Filthy Animal W/Good Intentions

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I need to get over you Because I swear everything you say is intended to hurt me. When in reality it’s just me Thinking you still care enough to even bother with me at all.

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Forgotten/ignored facts about polyamory

It is not cheating, so long as your partners are aware and consenting.

We don’t want to fuck everyone

We aren’t greedy

Not everyone in a relationship is dating everyone else. (ie, I can have a boyfriend, and a girlfriend, and neither of them is required to date the other)

Poly refers to Polynesia, not polyamory, and the people of Polynesia have been trying to reclaim it. The correct shortened term is ‘polya’ or ‘polyam’

It’s not the same thing as polysexual

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Awwww my girlfriend made this ^_^ Poly pride!

Thank you very much for this  submission! You form a lovely family and this is a really beautiful message! #PolyPride! =)

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Some extra things I have to say to couples

First of all, the text you’ll read below is not mine. Link to its real author is given at the end of it. Though I don’t fully agree with everything she said, I must say I think just the same in more than 95% of it. It’s food for thought. Please read until the end. It’s long but it’s worth reading!

Okay, this is a message just for couples.

I have now been a single polyamorous person & part of a couple in a polyamorous relationship, so I have seen both sides of the coin, although I still have a lot to learn & explore. I understand that as a couple one may fear that any 3rd coming in won’t love both you & your partner. The problem I see with this is that you could be waiting a long time to find that one female or male that is going to find you both compatible & attractive. The odds aren’t very good & I’ve heard this from tons of couples who have been looking for years. Just like no one is perfect, neither is forcing a single person to find you both attractive on all levels.

It’s hard enough finding one person we find attractive, then to find 2 & demanding that the one person accept both of you as intimate partners, is very unrealistic in my opinion. It also sounds very controlling if you think about it & this is how I feel when it comes to couples. In fact I find most polyamorous couples really aren’t poly at all. Polyamory is about freedom, & allowing humans to love freely.

With all the restrictions polyamorous couples seem to put on singles, it’s clear to me they are either scared shitless, or just don’t really understand what polyamory is all about.

When I say this, they often lash out in a very immature way saying WE WANT FIDELITY.

I’ll state right here & now, being polyamorous doesn’t mean SLEEPING AROUND.

If you think forcing people to ONLY be with you is being committed, I feel sorry for you two.

I’ve had couples I haven’t even talked to on the phone demand that I never ever want another man. LOL, I find this amusing & very immature. It definitely doesn’t say “polyamorous” to me. It speaks monogomous while being slightly open to one other person.

I would love nothing more then to find that both of you have the characteristics I want in a mate, but what if I don’t? What if I like one of you & have stronger feelings for the other? Does that mean you won’t allow a natural relationship to develop between me & that person I have feeling for? Does that mean you will pull your other partner away because you fear the outcome?

How is that being truly polyamorous?

I feel that if people start off from a place of fear, then it’s an unhealthy relationship to begin & it will definitely end negatively.

I don’t feel demanding a single person love both of you is being truly polyamorous because being poly isn’t about control, it’s about giving up control. Control is a sign of fear & while we all have fears (jelousy), the beauty of polyamory is learning how to work through our fears.

Another beauty of polyamory is opening your heart up, giving up the mainstream ideals that you own someone just because you are in a relationship with them & learning how to communicate openly & take chances.

I had a rule in my last relationship, where if he was going to start talking to someone, I had to get to know her at the same time he was getting to know her. Even if she & I were never to be more then friends, that was the deal. That I can understand being a healthy rule, but I can’t go around telling others who they can & can’t love. I just don’t feel it’s right or spiritually loving.

One thing that did concern me while being in that relationship, was the type of person he would resonate with. Unfortunately he & I weren’t compatible, & he didn’t care who he dated (he was a serial monogamist BIG TIME). He just cared that she was breathing & nice. So because he had no idea who he was as a person or what he wanted in a mate, I didn’t trust that he would find like minded women I could even be friends with.

Now that is a reason to fear, but I shouldn’t have had any relationship with him in the first place, let alone a poly relationship, so I can’t use that as an excuse to control who he wants to date/see. Also, it became clear afterwards, that he wasn’t looking for polyamory, he was looking to replace me.

So if these are your concerns, you two aren’t ready to bring in another person into your relationship. These fears need to be more ironed out before you start involving another human being.

