread of hope that you will have a future together that’s full of adventure, nurturance, attention, and the ease of being exquisitely tuned-in to one another.
Sometimes you let yourself imagine a relationship that thrives with heartfelt connection, spirited discussions, playful affection, shared goals, and deep vulnerability. True intimacy.
Mostly, you feel sad about the distance between the two of you. And you’re exhausted and depleted from the negative cycle that neither of you have been able to stop.
You want nothing more than to stop walking on egg-shells, to feel safe again, and to travel through life with the woman you fell in love with. Deep inside, you dream of relationship growth and transformation.
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or pain, TLC provides a clear path to relief, reconnection and resolving your problems quickly.
You Crave…
Great conversations where you both feel understood, and closer than when you started talking
Easily connecting emotionally, affectionately, and sensually
Knowing that your partner understands, accepts, and adores you
The ease of talking about even tough issues without fighting, blaming, stonewalling, or getting defensive
Balancing closeness and independence
An atmosphere of humor, laughter, and playfulness
To be on the same page about goals and dreams
Looking forward to spending the evening with your partner
A spirit of ongoing friendliness, appreciation, and gratitude
Both of you making your relationship the number one priority
Understanding how to help one another feel soothed and relieved when upset
Knowing, deep in your bones, that nothing can shake your intimate connection
“Dr Spann was very professional while being personable and relatable. Her level of expertise made us know that we were in the right place. Dr Spann had a large toolbox from which to recommend exercises and other ideas, allowing us to try a variety of therapeutic activities.” – Former Client
Maybe you’ve searched everywhere for help and can’t find a lesbian who specializes in couple’s therapy.
Your search is over!
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YOU’RE PROBABLY FRUSTRATED, SAD AND LONELY IF …
Nothing you’ve tried has worked. Even though you’ve been working on this for months or years, not much has changed.
Perhaps you:
Have been avoiding arguments to the point that you’re hardly talking about anything meaningful
Feel hopeless about ever learning how to communicate so that you’ll feel heard and understood
Are tired of juggling life, work, and other responsibilities and barely have time for fun or intimacy anymore
Act more like roommates or business partners— sharing routine and practical chores— but nothing pulls at your heartstrings anymore
Have tried couples therapy, which seemed to briefly help, but things just went back to how they were…and you’re starting to feel that your relationship is beyond repair
Keep reading the latest “communication” tips to solve disagreements, but nothing seems to work long term.
If you’re feeling alone on your journey of love, strapped for time, and don’t know how to repair and rebuild your relationship…but know in your heart you both deserve more… this is the coaching program for you.
Stop settling for a stagnant relationship.
Let’s take this love journey together. So that you can rediscover your passion for each other, again.
THIS TLC COACHING PROGRAM IS FOR LESBIAN COUPLES WHO:
Have been together beyond the initial honeymoon stage
Still love each other, but are feeling distressed and disconnected
Want to grow individually and together
Have read self-help books, tried or thought of therapy, dabbled with date nights, and are still not thriving
Want their relationship to grow and are willing to do the work to make that happen
Understand that an investment in their relationship is an investment in their overall well-being
Are unwilling to give up on their relationship without an honest try
Have struggled to make progress on their own and are ready to get help from an expert guide who has spent years discovering the exact steps for a successful journey of love
WHO THE TLC PROGRAM IS NOT FOR:
Heterosexual couples or gay men couples
Lesbian couples hoping for a quick fix or magical bullet and are unwilling to put in the work
Couples where one of you is stuck in the blame game, not taking your share of responsibility in creating change
Lesbian couples who believe they can DIY their way out of this
Couples where an ongoing affair, domestic violence, untreated addiction, or mental illness are present
One or both partners are not willing to give their all to the process of creating thriving, lasting love
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THE TLC COACHING PROGRAM IS A PROVEN LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION TRAINING COURSE.
It’s the quickest, most effective way to learn to relate to each other with greater connection, less conflict, and more joy.
With this step-by-step system you won’t fail. Even if you’ve tried therapy before and you’re at a loss for creating lasting relationship growth.
In this TLC course, you’ll discover the path to a thriving intimate partnership with a knowledgeable guide on your side.
During the TLC 10-week coaching course you’ll get the tools and skills you need to…
Reconnect with your partner instantly
Become a happy and effective team
Understand each of your relationship dance styles
Stop a fight before it starts
Communicate so you both feel understood
Repair and heal
Embody brave vulnerability and steady curiosity
Grow individually and together
TLC is not a flimsy, feel-good class with empty promises. It’s a thoughtfully designed, carefully engineered relationship skill-building system that will help even the most stuck couples succeed.
The reason why?
CLEARLY MAPPED STEP-BY-STEP JOURNEY
It’s like having a relationship GPS at your fingertips. You’ll be coached every step of the way. With each lesson logically flowing from the last.
USER-FRIENDLY TOOLS FOR SUCCESS
Experience immediate results when you have the right tools, tricks, and techniques. And don’t worry, these things are easy to master.
EASE OF AN AT-HOME METHOD
Watch the video lessons on your time-table from the comfort of your home. Then hop on your computer for a weekly group coaching session with other lesbian couples that get you.
COMMUNITY SUPPORT
No longer feel isolated and alone in your relationship journey. You’ll be getting support from other lesbian couples that are growth-oriented and learning to thrive.
MANAGEABLE LESSONS
You won’t be overwhelmed or drained. In fact you’ll be invigorated by the bite-sized training videos that are full of practical steps and skill that will immediately help your relationship take a giant leap forward.
EXPERT GUIDE
Your guide on this journey of love, Dr. Lynda Spann, will help you accelerate your relationship growth and transformation. So that you can be the happiest couple in the room, again.
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Lynda is the perfect guide for this exploration. Not because she has a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, but because she’s walked in your shoes. She’s lived through the pain of a failing relationship and has now discovered the map for how to have a joy-filled, secure, and thriving partnership with her wife, Lisa.
Lynda has helped hundreds of couples like you get unstuck and create the relationship that they crave.
TLC WILL HELP YOU TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF LONELINESS, FRUSTRATION, AND HURT INTO ONE OF CONNECTION, JOY, AND SECURITY.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM THE TLC COACHING PROGRAM:
First and foremost, TLC is not a theory class on love.
This is a hands-on, experiential, fun program that delivers real, lasting results. Please don’t mistake our easy system for a temporary band-aid.
In the TLC coaching program you’ll learn foundational concepts, do fun exercises together, and master new skills and techniques that will lead to massive relationship growth and permanent change.
You’ll start feeling better immediately. And you’ll get to the level of being a thriving couple, fast! That’s because our TLC course curriculum and coaching is designed to be easier, faster, and more effective than traditional, theoretical learning.
The TLC program has been developed and honed over many years. It is a tried, tested, and proven system that delivers consistent, rapid, effective results.
Hoping and praying that things will get better in your relationship hasn’t worked. And therapy is expensive, often inconvenient, and takes a long time.
You’re lucky to have found us and to now know that there’s a better alternative to get your relationship on track to thrive.
This TLC coaching program gives you practical tools and skills you can use right now to easily shift your relationship to the one you’re craving.
BY THE END OF OUR 10 WEEKS YOU’RE MOST IMPORTANT TAKE-AWAYS WILL BE:
Seeing The Gleam In Your Partner’s Eye, Again
Feeling The Nourishment And Joy Of Daily Connection
Becoming A Power-team
Knowing Exactly How To Help Each Other When Triggered
Ninja Communication Skills (That Will Help You Talk About Even The Hard Stuff And Feel Closer)
Confidence For The Journey Ahead
Lot’s And Lot’s Of Fun And Adventure Along The Way!
“We loved that she provided a safe and welcoming space for us instantly. We felt open to sharing and she provided wonderful exercises for us to practice. She brought us closer together and we are very grateful.” – Former Client
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WHAT YOU’LL GET…
Welcome Packet:
As soon as you enroll in the TLC coaching program, you will receive a welcome packet to help you make the most out of the training, and fully prepare for the 10 weeks ahead. It will include:
A two questionnaire assessment that will help us get to know you better
Strategies on how to cultivate the right mindset to create the relationship of your dreams
Organizational tips to maximize success and get the most out of the program
For 10 weeks, you will receive:
Five practical, effective relationship teaching modules with video lessons, recorded so you can have access anytime, forever.
Five uniquely designed workbooks, full of exercises, writing prompts, worksheets, and tracking tools to take your relationship to the next level.
Ten LIVE online two-hour Group Coaching sessions, where you and your partner will receive coaching with Dr. Lynda Spann, to address your unique challenges and breakthroughs for that week.
This is one of the most powerful components of this program, where you get live coaching to help you move past any blocks and fully integrate the lessons from the week that you are in. PLUS you get to learn from other couples who are working through situations that you can learn from. These calls are full of amazing breakthroughs. You’ll love them and gain so much from them.
Full email access to Lynda Spann for 10 weeks. Submit your questions directly to Lynda for personalized help.
Access to our secret Facebook group: A 10-week private and exclusive Facebook forum to connect with other lesbian couples going through the course. Share tips and get questions answered and get support for your journey. Plus, additional access to Dr. Lynda Spann by posting your questions in the private forum.
Modules and Lessons…
MODULE 1: FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
MODULE 2: BRAIN MATTERS
MODULE 3: ROOTS TO RELIEF
MODULE 4: FIND AND DEFINE YOUR EDGES
MODULE 5: THE A-HA! OF RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION: MAINTAINING EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FOR LIFE
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Is this couples therapy? No. Even though Lynda is a licensed therapist, this is a coaching program and she will only be functioning as a relationship coach.
How much time can I expect this course to take? Each week, you’ll have a training module with several short videos to watch which add up to be about one hour of total viewing time.
There will be a weekly 2 hour live coaching call via Zoom.
You will have a workbook with homework exercises for each module. Homework shouldn’t take more than 1 or 2 hours a week.
My partner doesn’t want to take this course. Can I take it by myself? The TLC program is designed for couples, with practices for the two of you to do together. If she is resistant, just see if she’s willing to do a 45minute breakthrough session with you and Lynda. Sometimes resistant partners decide to join once they talk to Lynda and see how TLC can benefit them.
My partner and I may not both be free at the time of the coaching call. What should we do? Attending the live coaching calls is highly recommended. However, we understand that you may not be able to make every single one of them.
Do we both have to pay tuition? No! Your tuition includes both of you.
What if we buy this program and find out it’s not for us? Will we get a refund? I do not offer a refund. As in everything worth having in life, your results are totally dependent on your hard work, commitment, motivation, where your relationship is at when you join, and many other factors. We will explore all this and more during the Relationship Breakthrough call. I promise I will not invite you to join if for any reason, I feel this program is not right for you – it would not serve either of us to do so.
