Several people have asked me for an updated version of our rules recently. I am only sharing because people are curious, this isn’t intended as a how-to or anything. I tend to call them my rules seems how I have to follow them but @cynicaldom calls them his rules, meaning his rules for me. So we’ll just call them our rules for the sake of Tumblr I guess!
I wash the dishes, clean the stovetop and countertops every other night.
I work out every other day (opposite day of dishes).
In general, I need to do what he asks me to do, to be obedient.
After folding laundry, I have to put it away. I can’t leave stacks of folded laundry just sitting out.
Loads of laundry that include CD’s clothes can’t be left in the dryer.
I have to ask permission to orgasm, and I have to wait until I am very close before I ask.
I have to ask permission to masturbate.
I have to refill my prescription pill organizer as soon as it gets empty.
I have to take my pills on time twice a day.
When I use my ID or debit card I have to put them back into my wallet as soon as the cashier gives them back to me. I can’t put them in my pocket or purse loose.
I need to speak to him respectfully. Not just in my choice of words but also my tone or attitude.
I can’t sit on the couch in a towel.
I have to drink 5 glasses of water per day and report them to him.
The dog food container and dog treat bag needs to be closed after each use.
Dogs need to be walked outside of our fence and fed within an hour of me waking up.
I need permission to spend more than $20.
I have equipment used for my job, and rules about how I need to care for it.
I have a weekly task of researching/learning something new related to my job. It’s far more specific than that IRL but I can’t share details on Tumblr.
If he makes a call I dislike, I can explain my side or give my reasons for disagreeing for as long as I have unique ideas/reasons. I cannot repeat the same points if I’ve shared my full feelings and he just says no.
Wash 1 load of CD’s clothes and 1 load of towels over each weekend.
On dishes days, also clean burners on the stove.
When I need or want permission to skip a rule, I need to ask well in advance. I can’t ask to skip my workout 10 minutes before bedtime, for example. I can never just assume to have an exception to a rule.
Expectations? These are things I’m expected to do, but are not things I get punished for not doing, so we don’t consider these rules. Still, it felt weird to consider doing a blog post that doesn’t list these things because he typically corrects me if I don’t do these things.
Share my big emotions and problems.
Ask him for what I want or need from him, i.e. avoid telling him what to do.
Ask permission to use my mouth on him.
Thank him for using me after we are intimate.
Thank him for giving me permission to orgasm.
Tell him what my plans are, where I plan to go and when.
Ask permission to do any plans that involve him or impact him in any way.
Avoid sleep deprivation. (No set bedtime, but get 8 hours of sleep and go to bed within 16 hours of waking up.)
Ask permission to drink alcohol or smoke.
Use Sir or Daddy during sex, correction or punishment.
Also, sometimes I think people ask what our rules are because they want to understand our whole D/s relationship dynamic. I don’t think our rules are the entirety of our dynamic. This ask from a few months back does a better job of sharing our D/s in a nutshell.
http://amysubmits.tumblr.com/post/170589465907/i-really-admire-your-dynamic-and-i-feel-like-you