Something about having a strict nap tume routine like this, ish just so freaking hot. Like imagine daddy having to tell me to stop playing its time to go nini and he puts me my crub with a paci and bottle and has to close the curtains and turn off the lights cause its actually tge middle of the freaking day but you don't want a cranky baby on your hands so shes got to go nini
Disclaimer: This work of fiction mentions the usage of real-world medicines. Absolutely do not take this as medical advice or attempt to replicate: the usage of the medicines is intended as comedically overkill.
Introduction
If you are reading or being read this guide, it means that your legal caregiver has elected for you to be fitted with a SecuStent™ device. Indwelling SecuStent™ devices are a type of medical implant that are surgically affixed at the bladder neck sphincter, which is the muscle holding the bladder closed to prevent leakage of urine. Once inserted and affixed, the SecuStent™ will hold the sphincter dilated, allowing unimpeded flow of urine from the bladder. SecuStent™ uses a special kind of biological glue developed by Flowly™ that is absorbed by mucous membranes, permanently bonding the stent within the bladder neck structure. The glue is also infused with a topical muscle relaxant that is effective for about six to twelve months, allowing the stent to fully expand against the sphincter walls, as well as encouraging atrophy of the sphincter through extended prevention of muscular contraction.
The implantation of a SecuStent™ device is proven to render its user permanently incontinent. The SecuStent™ becomes fused to the inner wall of the sphincter, meaning that surgery to remove the device would necessarily involve removing the sphincter itself. Even if the device is removed immediately after initial application, the period of elimination for the paralytic agent within the glue is long enough that the sphincter muscle will always become severely atrophied before attempts can be made to regain control. Cases where the SecuStent™ has been removed before fusing with the membrane have shown limited to minute effectiveness in attempts to re-train bladder control, and re-trainers still rely on medium to heavy diapering to manage their condition.
As your legal caregiver has exercised Substituted Consent for the SecuStent™ device to be fitted, Implant recipients may have questions or concerns about the installation and adjustment to usage of the device. In most cases, this guide is provided during an information and disclosure session immediately prior to the procedure, so it may be the first time you are being informed of your SecuStent™ treatment plan. This guide will explain your upcoming procedure, what to expect following the procedure, as well as sensations to expect and adjust to as a person with incontinence.
Remember that if you do not know the meaning of a word or sentence, you can ask your doctor or caregiver to explain it to you at any time.
Why implant a SecuStent™ device?
SecuStent™ implantation is an elective treatment intended as a support for holistic Psychoregressive (PR) therapy plans coordinated between a patient’s legal caregiver and medical service provider. PR therapy seeks to render a patient permanently psychologically regressed and dependant on their caregiver or institutional supervision. Holistic PR treatments utilise direct medical interventions to support and reinforce the process of Psychoregressive therapy. According to the aims of the Psychoregressive therapy plan, the patient’s mental ability is reduced to anywhere between the pre-vocal and prepubescent stages, although a degree of loss to urinary control is always expected and encouraged.
Examples of Holistic Psychoregressive interventions include usage of muscle relaxants such as Diazepam in suppository form to relax the pelvic floor and encourage loss of muscle tone, topical injection of Botulinum Toxin to weaken or paralyse fine and gross muscle control, treatment with Anaphrodisiac drugs such as Depot Medroxyprogesterone Acetate (DMPA) to decrease and eliminate libido, usage of Diuretics and Laxatives to encourage and enforce involuntary toileting, and prescription of Psychiatric Medications such as Anxiolytics, Dissociatives, and/or Deliriants to increase compliance and reduce cognitive independence. SecuStent™ may be used alongside any combination of these interventions.
The usage of a SecuStent™ device is recommended as a replacement treatment in situations where typical hypnotherapeutic or behavioural therapies become ineffective at achieving total urinary incontinence. A patient may have already undergone a period of therapeutic conditioning to eliminate or reduce bladder control, but latent muscle mass or psychological resistance may prevent total elimination of urinary continence. In some cases, a temporary period of therapeutic conditioning is planned to allow a patient to adjust to light incontinence management before total incontinence is induced.
