I Have To Be Anonymous For My Safety

But of course we are the violent ones. Lily, radfem, 28, bisexual in a relationship with a man

[desaturated7-deactivated2021090]

mens response to women who don't want to read misogynistic lit is usually 'get over it! literature is supposed to make you uncomfortable!' but reading about misogyny doesn't make me uncomfortable, exactly. it makes me bored. there's a point in most canonical works where the author talks about how women are inferior, or how much he hates his wife, or violent sexism is described, and i dont feel shocked or disturbed. how could i? it's in basically every classic. even works by female authors address it, even to just point out their disagreement. sexism is a part of every woman's life, it's a part of my life, and i know already how men feel about women--i don't even notice anymore when it's said directly. it's normal. so the question i give in response is: why am i the one expected to be uncomfortable, over and over and over? why, when women try to disturb you in the same way you try to disturb us, is it suddenly unacceptable? are you only okay with 'uncomfortable' literature when you are the one attacking others?

[whatthefuuuuuuccckkkk]

it will never not be insulting that people are like "uwuwuwu men have it worse because they can't wear skirts but women can wear pants" like FIRST of all women have fought forever for the things we have achieved and if men want the same things then they can do it themselves. SECOND the reason that its not socially acceptable for men to do "women things" is because those things are considered bad because they are associated with women. people see a man acting like a woman and mock him because acting like a woman is something to be mocked.

[liberationfrustration]

I thought this blog was going to be exclusively radfem stuff but actually my feed is really good now it’s not flooded with thousands of “TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN” type posts so it’s ended up being a general blog with a side of radfem.

Side note: does anyone know any ~terf friendly~ cottagecore type tumblrs and/or witch tumblrs? I wanna follow 🌱

[liberationfrustration]

Why you gonna reply to my post then block me? Like? I don’t even know how your sentence ends lmao

[profeminist]

Women Are Dying in Car Accidents Because The Only Female Crash Test Dummy Weighs 110 Lbs.

For years, it has been reported that women are significantly more likely to be injured in car crashes than men—Jezebel wrote about the phenomenon back in 2011, when it appeared that seat belts were to blame.

“For years, it has been reported that women are significantly more likely to be injured in car crashes than men—Jezebel wrote about the phenomenon back in 2011, when it appeared that seat belts were to blame. Most of the women harmed were, to quote USA Today nearly a decade ago, of “relatively short stature,” and “preferred seating posture and a combination of factors yielding lower safety protection from the standard restraint devices.” Cool, cool: seat belts weren’t designed with women in mind.

A new study from the University of Virginia suggests that, not only is the discrepancy still true, the crash test dummies commonly used to test vehicle safety runs are also at fault. Presumably, that’s because manufactures make very little effort to represent the bulk of human women when designing them.

As City Lab reports, “the odds of serious injury or death for female car-crash victims is 73 percent higher than for males,” which could have something to do with the fact that “average male” type dummies are most frequently used in crucial safety testing. When “woman-type” dummy was introduced in 2003, it was, and still is, only 5 feet tall, and weighs 110 pounds, just a touch outside the dimensions of your average woman.”

Read the full piece here

“The odds of serious injury or death for female car-crash victims is 73 percent higher than for males”

JFC - ADD THIS TO THE LIST OF HOW PATRIARCHAL CULTURE AND SEXISM ARE LITERALLY KILLING WOMEN

[ms-hells-bells]

this is even more enraging when you also take into account that males are the vast majority of crashers, so most of it will be males crashing cars and their female passengers dying because of that and this

[lilith-apologist]

this is part of a huge pattern of  dangerous data bias against women. theres a whole book about it

[miss-radical]

Y’all: all lives matter is redundant and misses the point of black lives matter! It derails the movement!

Also y’all: feminism is for everyone, if you’re not devoting resources and time to men and including them in your feminism, it’s useless

[im-not-an-object-ok]

And THIS is why pretending biological sex has nothing to do with women/women’s rights is so dangerous. If we can’t label misogyny as misogyny anymore, how can we combat it?

[blk-chauvinist]

Feminists...

[short-terf-dyke]

Where did you pull these figures from? Your ass?

[liberationfrustration]

95% of men are bad at using percentages

[liberationfrustration]

I thought this blog was going to be exclusively radfem stuff but actually my feed is really good now it’s not flooded with thousands of “TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN” type posts so it’s ended up being a general blog with a side of radfem.

Side note: does anyone know any ~terf friendly~ cottagecore type tumblrs and/or witch tumblrs? I wanna follow 🌱

[splashing-stims]

(Woods/forest/green things stimboard for an anon!)

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[babyanimalgifs]

A turtle that was stuck gets help from humans 

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[thighglitter-deactivated2020112]

i’m sorry but ur mothers n grandmothers n great-grandmothers didnt fight for u to call urself a menstruator

[idontcareaboutmensfeelings-deac]

as a person with mental illnesses (yeah, diagnosed by multiple professionals), I can't understand why the approach to gender dysphoria is just... to give in to what the patient believes and wants

It's like we told borderline patients "oh reckless behaviour makes u feel better? Do it then. Here's a list of dumb things u can do to completely ruin your life, if it makes you feel better"

Or if we let narcissists believe in their inflated ego and in their rewritten reality, or if we told people with body dismorphia that they should get plastic surgery to solve their issue, or if we let anorexic people just starve themselves to death because if they feel they're fat and losing weight makes them happy then why not

No other people with mental illnesses get coddled by doctors into their mental illness. We get told it's an issue, we get therapy and meds and we learn to cope with the discomfort because our behaviour is dangerous to ourselves, to others and to society

But somewhat the cure for gender dysphoria is apparently tell the patient their delusions are right????