I don’t live in the United States…can I participate? Yes! All you need is to be fluent in English, an internet connection, and a webcam!
Will my insurance pay for this coaching course? Unfortunately, no. Like gym memberships and other services that promote your well-being, coaching is not a service that the health insurance industry has chosen to cover.
Do you offer payment plans? Yes.
What if I have more questions about the course? We’d be happy to answer any further questions you may have! Email to get in touch.
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IF YOU’RE A LESBIAN COUPLE THAT’S 100% COMMITTED TO CREATING A JOYFUL, SECURE, THRIVING RELATIONSHIP AND YOU’RE READY FOR A PROVEN PLAN TO REAL CHANGE, THEN WE CAN HELP YOU!
YOU CAN BOOK A FREE COACHING CALL WITH DR. LYNDA SPANN TO DISCUSS A STRATEGIC PLAN THAT LAYS THE FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL, RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION.
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Save Your Marriage Alone With 3 Simple Shifts
Many of the lesbian clients I talk to are desperate to save their relationship. But their partner wants nothing to do with getting help, or even changing what she’s doing that’s contributing to the problems. Sometimes their wife has just said, I’m not in love with you anymore.
I tell those women (and I’m telling you) it doesn’t matter. You can save your marriage alone!
Breathe that in for a second.
I guarantee that you can change your relationship if you’re the only one trying. Even if your wife is disconnected, angry, complacent, or threatening to leave.
It’s true. One person can change a marriage, alone.
How good does it feel to find out that you can turn your relationship around, even if your partner is being stubborn and withdrawn? What will it mean to you to save your relationship and make it thrive?
Hold onto that feeling. It will help you make the shifts within yourself that can save your marriage.
Let me be clear — I’m not suggesting that everything wrong with your relationship is your fault. Or that you’re the only one that needs to change in order to have a great marriage.
Ultimately, you’ll both have to do some things differently in order to create an awesome, secure and happy relationship.
But here’s the thing…
Someone has to start! If you’re in pain about the state of your relationship, put on your big girl panties and become the leader of change. Don’t wait for your wife or partner to make changes first.
Do you really want to save your relationship?
Then start a positive feedback-loop by being brave and doing a few things differently. The key is to make a few simple shifts in order to disrupt the vicious cycle you two are stuck in.
You know the saying…you can’t keep doing the same things over and over and expect to get different results.
To get out of the pain of a disconnected or hostile relationship, you’ll have to change some of the ways you typically react. You may have to get uncomfortable, shake up your habits, and take a risk.
Three inner shifts that can save your relationship:
1. TAP INTO YOUR WHY
This is an important first step which starts in your head and heart. I invite you to take a few minutes to thoroughly answer this question: Why do I want to save my relationship?
Getting super clear on WHY you want to stay together will help you hang onto the motivation to make the necessary changes moving forward.
So ask yourself…Why do I want to remain in this relationship? How will it benefit me?
Is it because you made a promise? Because it’s too expensive to break up? Because you’re better together than alone? Or is it that you want to become the happiest couple you know?
How will it benefit you to be in this relationship when it’s thriving?
Will you feel joy, have more fun, feel safe, enjoy growing old together?
Now, grab a piece of paper and a pen. At the top of the page, write this question: Why do I want to save my relationship and how will it benefit me?
Then write down all of the reasons that pop into your head. Make an exhaustive list.
Once you’ve written out all aspects of your WHY, put the paper in a safe place. Next time you feel discouraged about putting effort into your relationship, pull out the paper and remind yourself of your WHY.
And for now, I want you to stay focused on your WHY as you move into the next couple of inner shifts.
2. STOP FOCUSING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
This might seem backwards to you. But trust me, it isn’t. In order to save your marriage, it’s important that you take the focus off of the problems, off your relationship troubles.
In order to fix the recurring issues, you’ve got to stop fussing about them. And yo must stop talking to your partner about all the things that are wrong.
Here’s how I suggest you make this shift:
Stop talking to your wife about your marriage problems
Do not tell her anything she’s doing wrong
Avoid blaming your partner
Don’t nag her about what she should do differently
Quit complaining to your friends every time you have a fight
Looping on the problems, endlessly analyzing the unhealthy patterns, rehashing the arguments, blaming your wife for everything that’s wrong, and focusing on the negative— these are actually keeping you stuck.
Take a break from those habits and see what happens. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
When you start to worry about and focus on your marital problems, redirect your thinking instead. Here are a few ways you can do that:
Write out 3 things that you appreciate about your partner today
Sing a song loudly
Go for a walk
Crank up your favorite tunes and dance your heart out
Call a fiend (but don’t talk about your problems)
Take 10 slow, deep breaths
These types of self-care actions are simple to do. And they will help you relax, be more creative, see what’s going right, discover hidden solutions, and get clarity on what you really desire.
3. DO THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT YOU’VE BEEN DOING
It’s time to do a 180! You need to stop engaging in the same old reaction to being worried about your marriage.
Most of the time, when couples are distressed, they each respond in one of two ways. Some people tend get more clingy to their partner, and others become distant and withdrawn.
Which do you do?
Are you constantly pursuing your partner or are you trying to get time and space away from her?
In either case, it will be most helpful to shift into doing the opposite of what you normally do.
If your reflex is to cling to your wife when there’s trouble brewing, I want you to have the courage to take a giant step back. You’ll know that you’re a pursuer if in times of trouble you try to get your partner to talk, seek affection, want to spend more time together, feel anxious when she’s upset with you, or always insisting on date night.
Now, I’m not saying to leave the relationship or go stay at a hotel.
In fact all I want you to do right now is take a deep breath and focus on yourself without doing anything.
Tell the part of you that feels little and is scared of being abandoned that she’s going to be ok. Let that part of you know that by taking a step back, you’ll end up getting more of what you want.
If you’ve been in the clingy, pursuer roll, just loosen the grip. You don’t have to let go. Some ways to do that are to take yourself on a mini adventure such as:
get a new book to read
go to lunch with a safe friend
take a yoga class
go for a walk
enjoy a bubble bath
call a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time
meditate
write in your journal
resume a hobby
The most important thing is that you loosen the death grip that you have on your partner. I promise, it’s driving her bananas!
On the other hand, if you’re the partner that’s been distancing and withdrawing from your honey, I want you to step in and move back towards her. I get that you’re afraid she’s going to make you feel like everything you do is wrong. But staying isolated and detached isn’t helping resolve your problems.
Start by taking a deep breath and having a little chat with the part of yourself that’s afraid of being overwhelmed, smothered, or judged by your partner. Tell that protective part of yourself that you can still get alone-time when you need it.
Now that you’ve soothed that part of yourself, lean into your courage and move toward your wife. Seriously!
It’s time to start reconnecting and engaging with your partner again. You don’t have to be connected every minute of the day. But find one thing to do every day that will move you in the direction of you wife.
Some ways you can move toward her are:
hold hands on a walk
take her on a date offer to cook dinner together
send her a couple of out-of-the-blue texts when you’re at work
talk about your days
surprise her by playing “your song” and dancing in the living room
give her a long welcome home hug
tell her you miss her
cuddle on the couch
exchange shoulder or foot massages
Now that you know how to save your marriage alone with 3 simple shifts, I encourage you to get started right away.
If you’re relationship is too entrenched in unhealthy patterns, you may need some expert help to get unstuck. We’re here to help. Our lesbian relationship coaching program may be the perfect fit for you.
Best Online Lesbian Relationship Coaching In The World
Here at The Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI), we are super excited to be offering online lesbian relationship coaching to lesbians and queer women all over the world.
If you’re looking for support and guidance from an expert that’s also in the lesbian community, you’re in luck. Our coaches are part of the community. And each coach understands from her own life experience what most of the struggles are all about.
You can feel completely confident that the coaches at LCI won’t judge you or get weirded out by anything you want to share.
Whether you and your partner are looking for skillful guidance to improve your relationship or you want individual coaching, we are here to help.
You can get online relationship coaching at LCI as a couple to help you with issues such as:
Communication problems
Distance and loneliness
Walking on eggshells
Endless arguments
Not feeling appreciated
Intimacy
Insecurity and trust
Boundaries
And you can also work with a coach one-on-one. Even if your partner refuses to get help with you, work with one of our coaches anyway. You can still have a positive influence on your relationship.
Our coaches are also great at helping with individual challenges like:
Coping with stress
Figuring out the next steps
Healing from a break-up
Knowing how to attract a girlfriend that will be a great match
Coming out
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or life issues, our coaches are ready to help lighten your load. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
And a great thing is that you don’t even have to leave home to get the support you’re looking for.
Let us help you take your life to the next level!
Online Relationship Course for Lesbian Couples
TLC IS A PROVEN RELATIONSHIP COURSE FOR LESBIAN COUPLES THAT WANT MORE CONNECTION AND BETTER COMMUNICATION!
Ready to take your relationship from disconnected, misunderstood, and stuck to reconnected, happy, and alive? You can make your relationship thrive, again, in just 10 weeks!
Or are you in a newish relationship, and you both want to break the old patterns of blah, painful, or failed relationships from your past? By committing to this 10-week course you will create a strong foundation of security so that you’ll have confidence that this one will last!
THIS COURSE IS DESIGNED FOR BUSY COUPLES THAT KNOW THEY NEED EXPERT GUIDANCE TO CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP THEY LONG FOR.
Best of all, TLC is An On-Demand, From Anywhere Relationship Transformation Training Course.
You can be in your pj’s eating popcorn when you work on your relationship! It doesn’t get easier than that.
The TLC Course is for lesbian couples who are BOTH 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship for good.
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
Is this relationship transformation course right for you and your partner? Keep reading…
Love is a Journey we take together.
If you and your partner find yourselves in need of some help on your own relationship journey, then this is the course for you.
It was carefully designed by an expert Ph.D. level lesbian marriage therapist (Dr. Lynda Spann) with lesbian couples in mind.
This on-demand, available from anywhere course is ideal for busy couples to get the love and relationship training they need without the challenges of scheduling and keeping in-person appointments.
Are you in a lesbian relationship that feels lonely, listless, or on the brink? Is there a part of you that longs to feel cherished and secure in a relationship that’s full of joy, fun and love, again?
This course takes you on a journey of rediscovery and renewal that will have you feeling like the happiest couple in the room. Again.
Are either you or your partner questioning if you’re “right” for each other because your relationship is so bankrupt?
Do you lay awake at night replaying unresolved arguments, feeling alone and misunderstood, or worrying that your relationship is teetering on the edge of a steep cliff?
Hesitant to even let yourself imagine feeling alive and in love with your partner, again?
