Lustful longings

A place to collect, and share, my fantasy life. Age 46, Daddy Dom, and I love hearing from people who enjoy what I post.

[onelittlekingdom]

May 18, 2018

Pip’s Rules

Yesterday we signed our new contract, and these will be Pip’s rules for the next half year. Rules 7, 12, and 13 are new to us, and we will be wading into them for the first time together. Number 12, the CNC clause, is of particular interest to both of us, and something we have been looking forward to with excitement. Makes say, the rendezvous we will be having at the mall later, a whole new head-space to be in for my little fuckdoll. 

I’ve always enjoyed looking at couple’s rules, and seeing how they write them, and what Dominants think needs doing with their sub. Pip and I hope you enjoy reading her’s. 

JerseyDaddy🌹

[onelittlekingdom]

November 12, 2019 - May 12, 2020

The New Contract

Pip helped shape this contract immensely early on by mentioning she wanted a contract that addressed all types of health, which inspired me to write our next six months together like this. It also has me fascinated with the idea that future contacts can take on different themes to tackle for any six month period. We could hone down these ideas and make a contract that is focused on just physical health, diet, and exercise, or build it around a goal like further education. The lens of any one contract can be broadened, narrowed, or forced to focus elsewhere to serve our immediate six month needs. If you read this carefully you’ll come upon one typo I know about, otherwise this is a first draft that both of us are happy with and intend to sign together and memorialize tonight. That’s a lot of rules for one little girl to follow. I know my good girl is up for it though. @tooprettytolive

JD

[onelittlekingdom]

A Room With A View

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[amysubmits]

Our Rules

Several people have asked me for an updated version of our rules recently. I am only sharing because people are curious, this isn’t intended as a how-to or anything. I tend to call them my rules seems how I have to follow them but @cynicaldom calls them his rules, meaning his rules for me. So we’ll just call them our rules for the sake of Tumblr I guess! 

I wash the dishes, clean the stovetop and countertops every other night. 

I work out every other day (opposite day of dishes).

In general, I need to do what he asks me to do, to be obedient.  

After folding laundry, I have to put it away. I can’t leave stacks of folded laundry just sitting out.

Loads of laundry that include CD’s clothes can’t be left in the dryer. 

I have to ask permission to orgasm, and I have to wait until I am very close before I ask. 

I have to ask permission to masturbate. 

I have to refill my prescription pill organizer as soon as it gets empty. 

I have to take my pills on time twice a day. 

When I use my ID or debit card I have to put them back into my wallet as soon as the cashier gives them back to me. I can’t put them in my pocket or purse loose.

I need to speak to him respectfully. Not just in my choice of words but also my tone or attitude. 

I can’t sit on the couch in a towel. 

I have to drink 5 glasses of water per day and report them to him. 

The dog food container and dog treat bag needs to be closed after each use. 

Dogs need to be walked outside of our fence and fed within an hour of me waking up. 

I need permission to spend more than $20. 

I have equipment used for my job, and rules about how I need to care for it. 

I have a weekly task of researching/learning something new related to my job. It’s far more specific than that IRL but I can’t share details on Tumblr. 

If he makes a call I dislike, I can explain my side or give my reasons for disagreeing for as long as I have unique ideas/reasons. I cannot repeat the same points if I’ve shared my full feelings and he just says no. 

New August 2018:

Wash 1 load of CD’s clothes and 1 load of towels over each weekend. 

On dishes days, also clean burners on the stove. 

When I need or want permission to skip a rule, I need to ask well in advance. I can’t ask to skip my workout 10 minutes before bedtime, for example. I can never just assume to have an exception to a rule. 

Expectations? These are things I’m expected to do, but are not things I get punished for not doing, so we don’t consider these rules. Still, it felt weird to consider doing a blog post that doesn’t list these things because he typically corrects me if I don’t do these things. 

Share my needs.

Share my big emotions and problems.  

Ask him for what I want or need from him, i.e. avoid telling him what to do.

Ask permission to use my mouth on him. 

Thank him for using me after we are intimate. 

Thank him for giving me permission to orgasm. 

Tell him what my plans are, where I plan to go and when.

