Hot take, but cis people have gender identities. They aren't the gender they identify as because of their genitalia or what their birth certificate says. They're only cis because they identify with a gender and it happens to match their government documentation. Cis men aren't men because they're "obviously" men for having a penis. They're men because they identify as men. It's the self-identification that dictates this, not any other factor, even for cis folks. And we should be framing it this way. A cis man identifies as a man and a cis woman identifies as a woman. There is no automatic or inherent gender.
You are not "born a boy/girl." Infants don't have a gender. You acquire gender when you identify as it. No such thing as "biologically a man/woman."
"I don't identify as anything, I'm a man."
It sure sounds like you identify as a man, bud.
Giving a brownie to cis folks who rb this.
Gonna admit the "this isn't a hot take it's obvious" comments from a dozen or so people are grating on my nerves, so I'm gonna address that.
Just say you've never had an actual conversation with a cis person outside of a very leftist circle lol. Obvious to you. To you, fellow trans person. I wish I got paid every time I had to hear a cis person say they don't have a gender identity or don't "identify" as anything they just "are" a man or a woman.
Sometimes you have to stop and ask yourselves what group of people a post is mainly directed at.
I saw someone on Tumblr once say that they didn't realize they were agender because they just identified as their body and they figured that's what cis meant.
And I think they're right actually. Not for everyone of course! There's people who are very gendered about their cis identity and that's wonderful.
But I think a lot of cis people don't really think of gender as a real thing beyond their anatomy. They don't really think about gender as a mental concept so much as a physical manifestation of life, and build an identity around that, based on the social constructs of their culture. Which tends to primarily be based on mid 20th century western world ideals.
But that's just something I've been turning over in my head for ages.
I had a wonderful professor in college who really drilled down on this for some snarky dudebros in our Intro to Social Issues or w/e. He was like “so, how do you Know you are a man, or a woman?” And then zeroed in on the boys chuckling in the back row. “You, you are a man?” dudebro: uh, yeah
prof: how do you know?
dudebro, laughing, gesturing at his crotch: I mean, I’m pretty sure
professor: You mean your penis? You are a man because of your penis?
dudebro: uhhh
professor: what if you lose your penis? You become a woman?
dudebro: uh, nooo?
professor: no. So it is not your penis, then?
