[lonely-mirmir]

i‘m self conscious, super critical of myself and afraid of what people think of me

[lonely-mirmir]

i have not come to peace with anything and anyone,

i feel so restless with every (platonic) relationship i have

can i even call them friends then

do i even have friends here

[lonely-mirmir]

i‘m self conscious, super critical of myself and afraid of what people think of me

[mobydyke]

we are in the kitchen together. I love you I want to give you everything. come stand in the kitchen while I cook for you. no you cannot help cook. this is an act of love. I am making you dinner. I am giving you food because I cannot give you my heart because I cannot give you the world. come sit at the counter and tell me stories while I chop vegetables. I care about you. I care I care. I am making us something to eat. food is love. it is special. deliberate. we are in my kitchen together and I love you

[lonely-mirmir]

my head has been chaotic these days

[somethinginthestatic]

being in your early 20s is crazy bc there’s people who are literally married and people who’ve never even dated and people who are trapped in their childhood bedrooms waiting to get out and people who are trying to live out romanticized dream lives and people who are completely on their own and people with multi tiered support systems and we’re all supposedly peers and none of us think we’re doing it right at all

[lonely-mirmir]

how the hell, do i find even the smallest thing to worry over, to over analyze, to beat myself up on a perfect day??? like nothing bad happened, i spent time with wonderful people but i still worry over things i said/did or what people might be thinking about me

[lonely-mirmir]

why cant i just enjoy, and appreciate?? without a worry..

[lonely-mirmir]

how the hell, do i find even the smallest thing to worry over, to over analyze, to beat myself up on a perfect day??? like nothing bad happened, i spent time with wonderful people but i still worry over things i said/did or what people might be thinking about me

[her-serenespace-deactivated2022]

What would Allah think? Instead of "what would they think" can change everything.

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

you’ll find new people to have deep conversations with. you’ll find a new place to feel at home in. you’ll find a reason to be genuinely excited to wake up in the morning. you’ll find someone who will reinvent your tainted version of love. you’ll find a way to reconceptualise your feelings and turn to healthy ways to cope. you’ll find a way to reach your goal and improve yourself. you’ll find a way to live every day with inner peace and appreciation for everything you have.

[lonely-mirmir]

i miss the little me

[stunnna3-deactivated20230622]

“I treat myself like I would my daughter. I brush her hair, wash her laundry, tuck her in goodnight. Most importantly, I feed her. I do not punish her. I do not berate her, leave tears staining her face. I do not leave her alone. I know she deserves more. I know I deserve more.”

— Michelle K., I Know I Deserve More. (via sadlittlewords)

[healing-and-frogs]

you know what? sometimes you are wrong. sometimes you are the toxic one. sometimes you are the bad guy in a story. but that does not make you a bad person. we all at many points in our life, no matter how healthy and good we are, have moments where we are wrong. don’t beat yourself up for this. reflect on the situation, identify what you did wrong and how you can avoiding making the same mistake, and move on. you’re human. you make mistakes. all you can do is learn and move on.

[revesdelavande-deactivated20210]

it's ok to outgrow your interests. it's ok to outgrow certain people. it's ok to outgrow labels you once identified with. it's ok to outgrow old beliefs and opinions. it's ok to outgrow the things that you once loved and the things that defined you, because growth is part of being human. you've come so far. don't be ashamed of your progress.

[aysonatelier]

at a certain point you just get tired of your own shit. you have to force yourself to meditate, workout, eat mindfully and read the books to form a routine that gives you a sense of happiness within yourself again. it’s exhausting i know, but you gotta keep fighting for yourself because no one will take care and love you the way you can for own being. this life is not something to go bout so casually, everyday is your first and last time to embrace this moment. this life was gifted to you with a planet to explore and souls to experience. so show up for yourself.

[engulfes]

favorite interiors in art

marie-louise roosevelt pierrepont, lachlan goudié, stanislav zhukovsky, susan ryder, larry bracegirdle, paul kauzmann, hugo grenville, isaac grunewald, susan ryder

[hungryfictions]

sandra cisneros, the house on mango street / tatyana nilovna yablonskaya - morning, 1954 / anatoly levitin- warm day, 1957 / harry sutton palmer - a cottage garden, 20th c. / phoebe bridgers, i know the end / sarah abraham - one fine morning, 2013 / theo gosselin - denver morning 5, 2015 / gaston bachelard, the poetics of space / federico zandomeneghi - in bed, 1878 / laura ingalls wilder /colley wisson- morning light kyneton australia, 21st c. / @gabi_wahl on instagram / lauren jolly roberts - cecile’s garden, 2006 / maya angelou, all god’s children need traveling shoes

[orcboxer]

Hot take but praise is a good tool for encouraging healthy behavior. Positive reinforcement is good. Relying exclusively on punishment to change people's behavior is both cruel and ineffective. If someone does better than they did yesterday, let them know you appreciate it, let them know that they're improving!

[orcboxer]

"Don't praise anyone for doing the bare minimum" is a shitty take that prioritizes your sense of superiority over the actual betterment of people. I understand that things shouldn't be as bad as they are, and anger can often be justified, but you need to get over the propaganda that kindness is naïve, that cynicism and bitterness are intellectual. Withholding praise from those who haven't caught up with you doesnt actually help them, it doesn't motivate, it doesn't encourage, it only discourages them. It breeds bitterness and apathy, which are antithetical to empathy.

Growth isn't something you do on your own. People need support, they need community. Bootstraps won't get them there. Kindness will. Do you want results or do you just want to feel superior?