[binarymiku]

Anyways i don't trust men who fetishize wlw love 😎👍

[binarymiku]

Hell yeah it does

[nolawswhiteclaws-deactivated202]

I don’t usually weigh in on trans discourse but... you do need dysphoria to be trans...

[thatdiscourseboy]

not according to the DSM. and y'know, MULTIPLE STUDIES!!

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

what makes someone trans then?

[clowning-lessons]

gender incongruence, which is similar to dysphoria but is a different thing. hope that helped!

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

and what exactly is gender incongruence? just so I understand what you are thinking of specifically

[clowning-lessons]

gender incongruence is when you feel a disconnect but not discomfort from being your agab

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

see that's what confuses me. a lot of women/girls feel a disconnect from woman/girlhood because of misogyny and extreme expectations of them (such as sexualization from a young age and a constant need to perform femininity). it's especially common in gnc and same sex attracted women.

so does that mean all women and girls who feel that disconnect are trans?

[clowning-lessons]

that's not the exact definition of incongruence. a more specific definition would be this:

"Gender incongruence is defined as the mismatch an individual feels as a result of the discrepancy experienced between their gender identity and the gender they were assigned at birth "(this definition is from the dictionary)

so no, not really

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

thank you for a specific definition of that. I don't understand part of it though. (thank you for being patient with me btw) that definition sounds like gender identity is innate, and that sex is not.

[clowning-lessons]

gender identity is an innate thing though. for example, i was assigned female at birth, but have always been a man and my identity as a male is an innate part of me and my identity.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

but does that not make gender a physical reality instead of a social construct?

[clowning-lessons]

you have a good point. however, i should rephrase. gender is a social construct, but it isn't always a harmful social construct. gender is honestly more of a thing that is felt in the soul than something that can be explained with ease.

another thing i should mention is that no matter what someone's body is assigned at birth, they are whatever gender they identify as, meaning that even if someone, for instance a trans man who hasn't had/doesn't want top surgery has breasts, this hypothetical trans man would still have a male body because they identify as male

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

ok see that's where you lose me. I don't understand how gender can simultaneously be innate and a social construct. see biological sex is not the same as gender, but you seem to be mixing them up.

[omnivore-odyssey]

@im-violently-gay

So you believe there is such a thing as a female soul and a male soul and (presumably) some kind of nonbinary soul? And you believe that these gendered souls should be the way we are defined and divided when it comes to areas of politics, policy, and social situations where sex separation matters?

What defines a female soul? How do I know if my soul is female vs male vs non-binary?

How would you explain what these feelings are to a young person who is trying to figure out their gender identity?

[clowning-lessons]

I personally don't know how to define the essence of a gendered soul. I truly wish I could help you, but unfortunately I don't know how.

[omnivore-odyssey]

So how exactly does it make sense to apply the concept of gender identity to society as a whole or apply it in policy or anything else beyond the personal? Like if you want to believe in gendered souls that’s up to you, but I’m not seeing why a concept you can’t even define is applicable anywhere else but in your own head.

You seem to have attached socially constructed sex stereotypes (femininity and masculinity) to the biological terms male and female so aggressively that you believe it’s a matter of internal identity whether or not someone is male or female. This cannot apply to anything beyond your own brain because the actual physical reality of male and female bodies matters in so so many circumstances in society and in our individual lives.

My goal is not to force someone into a sex stereotype they do not feel comfortable with, but to disconnect female from femininity and male from masculinity so that the terms are simply biological (xx/xy) and have nothing to do with socially constructed sex stereotypes.

There is nothing inherent about femininity in females, and there’s nothing inherent about masculinity in males. The concepts of femininity and masculinity are fabricated and vary by society but their function is to oppress females and enforce male supremacy. Literally everyone would be better off if we did away with biological essentialism and just allowed people the freedom to express themselves how they want to, regardless of sex.

[clowning-lessons]

damn sis can you just let trans people live?

[omnivore-odyssey]

Seriously? I’m not stopping trans people from living. What I am arguing against is the idea that gender identity should be prioritized over biological sex, and that the word “woman” should be redefined to reference an undefineable “gender identity” that is clearly just a modern twist on biological essentialism, you know, the misogynistic, unproven theory that’s been used to oppress females (regardless of gender identity) for millennia.

Clearly you’re not interested in having a real discussion or answering my questions and defending your own beliefs. I’ll respond anyways for anyone else who reads this and wants to understand.

You believe that what’s in your head determines your biological sex.

Conservatives believe that your biological sex determines what’s in your head.

Both are regressive, sexist, false assertions.

Your biological sex is your biological sex. It says nothing about what’s in your head but it does effect your experiences of life, especially in a sexist society.

If someone wants to transition, that’s their own business and I’m not stopping them. But that does not change their biological sex, and I’m not convinced that the feelings a male person has of “female soul/identity” are the same as my identity as female. In fact, a male person could never have the same “female gender identity” as me because mine has nothing to do with what’s in my head and only has to do with my experience as a female person, which is something no male can ever experience. A male who “feels female” is having an experience no female person has or can relate to. It is exclusively a male experience to feel that way. None of that is an insult, and it does not stop that male person from transitioning, but that male cannot speak for females or act like we share the same experience of femaleness, because a male person is not biologically female.

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[kirblefilms]

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[lookataleaf3000]

Lesbians and feminists have a LONG history of underground networking and making art music culture etc amongst and for ourselves and with NO financial support. We can do it again. If there is something you wish existed in the world you really can make it yourself

[quiet-nymph]

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