Lover Key With No Lover

Just some aroace teenage girl who thinks too much and is trying to speak more, obsessed with any and every kind of love <3

[loverkeynolover]

Every song can be about my mental health if I think about it too hard.

A song about feeling like you’re losing your partner’s love? It’s about how I feel like people always get tired and leave me once I’m not interesting enough

A song about feeling like you’re so intertwined with your partner that you stop feeling like an individual? It’s about my constant overthinking and self doubt that doesn’t let me exist within myself

A song about being in a relationship with someone that would potentially ruin your reputation so you have to keep it a secret? It’s about my internalized homophobia, actually

And of course, every love song is a friendship song 😘❣️

[loverkeynolover]

The constant guilt of loving my family with my whole heart but feeling better when I’m far from them —from home— eats me alive.

[loverkeynolover]

Aroace canon event:

Thinking of your friends when you listening to love songs 🩷

[loverkeynolover]

I’m a mirrorball, but not in a “shimmering beautifully” way —in a…

“And when I break it’s in a million pieces”

“I can change everything about me to fit in”

“I’ve never been a natural, all I do is try, try, try”

“I’ll show you every version of yourself tonight”

… way.

[loverkeynolover]

The narrative where x character is treated as selfish for not wanting to come out, or not feeling brave enough to do so, is harmful for real queer people.

A person not wanting to have a closeted partner and being a secret is completely valid, super understandable. As long as they are not awful about it, they have all the right to have other expectations, especially at something so complex as dating is.

However, this is not the closeted person’s fault. Coming out is terrifying, even if you have the most supportive environment it’s still genuinely so scary. Shaming someone —fictional or real— for being scared to come out pisses me off SO BADLY.

Both are valid, and understandable. Neither is selfish —on its own, both CAN be selfish for other reasons of course—. I think people should always put themselves and their wellbeing first, however that might look like.

[loverkeynolover]

There’s something so special in listening to Olivia Rodrigo as an aroace girlie who has never been in a relationship, because I WILL find a reason to relate to those songs.

Like, yes, girl, sing about how depressed you are in your relationship because your boyfriend sucks, I’ll be over here crying because of how depressed I am because of my own self-inflicted misery and sickly perfectionism. Sing about how your boyfriend didn’t have any emotional responsibility, my ex friendships were like that too!! <3

[loverkeynolover]

If I don’t get to have my 17th birthday party Mamma Mia themed I will cry 🥰🤍

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

be kind and respectful to fanfic writers

be kind and respectful to fan artists

be kind and respectful to people in your fandom

be kind and respectful to people

[loverkeynolover]

I swear I could write an entire essay about how misogyny bleeds through every single social interaction and thoughts, even if you are not being purposefully misogynistic. Because it has “always been said/done like that” and now it’s not seem as relevant enough to stop and think about.

Same thing happens with racism, homophobia, xenophobia, and more btw.

[loverkeynolover]

When the fanfic is tagged with “internalized homophobia”, “religious guilt”, “fear of abandonment” so I lowkey have to hesitate before reading my own autobiography

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

[loverkeynolover]

I don’t think people can simply understand the new Olivia Rodrigo album name if they have not experienced something similar before. You don’t even need to relate to it in a romantic way, “You Seem Pretty Sad For A Girl So In Love” can also be:

•You Seem Pretty Unhappy For Someone so Privileged

•You Seem Pretty Depressed For Someone So Loved

•You Seem Pretty Quiet For Someone With So Much To Say

(I took two of these from Tik Tok, credits to the creators <3)

It is SO important to me that this is talked about, because no one ever seems to acknowledge the feeling of NOT FEELING what you are expected to feel regarding certain situations in your life.

Take love for example —seeing as it’s literally the name of the title—, people sometimes expect that falling in love will make you the happiest you’ve ever been, that all your problems will be solved. And sometimes, it’s just not that easy.

I am very loved, and I love so much, the lack of romantic love does not concern me because I have so much in other ways. But love is all about help, not the solution to everything.

The best part about that title for me is how much it can resonate with anyone who wants to, no matter how specific it seems; not even needing to change it, because love is everywhere. You can be in love with so many things, and it does not have to mean anything romantic unless that’s what you want.

Anyways, I came back from the dead (inactiveness) to talk about this, because I wanted to share my thoughts on it. Bye bye 💀✌️

[loverkeynolover]

Such an overachiever I start to regret 90% of the things I start to do because I take the longest and hardest route so it can be perfect.

[loverkeynolover]

I am not made for the football/soccer sister life.

Hopefully if I ever have kids they don’t play this. 💀

[loverkeynolover]

I love my friends, I love platonic love, I love to have talks and walks, and basically just existing in the same world as them 🤍

[loverkeynolover]

I think sitting down with my favorite singers and just talking for a few minutes would unironically heal me tbh

[loverkeynolover]

Something being a Swiftie AND a Young Royals fan taught me: People can look in your window, close the blinds!!!