Yet you’re looking for a thread of hope that you will have a future together that’s full of adventure, nurturance, attention, and the ease of being exquisitely tuned-in to one another.
I hope you can let yourself imagine a relationship that thrives with heartfelt connection, spirited discussions, playful affection, shared goals, and deep vulnerability. True intimacy.
Chances are you mostly feel sad about the distance between the two of you. And you’re exhausted and depleted from the negative cycle that neither of you have been able to stop.
You want nothing more than to stop walking on egg-shells, to feel safe again, and to travel through life with the woman you fell in love with.
Deep inside, you dream of relationship growth and transformation.
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or pain, TLC provides a clear path to relief, reconnection and resolving your problems quickly.
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
You Crave…
Great conversations where you both feel understood, and closer than when you started talking
Easily connecting emotionally, affectionately, and sensually
Knowing that your partner understands, accepts, and adores you
The ease of talking about even tough issues without fighting, blaming, stonewalling, or getting defensive
Balancing closeness and independence
An atmosphere of humor, laughter, and playfulness
To be on the same page about goals and dreams
Looking forward to spending the evening with your partner
A spirit of ongoing friendliness, appreciation, and gratitude
Both of you making your relationship the number one priority
Understanding how to help one another feel soothed and relieved when upset
Knowing, deep in your bones, that nothing can shake your intimate connection
“Dr. Spann was very professional while being personable and relatable. Her level of expertise made us know that we were in the right place. Dr. Spann had a large toolbox from which to recommend exercises and other ideas, allowing us to try a variety of therapeutic activities.” – Former TLC Student
Maybe you’ve searched everywhere for help and can’t find a lesbian who specializes in couples therapy or relationship coaching.
Your search is over!
Are you craving love and reconnection?
The TLC coaching course has been carefully designed to help you get your cravings met!
YOU’RE PROBABLY FRUSTRATED, SAD AND LONELY IF …
Nothing you’ve tried has worked. Even though you’ve been working on this for months or years, not much has changed.
Perhaps you:
Have been avoiding arguments to the point that you’re hardly talking about anything meaningful
Feel hopeless about ever learning how to communicate so that you’ll feel heard and understood
Are tired of juggling life, work, and other responsibilities and barely have time for fun or intimacy anymore
Act more like roommates or business partners— sharing routine and practical chores— but nothing pulls at your heartstrings anymore
Have tried couples therapy, which seemed to briefly help, but things just went back to how they were…and you’re starting to feel that your relationship is beyond repair
Keep reading the latest “communication” tips to solve disagreements, but nothing seems to work long term.
If you’re feeling alone on your journey of love, strapped for time, and don’t know how to repair and rebuild your relationship…but know in your heart you both deserve more… this is the relationship course for you.
Stop settling for a stagnant relationship!
Let’s take this love journey together. So that you can rediscover your passion for each other, again.
THIS TLC ONLINE COURSE IS FOR LESBIAN COUPLES WHO:
Have been together beyond the initial honeymoon stage
Still love each other, but are feeling distressed and disconnected
Are in a newish relationship and want to get it right this time
Want to grow individually and together
Have read self-help books, tried or thought of therapy, dabbled with date nights, and are still not thriving
Want their relationship to grow and are willing to do the work to make that happen
Understand that an investment in their relationship is an investment in their overall well-being
Are unwilling to give up on their relationship without an honest try
Have struggled to make progress on their own and are ready to get help from an expert guide who has spent years discovering the exact steps for a successful journey of love
WHO THE TLC ONLINE COURSE IS NOT FOR:
Heterosexual couples or gay men couples
Lesbian couples hoping for a quick fix or magical bullet and are unwilling to put in the work
Couples where one of you is stuck in the blame game, not taking your share of responsibility in creating change
Lesbian couples who believe they can figure it out on their own
Couples where an ongoing affair, domestic violence, untreated addiction, or mental illness are present
One or both partners are not willing to give their all to the process of creating thriving, lasting love
THE TLC ONLINE COURSE IS A PROVEN LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION TRAINING PROGRAM.
It’s the quickest, most effective way to learn to relate to each other with greater connection, less conflict, and more joy.
With this step-by-step system you won’t fail. Even if you’ve tried therapy before and you’re at a loss for creating lasting relationship growth.
In this TLC course, you’ll discover the path to a thriving intimate partnership with a knowledgeable guide on your side every step of the way.
During the TLC 10-week course you’ll get the tools and skills you need to…
Reconnect with your partner instantly
Become a happy and effective team
Understand each of your relationship dance styles
Stop a fight before it starts
Communicate so you both feel understood
Repair and heal
Embody brave vulnerability and steady curiosity
Grow individually and together
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
TLC is not a flimsy, feel-good class with empty promises. It’s a thoughtfully designed, carefully engineered relationship skill-building system that will help even the most stuck couples succeed.
The reason why?
CLEARLY MAPPED STEP-BY-STEP JOURNEY
It’s like having a relationship GPS at your fingertips. You’ll be guided every step of the way. With each lesson logically flowing from the last.
USER-FRIENDLY TOOLS FOR SUCCESS
Experience immediate results when you have the right tools, tricks, and techniques. And don’t worry, these things are easy to master.
EASE OF AN AT-HOME METHOD
Watch the video lessons on your time-table from the comfort of your home. Then find snippets of time when the two of you can do the workbook exercises together.
MANAGEABLE LESSONS
You won’t be overwhelmed or drained. In fact you’ll be invigorated by the bite-sized training videos that are full of practical steps and skill that will immediately help your relationship take a giant leap forward.
EXPERT GUIDE
Your guide on this journey of love, Dr. Lynda Spann, will help you accelerate your relationship growth and transformation. So that you can be the happiest couple in the room, again.
Lynda is the perfect guide for this exploration. Not because she has a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, but because she’s walked in your shoes. She’s lived through the pain of a failing relationship and has now discovered the map for how to have a joy-filled, secure, and thriving partnership with her wife, Lisa.
Lynda has helped hundreds of couples like you get unstuck and create the relationship that they crave.
TLC WILL HELP YOU TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF LONELINESS, FRUSTRATION, AND HURT INTO ONE OF CONNECTION, JOY, AND SECURITY.
OR IF YOU’RE IN A RELATIVELY NEW RELATIONSHIP, TLC WILL SET YOU UP FOR LONG-TERM SUCCESS FROM THE GET-GO.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM THE TLC ONLINE COURSE:
First and foremost, TLC is not a theory class on love.
This is a hands-on, experiential, fun program that delivers real, lasting results. Please don’t mistake our easy system for a temporary band-aid.
In the TLC course, you’ll learn foundational concepts, do fun exercises together, and master new skills and techniques that will lead to massive relationship growth and permanent change.
You’ll start feeling better immediately. And you’ll get to the level of being a thriving couple, fast!
That’s because our TLC course curriculum is designed to be easier, faster, and more effective than traditional, theoretical learning.
The TLC course has been developed and honed over many years. It is a tried, tested, and proven system that delivers consistent, rapid, effective results.
Hoping and praying that things will get better in your relationship hasn’t worked. And therapy is expensive, often inconvenient, and takes a long time.
You’re lucky to have found us and to now know that there’s a better alternative to get your relationship on track to thrive.
This TLC course gives you practical tools and skills you can use right now to easily shift your relationship to the one you’re craving.
BY THE END OF OUR 10 WEEKS YOU’RE MOST IMPORTANT TAKE-AWAYS WILL BE:
Seeing The Gleam In Your Partner’s Eye, Again
Feeling The Joy Of Daily Connection
Becoming A Power-team
Knowing Exactly How To Help Each Other When Triggered
Ninja Communication Skills (That Will Help You Talk About Even The Hard Stuff And Feel Closer)
Confidence For The Journey Ahead
Lot’s And Lot’s Of Fun And Adventure Along The Way!
“This program has given us “us” back, we really do like each other and we really do want to be the best versions of ourselves together as a couple for the many years to come. Without TLC, this would not be possible.” – Former TLC Member
WHAT YOU’LL GET WHEN YOU ENROLL IN TLC…
Welcome Packet:
As soon as you enroll in the TLC coaching program, you will receive a welcome email to help you make the most out of the training, and fully prepare for the 10 weeks ahead. It will include:
Access to your Private Membership Site library and course
Strategies on how to cultivate the right mindset to create the relationship of your dreams
Organizational tips to maximize success and get the most out of the program
For 10 weeks, you will receive:
Five practical, effective relationship training modules with video lessons, recorded so you and your partner can have access anytime, for 10 weeks.
Five uniquely designed workbooks, full of exercises, writing prompts, worksheets, and tracking tools so that you and your partner can take your relationship to the next level.
THE FIVE TRAINING MODULES INCLUDE…
MODULE 1: FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
MODULE 2: BRAIN MATTERS
MODULE 3: ROOTS TO RELIEF
MODULE 4: FIND AND DEFINE YOUR EDGES
MODULE 5: THE A-HA! OF RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION: MAINTAINING EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FOR LIFE
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS…
How much time can I expect this course to take?
Each week, you’ll have a training module with several short videos for you and your partner to watch. Combined, hey add up to be about one hour of total viewing time per module.
You’ll have a workbook (to work through together) with homework exercises for each module. Homework shouldn’t take more than 1 or 2 hours a week.
My partner doesn’t want to take this course. Can I take it by myself?
The TLC course is designed for couples, with practices for the two of you to do together. If she is resistant, just see if she’s willing to do a 15minute breakthrough session with you and Lynda. Sometimes resistant partners decide to join once they talk to Lynda and see how TLC can benefit them.
Do we both have to pay tuition?
No! Your tuition includes both of you.
What if we buy this program and find out it’s not for us? Will we get a refund? Yes! I offer a 100% 90-day guarantee. As long as you complete the entire program (watch all the videos and complete all of the Workbooks) within 90 days, if you aren’t satisfied with your relationship results, I will refund your entire investment.
I don’t live in the United States…can I participate?
Yes! All you need is to be fluent in English and an internet connection.
Will my insurance pay for this course?
Unfortunately, no. Like gym memberships and other services that promote your well-being, a relationship course is not a service that the health insurance industry has chosen to cover.
Do you offer payment plans?
Yes.
What if I have more questions about the course?
We’d be happy to answer any further questions you may have! Email to get in touch.
If you’re a lesbian couple that’s 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship and you’re ready for a proven plan to REAL change, this TLC Online Course is for you! Can’t wait to see you inside the TLC Course!
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
Lesbian Couples Therapist In Denver, CO
Hello! I’m Lynda Spann
WHY DID I CHOOSE TO OPEN A DENVER COUNSELING PRACTICE AND A WORLDWIDE RELATIONSHIP COACHING PROGRAM AS AN OPENLY LESBIAN THERAPIST?