Usage of devices such as the SecuStent™ to induce permanent and total urinary incontinence have been shown to be an extremely effective technique to reinforce and achieve key goals such as reduced independence, infantilised self-image, and compliance with behavioural and psychological PR therapies. Some therapy plans incorporate the implantation of a SecuStent™ device as the primary treatment to induce urinary incontinence, often on the first day of Psychoregressive treatment, in order to create an immediate dependence on incontinence management products and to reduce the illusion that a patient may return to their original lives unaltered by PR therapy. This guide’s sensory section aims to explain the sensations of incontinence for those with limited prior experience in order to support adjustment and acceptance.
How does the procedure work?
The procedure to affix a SecuStent™ device is quick, easy, and painless. After application of topical numbing agents, The SecuStent™ device is slid directly into the urethra on the end of a lubricated catheter, guided by the doctor with an ultrasound transducer. The catheter is held in place for a period of 10 minutes to allow the heat reactive bimetallic inner structure of the device to expand into place, fixing the bioadhesive gently against the mucous membranes of the sphincter and releasing topical muscle relaxants into the bladder walls. Once the device is confirmed to have affixed correctly, the catheter is slid out of the urethra. After this, the bladder will typically empty its contents onto the absorbent padding prepared beneath the patient, before slowing into a slight but constant dribble. At this point, the patient is typically taped into a high absorbency diaper and moved for post-operative checks and testing.
In cases where the patient is uncooperative or unwilling, they may be sedated and/or physically restrained during the procedure.
What will it be like to be incontinent? The sensory guide.
You may have already undergone a degree of therapeutic conditioning to weaken bladder control, induce nocturnal enuresis (bedwetting), and/or psychosomatic incontinence in reaction to specific emotional or psychological triggers. Alternatively, implantation of the SecuStent™ may be your first experience with any degree of induced incontinence. Whether you are coming from a background of total continence or light-to-medium incontinence, adjusting to total incontinence will be a big change. In order to help prepare for, adjust to and accept your new state, this section of the guide will outline the facts, feelings and sensations you can expect from total urinary incontinence and 24/7 diaper dependancy.
You will be dribbling at all times…
You will feel a constant sensation of matriculation at the end of your urethra before the wetness is absorbed by your diaper. Whenever you sit, stand, bend, lie, cough, laugh, sneeze, or exert yourself physically, you will experience a small volume of urine being squeezed from your urethra into your padding. In situations where you are un-diapered, such as during changes or washes, you will continue to dribble urine from your urethra directly onto the surface you are sat or stood above.
… But you will be protected at all times.
It will no longer be your responsibility to manage or control your bladder or protection. Your caregiver will assume all responsibility for managing, checking, and changing your diapers. With the usage of products with sufficient capacity, can rest assured that your diapers will absorb all fluid released into them. Many report that after the initial period of adjustment to incontinence, no longer having to manage their own toileting becomes a comforting and relaxing experience: a stressor is completely removed from the patient’s life.
What does wearing diapers feel like?
If you have only ever worn light incontinence management products such as pads or pull-ups, then it may be hard to imagine the experience of wearing a heavy incontinence management product such as a diaper. Likewise, implantation of the SecuStent™ may be your first experience with any form of continence loss. For some people, adjustment to life in diapers is intimidating, difficult or embarrassing. However, Flowly™ research has shown that most patients come to accept their diapers as a positive and comforting aspect of their life within 12 to 18 months.
A diaper is taped onto the wearer by a caregiver, and feels like a bulky mass between the legs. Many describe the experience of wearing a diaper as “soft”, “poofy”, or “thick”. Within the first ten minutes of being changed into a dry diaper, the wearer may feel a slight dampness as their bladder leaks into it. While most people imagine that diapers will feel constantly wet as they absorb urine, the reality is that heavier diapers feel very dry until they near capacity. Diapers with plastic backing may produce a slight noise when a patient moves, often described as a “rustling” or “crinkling”similar to that of a plastic bag.