I’m opening up & saying this because I feel it has to be said.

My experience with polyamorous couples has been that they have so many issues surrounding control.

They don’t even evaluate if the person is a committed person, they just right away demand that I NEVER EVER for as long as I live look at another man or woman.

It’s clear a lot of couples aren’t ready to be polyamorous even though they think they are, & that’s fine, no one says you have to rush into something, but please consider where your relationship is at before you contact me:

Are you using another person (me or whomever) to try & fix your relationship?

Do you both look for the same type of person? Have you discussed that with one another? What if he likes quiet women & you like more talkative women? Then what do you do? Split her in half? LOL

What happens if you (the female) resonate more with me then the male does with me? Does that mean the relationship just ends? That sounds really controlling & unhealthy to me.

Why do you fear having a relationship with another couple (assuming you do)?  Is it because the male is afraid of other men? Is he homophobic even if the other male is totally straight?  Does he think all bi males will just come on to him? Is he afraid the other man will take over his domain?  Does he not trust men?  If you are the woman, are you just placating his wishes in order not to rock the boat?  Why should it matter about the gender?  Polyamory is about love & the person, not what gender they are.

Can you two think of yourselves as individuals? Because you are. You aren’t just a couple, I see you as 2 individual human beings who I wish to get to know together & separately.

How often do you two communicate with one another?

What rules have you set forth regarding your search for other polyamorous people?

If you are open to loving more then one person, why do a lot of the females within the couple stop themselves from loving men as well? You say you don’t need another man, but love is about love, it’s not about gender. Sure I’d love to have balance & have one man & one woman in my life, but I’m not going to stop myself from loving another man should he pop into my life. That makes no logical sense to me & doesn’t sound very polyamorous to me at all.

So I ask you to please question your motives before you e-mail me so we can talk about what bothers me when it comes to polyamorous couples. I find if a couple can’t talk about these things & they run away, it’s because they fear something that is triggering them. There is still a huge debate about whether it’s better for a single person to find another single rather then find a couple. This is what many singles are doing because of all the problems they encounter when trying to start a relationship with a polyamorous couple.

I want to hear your points of view so I can learn & understand more.

I feel all couples need to understand more of how the singles feel, because we are not getting anywhere or moving forward when we ignore the differences in how we think & feel. I always recommend this book to singles & couples alike, as it helps people determine if they are ready for a polyamorous relationship. If you feel we can become good friends first & foremost with no expectation of becoming intimate partners, than please e-mail me & we will see where this takes us. If you are using a freebie e-mail service such as Hotmail or Yahoo, please make sure you include my keywords “Poly Style Together - A couple” in the subject line & tell me your thoughts on what you just read.

Thanks for reading & I wish you much joy in your lives!

Love, Michelle

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Links

This List will be updated as we find, receive or create new resources. If for any reason you would like to voice a complaint, or a concern over the behaviour displayed by these blogs, I direct you to our ask box:

(Now in Alphabetical Order)

Addiction

http://watershedrecovery.tumblr.com/

http://ambrosiatreatmentcenter.tumblr.com/

http://solutionsrecovery.tumblr.com/

http://benchmarkrecovery.tumblr.com/

http://frozenturkey.tumblr.com/

http://believeinrecovery.tumblr.com/

Agender

http://agender-earthworm.tumblr.com

Androgyny

http://fyandrogyny.tumblr.com/

http://practicalandrogyny.tumblr.com/

http://androappreciation.tumblr.com/

http://androidentity.tumblr.com/

Aromantic

http://aromanticaardvark.tumblr.com/

http://arosecret.tumblr.com/

http://aromanticsanonymous.tumblr.com/

Asexual

http://www.asexuality.org/

http://asexualityexists.tumblr.com/

http://asexualeducation.tumblr.com/

http://aceadmiral.tumblr.com/

http://ace-reporter.tumblr.com/

http://asexualporn.tumblr.com/

Autism Spectrum / Asperger’s

http://aspergersissues.tumblr.com/

http://queeringautism.tumblr.com/

http://autisticproblems.tumblr.com/

http://aspiealligator.tumblr.com

http://autistickitten.tumblr.com/

BDSM / Kink

http://bdsmproblems.tumblr.com/

http://bdsm101.tumblr.com/

Bisexual

http://twobisexualsonestraight.tumblr.com/ 

http://biconfessions.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahbisexuals.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahbidolphin.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahbisexualityisawesome.tumblr.com/