I learned how to love in a way that freed me to be my true self. You can too! I explored and found deep connection (and community) through curiosity and quality self-reflection.
Through sometimes difficult and challenging exploration, I myself discovered the courage to speak my truth with my own partner and in my life, to move forward with authenticity and living out loud.
This allowed me and my partner Lisa to co-create a deeply connected love relationship that is a safe place from which I can explore myself as well as the big, alive world with complete curiosity and trust.
I have been called to explore and discover the path to deep, secure, love. And to be a “Guide on the Side” of lesbian couples that are stuck on their own love path — needing help exploring new directions and discovering the equipment and skills that will make their love journey epic.
Lesbian Couples Have Unique Struggles
Almost all couples have relationship struggles at one time or another. But when you’re a lesbian, bi, or queer woman in a relationship with another woman, it can feel extra lonely when your relationship isn’t going well. Immense loneliness. Like walking through the Sahara desert. Sola. Who can you talk to (and get solid help from) when you and your partner are arguing all the time? Or when you’re so disconnected that you aren’t spooning anymore before you fall asleep? Or when you’re on the brink of a break up because even though you love each other, you’re not in love anymore?
Not usually family. It can be way awkward and mighty risky to talk to your parents or siblings. And if you do talk to them, at the end of the conversation you’ll probably feel completely misunderstood. Plus there are those giant odds that they’ll never be happy with your partner again. And that just creates a whole new can of worms.
What about talking to friends? If you’re older than 19, I bet you’ve learned that talking to your friends about your relationship problems can go South, fast! You know how your lesbian and gay circle of friends is so tight-knit? Well…there’s a good side to that and a bad side. If you share too much about the things going wrong in your relationship, you’ll end up with a circle of drama, instead of a circle of friends. (Don’t ever say I didn’t warn you!)
You can speak your truth both inside and outside your relationship and still be safe and secure. You can become the happiest couple you know.”
A Lesbian Therapist might be just what your relationship needs
Maybe you and your partner tried working with a marriage therapist. One that proudly advertises that they work with all people. Including heterosexual and LGBTQ couples.
You can tell by their website and their profile on Psychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist that they are as straight as an arrow. They say they’re open-minded and accepting of all people. And they may be.
But that doesn’t mean they really “get” you. It can be exasperating to trust someone with your time, money, and relationship only to find that things don’t change.
If you’re just hanging onto your relationship by a thin strand of hope, I want you to know that I created the Lesbian Couples Institute for you.
For more than two decades, I had a very successful marriage therapy practice where the vast majority of the couples I worked with (about 95%) were straight.
Don’t get me wrong. I really enjoyed that work and I feel great about helping to save hundreds of marriages.
But…
I began to feel a bit out of alignment. I yearned for permission to be open, out, and completely myself. And I started to have a big, strong, passionate desire to help my peeps. To help my community (of women who love women) to have thriving intimate relationships.
Permission granted! By me, of course.
In early 2018 my partner, Lisa, and I decided move to Denver so that I could open a counseling and coaching center for lesbian couples. Within a few months of making that decision, the Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI) was born. I’m a very proud mama!
You don’t have to feel so alone. And uncertain about the future of your relationship any longer.
I (and all the counselors at LCI) have walked in your shoes. I don’t just think I understand you and your relationship because I read a book, or took a seminar on working with LGBTQ couples, or watched one Indy Lesbian flick. No.
I am “family.” I understand your life because I’ve lived it.
Don’t put yourself through the agony of going to a couples counselor that doesn’t get the U-haul joke, or that you’d be mortified to talk to about your sex life, or that thinks one of you is the “guy” in the relationship.
“You’re our last hope” is something I frequently hear from new lesbian couples. No matter whether you’re struggling with infidelity, the chill of disconnection, terrible communication, or constant conflict, I can help.
Life can be profoundly rich when you’re in a good relationship. I want to help you have that. I want to help you feel secure and happy, like “I found my person!”
My hope is that we rediscover you already have her right in front of you.
I’M READY TO HELP. JUST GIVE ME A CALL.
If you’ve got a thread of hope tugging at your heart, and you’re willing to be courageous enough to give your relationship one last shot, call me. Freedom and fun are just a phone call away. Call me now.
Online Group Coaching For Lesbian Couples
TLC (TRANSFORMING LESBIAN COUPLES):
AN ONLINE RELATIONSHIP PROGRAM FOR LESBIAN COUPLES THAT ARE READY TO THRIVE!
You can take your relationship from struggling, disconnected and stuck to happy, secure and thriving in just 10 weeks!
Apply Now!
THIS PROGRAM HAS TWO COMPONENTS!
An On-Demand, From Anywhere Relationship Transformation Training Course
Weekly Group Coaching Events with Online Interaction with Other Couples Led by Dr. Lynda Spann!
TLC (Transforming Lesbian Couples) is for lesbian couples who are 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship for good.
Because of that, TLC is by application only.
Act fast, this popular program fills up quickly. Secure your spot now. Only 10 couples accepted at a time.
(In the pages that follow, you’ll find information about why this program is right for you and your partner, as well as a link to view a masterclass video. Once completed, you will be able to schedule a complimentary introductory call with Dr. Spann in order to qualify for admission into the program).
LOVE IS A JOURNEY WE TAKE TOGETHER.
If you and your partner have found yourselves in need of help on your own relationship journey, then this is the program for you.
Designed by an expert Ph.D. level lesbian therapist with lesbian couples in mind.
This on-demand, available from anywhere course is ideal for busy couples to get the love and relationship coaching they need without the challenges of scheduling and keeping in-person appointments.
Are you in a lesbian relationship that feels listless, lonely, or like it’s moving in the direction of eventual collapse? Is there a part of you that longs to feel cherished and secure in a relationship that’s full of joy, fun, and love, again? This program takes you on a journey of rediscovery and renewal that will have you feeling like the happiest couple in the room. Again.
If your relationship disconnection or distress has gone on for a while, there’s a good chance that either you or your partner are questioning if you’re “right” for each other.
You may be lying awake at night replaying unresolved arguments, feeling alone and misunderstood, or worrying that your relationship is teetering on the edge of a steep cliff.
You’re hesitant to even let yourself imagine feeling alive and in love with your partner, again.
At the same time, you’re looking for a thread of hope that you will have a future together that’s full of adventure, nurturance, attention, and the ease of being exquisitely tuned-in to one another.
Sometimes you let yourself imagine a relationship that thrives with heartfelt connection, spirited discussions, playful affection, shared goals, and deep vulnerability. True intimacy.
Mostly, you feel sad about the distance between the two of you. And you’re exhausted and depleted from the negative cycle that neither of you have been able to stop.
You want nothing more than to stop walking on egg-shells, to feel safe again, and to travel through life with the woman you fell in love with. Deep inside, you dream of relationship growth and transformation.
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or pain, TLC provides a clear path to relief, reconnection and resolving your problems quickly.
You Crave…
Great conversations where you both feel understood, and closer than when you started talking
Easily connecting emotionally, affectionately, and sensually
Knowing that your partner understands, accepts, and adores you
The ease of talking about even tough issues without fighting, blaming, stonewalling, or getting defensive
Balancing closeness and independence
An atmosphere of humor, laughter, and playfulness
To be on the same page about goals and dreams
Looking forward to spending the evening with your partner
A spirit of ongoing friendliness, appreciation, and gratitude
Both of you making your relationship the number one priority
Understanding how to help one another feel soothed and relieved when upset
Knowing, deep in your bones, that nothing can shake your intimate connection
“Dr Spann was very professional while being personable and relatable. Her level of expertise made us know that we were in the right place. Dr Spann had a large toolbox from which to recommend exercises and other ideas, allowing us to try a variety of therapeutic activities.” – Former Client
Maybe you’ve searched everywhere for help and can’t find a lesbian who specializes in couple’s therapy.
Your search is over!
Are you craving love and reconnection?
The TLC coaching course has been carefully designed to help you get your cravings met!
Apply Now!
YOU’RE PROBABLY FRUSTRATED, SAD AND LONELY IF …
Nothing you’ve tried has worked. Even though you’ve been working on this for months or years, not much has changed.
Perhaps you:
Have been avoiding arguments to the point that you’re hardly talking about anything meaningful
Feel hopeless about ever learning how to communicate so that you’ll feel heard and understood
Are tired of juggling life, work, and other responsibilities and barely have time for fun or intimacy anymore
Act more like roommates or business partners— sharing routine and practical chores— but nothing pulls at your heartstrings anymore
Have tried couples therapy, which seemed to briefly help, but things just went back to how they were…and you’re starting to feel that your relationship is beyond repair
Keep reading the latest “communication” tips to solve disagreements, but nothing seems to work long term.
If you’re feeling alone on your journey of love, strapped for time, and don’t know how to repair and rebuild your relationship…but know in your heart you both deserve more… this is the coaching program for you.
Stop settling for a stagnant relationship.
Let’s take this love journey together. So that you can rediscover your passion for each other, again.
THIS TLC COACHING PROGRAM IS FOR LESBIAN COUPLES WHO:
Have been together beyond the initial honeymoon stage
Still love each other, but are feeling distressed and disconnected
Want to grow individually and together
Have read self-help books, tried or thought of therapy, dabbled with date nights, and are still not thriving
Want their relationship to grow and are willing to do the work to make that happen
Understand that an investment in their relationship is an investment in their overall well-being
Are unwilling to give up on their relationship without an honest try
Have struggled to make progress on their own and are ready to get help from an expert guide who has spent years discovering the exact steps for a successful journey of love
WHO THE TLC PROGRAM IS NOT FOR:
Heterosexual couples or gay men couples
Lesbian couples hoping for a quick fix or magical bullet and are unwilling to put in the work
Couples where one of you is stuck in the blame game, not taking your share of responsibility in creating change
Lesbian couples who believe they can DIY their way out of this
Couples where an ongoing affair, domestic violence, untreated addiction, or mental illness are present
One or both partners are not willing to give their all to the process of creating thriving, lasting love
Apply Now!
THE TLC COACHING PROGRAM IS A PROVEN LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION TRAINING COURSE.
It’s the quickest, most effective way to learn to relate to each other with greater connection, less conflict, and more joy.
With this step-by-step system you won’t fail. Even if you’ve tried therapy before and you’re at a loss for creating lasting relationship growth.
In this TLC course, you’ll discover the path to a thriving intimate partnership with a knowledgeable guide on your side.
During the TLC 10-week coaching course you’ll get the tools and skills you need to…
Reconnect with your partner instantly
Become a happy and effective team
Understand each of your relationship dance styles
Stop a fight before it starts
Communicate so you both feel understood
Repair and heal
Embody brave vulnerability and steady curiosity
Grow individually and together
TLC is not a flimsy, feel-good class with empty promises. It’s a thoughtfully designed, carefully engineered relationship skill-building system that will help even the most stuck couples succeed.
