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Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.

Therefore, I present to you:

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

lovelyplot

This would’ve been great an hour ago

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If your anxiety includes rapid heartbeat for no reason then it may help to exercise! It helps for me because I’m focused on whatever moves I’m doing and breathing, and it gives my heart rate a reason to be that high so that I can start the slow cooking down process and (hopefully) bring that heart rate down with it. Look up a quick cardio workout on YouTube or something and just do it in your room!

systlin

This is so, SO true.

All ‘doing something relaxing’ ever did for me was give my brain MORE free time to FREAK THE FUCK OUT.

kipplekipple

Drawing and making stuff does occupy my mind so I mean YMMV

coderfortourette

Ok I saw this a few days ago and kept it in my mind.

Then we had to go on a 14 hour car ride and it basically saved my sanity. We were stuck in traffic bc of an accident in I75 and I’ve recently gotten really uncomfortable in cars.

In order to not have a panic attack in an overstuffed car with six people all on edge, I tried to find words that followed a pattern. I thought of a word that started with aa than ba than ca and so on (I got stuck at ka)

That honestly helped.

I also recommend an app called Puzzledom. It’s full of different types of puzzles. I played like tangrams and blocks for over an hour just distracting myself.

(And when I’m at home I go for a run/walk. It gives me a chance to daydream about other situations)

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real power is going outside knowing you look ugly and also knowing that if you chose to perform femininity in accordance with patriarchal standards you could look attractive, but genuinely prefering to look ugly and not feeling bad about it. feels good feels organic

anarchohellenism

True, honest, genuine power is going outside knowing you look gorgeous bc you don’t need to perform hyper femininity the way men want you to and that you can be stunning despite patriarchal ideals

wlwellbutrin

i appreciate the intent but i actually made this post in direct response to the liberal feminist tendency to widen the parameters of “beauty” rather than challenging the concept itself and specifically the notion that women must be beautiful to be valuable, and as such my choice of words was very deliberate—i have no interest in being assured i am beautiful and a great deal of interest in existing without being told i must be such. this post is not self-deprecating and does not call for bathroom-stall platitudes. ugliness in women is threatening and i embrace that.

jervae

“I have no interest in being assured I am beautiful and a great deal of interest in existing without being told I must be such.”

POWERFUL

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the motto

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7/7/18

Also check your moon & rising.

Aries: If you have yet to be repaid and important favor or an imperative debt, refrain from giving the one who owes you any extra handouts until they can keep their end of the bargain. Although you may feel bad for them, at the end of the day, they could easily begin to take extreme advantage of your generosity. They need to know you have a limit, and it’s up to you to enforce that limit.

Taurus: The greatest force you need to fight right now is the force of temptation. Temptation drives us to do many things we would not ordinarily partake in. You may be contemplating taking a giant risk, or reverting to old habits, or being extra impulsive, because all would seem satisfying to you right now. But push the thought out of your head. You can withstand your circumstances without the “boost” you think giving into your temptations would provide. If you know something isn’t good or right for you, stay away from it.

Gemini: When receiving harsh criticism, you most often have two choices. You can either heed the criticism and use it to make changes you deem necessary, or you can push it to the back of your brain and move on. If you believe someone has been critiquing you unfairly- and serving up insults and belittling remarks rather than blunt and stone cold advice- you don’t need to give it a second thought. Although the words may burn in your brain, you shouldn’t view them as a reflection of yourself. On the other hand, if you believe the critiques were warranted, you can evaluate them privately and see if you find any truth in the words. The choice is ultimately your own to make.

Cancer: Most other human beings living on this planet have fears that may seem irrational to others, but are all the more real to them. But contrary to popular belief, you don’t necessarily have to “face these fears” in order to ease your anxieties regarding them. If you are afraid of something, don’t push yourself to get close to it. Over time, fears can fade. They don’t always need to be put to the test. And why be in proximity to your greatest sources of terror, when that in itself would be a stressful experience to you?

