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Self-Harm
Have you ever had innocent cuts on your arm that made people wonder if youāve self harmed? They often seem to ask questions such as, āWhoād you do it for?ā āWhy would let a boy/girl effect you this much?ā āDoes attention matter that much to you?ā āDo you not care about anyone but yourself?ā āYouāre so selfish.ā āYouāre such a coward.ā āAre you trying to shame your family?ā āWho are you trying to get in trouble and what for?ā
If youāve actually self harmed, itās even worse because it makes you start to wonder if youāre all those things that people are making you out to be. You wonder if youāre selfish and immature and if the only thing you see in this world is you. Youāve been in a shell of self loathing and dysphoria for so long that you continuously want to hit yourself and make yourself āwake upā. But, youāre not even asleep or dreaming. Youāre not in a ācurable stateā. Youāre legitimately wounded and distressed. Itās not that hard to grasp. But, when your idea of the world is clouded by hundreds and thousands of disabilities and biases, itās probably hard to see through them and look at a person as an individual.
So, letās begin with depression, suicidal tendencies, societal pressures and various other factors that lead to self harming tendencies and habits and how they are perceived by society.
Humans consider them the most supreme creatures of all and even though they claim to believe in God or similar superior powers, they give them human-like features to satisfy their own urge to feel godly and all powerful. Thus, when they are faced with the fact that their mind functions on its own subconscious levels and there are parts of themselves that they absolutely cannot control, their panic knows no bounds and they are ready to disregard any mental illness
Therefore, when people are pushed to the brink of their sanity, driven to an edge where they hang by the sole mercy of a lone thread, people take it as some kind of a scream for attention. They are so unwilling to believe that people can lose control over themselves and still be fully functioning human beings. They can only perceive one dimensional character and thus, this sort of behavior can only be someoneās cunning plan to become popular or gain some sort of notoriety.
But, letās not dwell on it that any longer. Letās think of the after effects of this push. Anyone whoās been going through the same problem for years together or maybe many different problems that have piled on, only to push them over that edge, what is it like inside their head? How do they function in a society that demands perfection and then rejects and insults the perfection they demanded?
To be honest, itās never the same way twice. Itās never exactly as messy or as clean as it had been before. Itās never as noisy or as radio silent as it was even in the space of a few seconds. If youāve been having a good day and the mirror or your pictures have been looking particularly beautiful to you, that night, your thoughts pull you down into this drain of self loathing. Your mere self appreciation is transformed into self loathing and vanity by your anxiety and dysmorphia. You start to mock yourself and then comes the rapid episode of self harm.
Even self harm has various dimensions. Sometimes, itās just the way you view yourself. You look in the mirror and you think, Why was I born this way? You even resort to self mockery, asking yourself what you ever thought was beautiful about you. You tear yourself down until you imagine scenarios in which you never existed and everyone seems to be better off without you. At the end of it, you just end up seeing yourself as a burden, a burden that youāve inflicted upon the world. Such a self image can only lead you to do things bad and then worse. They lead you to lie and steal and run away and hide and crawl into a corner and cry through the night.
Many of us donāt physically self harm, because of the fear of society and those of us who do, well, weāve been pushed down to a new low. Perhaps at this point, you canāt even bear to look at yourself in the mirror because all you see is a wave of disappointment, guilt and cowardice. Your eyes are clouded by intense self loathing and an image of yourself as almost an āobjectā that doesnāt deserve to be around. I have repeatedly heard of people cutting themselves until they felt like they finally suffered the pain that, in their mind, they deserved. But, cutting isnāt all that people do. There are those whoāve burned themselves, lashed themselves with belts and cut off limbs because of the dysmorphia that they face.
But, theyāre all just looking for attention or doing it for someone who doesnāt love them back? I highly doubt it. There are a few who do such things because of people whoāve denied them but does that make it okay for anyone to mock them? No, it doesnāt. It never will be okay. Why assume? Why judge other based on something that youāve seen, for less than two minutes? You make your own assumptions, laugh at them inside your head or maybe to their face, pull them even further down and for what? Your own personal entertainment, your lack of understanding or your ignorance or perhaps, your insecurities have lead you to feel this way.