As the diaper is used, it becomes warmer, thicker, heavier, bulkier, and swollen. Over time, your body may begin to ignore the sensation of urination. Signs that you are urinating include a feeling of blooming warmth against your groin. Many diapers incorporate wetness indicators in their prints to signal when it is time for a change, but many caretakers will choose to inspect the diaper physically or visually. Diaper designs range from purely medical to ones decorated with colourful patterns and characters. Once it has reached capacity, the diaper is changed at the caregiver’s discretion.
Most PR patients are discouraged from touching or adjusting their diaper in any way, and many are not allowed to ask for changes or comment on the state of their diaper. This is intended to make consciousness of the diaper as secondary as possible for the wearer, and increase the responsibility of the caregiver for checking and changing the patient. Instances of leakage may occur during the adjustment period, but it is important to remember that this is your caregiver’s responsibility and not yours.
Diapers are often paired with supportive clothing such as plastic pants and onesies to provide structure and insulation. Please consult the Flowly™ catalogue for a full range of products available to support life with incontinence. Flowly™ security products such as tamper evident tape, locking covers, and anti-strip clothing may also assist in cases of reluctance towards diapering. For patients with penises, usage of a chastity cage can ensure optimal guidance of the urethra downwards towards the area of thickest padding, preventing the penis from slipping towards a thinner part of the diaper’s absorbent surface, as well as controlling unwanted touching.
Your mobility may change.
Due to the mass between the legs, the gait of a diaper wearer becomes noticeably wider, sometimes referred to as a “waddle”. This can be difficult to adjust to at first, but becomes normal to the patient over the course of about a month. Likewise, outings in public with your caregiver will often require access to adult changing spaces. Although the number and normalcy of adult changing spaces has increased significantly over the last ten years, there may be situations where such spaces are not available. It is the responsibility of the caregiver to plan outings with access to changing spaces, or to diaper the patient with a longer period of usage in mind.
Your bedding may change.
Although diapers can be trusted to absorb large amounts of urine, It will still be necessary to protect your bedding against leakages that may occur when a diaper is saturated overnight, squeezed by body weight, or rendered ineffective by sleeping posture. This may mean the usage of waterproof sheets, absorbent pads, or a combination thereof. For those without prior bedwetting experience, it may be difficult to fall asleep during the adjustment period to incontinence. Sedatives may be used to assist in falling and staying asleep, and humane restraints may be used to maintain optimal belly-up sleeping posture for absorbance efficiency.
Your bowel continence may be affected.
As the patient will be wearing high absorbency diapers at all times of the day, access to toilets for the purpose of bowel movements may be rarer or disallowed. The process of removing the diaper in order to sit on a toilet may also be a long and difficult process, especially for patients with diminished fine motor control. Likewise, reduced muscle tone of the pelvic floor will naturally affect a patient’s ability to support their bowels. Whether they have been conditioned to mess their diapers or not, patients may find themselves in situations where urgency requires them to make an immediate bowel movement in their diaper. This is known as functional bowel incontinence, and it is important for caregivers to be cognisant and prepared for unplanned stools alongside typical wetting.
Over time, a patient may become accustomed to and accepting of using the diaper for bowel movements instead of a typical bathroom. Caregivers may choose to encourage or adapt to this change, or to enforce scheduled bathroom sessions to discourage the necessity of bowel movements while diapered. Usage of laxatives can encourage regularity of bowel movements on a predictable schedule, and usage of internal deodorants can reduce unpleasant odours.
See the “Other treatments” section of this guide for discussion of Flowly™ products designed to enforce bowel incontinence.
Your image to yourself and others may change.
As you adjust to life as diaper dependant, you may experience feelings of embarrassment or shame. Remember that your caregiver knows what is right for you, and that SecuStent™ implantation has been decided as the best course of action. Remember that diapers are a medical tool designed to improve your life and reduce the stresses of toileting and leaking, and that you can trust their absorbency to be adequate for your needs. Although you may feel self-conscious about wearing diapers, most SecuStent™ recipients adjust to and accept their incontinent status within 12 to 18 months.