The reason why?
CLEARLY MAPPED STEP-BY-STEP JOURNEY
It’s like having a relationship GPS at your fingertips. You’ll be coached every step of the way. With each lesson logically flowing from the last.
USER-FRIENDLY TOOLS FOR SUCCESS
Experience immediate results when you have the right tools, tricks, and techniques. And don’t worry, these things are easy to master.
EASE OF AN AT-HOME METHOD
Watch the video lessons on your time-table from the comfort of your home. Then hop on your computer for a weekly group coaching session with other lesbian couples that get you.
COMMUNITY SUPPORT
No longer feel isolated and alone in your relationship journey. You’ll be getting support from other lesbian couples that are growth-oriented and learning to thrive.
MANAGEABLE LESSONS
You won’t be overwhelmed or drained. In fact you’ll be invigorated by the bite-sized training videos that are full of practical steps and skill that will immediately help your relationship take a giant leap forward.
EXPERT GUIDE
Your guide on this journey of love, Dr. Lynda Spann, will help you accelerate your relationship growth and transformation. So that you can be the happiest couple in the room, again.
Apply Now!
Lynda is the perfect guide for this exploration. Not because she has a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, but because she’s walked in your shoes. She’s lived through the pain of a failing relationship and has now discovered the map for how to have a joy-filled, secure, and thriving partnership with her wife, Lisa.
Lynda has helped hundreds of couples like you get unstuck and create the relationship that they crave.
TLC WILL HELP YOU TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF LONELINESS, FRUSTRATION, AND HURT INTO ONE OF CONNECTION, JOY, AND SECURITY.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM THE TLC COACHING PROGRAM:
First and foremost, TLC is not a theory class on love.
This is a hands-on, experiential, fun program that delivers real, lasting results. Please don’t mistake our easy system for a temporary band-aid.
In the TLC coaching program you’ll learn foundational concepts, do fun exercises together, and master new skills and techniques that will lead to massive relationship growth and permanent change.
You’ll start feeling better immediately. And you’ll get to the level of being a thriving couple, fast! That’s because our TLC course curriculum and coaching is designed to be easier, faster, and more effective than traditional, theoretical learning.
The TLC program has been developed and honed over many years. It is a tried, tested, and proven system that delivers consistent, rapid, effective results.
Hoping and praying that things will get better in your relationship hasn’t worked. And therapy is expensive, often inconvenient, and takes a long time.
You’re lucky to have found us and to now know that there’s a better alternative to get your relationship on track to thrive.
This TLC coaching program gives you practical tools and skills you can use right now to easily shift your relationship to the one you’re craving.
BY THE END OF OUR 10 WEEKS YOU’RE MOST IMPORTANT TAKE-AWAYS WILL BE:
Seeing The Gleam In Your Partner’s Eye, Again
Feeling The Nourishment And Joy Of Daily Connection
Becoming A Power-team
Knowing Exactly How To Help Each Other When Triggered
Ninja Communication Skills (That Will Help You Talk About Even The Hard Stuff And Feel Closer)
Confidence For The Journey Ahead
Lot’s And Lot’s Of Fun And Adventure Along The Way!
“We loved that she provided a safe and welcoming space for us instantly. We felt open to sharing and she provided wonderful exercises for us to practice. She brought us closer together and we are very grateful.” – Former Client
Apply Now!
WHAT YOU’LL GET…
Welcome Packet:
As soon as you enroll in the TLC coaching program, you will receive a welcome packet to help you make the most out of the training, and fully prepare for the 10 weeks ahead. It will include:
A two questionnaire assessment that will help us get to know you better
Strategies on how to cultivate the right mindset to create the relationship of your dreams
Organizational tips to maximize success and get the most out of the program
For 10 weeks, you will receive:
Five practical, effective relationship teaching modules with video lessons, recorded so you can have access anytime, forever.
Five uniquely designed workbooks, full of exercises, writing prompts, worksheets, and tracking tools to take your relationship to the next level.
Ten LIVE online two-hour Group Coaching sessions, where you and your partner will receive coaching with Dr. Lynda Spann, to address your unique challenges and breakthroughs for that week.
This is one of the most powerful components of this program, where you get live coaching to help you move past any blocks and fully integrate the lessons from the week that you are in. PLUS you get to learn from other couples who are working through situations that you can learn from. These calls are full of amazing breakthroughs. You’ll love them and gain so much from them.
Full email access to Lynda Spann for 10 weeks. Submit your questions directly to Lynda for personalized help.
Access to our secret Facebook group: A 10-week private and exclusive Facebook forum to connect with other lesbian couples going through the course. Share tips and get questions answered and get support for your journey. Plus, additional access to Dr. Lynda Spann by posting your questions in the private forum.
Modules and Lessons…
MODULE 1: FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
MODULE 2: BRAIN MATTERS
MODULE 3: ROOTS TO RELIEF
MODULE 4: FIND AND DEFINE YOUR EDGES
MODULE 5: THE A-HA! OF RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION: MAINTAINING EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FOR LIFE
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Is this couples therapy? No. Even though Lynda is a licensed therapist, this is a coaching program and she will only be functioning as a relationship coach.
How much time can I expect this course to take? Each week, you’ll have a training module with several short videos to watch which add up to be about one hour of total viewing time.
There will be a weekly 2 hour live coaching call via Zoom.
You will have a workbook with homework exercises for each module. Homework shouldn’t take more than 1 or 2 hours a week.
My partner doesn’t want to take this course. Can I take it by myself? The TLC program is designed for couples, with practices for the two of you to do together. If she is resistant, just see if she’s willing to do a 45minute breakthrough session with you and Lynda. Sometimes resistant partners decide to join once they talk to Lynda and see how TLC can benefit them.
My partner and I may not both be free at the time of the coaching call. What should we do? Attending the live coaching calls is highly recommended. However, we understand that you may not be able to make every single one of them.
Do we both have to pay tuition? No! Your tuition includes both of you.
What if we buy this program and find out it’s not for us? Will we get a refund? I do not offer a refund. As in everything worth having in life, your results are totally dependent on your hard work, commitment, motivation, where your relationship is at when you join, and many other factors. We will explore all this and more during the Relationship Breakthrough call. I promise I will not invite you to join if for any reason, I feel this program is not right for you – it would not serve either of us to do so.
I don’t live in the United States…can I participate? Yes! All you need is to be fluent in English, an internet connection, and a webcam!
Will my insurance pay for this coaching course? Unfortunately, no. Like gym memberships and other services that promote your well-being, coaching is not a service that the health insurance industry has chosen to cover.
Do you offer payment plans? Yes.
What if I have more questions about the course? We’d be happy to answer any further questions you may have! Email to get in touch.
Apply Now!
IF YOU’RE A LESBIAN COUPLE THAT’S 100% COMMITTED TO CREATING A JOYFUL, SECURE, THRIVING RELATIONSHIP AND YOU’RE READY FOR A PROVEN PLAN TO REAL CHANGE, THEN WE CAN HELP YOU!
YOU CAN BOOK A FREE COACHING CALL WITH DR. LYNDA SPANN TO DISCUSS A STRATEGIC PLAN THAT LAYS THE FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL, RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION.
***TO ACCESS THIS CALL, PLEASE FIRST WATCH LYNDA SPANN’S FREE MASTERCLASS BELOW:
Watch Now.
The 5 Steps My Lesbian Clients Take to Prevent a Breakup, Reconnect, and Build a Thriving Relationship
During This Online Class You’ll Learn How…
The ONE skill you need to instantly reconnect with each other.
The SOLUTION to your brain reflex that’s sabotaging your relationship peace.
The SECRET to getting loads more of what you crave from your partner.
The BIG shift that will take your relationship from ho-hum to yippie!
The SIMPLE steps to create the happiest relationship you’ve ever had (even if you’ve tried couples counseling previously and it didn’t work).….and how to do all of this while rekindling the love and passion you had in the beginning of your relationship.
Our proven method does work!
Watch Now.
How To Manage Fears And Cravings In Your Relationship
Are you stuck in fear?
If you’re like a lot of women in same-sex relationships, your fears are probably keeping you from having the courage to share your cravings with your partner. And maybe even with yourself.
Without knowing and expressing your desires to your partner, you risk ending up with a shallow, listless, stagnant relationship and life. Yuck!
Fears are normal feelings. But left to run amok, they can rob you of joy, creativity, and designing a life that satisfies your cravings.
You can get unstuck from your paralyzing fears and move toward what you crave by having the guts to do a simple exercise with your partner.
I invite you to speak your truth. Give one another a valuable gift, today, by sharing your fears and cravings in a non-threatening way.
Carve out some time to have a real talk about your fears and cravings. Take turns. And practice both sides of good communication:
Steady vulnerability (when you’re the one opening up)
Radical curiosity (when you’re listening to your partner)
When you’re the one sharing your feelings, do this:
TALK ABOUT YOUR FEARS
Share all of them. Even if they seem contradictory. And don’t just hit the surface. Go deeper into your fears…what they’re attached to, how they feel in your body, what they make you think about yourself.
TALK ABOUT YOUR CRAVINGS
Yep. Be brave! Share your desires, wants, fantasies, and every craving you can think of. Let your partner know the details of what you crave. Remember you’re not asking her to solve anything. There’s value in discovering what you desire.
TELL YOUR PARTNER ONE THING YOU’D LIKE TO HEAR HER SAY
What is something you’d really like to hear your babe tell you? What would make you feel loved, safe, accepted? Let her know what you’d love to hear her say. Then listen to those words and take them in.
After you’ve shared your fears, cravings, and something you want to hear your partner say to you, it’s her turn to do the same.
This exercise is a gift because it will lighten the burden of fear, give you hope and vision for the future, and offer each other soothing reassurance.
If you need more help, call me for an appointment.
11 Tips To Lower Lgbtq Mental Health Risks
I have had the desire, for some time now, to share my thoughts on a topic that often gets swept under the rug. As a therapist, I know firsthand the impact an individual’s mental health can have on their life and their relationships.
And in the LGBTQ community, we need to address mental health (and what we can do to help) early on before we are in crisis. We must be proactive in treating and caring for our mental health as well as destigmatizing the topic altogether.
Our community faces so many obstacles and so much scrutiny as a minority group already. It’s no wonder so many of our peers are afraid to talk about or address their mental health concerns and their need for mental health care.