Leo: It may seem that your schedule just isn’t agreeing with you right now. When you want to see people, perhaps there isn’t nearly enough time. And it could be that when you finally aren’t busy, those friends you were so eager to spend time with are no longer around. You are undergoing many changes in your life, and it is natural to be caught in a bustling schedule when you have so much chaos going on. In time, it will clear up, and you will find that there can be a happier balance. One of which you have been waiting for. For now, do what you have to, and don’t worry about the less important matters. You will find a way- don’t you always find a way?

Virgo: You may have been looking for ways to better yourself, only to be disappointed when they fall short. Although everyone has a special talent, not every outside talent will work for them. Don’t lose faith in the abilities that you DO have just because something new you may have been trying to take on isn’t working out the way you’d hoped. Strengthen the abilities you do have. And don’t forget, there are many.

Libra: There is a difference between someone who truly values your friendship and someone who wants to have a good night out. You need to begin to learn this difference well. Sure, you could have all the fun in the world with another person, but at the end of the day, are they going to make sure you get home okay? Or that you don’t need anything? Or that you feel alright about everything that may have happened? If not, then don’t overestimate their ability to be there for you. Seek meaning first- because the people you can have an enjoyable time with who also mean something to you are truly the ones who count the most.

Scorpio: In order to give your efforts the exposure and lead them to the praise that they deserve, you must not be afraid to present them to others. Showing someone a project you feel you have done well does not mean you’re boasting, it means you are sharing your creations with others in the interest of making them known on a larger scale. This is very much something you should do, but in order to do it, you have to be open to speaking to others and starting from the beginning. It’s a route worth exploring.

Sagittarius: Be sure to control your temper as much as you possibly can, because some of the things you are getting angry at or grumpy in the wake of may be too small to herald such a reaction. Will it actually matter once the sun has set and the conversations of the day are placed aside? If the answer is no, don’t ruin the moment by getting too worked up about it.

Capricorn: No one is immune to failure. Not even the greats. Most can say that at one point in their life they have been rejected, pushed aside, or told that the message they were trying to get across did not matter. Not everyone is going to recognize you for who you are, and if they do, not everyone is going to appreciate or have a longing to be closer to that person. But think about all the people who ARE fond of you and all you work to build. They help make it more worthwhile. And besides, just because you’ve been turned down, doesn’t mean you don’t have a certain spark about you and that your ideas don’t have merit. They have purpose. You have purpose. Keep going.

Aquarius: It would be in your best interest to tell the complete truth in lieu of making excuses right now. Many may be confused as to where you stand with them, or if you are even pleased with their company. If they are truly a bother to you, you shouldn’t be afraid to say that. You owe yourself the reprieve from such a headache, and you owe them the truth…because even a harsh truth is better than a lingering silence. You don’t have to be brutal when you do decide to say something- just make sure all stones are turned and all faces are laid out neatly for all to see.

Pisces: What “success” may mean to one person may carry on a completely different definition when spoken of by someone else. Your success may not abide by traditional standards, like getting a high paying job or starting a family, at least just yet. But even if it never did- that’s okay. All you need to truly do is try and make yourself happy, and you are well on your way to a life well lived.

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“This is my first cabbage! You know, a lot of times they’re kind of soft, but this one is solid! It’s going to be good eatin’!“ “What are you going to make with it?” “Well, this one I’m giving to my parents. You have to give the first one away or you just spoil the whole spirit of gardening.”

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always reblog cabbage lady

raise the happiness level of your entire dash

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Reblog cabbage lady for good luck in 2017 🍀

The signs as the Baudelaire children

Violet: Pisces, Leo, Sagittarius, Virgo

Klaus: Capricorn, Taurus, Libra, Gemini

Sunny: Scorpio, Cancer, Aries, Aquarius

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a friend of mine tried to sell his soul on ebay and the starter price was $10 and people were bidding on it but before anything happened ebay took it down and sent him an email explaining that if he was selling a soul that didn’t actually exist then it was against their policy and if he was selling a real soul then that is a human body part and it is also against their policy