Ask permission to do any plans that involve him or impact him in any way.

Avoid sleep deprivation. (No set bedtime, but get 8 hours of sleep and go to bed within 16 hours of waking up.)

Ask permission to drink alcohol or smoke. 

Use Sir or Daddy during sex, correction or punishment. 

Also, sometimes I think people ask what our rules are because they want to understand our whole D/s relationship dynamic. I don’t think our rules are the entirety of our dynamic. This ask from a few months back does a better job of sharing our D/s in a nutshell.  

http://amysubmits.tumblr.com/post/170589465907/i-really-admire-your-dynamic-and-i-feel-like-you

[asalways-smol-deactivated202209]

it’s okay Daddy...I know a way to keep the monsters away until you find me 🔪🖤

[goodgirlsdoresearch-deactivated]

Is your owner/master/daddy (whichever you use) the only man you want and need and talk to? I want that to be my case but I’m still having the desire to talk to others and don’t want to hurtt him. Does that mean I’m a poly?

This is one of those questions you really have to ask yourself, and it will likely take a lot of effort to answer.

For me, the growth and self awareness have been worth the effort and you can check out the posts below for some of the ways I have tried to answer it for myself.

Subfrenzy

Validation

Temptation

Amory

I hope this helps, and I encourage you to be kind with yourself, honest with your partner, and very, very, very patient with the process.

Thank you for the ask ❤

[keptmathilda]

“Is your owner/master/daddy (whichever you use) the only man you [want and need and] talk to? I want that to be my case but I’m still having the desire to talk to others […]”

(The wanting and needing aside - that’s a different topic, that might actually have something to do with the question if one is poly and I would fully agree that it’s a personal matter that everyone has to ask themself and figure out with their partner individually what works for them - I’m only referring to the talking part here…)

I find the idea that talking to other people outside of the Dynamic/relationship could “hurt” the dominant partner, or possibly already the fact that a submissive has a need to do that, rather concerning to be honest. Maybe I misunderstand the question and the context should make it clear (it doesn’t to me) that by talking @ anon explicitly means things like “flirting” or “sexting” or otherwise very intimate talks, in which case it would be different, but if they mean talking in a general sense of the word, then I see some serious problems in this line of thinking:

1. Interacting, incl. communicating, with your environment is an essential human need, that you cannot just switch off, not even for the sake of love. Talking to people is the number one method to conduct this interaction, so to not do that anymore, or reduce it, or start to feel bad and guilty about it, can easily cause serious mental health issues.

2. Aside from the fact that it’s an essential need for most people, it’s also incredibly useful and valuable for your personal growth and development, which to suppress would lock you up in a tiny two-people-bubble and can lead to total stagnation or even in the best case hinders any kind of personal development very much.

3. Why would it hurt the partner if you talk to other people? This concern in itself is pretty telling about this partner who might be hurt, and not in a good way. Romantic relationships and D/s Dynamics are built on trust, they simply cannot work without it by the very nature of what they are. If you do trust someone then why would it hurt you if they talk to others? It wouldn’t… or rather it only would under one very specific circumstance: If it’s not about trust but the partner would still be hurt, they are a narcicisst, because obviously they wouldn’t want you to experience anything positive, gain any knowledge, have happy moments, grow, have fun, have interesting discussions etc. with anybody else but them and them alone. 

This doesn’t seem to be a novel idea and honestly that’s worrying. I’m reading more and more often on people’s ‘checklists’ or ‘no-go-lists’ (re finding a partner) requirements like “can’t have friends of the opposite sex /of the same sex as I, the partner” and to me that screams normalizing toxic insecurities and harmful jealousy. Which is a very dangerous thing to do.

Of course everybody has the right to put on their needs/wants/limits list whatever they want and of course relationships are a very personal matter that everybody has to work out for themselves, with their partner(s). But we all know that there are some things, that are not a matter of individual preference but objectively good or bad in relationships (communication = good, abuse = bad being the two most famous examples). I would argue - and that’s maybe a matter of opinion rather than a fact, or maybe not, I’m not sure, in any case it’s my opinion and a fact to me - that “not talking to anybody else but one’s partner” does qualify as “objectively bad”. It’s not healthy. It’s not coming from a good place.

