What is your opinion on dating and finances? I mean like people in their 20s, not married, not living together, just in a relationship. Like paying on dates, paying for anything really, etc. Lately I’m hearing a lot of women preach to younger women to “never date a broke man” and it’s kind of getting to me. I love my boyfriend we’re both young in our mid 20s but my issue is he is honestly a little bit financially unstable, bad with money, etc. He’s improving but I’m worried about our future together? Do you have any advice? I was never the type of person to give up on someone I love just because of financial issues.
i personally think that the issue you’re having isn’t about finances. it’s about not trusting his decision making specifically when it comes to his money. the reason that distinction is important is because there’s a difference between someone whose decision making you trust, he just doesn’t have a lot of money or is early in his career and isn’t established, and someone whose judgement you don’t trust. the first for me would make a great partner still, because even if he doesn’t have much, you see he knows how to be responsible and when he does have much he will be wise. the latter isn’t so good because if I don’t trust my partner’s decision making, it can be an indication of something else.
i don’t believe that in my early 20s I needed a “financially stable” guy to date. but I did need to date someone I saw a future with in my mid twenties, and being responsible with decision making is a part of what makes planning a future with someone more healthy.
imo.
