Divine Chaos

s h a m e l e s s // 20 // xo

[purplebuddhaproject]

“Not everyone you love will stay. Not everyone you trust will be loyal. Some people only exist as an example of what to avoid.”

— What If - by Clarvoyant (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[purplebuddhaproject]

“When it’s over, leave. Don’t continue watering a dead flower.”

— Unknown (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[littlelionesss]

“But what it is has the chance to bloom again” me. An idiot. With hope

[extramadness]

[thegoodvybe]

[littlelionesss]

L o l

[orwell]

[himneska]

Floral Romance. Photographed by Ben Toms for Vogue China, November 2017.

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[petalya]

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

[hauntified-deactivated20210730]

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” bit there because it IS super telling

[littlelionesss]

Wow

[fixtures]

[olearypoetry]

“Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you.”

— Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey (via rupikaurpoems)

[littlelionesss]

but I so so badly want to.

[olearypoetry]

“You must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first.”

— Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey (via rupikaurpoems)

[littlelionesss]

But you fooled me. I thought you loved yourself and when you didn’t you hurt me in the path of your own destruction

[olearypoetry]

“You’re everywhere. Except right here. And it hurts.”

— Rupi Kaur, The Sun and Her Flowers (via rupikaurpoems)

[b-eachsoul]

the universe is not in a hurry. You are. It’s why you are anxious, stressed and disappointed. Trust that what was meant to be yours, will be yours.

[shmwrites]

i don’t know who needs to hear this but you don’t deserve to be sad about someone who doesn’t care about you anymore. you don’t deserve to be the only one hurting and the only one left who still cares. you deserve so much more than waiting for someone who may or may not come back to you. you deserve to be happy, to heal, to leave the past behind you and move on. you are too full of life to spend yours waiting on someone who left you.

i hope you heal soon.

[purplebuddhaproject]

“How beautiful to find a heart that loves you, without asking you for anything, but to be okay.”

— Khalil Gibran (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[pinkwinged-deactivated20230125]

[purplebuddhaproject]

“I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

— Rainer Maria Rilke (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[helovedmebutnotenough]

” Forgiving you was pretty easy, I’m used to it. But tell me, how am I supposed to forgive myself? ”

- I put myself through hell for you

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“Always trust your first gut instincts. If you genuinely feel in your heart and soul that something is wrong, it usually is.”

—

[littlelionesss]

I hate this feeling.