I strongly believe that one day, we will be educated enough to understand that this sort of Ableism and its irrational and painful consequences. But, havenāt we all heard that before? We shall overcome someday. That someday has rarely ever become an actuality for anyone who truly needed it. Weāve all been waiting for it but never worked for it. Weāve all had friends whoāve suffered from depression and rather than try to help them, weāve brushed them aside and reduced them to pathetic morsels that donāt have a life or are just attention seeking ālosersā. How many times have we ever really sympathized or even offered some love or a shoulder to cry on or an opportunity to relieve themselves of all that theyāve been bottling in? Most of us have never ever done it.
There are people whoāve been harming themselves for so long that it has become a sort of shelter they hide under and the only way that they can feel normal. Itās a behavioral pattern that theyāve learned and itās ingrained so deep into their skin, literally, that they canāt let go of it. They stop and then relapse and then stop and relapse and it becomes a continuous and vicious cycle. Itās an addiction, a protective layer that they believe shields them from them outside world. It becomes an escape, a morbidly ābeautifulā secret that theyāve managed to keep hidden from the rest of the world. Most of us take refuge in a cup of hot cocoa on a rainy or snowy day, others drink a hot cup of chamomile tea to calm their nerves before a difficult exam or during a tough phase of their lives but those of us whoāve been ācorruptedā by the feeling of flowing blood and the beauty of scabs, or maybe the beauty of burnt skin or lash marks, are the ones who face backlash and are condemned.
Why canāt we get help? Why canāt we get sympathy? Is it all that difficult? In my opinion, it isnāt but then again, I guess, itās because Iāve experienced the pain and have thus advanced. I will never be one to tell people that they should just stop being depressed. That sounds dumber than the water under the Golden Gate Bridge canāt be THAT cold.
I may come off as sarcastic and condescending, perhaps Iām being either or both of the aforementioned. To be honest, itās only because Iām exasperated. Itās only because my scars, my struggles, my repeated battles with everything around me have become a topic for other people to talk about or mock me through. They talk about me like Iām the plague or the Anti Christ. Iāve done no wrong, Iāve just been unable to defeat what has plagued me and although, Iāve been bottling it up, I donāt think Iām the only one who can be blamed in this situation. However, please, donāt misread this as an attempt to defend myself against my misbehavior or generally bad conduct and sarcastic nature.
All I have to say is, at this point of time, if you have nothing genuine or heartfelt to offer to someone whoās suffering from a mental illness or are being tortured by something that they canāt reveal or overcome, donāt say anything or discuss anything about them or to them or with them. Thatās the best thing you can offer. But, if you are genuinely concerned and have it in you to help these souls out or just be a shoulder to cry on or a handkerchief for their mucus and/or blood, then do it. Even if you do it for one year, one month, one week, one day or an hour, just support them, with all you have. Gestures like these can be the biggest milestones and persuasions for a personās recovery.
M.D. (Unspoken Thoughts of May 2016)
People use beds to sleep nice and tight
But my bed is a place I cry all night.
And I remember one day, you told me you knew you needed to try to be more loving towards me. I chuckled at the fact that it was so hard to you. A year later, he doesnāt have to try. It comes naturally.
Excerpts from the book Iāll never write #304
05/11/2016
7:30 am
(via littleteenagethings)
I thought it couldnāt get any worse. But then again thatās what I thought.Ā And I always think wrong.
(via her-depression)
And now I sit here lost insideā¦.
Do I really mean that little to you? Am I really worth nothing and am that unimportant. I hate you. I hate the way you make me feel
And someday, I hope that my sadness will be replace by Something beautiful.
(via kissedby-suicide)
But letās not consider the consequences?
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You can pretend like you loved me all you want, but that doesn't change the fact that I was being used for over a year. People who love others do not put their insecurities under a spot light and hold those things against them. They don't keep bringing up past events just to be hurtful. They live and they learn and they forgive when they love someone. But instead you just hold everything you can against me until I feel like the worst possible human on the earth just so you can feel a little bit better about yourself. If this is how you love people, then you have a sick and twisted version of what unconditional true love is.