http://bisexualme.tumblr.com/

http://thebiblog.tumblr.com/

http://bimennetwork.tumblr.com/

http://thesunnysideofbeingbi.tumblr.com/

http://bidyke.tumblr.com 

http://fuckyeahbigirls.tumblr.com

http://finebime.tumblr.com

http://j-applebee.tumblr.com 

http://robynochs.tumblr.com 

http://bi-pride.tumblr.com

http://askabisexualguy.tumblr.com

http://fuckyeahbiactivism.tumblr.com

http://youknowyourebi.tumblr.com

http://fuckyeahaskabi.tumblr.com

http://stfubiphobia.tumblr.com

http://bitalk.tumblr.com

http://bisexualshitthatblows.tumblr.com

http://biconfessions.tumblr.com

http://allthechocolatesinthebox.tumblr.com

http://bisexualftw.tumblr.com

http://bisexual-community.tumblr.com

http://bialogue-group.tumblr.com

Body Positivity

http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahbodypositive.tumblr.com/

http://thoushaltlovethyself.tumblr.com/

http://gtfothinspo.tumblr.com/

http://fatacceptancefrenchie.tumblr.com/

http://redefiningbodyimage.tumblr.com/

http://vizzzibility.tumblr.com/

Chronic Illness

http://chronicillnesscat.tumblr.com/

         Fibromyalgia

http://fibromyalgiaconfessions.tumblr.com/

http://fibromyalgiasucks.tumblr.com/

http://fucknofibro.tumblr.com/

http://fibromyalgiaproblems.tumblr.com/

         PTSD

http://ptsdpuma.tumblr.com/

http://myplaceapartments.tumblr.com

        Chronic Migraine

http://thatmword.com/

Closeted

http://closetproblems.tumblr.com/

Demisexual

http://demisexuality.tumblr.com/

Disabled / Disability

http://disabledpeoplearesexy.tumblr.com/

http://fuckthedisabled.tumblr.com

http://challengeableism.tumblr.com/

http://accessiblenom.tumblr.com/

http://secretsofthedisabled.tumblr.com/

http://disabilityconfessions.tumblr.com/

Emergency Housing Networks

http://open-homes.tumblr.com/

http://www.transhousingnetwork.com/

Fat positive

http://dominodollhouse.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahfatpositive.tumblr.com/

http://fatpositivemanatee.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahchubbyfashion.tumblr.com/

http://chubby-bunnies.tumblr.com/

http://curveappeal.tumblr.com/

http://redonkbadonk.tumblr.com/

http://havingafatday.tumblr.com/

http://fat-grrrl-activism.tumblr.com/ 

http://dailyfatspiration.tumblr.com/ 

http://bigbeautifulblackgirls.tumblr.com/

http://fatisattractive.tumblr.com/ 

http://fuckyeahprettyfatchicks.tumblr.com/ 

Femme

http://fuckyeahfemmes.com/

http://queerfatfemme.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahqueerfemme.tumblr.com/

http://femmethings.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahhardfemme.tumblr.com/

Fictives

http://fictivetalk.tumblr.com/

Gay

http://dlstrugglez.tumblr.com/

http://www.homocomix.com/

http://johnandedwardplusone.tumblr.com/

http://gaymalelove.tumblr.com

http://artofmalemasturbation.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahgaycouples.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahboylove.tumblr.com

http://ourgaylives.tumblr.com/

Genderqueer, Genderfuck and/or Genderfluid

http://genderqueer.tumblr.com/

http://genderqueerid.com/

http://fatgqs.tumblr.com/

http://gender-queer.tumblr.com/

http://genderqueeries.tumblr.com/

http://genderfuck.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahgenderqueers.tumblr.com/

http://genderfluidity.tumblr.com/

 Gender Variant and/or Non-Binary

http://askanonbinary.tumblr.com/

http://breakthebinary.tumblr.com/

http://genderfork.tumblr.com/

http://genderedge.tumblr.com

http://nonbinaryautistics.tumblr.com/

http://stfubinarists.tumblr.com/

http://fyeahnon-binaryseahorse.tumblr.com/

http://nonbinary.tumblr.com/

Gray-A Asexual

http://gray-asexuality.tumblr.com/

HIV POSITIVE

http://pozliving.tumblr.com/

Interracial Couples:

http://love-sees-no-color.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeainterracialcouples.tumblr.com/

http://uh-oh-oreo.tumblr.com/

http://weloveinterracialcouples.tumblr.com/

http://blackwomenasianmen.tumblr.com/

http://interraciallovin.tumblr.com/

Intersex

http://fuckyeahintersex.tumblr.com/

Lesbian

http://fuckyeahlesbiancouples.tumblr.com/

http://dailylesbiandose.tumblr.com/

http://girlswholikegirls.tumblr.com/

http://ilovelipsticklesbians.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahasiandykes.tumblr.com/

http://butch-in-progress.tumblr.com/

http://onlylivinglesbian.tumblr.com/

http://lesbihonest.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahlesbians.tumblr.com/

http://dykesanddykery.tumblr.com/

http://adorablelesbiancouples.tumblr.com/

LGBTQ/ Queer (General)

http://lgbtqadvice.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahqueerpoetry.tumblr.com/

http://www.queerbois.com/

http://queerwatch.tumblr.com/

http://queersecrets.tumblr.com/

http://everyoneisgay.com/

http://lgbtqconnections.tumblr.com/

http://blackgayproblems.tumblr.com/

http://dykesanddykery.tumblr.com/

http://genderandsexualityawareness.tumblr.com/

http://queeracademia.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahlgbt.tumblr.com/

Mental Health

http://mentalhealthconfessions.tumblr.com/

http://mentalhealthdirectory.tumblr.com/

http://healthofmind.tumblr.com/

http://mental-wellness.tumblr.com/

http://tatteredsanity.tumblr.com/

http://dailyreasontobehappy.tumblr.com/

http://the-lastnightalone.tumblr.com/

http://emotionaloutlet.tumblr.com/

http://get-back-to-you.tumblr.com/

         Anxiety

http://socialanxietythings.tumblr.com/

         Depression

http://defeatdepression.tumblr.com/

http://confessions-about-depression.tumblr.com/

         Bipolar

http://bipolarnetwork.tumblr.com/ 

http://thatisnotbipolar.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahbipolarowl.tumblr.com/

         OCD

http://ocdfree.tumblr.com/

http://ocd-things.tumblr.com/

         Eating Disorders/Pro Recovery/Anti Thinspo

http://eatingdisorderrecovery.tumblr.com/

http://fightingthinspo.tumblr.com/

http://offwithedshead.tumblr.com/

http://justaskinnyboy.com/

http://positivity-in-recovery.tumblr.com/

http://anatomy-of-recovery.tumblr.com/

Mixed Race

http://fuckyeahmixedbeauty.tumblr.com/

Multiplicity, Plural and/or DID

http://livingplural.tumblr.com/

http://plural-sanctuary.tumblr.com/

Neutrois

http://neutrois.tumblr.com/

Other

http://bustygirlcomics.com/

http://rawwomen.tumblr.com/

http://safe-places-safe-spaces.tumblr.com/

http://isthisableism.tumblr.com/

http://owningmytruth.com/

http://canyoudefineme.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahtriggerwarnings.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahselfcare.tumblr.com/

http://equalityblogdirectory.tumblr.com

http://asexualxbisexual.tumblr.com/

Otherkin

http://kinspeak.tumblr.com/

http://otherkin-news.tumblr.com/

http://nonhumanquotes.tumblr.com/

http://nonhumanquotes.tumblr.com/

http://theotherproblems.tumblr.com/

http://kinfessions.tumblr.com/

http://everybeingsart.tumblr.com/

http://littleotherkinthings-andproblems.tumblr.com/

http://individual-otherkin.tumblr.com/

http://aquaticsouls.tumblr.com/

         Trans*

http://transkinfolk.tumblr.com/

Pansexual

http://pansexualpride.tumblr.com/

http://pansexualftw.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahpansexuals.tumblr.com/

http://pansexualparty.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahpanproblems.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahpansexualpan.tumblr.com/