Below I share 11 things we can do to address LGBTQ mental health – both within therapy and even through policy and societal changes. I also suggest things parents can do when their children are young to create an open and affirming family culture. In turn, this provides a healthy and safe environment to prevent them from ever feeling afraid to come out or alone in their struggles with mental health
11 Ways To Lower The Mental Health Risks In The LGBTQ Community
At a Social and Family level, work diligently to end the stigma and reduce fears in asking for help with mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, suicidal feelings, and shame.
Create a nationwide education initiative (TV, Radio, Schools, Social Media) to teach about the negative impact of rejection, trauma, and isolation for LGBTQ youth (increased mental health issues) AND to teach parents, grandparents, teachers, doctors (adults) how to talk to children about sexual and gender identity in a way that is loving, accepting and affirming.
Parents, read LGBTQ affirming books to your babies and toddlers and speak positively to them about the community.
Parents, take your children to PRIDE festivities starting at a young age.
Parents, tell your children “I love you exactly as you are.” Period. Never tell an LGBTQ child “I love you even though your…”
Older LGBTQ people, make it a point to mentor and support younger LGBTQ folks. They are struggling.
Ensure that all LGBTQ-phobic bullying, harassment, and hate crimes victims are being treated in the same way that a privileged, heteronormative victim would be treated.
Encourage (through funding) LGBTQ mental health solutions research.
Require an LGBTQ cultural-competency curriculum for all medical, counseling/therapy, and education training programs.
Mandate and fund continuing education programs that teach LGBTQ cultural competency for primary care doctors, counselors, therapists, educators, public health providers, and others who serve humanity.
Develop and circulate education programs that teach LGBTQ cultural competency for pastors, priests, churches, synagogues, religious institutions, and bible colleges.
As a community, we have the power to lower the mental health risks and outcomes for LGBTQ youth and adults. Let’s work together to make the necessary family culture, societal, educational, and policy changes. Our community’s mental health depends on it!
Online Relationship Course for Lesbian Couples
TLC IS A PROVEN RELATIONSHIP COURSE FOR LESBIAN COUPLES THAT WANT MORE CONNECTION AND BETTER COMMUNICATION!
Ready to take your relationship from disconnected, misunderstood, and stuck to reconnected, happy, and alive? You can make your relationship thrive, again, in just 10 weeks!
Or are you in a newish relationship, and you both want to break the old patterns of blah, painful, or failed relationships from your past? By committing to this 10-week course you will create a strong foundation of security so that you’ll have confidence that this one will last!
THIS COURSE IS DESIGNED FOR BUSY COUPLES THAT KNOW THEY NEED EXPERT GUIDANCE TO CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP THEY LONG FOR.
Best of all, TLC is An On-Demand, From Anywhere Relationship Transformation Training Course.
You can be in your pj’s eating popcorn when you work on your relationship! It doesn’t get easier than that.
The TLC Course is for lesbian couples who are BOTH 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship for good.
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
Is this relationship transformation course right for you and your partner? Keep reading…
Love is a Journey we take together.
If you and your partner find yourselves in need of some help on your own relationship journey, then this is the course for you.
It was carefully designed by an expert Ph.D. level lesbian marriage therapist (Dr. Lynda Spann) with lesbian couples in mind.
This on-demand, available from anywhere course is ideal for busy couples to get the love and relationship training they need without the challenges of scheduling and keeping in-person appointments.
Are you in a lesbian relationship that feels lonely, listless, or on the brink? Is there a part of you that longs to feel cherished and secure in a relationship that’s full of joy, fun and love, again?
This course takes you on a journey of rediscovery and renewal that will have you feeling like the happiest couple in the room. Again.
Are either you or your partner questioning if you’re “right” for each other because your relationship is so bankrupt?
Do you lay awake at night replaying unresolved arguments, feeling alone and misunderstood, or worrying that your relationship is teetering on the edge of a steep cliff?
Hesitant to even let yourself imagine feeling alive and in love with your partner, again?
Yet you’re looking for a thread of hope that you will have a future together that’s full of adventure, nurturance, attention, and the ease of being exquisitely tuned-in to one another.
I hope you can let yourself imagine a relationship that thrives with heartfelt connection, spirited discussions, playful affection, shared goals, and deep vulnerability. True intimacy.
Chances are you mostly feel sad about the distance between the two of you. And you’re exhausted and depleted from the negative cycle that neither of you have been able to stop.
You want nothing more than to stop walking on egg-shells, to feel safe again, and to travel through life with the woman you fell in love with.
Deep inside, you dream of relationship growth and transformation.
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or pain, TLC provides a clear path to relief, reconnection and resolving your problems quickly.
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
You Crave…
Great conversations where you both feel understood, and closer than when you started talking
Easily connecting emotionally, affectionately, and sensually
Knowing that your partner understands, accepts, and adores you
The ease of talking about even tough issues without fighting, blaming, stonewalling, or getting defensive
Balancing closeness and independence
An atmosphere of humor, laughter, and playfulness
To be on the same page about goals and dreams
Looking forward to spending the evening with your partner
A spirit of ongoing friendliness, appreciation, and gratitude
Both of you making your relationship the number one priority
Understanding how to help one another feel soothed and relieved when upset
Knowing, deep in your bones, that nothing can shake your intimate connection
“Dr. Spann was very professional while being personable and relatable. Her level of expertise made us know that we were in the right place. Dr. Spann had a large toolbox from which to recommend exercises and other ideas, allowing us to try a variety of therapeutic activities.” – Former TLC Student
Maybe you’ve searched everywhere for help and can’t find a lesbian who specializes in couples therapy or relationship coaching.
Your search is over!
Are you craving love and reconnection?
The TLC coaching course has been carefully designed to help you get your cravings met!
YOU’RE PROBABLY FRUSTRATED, SAD AND LONELY IF …
Nothing you’ve tried has worked. Even though you’ve been working on this for months or years, not much has changed.
Perhaps you:
Have been avoiding arguments to the point that you’re hardly talking about anything meaningful
Feel hopeless about ever learning how to communicate so that you’ll feel heard and understood
Are tired of juggling life, work, and other responsibilities and barely have time for fun or intimacy anymore
Act more like roommates or business partners— sharing routine and practical chores— but nothing pulls at your heartstrings anymore
Have tried couples therapy, which seemed to briefly help, but things just went back to how they were…and you’re starting to feel that your relationship is beyond repair
Keep reading the latest “communication” tips to solve disagreements, but nothing seems to work long term.
If you’re feeling alone on your journey of love, strapped for time, and don’t know how to repair and rebuild your relationship…but know in your heart you both deserve more… this is the relationship course for you.
Stop settling for a stagnant relationship!
Let’s take this love journey together. So that you can rediscover your passion for each other, again.
THIS TLC ONLINE COURSE IS FOR LESBIAN COUPLES WHO:
Have been together beyond the initial honeymoon stage
Still love each other, but are feeling distressed and disconnected
Are in a newish relationship and want to get it right this time
Want to grow individually and together
Have read self-help books, tried or thought of therapy, dabbled with date nights, and are still not thriving
Want their relationship to grow and are willing to do the work to make that happen
Understand that an investment in their relationship is an investment in their overall well-being
Are unwilling to give up on their relationship without an honest try
Have struggled to make progress on their own and are ready to get help from an expert guide who has spent years discovering the exact steps for a successful journey of love
WHO THE TLC ONLINE COURSE IS NOT FOR:
Heterosexual couples or gay men couples
Lesbian couples hoping for a quick fix or magical bullet and are unwilling to put in the work
Couples where one of you is stuck in the blame game, not taking your share of responsibility in creating change
Lesbian couples who believe they can figure it out on their own
Couples where an ongoing affair, domestic violence, untreated addiction, or mental illness are present
One or both partners are not willing to give their all to the process of creating thriving, lasting love
THE TLC ONLINE COURSE IS A PROVEN LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION TRAINING PROGRAM.
It’s the quickest, most effective way to learn to relate to each other with greater connection, less conflict, and more joy.
With this step-by-step system you won’t fail. Even if you’ve tried therapy before and you’re at a loss for creating lasting relationship growth.
In this TLC course, you’ll discover the path to a thriving intimate partnership with a knowledgeable guide on your side every step of the way.
During the TLC 10-week course you’ll get the tools and skills you need to…
Reconnect with your partner instantly
Become a happy and effective team
Understand each of your relationship dance styles
Stop a fight before it starts
Communicate so you both feel understood
Repair and heal
Embody brave vulnerability and steady curiosity
Grow individually and together
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
TLC is not a flimsy, feel-good class with empty promises. It’s a thoughtfully designed, carefully engineered relationship skill-building system that will help even the most stuck couples succeed.
The reason why?
CLEARLY MAPPED STEP-BY-STEP JOURNEY
It’s like having a relationship GPS at your fingertips. You’ll be guided every step of the way. With each lesson logically flowing from the last.
USER-FRIENDLY TOOLS FOR SUCCESS
Experience immediate results when you have the right tools, tricks, and techniques. And don’t worry, these things are easy to master.
EASE OF AN AT-HOME METHOD
Watch the video lessons on your time-table from the comfort of your home. Then find snippets of time when the two of you can do the workbook exercises together.
MANAGEABLE LESSONS
You won’t be overwhelmed or drained. In fact you’ll be invigorated by the bite-sized training videos that are full of practical steps and skill that will immediately help your relationship take a giant leap forward.
EXPERT GUIDE
Your guide on this journey of love, Dr. Lynda Spann, will help you accelerate your relationship growth and transformation. So that you can be the happiest couple in the room, again.
Lynda is the perfect guide for this exploration. Not because she has a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, but because she’s walked in your shoes. She’s lived through the pain of a failing relationship and has now discovered the map for how to have a joy-filled, secure, and thriving partnership with her wife, Lisa.
Lynda has helped hundreds of couples like you get unstuck and create the relationship that they crave.
TLC WILL HELP YOU TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF LONELINESS, FRUSTRATION, AND HURT INTO ONE OF CONNECTION, JOY, AND SECURITY.
OR IF YOU’RE IN A RELATIVELY NEW RELATIONSHIP, TLC WILL SET YOU UP FOR LONG-TERM SUCCESS FROM THE GET-GO.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM THE TLC ONLINE COURSE:
First and foremost, TLC is not a theory class on love.
This is a hands-on, experiential, fun program that delivers real, lasting results. Please don’t mistake our easy system for a temporary band-aid.
In the TLC course, you’ll learn foundational concepts, do fun exercises together, and master new skills and techniques that will lead to massive relationship growth and permanent change.
You’ll start feeling better immediately. And you’ll get to the level of being a thriving couple, fast!
That’s because our TLC course curriculum is designed to be easier, faster, and more effective than traditional, theoretical learning.
The TLC course has been developed and honed over many years. It is a tried, tested, and proven system that delivers consistent, rapid, effective results.