Status as a person with incontinence often increases feelings of dependance on caregivers and others, as well as reinforcing Psychoregressive conditioning, discouraging adult self-image and enforcing an irreversible physical change to the patient’s body. Likewise, knowledge that a patient requires diapers results in a 40 to 70% increase in adjusted social image and treatment by family, acquaintances and strangers alike.
You will still live a happy and healthy life.
The prospect of becoming permanently incontinent can be scary or intimidating, but know that with proper management, usage of diapers can become as secondary and normalised as usage of traditional bathrooms and underwear. Remember that varying levels of urinary incontinence are experienced by about 20% of adults worldwide, and that people with incontinence still experience a high quality of life with dignity and happiness. Social acceptance of voluntary incontinence has progressed greatly over the last ten years, being viewed as an acceptable alternative toileting method by the majority of society. Remember that after implantation, Incontinence will be inevitable, irreversible, and permanent, so the best attitude is one of adjustment and acceptance.
Can I reject the procedure? Know your rights as a PR patient.
Your caregiver was granted powers of Substituted Consent when you were registered for PR therapy, legally declaring you incapacitated and classing you as their legal dependant. When you consented to PR therapy, you waived all rights to bodily and psychological autonomy. This means that their decision is final, and rejection of the procedure is not possible. Resistance to the procedure will be met with medical sedation and physical restraint. Further Psychoregressive therapies or interventions may be necessary to improve acceptance of the treatment.
If you wish to separate from your legal caregiver, you can choose to be transferred to a PR institution, possessing the same rights to act as care provider. You can speak to any of your PR therapists about separating from your caregiver, but your status as a registered PR patient is permanent and irreversible.
Other treatments
Flowly™ also provides SecuStent™ CR, a colorectal stent designed for the enforcement of bowel incontinence. Working in a similar way to the standard SecuStent™, the SecuStent™ CR holds the internal rectal sphincter open to allow stool to pass into the colon, forcing the wearer to eliminate the stool immediately. Your caregiver may have elected for the installation of a SecuStent™ CR during the same operation as the standard SecuStent™ installation. If this is the case, you will next be provided with a leaflet explaining details of the procedure and device. Your caregiver has already been provided with information related to the SecuStent™ CR, and you may be fitted with one in the future according to incontinence adjustment goals.
What happens next?
Once you have asked any questions you have to the practitioner responsible for the operation, you will be transferred to the operation room and the procedure will take place. Comfort objects such as blankets or stuffed animals are allowed in the operation room, and you can request general anaesthetic if you prefer to sleep through the procedure. Following the procedure, you will be transferred to a recovery room where correct bedding-in of the device will be confirmed. Patients remain at the facility overnight for physical and psychological observation before being released to their caregiver.
Forcing your little cucky girl to edge herself by rubbing her swollen, wet and messy nappy against her stuffies while she’s in her crib is such a hot concept. You force her to do all the humiliation and edges forcing her to make herself more frustrated. Having a grown up stand over them to supervise while they give themselves some rewarding edges like a bratty child who can’t be trusted - at the same time as there forced to endure the warm wet messes between there legs, feeling the full weight of all there messes and accidents further adding to the humiliation still.
Regardless of how long you drag this out she still doesn’t get to cum. Only further edge herself until she’s a defeated, crying, fussy mess desperately pleading for a release that’s never going to come. “Awe what’s the matter baby? The grown up’s can’t understand you with your paci in but you seem awful fussy why don’t we get you down for a nap and we can change you when you wake up, okay?”
You can feel every humiliating piece of your captivity.
The first is the weight on your head, two oversized pink bows, tied high and tight so they bob whenever you move. You can’t see them, but you can feel the constant tug on your scalp each time the ribbons sway. They’re ridiculous, childish, and impossible to ignore. That’s why they’re there, to make sure you never forget how small you’ve been made to look.
