How Do You Untrain Yourself?
So, untraining / diaper training / making yourself incontinent is actually extremely simple and straightforward. All it requires from you is time, patience, and a lot of diapers. That’s literally all you need to lose your control.
So first of all, you want to get in the habit of never using your muscles. That feeling where you clench to stop yourself from wetting or messing? Avoid doing that as much as you can, because that makes the muscles work and maintains their strength, while we’re wanting to weaken them as much as possible. It’s okay if you clench accidentally while you’re getting the hang of letting everything go whenever and wherever, that’s all part of learning and being patient with yourself, but you always want to avoid clenching down if you can.
The other thing you want to focus on is allowing your muscles to be open as much as possible. This is the feeling you get when you’re wetting or messing if you’re unsure, or if that’s still confusing to you, it’s the same thing you feel just after you finish voiding, before you stand back up off the toilet again and go back to clenching. It’s a very relaxed sensation, and there’s kind of this “dropping” feeling in your body when you do it. Practice doing this as much as you can, because, you guessed it, the more your body is in this state, the less it’s working and keeping your muscles strong. This will get easier and easier to do as you go until eventually, it’ll become so natural and normal that you’ll be open all the time without even thinking about it, and after a decent amount of time has passed, you won’t be able to close things at all anymore even when you try.
The very final thing you should try and do, and this isn’t necessary but I believe it speeds up the process and gets you wetting and messing with as little notice or feeling as possible if that’s what you want, is that you want to think about your voiding as little as you possibly can. To give an example of this, when you mess yourself, you don’t want to constantly be thinking like, “Oh my god I’m messing myself right now, I can’t believe I’m doing this”, or anything like that. You want to let everything become completely normalized and regular to you. If you start messing yourself, you should think of it as something that just happens sometimes, and you should remember that there’s nothing out of the ordinary about it for you, as someone who needs their diapers now. The same with wetting, just because you’re wetting yourself doesn’t mean you should let that distract you from anything you’re doing, it’s just something your body does now, but your diapers take care of it so you don’t even need to worry about that feeling.
By not clenching, by letting your muscles stay open, and wetting or messing yourself as soon as you feel the urge, you will untrain yourself. You can also train yourself to start voiding without noticing it if you’d like to by working on normalizing the behaviour, as I mentioned before. There’s no big secret to any of this, no ultimate crazy trick to it. It’s just science, and fact.
So, there you have it, everything you need to know to untrain yourself and everything I did to get to where I am today. You don’t need any hypnosis or guides or anything like that, you just need your patience and perseverance. Doing what I’ve said here will cause your muscles to “atrophy”, which is basically saying that they’ll degrade over time to a point of being completely useless and unable to function, rendering yourself incontinent.
The reason I took the time to write this out is to help this community, and so that you do not feel compelled to buy the $20 / $30 guide that is going around Tumblr these days. Nothing in it is new information, and you do not need it to untrain yourself, I promise you.
There are some amazing resources out there for anyone who genuinely wants to untrain themselves and wants info or advice on how to go about it, all absolutely free, and all you have to do is look. The first thing you can check out for a general overview of the process and some more in-depth tips is the 12 Month Diaper Training Program, though it isn’t perfect, and you should never use a single source for all your information. A person who I think is amazing and that I’ve referenced more than once as I’ve gone through my own untraining, is Kali, a woman who has completely untrained and in my opinion, gives out some of the best advice in the untraining community (she is very good at answering asks too). The Incontinent Desires subforum on Daily Diapers is also full of people talking about and discussing losing all of their control, with some amazing personal stories and records of success, plus plenty of shared tips for living lives in diapers 24/7.
Please please please, check out some of these people, places, and resources for your needs, and do not reward the person here on Tumblr who took publically available information from all around the Internet and put it behind a paywall. Do not reward the person who is making people who already bought their guide pay more to them again for an “updated” version. Do not reward the person who is exploiting desperate people who just want more information for their own profit.
You can be completely successful in your untraining with just what I’ve said here, and a little bit of research or asking those who’ve untrained about what you’re unsure about is perfectly fine as well. In my experience, people who untrain themselves are usually some of the kindest and most genuinely helpful people I have had the pleasure of talking to in the ABDL community. Most of us understand that we each can’t help feeling like we’re meant to be incontinent, and most of us are happy to support one another with the process of untraining because of this, without the need for multiple separate Patreon accounts (which are made so that people have to give money multiple times over if they want all the content instead of getting everything for one clear price), an Amazon wishlist attached to every post, and a guide that other people can only access by paying for it, more than once if they want the newest version.
Go to the people and places that respect your desires, don’t go to the one person who doesn’t.
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