Hoping and praying that things will get better in your relationship hasn’t worked. And therapy is expensive, often inconvenient, and takes a long time.
You’re lucky to have found us and to now know that there’s a better alternative to get your relationship on track to thrive.
This TLC course gives you practical tools and skills you can use right now to easily shift your relationship to the one you’re craving.
BY THE END OF OUR 10 WEEKS YOU’RE MOST IMPORTANT TAKE-AWAYS WILL BE:
Seeing The Gleam In Your Partner’s Eye, Again
Feeling The Joy Of Daily Connection
Becoming A Power-team
Knowing Exactly How To Help Each Other When Triggered
Ninja Communication Skills (That Will Help You Talk About Even The Hard Stuff And Feel Closer)
Confidence For The Journey Ahead
Lot’s And Lot’s Of Fun And Adventure Along The Way!
“This program has given us “us” back, we really do like each other and we really do want to be the best versions of ourselves together as a couple for the many years to come. Without TLC, this would not be possible.” – Former TLC Member
WHAT YOU’LL GET WHEN YOU ENROLL IN TLC…
Welcome Packet:
As soon as you enroll in the TLC coaching program, you will receive a welcome email to help you make the most out of the training, and fully prepare for the 10 weeks ahead. It will include:
Access to your Private Membership Site library and course
Strategies on how to cultivate the right mindset to create the relationship of your dreams
Organizational tips to maximize success and get the most out of the program
For 10 weeks, you will receive:
Five practical, effective relationship training modules with video lessons, recorded so you and your partner can have access anytime, for 10 weeks.
Five uniquely designed workbooks, full of exercises, writing prompts, worksheets, and tracking tools so that you and your partner can take your relationship to the next level.
THE FIVE TRAINING MODULES INCLUDE…
MODULE 1: FOUNDATION FOR RADICAL RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
MODULE 2: BRAIN MATTERS
MODULE 3: ROOTS TO RELIEF
MODULE 4: FIND AND DEFINE YOUR EDGES
MODULE 5: THE A-HA! OF RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION: MAINTAINING EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FOR LIFE
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS…
How much time can I expect this course to take?
Each week, you’ll have a training module with several short videos for you and your partner to watch. Combined, hey add up to be about one hour of total viewing time per module.
You’ll have a workbook (to work through together) with homework exercises for each module. Homework shouldn’t take more than 1 or 2 hours a week.
My partner doesn’t want to take this course. Can I take it by myself?
The TLC course is designed for couples, with practices for the two of you to do together. If she is resistant, just see if she’s willing to do a 15minute breakthrough session with you and Lynda. Sometimes resistant partners decide to join once they talk to Lynda and see how TLC can benefit them.
Do we both have to pay tuition?
No! Your tuition includes both of you.
What if we buy this program and find out it’s not for us? Will we get a refund? Yes! I offer a 100% 90-day guarantee. As long as you complete the entire program (watch all the videos and complete all of the Workbooks) within 90 days, if you aren’t satisfied with your relationship results, I will refund your entire investment.
I don’t live in the United States…can I participate?
Yes! All you need is to be fluent in English and an internet connection.
Will my insurance pay for this course?
Unfortunately, no. Like gym memberships and other services that promote your well-being, a relationship course is not a service that the health insurance industry has chosen to cover.
Do you offer payment plans?
Yes.
What if I have more questions about the course?
We’d be happy to answer any further questions you may have! Email to get in touch.
If you’re a lesbian couple that’s 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship and you’re ready for a proven plan to REAL change, this TLC Online Course is for you! Can’t wait to see you inside the TLC Course!
PAY IN FULL ($977) 3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS($397 EACH)
Actionable Tips To Improve Your Relationship Today!
There are many things to think about when we want to improve our relationship. Sometimes so many that it can feel overwhelming! Listen to today’s show to learn some fast and easy tips you can do to improve right away!
In this episode with Dr. Lynda Spann, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
How to pivot into connection with your partner
Why you should not say, ” I love you”, to your partner today
How to shift your relationship into positivity
Fast and easy tip to improve your communication
How to instantly start listening better to your partner
A special message from Dr. Spann to the LGBTQ community
And much more!
Dr. Lynda Spann is a Denver-based relationship therapist and coaches couples all over the world through her online coaching program, as well as seeing lesbian couples in her office. With over 20 years experience as a licensed marriage therapist, Dr. Spann has worked with more than 600 couples. Since opening the Lesbian Couples Institute in 2018, she has had a success rate of 88 percent.
If you need more help, call me for an appointment.
Counseling For Lesbians in Colorado
Solution-focused lesbian couples therapy sessions for our LBGT community in Colorado.
Love is a journey, we take together.
At the Lesbian Couples Institute, we love helping lesbian couples and individual queer women get out of painful cycles that you’re stuck in, so you can finally enjoy life and love, again.
We know that life can turn ugly, stressful, and painful. Even when you’ve been doing everything you know how to do.
All of the counselors at LCI are lesbian or queer women who understand that relationships go sideways and life becomes stressful and overwhelming at times.
Creating a life and relationship that thrives isn’t easy. It is a journey, and journey’s require three things: A guide, tools, and commitment. We have the first two in abundance, you bring the commitment.
That work is so much easier and quicker when you have an expert showing you exactly how to achieve your goals.
Designing a personal life or a relationship where you manage stress easily, feel happy, and know deep in your gut that you’re on the right path is possible! Especially when you have a guide to help you when you’re stuck or lost.
Let us be your guide. We have a remarkable track record of success.
Get Started Now.
The counselors at The Lesbian Couples Institute understand from personal experience what it takes to make lasting changes.
And best of all, we know exactly how to help you and your partner learn the skills and develop the habits to create a happy and secure relationship and life.
Is it time for you to schedule Lesbian Couples Counseling?
First of all, if you’re researching couples therapy for your same-sex relationship, there’s a good chance it’s time you find a skilled lesbian couples counselor right away.
Here are some other indicators that you shouldn’t wait to go to Lesbian Couples Counseling:
The communication between you and your partner is terrible and you can’t seem to ever resolve things
You feel emotionally disconnected even when you’re on date night
You’re fighting with each other more often, or sometimes just not speaking at all
Either you’re or your partner is waking up thinking about ending the relationship
You dread coming home after work
You’re questioning if you really love your partner anymore, or if she loves you
There’s been an affair or a threat of an affair
You can hardly say anything without your partner getting upset, defensive, or withdrawn
One or both of you are feeling insecure a lot of the time
If you can relate to any of those statements, I’m here to tell you that you can have so much more.
I hope you’ll reach out and let one of our expert and non-judgmental counselor at LCI help you get your relationship back to on track.
Aren’t you tired of feeling upset, insecure, and unhappy?
Click the button below to find out how to get help.
Get Started Now.
Lesbian Couples Counseling can help you:
Learn to communicate so that you finally feel understood
Put your relationship first
Reconnect with each other quickly
Fall in love again
Resolve resentments and repair trust
Get back to feeling playful and having fun
Rekindle your passion
Create a secure relationship for life
At The Lesbian Couples Institute, we love helping lesbian couples get out of painful patterns and create amazing relationships.
We also know there are times that individual counseling is just what you need. Whether your partner is refusing to do lesbian couples counseling, or you are wanting to focus on your own “stuff” right now, we invite you to come to LCI for individual therapy with a lesbian or queer therapist.
Through compassionate and personalized guidance, one-on-one therapy can help you overcome the burdens that are weighing you down, stressing you out, and causing you pain.
Whether you’re suffering under the dark cloud of depression, you’re riddled with anxiety, you’re haunted by past trauma, you’re having relationship problems, or you’re just not feeling content, we can help.
You don’t have to stay stuck in your distress. Let us help you feel better about yourself, find inner peace, create self-confidence, and have secure relationships.
Get Started Now.
Benefits Of Individual Therapy For Lesbians:
Feel totally comfortable knowing your lesbian or queer therapist really “gets” you
Experience the freedom of being accepted just the way that you are
Learn effective coping skills that lower stress, fast
Find out how to climb out of the hole of depression
Discover proven ways to handle relationship issues
Learn how to manage your anxiety without meds
Finally heal from past traumas
Discover how to soothe yourself when you feel like an emotional wreck
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. But if you are afraid, go ahead and put on your big-girl panties and contact us now.
We’re real people that want to help you become the very best (and happiest) version of yourself.
At The Lesbian Couples Institute, it’s our mission and our privilege to help you create a life and relationship that’s full of love, compassion, happiness, and security.
If you and your partner are looking for a quicker path to repair your relationship, please consider our Accelerated Programs. And, if you don’t live in or near Denver and you want to work with us, check out our Lesbian Couples Retreat.
Whether you are looking for lesbian couples counseling or help just for yourself, Reach out to us today. We’ll find the best way to work together to get your relationship back on track and moving in the right direction.
Ask Me Anything!
DON’T BE SHY… ASK ME ANYTHING THAT’S ON YOUR MIND ABOUT YOUR LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP…
Are you and your partner having challenges with…
Communication?
Sex & Intimacy?
Money?
Trust?
Staying Close and Connected?
DR. LYNDA WILL GIVE YOU ACTIONABLE STEPS TO TAKE TOWARDS SOLUTIONS IN THIS 60MIN FREE WEBINAR
THIS IS FOR YOU IF…
You Have Something on Your Mind About Your Lesbian Relationship That You’re Challenged With or Worried About
You’re in a What If? What About? How About? Situation in Your Relationship
You Want to Know How to Make Your Relationship Secure, Happier & More Exciting…
HERE’S WHAT THEY SAY:
AMY B. After working with Lynda, we feel closer than we ever have. And we can talk about the hard stuff without fighting or one of us walking away.
OLIVIA R. My wife and I credit Lynda for saving our marriage! Now we look forward to coming home after work and we’re happier than we’ve been in a long, long time.
SOPHIA L. Lynda helped us breathe new life into our sexual intimacy! We’re having more fun in the bedroom than ever!
ABOUT LYNDA…
LYNDA SPANN, PHD, LMFT
LESBIAN COUPLES COUNSELOR AND RELATIONSHIP COACH EXPERT
A lesbian herself, Lynda has poured her heart and soul into creating transformative relationship coaching programs, courses, and proven therapy options designed specifically for lesbian couples.
She’s one of the only true experts in lesbian relationship health…not only because of her Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, but mostly because she’s walked in her clients shoes.
Lynda has a deep, lived understanding of the unique struggles, challenges, and strengths of lesbian couples and queer folk.
One of her greatest passions (in addition to her wife, Lisa) is to share with her community everything she’s learned about creating whole, healthy, and thriving lesbian relationships.