The second reminder is on your feet. The thick, fleece booties are dyed the same babyish pink as the bows, but inside, against your bare skin, tiny plastic spikes press into the soles of your feet. They’re not sharp enough to pierce, but every attempt to stand or walk grinds them into your skin, turning even the smallest movement into a punishment. The soft, padded soles give you no balance, and the spikes rob you of any desire to try. You are meant to stay still, and the booties make sure you do.
Then there’s the pacifier. Oversized, bubblegum-pink, the shield flush against your lips, the bulb is inflated inside your mouth until your jaw aches. You couldn’t spit it out even if you tried, it’s locked behind your teeth, pressing your tongue flat, filling your mouth so completely that breathing through your nose becomes the only option. Each shallow breath reminds you of the seal, the absolute silence it forces on you. You can’t plead. You can’t scream. You can only whimper into it, the sound muffled to nothing.
But the straightjacket makes the helplessness complete. The snug, pink cotton sleeves pin your arms tight across your chest, buckled brutally in the back so you can’t move them even an inch. The mitts sewn into the sleeves make it impossible to grip or scratch, your fingers trapped in soft, useless padding. Your shoulders ache from the constant pressure, but no position offers relief. The jacket doesn’t care about your comfort. It exists to deny you the ability to act.
And then… the most degrading reminder of all. The sagging pink diaper between your legs. It’s thick enough to force your knees apart, crinkling loudly with every involuntary shift. The front is warm and swollen, heavy from earlier accidents, while the back sags obscenely low, dragging against your skin with each tiny movement. The weight swings slightly whenever your hips shift, a pendulum of shame.
There’s nothing in your day to break the monotony. No comfort. No hope. No freedom. Except… for one thing.
The only change, the only sensation you have left, comes when your bladder gives way. That slow, spreading warmth that blooms in the padding between your legs is the closest thing you have to stimulation. You’ve come to crave it without meaning to, counting the minutes until the next time.
You tell yourself you hate it, that it’s disgusting, but each time it starts you feel your pulse quicken, your breath hitch behind the pacifier. The flood soaks into the waiting bulk of your diaper, adding to its weight, its squish, its cling against your skin. By the time the stream ends, there’s a tiny flicker of happiness deep inside you, the smallest spark of relief in an otherwise empty day.
And you know, without wanting to, that you’re already waiting for the next time.
Binkie had laughed when he first told her about them.
Those “special diapers.”
The way he’d described them, like something out of a fairytale for naughty littles, was so over the top she couldn’t help but roll her eyes and play along. Magic diapers that could “take your potty training away”? Please. It was just another one of his teasing stories.
Still, she let him guide her onto his bed, the soft crinkle of the fresh padding loud in the quiet room. He’d chosen the most embarrassingly babyish print he could find: pastel animals parading across the front. The white tee he gave her barely brushed the top of the diaper, and the pigtails he’d tied into her red hair completed the look.
“You look perfect,” he’d said with that maddeningly smug grin.
Now, five minutes later, she was sitting cross-legged in the middle of his bed, one hand absently resting over the front of her diaper, still amused at the silliness of it all. She was about to make a joke when it happened, an odd, warm flutter deep in her belly. It startled her, but she ignored it, thinking it was nothing. Then her bladder let go. No warning. No clenching. Just… releasing.
Her eyes went wide. “W-wait...”
A spreading warmth bloomed under her hand, racing across the front padding before she could even think to stop it. The crinkle under her palm grew softer, heavier, as the diaper greedily absorbed every drop. Her fingers tightened reflexively, as if she could somehow pinch the flow shut from the outside, but it was no use. The stream kept coming, unstoppable.
He was leaning against the headboard, watching her with the same relaxed satisfaction as someone watching the last piece of a puzzle click into place. “Told you,” he said, voice low and far too pleased.
Her mouth opened, then closed. She was supposed to be protesting, supposed to be annoyed at being tricked, but her voice wouldn’t come. She could only stare at him, the heat in her cheeks matching the heat in her diaper.
“Can’t hold it, can you, Binkie?”
She swallowed. The urge to deny it rose up immediately, but the squishy warmth between her thighs was too obvious, the faint scent of baby powder and something wetter too telling. She shook her head once, almost imperceptibly.