Polyamorous

http://adventuresinpoly.tumblr.com/

http://adorablepolycouples.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahpolyamory.tumblr.com/

http://polyamorousporpoise.tumblr.com/

http://polyamorouslyinlove.tumblr.com/

POC 

http://fascinasians.tumblr.com/

http://pervertsofcolor.tumblr.com/

Sex Education and Sex Positivity

http://fuckyeahsexeducation.tumblr.com/

http://sexreeducated.tumblr.com/

http://thesexuneducated.tumblr.com

http://positiveconnotation.tumblr.com/

http://sexetc.tumblr.com/

http://consensual.tumblr.com/

http://safersexuality.tumblr.com/

http://lacigreen.tumblr.com/

http://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen

http://queersexed.tumblr.com/

http://vaginastuff.tumblr.com/

http://plannedparenthood.tumblr.com/

http://takebacksexuality.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeah-sexpositivity.tumblr.com/

Survivor of Trauma (Trigger Warnings apply)

http://survivorsupport.tumblr.com/ 

http://thesurvivorsmark.tumblr.com/

http://projectunbreakable.tumblr.com/

http://nolongeravictim.tumblr.com/

http://survivorworld.tumblr.com/

http://survivingtherecovery.tumblr.com/

http://survivor-problems.tumblr.com/

http://rapesuvivorsstory.tumblr.com/

http://honeynbees.tumblr.com/

http://thediaryofasurvivor.tumblr.com/

http://fromvictim-tosurvivor.tumblr.com/

http://fromonesurvivortoanother.tumblr.com/

Trans*:

http://genderedintelligence.tumblr.com

http://t-r-a-n-s.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahtranspride.tumblr.com/

http://requiressomeassembly.tumblr.com/

http://transclothesexchange.tumblr.com

http://transpoc.tumblr.com/

http://transpride.tumblr.com/

http://transsuccess.tumblr.com/

http://loversintransition.tumblr.com/

http://toplesstransday.tumblr.com/

http://allthevalidation.tumblr.com/

         Comics

http://transtoons.tumblr.com

         Feminist

http://transqueery.tumblr.com/

         AMAB, Transfeminine and/or MTF

http://tuckingandotherskills.tumblr.com 

http://fuckyeahcutetranschicks.tumblr.com/

http://transcatharsis.tumblr.com/ 

http://mtfbutches.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahmtfs.tumblr.com/

http://mtfconfessions.tumblr.com/

         AFAB, Transmasculine and/or FTM

http://artoftransliness.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahftmsofcolor.tumblr.com/

http://tumblr.transguys.com/

http://fuckyeahftms.tumblr.com/

http://youknowyouretrans.tumblr.com/

http://theftm.tumblr.com/

         Trans* Femme

http://femmeftm.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahtransfemmes.tumblr.com

http://femmeforever.tumblr.com

Have any sites that we should know about?

LET US KNOW!

~Maddy

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Yes, We are Polyamorous * They made us believe “They made us believe that real love, the one that’s strong, only happens once, more likely before your 30ths. They never told us that love is not something that you can put in motion, neither has time schedule. They made us believe that each one of us is the half of an orange, and that life only makes sense when u find that other half. They did not tell us that we were born as whole, and that no-one in our lives deserve to carry on his back such responsibility of completing what is missing on us: we grow through life by ourselves. If we have a good company it’s just more pleasant. They made us believe in a formula “two in one”: two people sharing the same line of thinking, same ideas, and that it is what works. It’s never been told that it has another name: invalidation, that only two individuals with their own personality is how you can have a healthy relationship. It has been made to believe that marriage is an obliged institution and that fantasies out of hour should be repressed. They made us believe that the thin and beautiful are the ones who is more loved, that the ones that have little sex are boring, and the ones that has a lot of it are not trustful, and that will always have a old shoes to a crooked foot; what they forgot to tell us is that there are more crooked minds than feet. They made us believe that there’s one way formula to be happy, the same one to everybody, and the ones that escape from that are condemned to be delinquents. We have never been told that those formulas go wrong, they get people frustrated, they are alienating, and that we can try other alternatives. Oh! Also they did not tell us that no one will tell those things to us. Each and everyone of us will have to learn by ourselves. And, when we get to the point that you are in love with yourself first, that’s when you can fall in love with somebody.” John Lennon 

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If at least 3 of these aren’t part your person style aesthetic… don’t talk to me.

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Remington and Luna

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Christmas photos with my love, Lucas 💚💛💜

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Meet the kittens!!!!

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Amira

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Memes