Lynda Founded the Lesbian Couples Institute in 2018 and has helped hundreds of couples over the past 25 years.
If you need more help, call me for an appointment.
Save Your Marriage Alone With 3 Simple Shifts
Many of the lesbian clients I talk to are desperate to save their relationship. But their partner wants nothing to do with getting help, or even changing what she’s doing that’s contributing to the problems. Sometimes their wife has just said, I’m not in love with you anymore.
I tell those women (and I’m telling you) it doesn’t matter. You can save your marriage alone!
Breathe that in for a second.
I guarantee that you can change your relationship if you’re the only one trying. Even if your wife is disconnected, angry, complacent, or threatening to leave.
It’s true. One person can change a marriage, alone.
How good does it feel to find out that you can turn your relationship around, even if your partner is being stubborn and withdrawn? What will it mean to you to save your relationship and make it thrive?
Hold onto that feeling. It will help you make the shifts within yourself that can save your marriage.
Let me be clear — I’m not suggesting that everything wrong with your relationship is your fault. Or that you’re the only one that needs to change in order to have a great marriage.
Ultimately, you’ll both have to do some things differently in order to create an awesome, secure and happy relationship.
But here’s the thing…
Someone has to start! If you’re in pain about the state of your relationship, put on your big girl panties and become the leader of change. Don’t wait for your wife or partner to make changes first.
Do you really want to save your relationship?
Then start a positive feedback-loop by being brave and doing a few things differently. The key is to make a few simple shifts in order to disrupt the vicious cycle you two are stuck in.
You know the saying…you can’t keep doing the same things over and over and expect to get different results.
To get out of the pain of a disconnected or hostile relationship, you’ll have to change some of the ways you typically react. You may have to get uncomfortable, shake up your habits, and take a risk.
Three inner shifts that can save your relationship:
1. TAP INTO YOUR WHY
This is an important first step which starts in your head and heart. I invite you to take a few minutes to thoroughly answer this question: Why do I want to save my relationship?
Getting super clear on WHY you want to stay together will help you hang onto the motivation to make the necessary changes moving forward.
So ask yourself…Why do I want to remain in this relationship? How will it benefit me?
Is it because you made a promise? Because it’s too expensive to break up? Because you’re better together than alone? Or is it that you want to become the happiest couple you know?
How will it benefit you to be in this relationship when it’s thriving?
Will you feel joy, have more fun, feel safe, enjoy growing old together?
Now, grab a piece of paper and a pen. At the top of the page, write this question: Why do I want to save my relationship and how will it benefit me?
Then write down all of the reasons that pop into your head. Make an exhaustive list.
Once you’ve written out all aspects of your WHY, put the paper in a safe place. Next time you feel discouraged about putting effort into your relationship, pull out the paper and remind yourself of your WHY.
And for now, I want you to stay focused on your WHY as you move into the next couple of inner shifts.
2. STOP FOCUSING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
This might seem backwards to you. But trust me, it isn’t. In order to save your marriage, it’s important that you take the focus off of the problems, off your relationship troubles.
In order to fix the recurring issues, you’ve got to stop fussing about them. And yo must stop talking to your partner about all the things that are wrong.
Here’s how I suggest you make this shift:
Stop talking to your wife about your marriage problems
Do not tell her anything she’s doing wrong
Avoid blaming your partner
Don’t nag her about what she should do differently
Quit complaining to your friends every time you have a fight
Looping on the problems, endlessly analyzing the unhealthy patterns, rehashing the arguments, blaming your wife for everything that’s wrong, and focusing on the negative— these are actually keeping you stuck.
Take a break from those habits and see what happens. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
When you start to worry about and focus on your marital problems, redirect your thinking instead. Here are a few ways you can do that:
Write out 3 things that you appreciate about your partner today
Sing a song loudly
Go for a walk
Crank up your favorite tunes and dance your heart out
Call a fiend (but don’t talk about your problems)
Take 10 slow, deep breaths
These types of self-care actions are simple to do. And they will help you relax, be more creative, see what’s going right, discover hidden solutions, and get clarity on what you really desire.
3. DO THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT YOU’VE BEEN DOING
It’s time to do a 180! You need to stop engaging in the same old reaction to being worried about your marriage.
Most of the time, when couples are distressed, they each respond in one of two ways. Some people tend get more clingy to their partner, and others become distant and withdrawn.
Which do you do?
Are you constantly pursuing your partner or are you trying to get time and space away from her?
In either case, it will be most helpful to shift into doing the opposite of what you normally do.
If your reflex is to cling to your wife when there’s trouble brewing, I want you to have the courage to take a giant step back. You’ll know that you’re a pursuer if in times of trouble you try to get your partner to talk, seek affection, want to spend more time together, feel anxious when she’s upset with you, or always insisting on date night.
Now, I’m not saying to leave the relationship or go stay at a hotel.
In fact all I want you to do right now is take a deep breath and focus on yourself without doing anything.
Tell the part of you that feels little and is scared of being abandoned that she’s going to be ok. Let that part of you know that by taking a step back, you’ll end up getting more of what you want.
If you’ve been in the clingy, pursuer roll, just loosen the grip. You don’t have to let go. Some ways to do that are to take yourself on a mini adventure such as:
get a new book to read
go to lunch with a safe friend
take a yoga class
go for a walk
enjoy a bubble bath
call a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time
meditate
write in your journal
resume a hobby
The most important thing is that you loosen the death grip that you have on your partner. I promise, it’s driving her bananas!
On the other hand, if you’re the partner that’s been distancing and withdrawing from your honey, I want you to step in and move back towards her. I get that you’re afraid she’s going to make you feel like everything you do is wrong. But staying isolated and detached isn’t helping resolve your problems.
Start by taking a deep breath and having a little chat with the part of yourself that’s afraid of being overwhelmed, smothered, or judged by your partner. Tell that protective part of yourself that you can still get alone-time when you need it.
Now that you’ve soothed that part of yourself, lean into your courage and move toward your wife. Seriously!
It’s time to start reconnecting and engaging with your partner again. You don’t have to be connected every minute of the day. But find one thing to do every day that will move you in the direction of you wife.
Some ways you can move toward her are:
hold hands on a walk
take her on a date offer to cook dinner together
send her a couple of out-of-the-blue texts when you’re at work
talk about your days
surprise her by playing “your song” and dancing in the living room
give her a long welcome home hug
tell her you miss her
cuddle on the couch
exchange shoulder or foot massages
Now that you know how to save your marriage alone with 3 simple shifts, I encourage you to get started right away.
If you’re relationship is too entrenched in unhealthy patterns, you may need some expert help to get unstuck. We’re here to help. Our lesbian relationship coaching program may be the perfect fit for you.
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Private Lesbian Couples Retreat In Denver
LOVE IS A JOURNEY WE TAKE TOGETHER.
You can create massive momentum, as well as fast and enduring positive changes by focusing on your relationship in an intensive private couples retreat.
If your relationship is seriously struggling, reeling from a betrayal, or you’re on the brink of calling it quits, please consider investing in a couples retreat before giving up.
A Private Lesbian Couples Retreat can be a game-changer! Your guide, Dr. Lynda Spann will take you both on a journey of discovery.
I’m a little hesitant to break it to you, but a Lesbian Couples Retreat is NOT one of those fluffy get-aways where you drink green-smoothies early in the morning, head to yoga and meditation, sit in a large gathering where you talk about your relationship problems with a bunch of strangers and practice communication skills, have a vegan lunch, go on a group nature-walk, spend an hour with your partner and a therapist, enjoy a healthy dinner, get couple massages, and wrap up with songs by the campfire.
What exactly is a Lesbian Couples Retreat in Denver, you ask?
Think of it as a relationship-saving time-out in a beautiful city. A purposeful break from all the daily stressors, obligations, distractions, and demands that negatively affect you and your partner.
It’s a retreat in the literal sense of the word. You’ll be retreating from all those typical (but demanding) responsibilities and interruptions that make it hard to focus on your relationship for more than an hour at a time.
Couples Retreats are sometimes referred to as Couples Intensives or Marriage Intensives. The value in this experience is that by focusing intensively on your relationship, with the help of a highly trained LGBT therapist, you will resolve your problems much faster.
You can accomplish the equivalent of 3 to 6 months of therapy by spending either one or two full days working with a compassionate, skillful counselor.
You won’t have to deal with the frustration of the long (usually at least a week or two) interruption between the typical (and far too short) 50-minute therapy sessions. Instead, you and your therapist will benefit from the luxury of having long segments of time to focus on assessing and correcting your relationship problems.
LGBT couples have told us that there’s something both profound and magical that comes from spending a one or two-day intensive focused on LGBT couples therapy with a skilled lesbian counselor.
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A Lesbian Couples Retreat In Denver Is Perfect For You IF:
You identify as LGBTQ and you (or your partner) are at the end of your rope, and maybe threatening to leave your relationship
The trust between you has been shattered by infidelity, and you want it repaired but you don’t know how
You’ve never learned to communicate with each other in a way that really works
You don’t have time to spend 9 to 12 months going to short and ineffective couples therapy sessions
You’ve tried traditional couples counseling and it didn’t help much (or at all)
Your hope is running out, but a part of you still wants to find a solution to the relationship problems you’ve had for a long time
You want to give your relationship one last, honest chance before pulling the plug
If you don’t have months and months to spend in long-term same-sex couples therapy, and you want tools and skills RIGHT NOW that will finally give you the results you’ve been longing for, join me for a Lesbian Couples Retreat in Denver.
Take-Aways From a Lesbian Couples Retreat in Denver:
Discover how you each contribute to the vicious cycles you’re stuck in
Learn simple, proven solutions to the problems that keep arising
Gain a deeper understanding of how you each react to stress
Find out the communication errors that are sabotaging your progress
Get clear on what you and your partner really want for your future
Experience the relief of sharing anger, hurts, and resentments in a safe place
Make serious headway toward forgiveness
Take a break from the incredible stress of being pulled in a hundred directions (family, friends, work, school, projects, telephone, pets, kids, meetings, drama…) and give your relationship the gift of uninterrupted attention and intensive focus.
You and your partner deserve an immediate and lasting solution to the pain you’re in. A Lesbian Couples Retreat can be a wonderful, life-changing investment. And it will help you make sure you never have regrets.
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About Our Location
The Lesbian Couples Institute is located in a central, lovely, re-urbanized neighborhood in Denver. Just a 35 minute Uber ride from the Denver International Airport (except in rush hour when it takes a little bit longer).
There are several delightful short term vacation rentals within walking distance. Check them out below!
And there are many top notch restaurants nearby. In fact the Number 1 Restaurant in Denver is the Sushi Den, and happens to be right across the street from us.
And if you really did want those massages, they can be arranged.
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