He chuckled, pushing off the headboard and crawling closer. “Five minutes. That’s all it took.”
Her lips pressed together, trying to keep her expression neutral. Inside, though, her thoughts were tumbling, shock, confusion, a prickle of fear at how real it felt. It wasn’t supposed to work like this. She’d worn diapers before, sure, but she’d always been in control of when she used them. This… this was different.
He reached out, brushing his knuckles over her cheek. “And here I thought I’d have to wait a few hours before you’d lose it. Guess my little girl is a natural.”
She wanted to glare, to tell him this was all some weird fluke. But then his hand moved down, resting lightly over hers on the thick, damp padding. The gentle squeeze he gave made her stomach flip, and without meaning to, the corners of her mouth twitched upward.
“Ah,” he said softly, grinning as he caught it. “There’s my baby’s real answer.”
Binkie bit her lip, but the smile broke through anyway, small at first, then spreading, betraying her completely. Still embarrassing, yes, but softened by the way he looked at her, like she’d just proven something he’d known all along.
He leaned in, kissing her forehead. “Don’t worry, sweetheart. You won’t even miss the potty. Not once you get used to how nice this feels.” His hand slid down over hers, fingers pressing into the thick, swollen front of her diaper. The slow, deliberate rub made her breath hitch, the damp padding squishing under his palm.
A soft, helpless moan escaped her lips, and this time she didn’t try to hide it.
“That’s it, baby, let it all out,” I cooed. “Have a big cry. Daddy's here, little girl." I stroked my wife's hair gently while she bawled her eyes out like a two-year-old, sat on the floor of our bedroom wearing nothing but her sopping wet diaper.
She gasped in big lungfuls of air, her bare chest heaving with every shaky breath. “You… did something… to me!” she said between hiccups, batting my hand away and glaring at me accusingly. It seemed that I'd finally been found out.
"What did I do to you, sweetheart?" I asked softly.
"You... turned me... into... a cry... baby!" she sobbed, almost hyperventilating now, her words barely intelligible. "You... want me... like this!"
“That's right, darling," I said, and I saw her tear-filled eyes widen in surprise at my ready confession. "I want to be your Daddy. I want to take care of you. But you've always been so strong and independent. I knew I had to do something to change that, so I used some special hypnosis files, hidden in that night-time background music you like to listen to, to erode your emotional control. It's the same technique I used to take away your potty training.”
She looked at me in horror, but I just chuckled and reached out to stroke her tear-stained cheek lovingly with the back of my fingers. “It’s so sweet that you can’t control when you go pee-pee or poo-poo anymore." I patted the front of her soggy diaper. “And you look so pretty in your princess nappy!”
“You did this to me?” my wife whispered, so shocked that her wracking sobs had come to a halt. Her hand drifted down to the huge disposable diaper bulging between her thighs. "You made me need these?"
"Yes, baby," I said. "I thought making you incontinent would be enough, but even then you were still trying to be self-sufficient; insisting on changing your own nappies, refusing to let me comfort you after an accident. So now you're going to be emotionally incontinent as well, sweetie. No more bottling things up. No more self-control. When you get even the slightest bit upset about something, you'll be in tears."
“But whyyy?!” she wailed, her sobbing returning in full force. "Why did you... do this... to me?!"
“It’s not good for girls to hold in their feelings,” I said, running my fingers through her hair again. She seemed too appalled by what I was saying to even notice. “It’s so much cuter, so much more feminine, when you lose control and have a little meltdown instead.”
“But I don’t… want to be… like this!” she cried.
“I know, darling,” I said soothingly, “but this is how I want you. Daddy knows best. Being a tearful toddler suits you much better than being an adult woman. In any case, there's no undoing the effects of the hypnosis now, little one. I made sure it was completely permanent."
“No!” she wailed, bouncing on her wet bottom and beating her fists impotently against the floor. “It's not fair! I wanna be a grown-up! I wanna use the toilet! I don't wanna be a stupid crybaby! I don't wanna! I don't wanna!" Her words trailed off into incoherent blubbering as she devolved into a massive temper tantrum.