Even if you don’t agree with that but think that this is in fact a matter of preference and it would not be an unhealthy factor in your relationship, then at the very least you should be wondering why your partner would have this preference, because - and that is a rational consideration -  there are at least ten times as many dangerous and unhealthy reasons to have this preference than there are healthy ones, if there’s more than one at all.

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I really do get it how submissives want their Dynamics to be the perfect two-people island in this sea of chaos that’s the world, be able to 100% rely on this one person and not have to think about anybody else, be enough for this one person and have this one person be enough for them, and so on. I actually have this kind of a relationship, my Master and I are together 24/7, we rarely speak to anybody but each other and enjoy that very much (both, the speaking to each other and the not speaking to others), we are so close we are basically two former individuals merged into one thing. But this is a CHOICE. I do speak to other people too, incl. here on Tumblr, but it’s rare compared to how much I speak to my man. And the reason is not that it would hurt him or that he would dislike it, it’s not that I would feel guilty about it. It just naturally is like that, because we are in fact enough for each other 99%. You can have this without forcing it or making it a rule and a restriction. If that’s how you feel, that’s how it will be. To forbid communication sounds very damaging and dangerous to me.

[goodgirlsdoresearch-deactivated]

Good addition by @keptmathilda on more platonic talking (I responded based on a more romantic/sexual connotation).

If you’re a partner doesn’t want you to have friends or talk to others in general, that is not okay. Isolation is a hallmark of abuse.

[dirtylittlebookworm]

“This is your life now,” he says to me, rubbing the cock I’ve slobbered all over up and down my face. “Morning blowjobs and taking Daddy’s cum and being used like the whore you are and begging me to be allowed to orgasm.”

I whimper, tongue out.

“Does that make you happy?”

“Yes Daddy.”

[makoudaki]

[fist-kisses]

So I found this on someone’s blog. And I’m not trying to call anyone out… but does this shit actually fly with the ladies??

“Message me and call me Daddy”. That’s the complete opposite of what DD/LG Is supposed to be about.

“Don’t be afraid to say hello to your daddy.” So you’re expecting someone with whom you’ve never spoken, to immediately contact you and call you daddy??

I’m sure there’s people out there who actually do that. But for fucks sake, why? There’s so much more to this than that. Look at the deeper aspects. The real parts that you can literally feel.

I won’t go on and on about it. But it just saddens me to see something so wonderful and beautiful being treated as trite and disposable. The love and trust of anyone should mean more. Especially the fragile nature of most “real” good little girls.

If you have an opinion, please feel free to comment or even reblog with how you see it. Maybe I’m off. Maybe I’m just too old school. Or maybe I just believe in love too much.

Being called Daddy should be earned. Plain and simple. Names have power. And a Daddy should be able to handle that power. Especially the power that you entrust him with.

Ok. Rant over.

[daddys-sinderella-deactivated20]

[onelittlekingdom]

Rant back on

I agree wholeheartedly with the above. I hate these blogs. Those who run these blogs are trauma mills for young and inexperienced subs who don’t understand that “THIS” is not the lifestyle.

This is someone making pretend they are a dom for girls who want to make pretend they are being a sub and are participating in the lifestyle. It’s like playing paintball instead of being in war. It’s a pantomime.

There’s no ownership. There’s no trust. There’s no intimacy. There’s no care. Just a jagoff that gets off on pretending he owns ALL the young girls.

If you’re a young sub who wants to participate in the lifestyle, stay the fuck off these blogs. You couldn’t possible devalue your submission any more by playing on them. If you run one of these blogs, fuck off and stop completely misrepresenting the lifestyle in almost every way to young and inexperienced people.

My rant done

JD

[sargasmicgoddess]

What to do when you get out of a meeting 15 minutes early?

Why, put in a yoni egg for your next meeting, of course 😈

[amysubmits]

The other day I laid my head on his thigh while he was sitting cross-legged on the floor. He pet my hair a little and then worked his hand into my hair and pulled it. Then he slapped me a little before moving his hand onto my neck. I closed my eyes and he kept ahold of my neck for quite a while. I relaxed so much I almost started to feel drowsy. 

