Loving From Afar

LDR blog run by me to share stories of me and my boyfriend's long distance relationship, with advice I've learned along the way. Feel free to submit posts and questions! ♡ 382 days of LDR

[desiresuggestion]

you deserve to feel like the most special person on earth

[jetaimesuggestions]

ive never met someone who is so beautiful in every way imaginable until you

[luckable]

I don’t even know how to begin to describe how incredibly happy you make me

[mattandjez]

I need you closer.

[twobrits]

❤

[unforgetable-words]

“Call me and tell me you have missed my voice”

- Because I always miss yours

[leohearts]

If anyone asked me “What is hell?” I would answer “Distance between people who love each other.

(via leohearts)

[sunsets-leadtomy-heart]

Sweatpants and cuddling with your significant other is such a mood.

[letslongdistance-blog]

Getting on the Same Page

Alex and I had a rough weekend. We have opposite daily schedules - I go to class in the mornings and he is currently working rather than going to school. I start around 6am and am usually done with classes and work meetings around 4-6pm. He works 6pm-12am and usually stays up late and sleeps in for awhile. This weekend was the first time he had a few days off the past few weeks, he has been working a lot. I wanted to spend time with him this weekend while he was off, but we didn’t really talk as much as I wanted or even facetime. Saturday things escalated to the point of a small argument-  I told him I needed him and he chose to spend his time doing essentially everything except being there for me emotionally. Yesterday we talked it out. 

In the heat of the moment, it is easy to forget how much you love a person. Months and even years put into a relationship can be forsaken in a moment of anger. After a bad day and hours of overthinking and wallowing, rather than talking it out, I went to bed angry. Many married couples and counselors agree with the idea of never going to bed angry, and I agree with them as well. Alex and I were just both having bad days, and Saturday night we should’ve talked things out. Sunday morning we had an open conversation and things were better within an hour. I forget that as strongly as I feel, Alex is his own person too, with needs and wants. I have to remember what's best for him is also best for me, because I want him to always be happy. If I wasn’t so upset the night before I would’ve worked things out, it is just way too easy to let your emotions become you. Falling asleep to the point of tears or harsh anger isn’t healthy for the mind, body or soul. You have to remember what you feel now is not what you will feel forever. The love between you and your partner is more important than a momentary obstacle. 

Ever since Alex and I started our LDR, communication became our #1 priority. I used to be scared of fights, but its the communicating during and the making-up after that gets the couple on the same page. Conflict can be uncomfortable, and there are different ways to approach it, but discussing issues honestly and openly with your partner is the healthiest thing you can do for your relationship. If you are both on the same page, you are only working and building your relationship up. I notice Alex and I will have more bad days when we’re not communicating as much. Remember, never apologize for the way you feel. If you want to bring something up with your partner or want to discuss an issue, there is no time like the present. 

[50shadesofdistance]

There was no other option in my mind c:

[ifindoubtbea-unicorn-blog]

I wish the distance between us would disappear and we could be lying next to each other right now

(via ifindoubtbea-unicorn)

[coffeeshopsuggestion]

I hope you all are having a wonderful day full of love.

[letslongdistance-blog]

What do you do on particularly bad days?

Hi there,

Bad days are particularly hard, especially in a LDR. It is hard enough having a bad day, but wishing the one person you know will make it better was there can make you feel more frustrated and confused. Alex and I are having a bad day today. This usually happens when one of us is upset because you can sense it in the other person. For example, Alex has friends over and we were supposed to have a facetime movie night tonight. I understand he works a lot and needs to see his friends, so I am keeping myself busy with homework and TV. 

On particularly bad days like today, distracting yourself is your best friend. Also remembering how much you love each other is important. Rather than crying or becoming too upset, I invest time into our relationship by planning gifts or doing something nice for Alex. The other night I couldn’t sleep, so I wrote letters to Alex to mail to him sometime between now and when I see him next. I was able to focus on our love by writing about happy times, rather than focusing on how much I really wished I was here. Or if you have time, my favorite LDR past time is facetime movie dates, or talking over the phone while I do homework or clean.

Let me know if you need more advice or I can help with anything more specific!

Love,

Mandy

[ldr-quotes]

[affectionsuggestion]

I wish, after dreaming about you, I could wake up next to you

[quotexcerpts]

Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.

A.A. Milne; Winnie-the-Pooh (via quotexcerpts)

[somepiecesofmyheartandsoul-deac]

Your lovely presence. – Lukas W.