I couldn't help but smile. She looked so adorable! "Hush now, princess," I cooed, shoving a large pink pacifier between my wife's lips. Her mewling was cut off abruptly, and she started sucking on it at once - another product of the hypnosis files. She was left sniffling and whimpering quietly, her dummy bobbing rhythmically in her mouth. "Now I know you're very upset because Daddy turned you into a big baby," I said, pushing her back gently onto the floor, "but I'm sure a nice dry diaper will have you feeling better in no time. Legs up, baby! It's time for you to let Daddy take care of everything."
If she wants to “go potty” like a big girl - let her. Make sure you hold her hand as you walk her there. Gently pull down her trousers, make sure to give her nappy a quick check and some embarrassing rubs while you tell her how proud you are that she has stayed dry so far. Sit her down and let her go. (Her nappy doesn’t come off that stays safely round her waist. That’s the only bathroom she’ll ever use.)
Ignore her pleas and her cry’s to take it off that’s not gonna happen. Just gently encourage her to go “go potty like a big girl.” As you softly rub her legs or play with her hair all while you sit next to her and supervise. Once she’s gone and she’s all fussy and upset. Pull her trousers back up. Give her a few squishy rubs on her now very wet bottom and tell her how proud of her you are for acting like a big girl. Give her all the cuddles and reassurance she needs before sending her back off to play with her toys.
The Choice That Brought Me Happiness: Being My True Self
Life is full of choices. Some are small, like what to wear or what to eat. Others are much bigger and change your whole life. One of the biggest choices I have ever made was deciding to go back to wearing diapers and living more like a baby. Most adults would never think about doing this. It’s not something people talk about, and it’s definitely not something society says is “normal.” But for me, it felt right. I was tired of pretending to be someone I wasn’t. I wanted to be happy in my own way, even if other people didn’t understand. I decided to stop living for others and start living for myself.
When I made this choice, I had to let go of many things that come with being an adult. I gave up using the toilet. I stopped wearing panties. I gave up privacy, adult pleasures like sex, romantic relationships, video games, adult shows and movies, drinking from cups, eating solid food, sleeping in a regular bed, and staying up late. These things are normal for most grown-ups, but they didn’t make me feel like myself. Letting go of them helped me feel calm, safe, and at peace. Some people don’t understand my choice, and that can be hard. But even with the embarrassment, I know I made the right decision for me.
One of the biggest changes I made was giving up toilet use. Most people don’t even think about it—they just go. But for me, I decided to wear diapers instead. This was not an easy change. It meant I had to let go of something that people see as a basic part of growing up. Some people ask questions when they find out. Others make jokes or stare. It can be really embarrassing. I sometimes worry what others will think. But at the same time, I feel safe in my diapers. They help me stay relaxed, especially when I’m stressed or anxious. I don’t have to rush or worry. For me, that sense of comfort is more important than fitting in.
Switching from panties to diapers was another big step. At first, it felt strange. It made everything feel more real. I was really saying goodbye to my adult life. Diapers can be noisy or bulky under clothes, and sometimes people notice. That makes me nervous, especially in public. There is always a chance someone will figure it out. If I need a change, I may need help, and that means letting someone else into a very personal part of my life. That loss of privacy was hard to get used to. I had to be brave and accept that people might treat me differently. But every time I choose what makes me feel good instead of what makes me look “normal,” I feel proud.
Privacy is something most adults value. I used to like keeping things to myself. But living this way means I sometimes need help. People may check my diaper or change me. This makes me feel exposed. It can be scary to trust others that much. Sometimes, I feel small and helpless. Other times, I feel cared for and supported. I’ve learned that even though I gave up some privacy, I gained something else—connection. The people who help me see me for who I am. They understand me, and they love me. That’s something special, even if it’s not always easy.