Eventually he moved his hand away from my neck. In response, I opened my eyes and saw his hand just a few inches from my face, but in my sleepiness I wasn’t able to process what he was going to do. My instinctive reaction was to close my eyes, wince a bit, while also smirking in anxious anticipation of…I didn’t even know what. 

Nothing happened.

After a second I opened my eyes to see what was actually going on. He was just watching me, clearly amused, and holding his hand out to tease me with more anticipation. His hand wasn’t in any particular position so I still didn’t know if he was going to grab my neck, pull my hair or slap me. 

I winced again, pulled a shoulder up to ‘protect’ my neck, and clamped the eye closest to his hand shut, but left the other eye open to keep watching him. We both belly laughed. 

[xoxo-beth]

A lemon cake interrupted…

Follow me on Twitter: @_xoxobeth

[lace-deactivated]

Okay but, I genuinely love obedient, completely devoted subs so much. Everyone’s all about brats and how it’s so nice and amusing to have a challenge but there’s so many reasons why perfectly well behaved subs will always have a very specialy place in my heart and will always be my absolute favourites.

🌸 so eager to learn your rules and commands or hand signs, so they do everything to learn and remember them really quick to satisfy you

🌸 the proud look on their face when they’ve just obeyed an order, and you know they really did it to please you, to earn that pat on their head or a gentle kiss on their mouth

🌸 “please, I want to be spanked, master”

🌸 that hectic, truly sorry apology when they did something they shouldn’t have

🌸 doing everything and anything to satisfy you

🌸 w o r s h i p

🌸 no need for training them in every session or even punish them at all because they really try to behave as well as they can

🌸 you can focus on more important things like helping them to endure more pain or difficult ideas

🌸 when they misbehave, you can enjoy that punishment so much and really let out your inner sadist because it just doesn’t happen as often

🌸 begging to be allowed to make you cum

🌸 begging to be allowed to cum themselves

🌸 “thank you so much for…”

🌸 doing the most humiliating things when you order them to, without any hesitation

🌸 rewarding them feels so good because you know they really, really want to be good and try their very hardest not to do anything to displease you

🌸 “Have I been naughty?” + a very honest look of discontentment on their face

🌸 you can literally reward them all the time because they’re so so so good

🌸 they love kneeling in front of you, it’s their greatest pleasure

🌸 the smile on their face when you give them a cute nickname (“yes, master, I’m good, I want to be good just for you”)

🌸 so fixated on you

🌸 the biggest reward for them is to be allowed to touch you anf explore your body

[dominanttomkatt]

😻😊💜😋💯

[onelittlekingdom]

Need help with a caption for this. But maybe “telling daddy I’ve been naughty”

@cutechc

[soft-babee-deactivated20221023]

Can you help me get an A?

[restrainedgrace]

In case you missed it, or didn’t believe it 😂 I will totally announce it again, because *I* still don’t believe it sometimes:

Restrained Grace San Diego is coming in Spring of 2021!

We’ll be located in Hillcrest in between @gossipgrill_ and @uptowntavernsd and we’ll be San Diego’s only shame-free sex shop!

Our focus will remain on bespoke bondage gear, harnesses, and jewelry, but we’ll also be offering an incredible selection of the best sex toys we can get our hands on, along with a library of books about sex, kink, healthy relationships and communication, feminism, anti-racism, body positivity, and so much more.

PLUS we will have an in-house boudoir set and photographer, and when it’s safe, adult sex ed classes, hard skills workshops, burlesque performances... oh just SO much more than you think we can fit into 1000 sq ft. It’s going to be DREAMY!

[thatmissannie]

Definite only just barely starting to feel real! There’s not much time for me to spend at the shop this month with the Christmas rush, so we haven’t even started to move in. But January will see a flurry of activity as we move my operations in and start properly building the shop out!

Mannequins are already on their way for the window display, and we have a flooring meeting this morning. (Plus we’ve had that scary sex shop tint removed!)

Bit by bit I’m starting to realize that I’m actually making my dreams come true!

[honeybloomr-deactivated20250113]

Open sesame?

See the full 20+ pic set on my onlyfans