Another important thing I let go of was adult pleasure, including sex. For many adults, this is a big part of life. It’s something people talk about often and see as a goal in relationships. But for me, it never felt right. It made me feel uncomfortable and unsure. I didn’t enjoy it the way others seemed to. So I decided to stop trying. I don’t want sex to be part of my life. It took a while to accept that this was okay. Society tells us that everyone wants these things. But I don’t. Choosing to live without them has made me feel more like myself. I don’t have to pretend or force anything. I feel more peaceful and less stressed now.
Because I gave up that part of life, I also stepped away from romantic relationships. I don’t date. I don’t look for love the way others do. At first, that was hard. I felt left out. Friends talked about their partners, and I had nothing to say. But I realized I didn’t need romance to feel loved. I started focusing on friendships instead. The people who accept me for who I am are the ones who matter. I don’t have to explain myself to them. They make me feel safe and happy. That means more to me than any date ever could.
One of the hardest things to give up was being seen as a grown-up. Adults are expected to be strong, independent, and serious. They have jobs, make big choices, and deal with stress. I didn’t want that. I didn’t feel ready, and I didn’t feel happy trying to live that way. But walking away from that meant people would see me differently. Some don’t take me seriously. Some think I’m lazy or strange. That can be painful. But I’ve learned to stop worrying about their opinions. Their thoughts don’t define me. I know who I am, and I am proud of the life I live.
I also stopped playing video games. A lot of adults and teens use them to relax. I used to enjoy them too. But over time, they started feeling too grown-up. I felt tense while playing. I wanted something simpler. I now play with baby toys and toddler games. At first, I felt silly. I thought, “What if someone sees?” But then I noticed how calm and happy I felt. My toys don’t stress me out. They help me feel playful and free. They remind me that it’s okay to enjoy small, quiet things.
I also made changes in what I watch. I stopped watching adult TV shows and movies. They felt loud, stressful, and confusing. Instead, I watch cartoons made for young kids. They have bright colors, gentle stories, and happy endings. They make me smile. I feel comforted and safe while watching them. Sometimes I feel embarrassed when others ask what I watch, but I remind myself that I’m doing what makes me happy. That’s what matters most.
Another big change was where I sleep. I used to sleep in a normal bed like most adults. But I didn’t feel safe or cozy. I tossed and turned at night. Now, I sleep in a crib. It’s small and has high sides. It helps me feel protected, like nothing can bother me while I sleep. I look forward to bedtime now. My crib is my safe place. I know most people would find it strange, but it brings me peace.
I also stopped drinking from regular cups. I use baby bottles now. This may sound odd, but it helps me feel calm. The act of sucking on a bottle is soothing. It slows me down and helps me relax. Sometimes, people see me with a bottle and stare or ask questions. That can be hard. But I don’t let it bother me for long. I know I’m doing what’s best for me.
Eating is also different now. I no longer eat solid food the way I used to. My meals are soft, mashed, or pureed. Sometimes I’m spoon-fed. It can feel embarrassing if someone sees my plate. But eating this way helps me stay connected to the part of myself I’m embracing. I feel more relaxed at mealtime. I enjoy my food without stress. It helps me feel loved and cared for.
I even changed my sleep schedule. I go to bed early, even on weekends. Most people my age stay up late watching shows or talking with friends. At first, I missed that. But I realized how good I felt with more sleep. I felt more rested and calm. My early bedtime is now part of my routine. It helps me feel stable. I no longer wake up feeling tired and unhappy.
Even though I have given up many things, I have gained so much more. I feel peace. I feel safe. I feel like I finally found who I really am. Living this way takes courage. It’s not easy. There are days when I feel shy, scared, or judged. But I remind myself why I made this choice. I chose happiness. I chose truth. I chose me.
This lifestyle may not make sense to others. But to me, it is everything. It brings me joy. It helps me feel at home in my own body. I don’t have to hide anymore. I can breathe, smile, and live in a way that brings me comfort. That is something no one can take away from me.
In the end, this choice is not just about diapers or toys. It’s about being honest with myself. It’s about choosing a life that matches my heart. I don’t live by other people’s rules anymore. I live by what makes me feel whole. In doing that, I found something more powerful than approval—I found real happiness.