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How to solve a conflict
Where do you stand
and the outcome
Ocean Big 5 personality traitts
Onion or layers of personality:
Openness: How adventurous they are
Conciounciousness: Organizaed they are
Estrovertion: Being around people
Agreeable: How they work with teams. Default yes or no
Neuroticism: How they deal with worry
weltenshunkrieg....
Codependency Free
When you are asked to do something you dont really want to do. Pay attention to the anxiety, its the guiding system
1. Wake up and take accountability of how we feel
2. Accepting how we feel
3. Feeling what we feel
4. Deciding what to do about it
Being assertive is uncomfortable, standing behind a boundary can be tough but we must learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Detaching is healing, not taking care of others when were not supposed to, not attached to the outcome. Healthy adults know how to manage their differences.
Letting someone who is abusive towards you in any way back into your life is an act of SELF DESTRUCTION and a form of being 2-faced against yourself. You mus...
Everything that is not true about yourself and you believe it will cause you pain.
Letting someone who is abusive towards you in any way back into your life is an act of SELF DESTRUCTION and a form of being 2-faced against yourself. You mus...
If you want to see how really how really your childhood was take a look at your relationships today
De escalate Depersonalize
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De escalate Depersonalize
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This is a continuation of part 1 regarding Compartmentalization and goes a little deeper into how the Covert Narcissist REALLY operates behind the scenes. I ...
Toxxxic faaaamilies....
Ugly truth... mommy, daddy, lil sis...whoever. They love you and they totally HATE you!!! they wish you the WORSE and want you to FAIL while day seat in their narc thrones thinking why you are a total WASTE and feel happy about it. We tend to think of bullying as something that happens in the school yard among kids but no, family units are as sick as society, parents and other family members vent frustration against whoever annoys them for several reasons,  and it happens more frequently than it seems. Cluster B is not often diagnosed in  society and certainly not easy to recognize for the little ones who don’t have a clue of what a sick psychologically predator looks like so here you have, predators at home who spread  hatred against one child by uniting the others who are made to think that this one sibling is guilty of everything, or not good enough. In this scenario, the parent goads the other children to pick on the one. None of this stops in adulthood. Of course, the child whose personality is most like the personality disordered patient is targeted because that parent sees in the child everything they hate about themselves. Here, too, this pattern continues into adulthood. Why would a family choose a loved one to bully and scapegoat? The answer has a lot to do with the concept of scapegoating and the purpose it serves. Scapegoating is often a way for families to hide problems that they cannot face. For a variety of reasons we will explore one member becomes the target of accusations, blame, criticism and ostracism. While it’s happening, family members are totally unaware of what they are doing and would deny it if confronted with their behavior. This creates mental illness in the targeted starting from depression and anxiety and schizophrenic patter of behavior because they provide two conflicting modes of communication at the same time and one cancels the other out.. “Like we have always wanted for you the best....” but... “ you cant do this, that and you don’t have the right to this, this and that” They don’t want what its best for us but what is best for them. “The double bind theory, Bateson et al. (1956) proposed that schizophrenic symptoms are an expression of social interactions in which the individual is repeatedly exposed to conflicting injunctions, without having the opportunity to adequately respond to those injunctions, or to ignore them (i.e., to escape the field). For example, if a mother tells her son that she loves him, while at the same time turning her head away in disgust, the child receives two conflicting messages about their relationship on different communicative levels, one of affection on the verbal level, and one of animosity on the nonverbal level. It is argued that the child's ability to respond to the mother is incapacitated by such contradictions across communicative levels, because one message invalidates the other. Because of the child's vital dependence on the mother, Bateson et al. argue that the child is also not able to comment on the fact that a contradiction has occurred, i.e., the child is unable to metacommunicate. The symptomatology of schizophrenia, it is argued, reflects the accommodation of the individual to a prolonged exposure to such interactions. Once 'victims' have learned to perceive their universe in terms of contradictory environmental input, the inability to respond effectively to stimuli from the environment is no longer contingent on the extent to which stimuli from the environment are contradictory in specific interactive sequences. Instead, the individual will generally experience any input from the environment as conflicting information without being able to discriminate between different communicative levels. In the long run, this inability manifests itself as typically schizophrenic symptoms such as flattened affect, delusions and hallucinations, and incoherent thinking and speaking (Bateson et al., 1956).” So... they rather make you go crazy because they are insecure and jealous of your success. The happy and healthy family is frequently a myth sadly, and so far we are used to approach the problems as an individualized issue when as you can see... we are only telling a soldier to stay strong while he gets tortured and cut in pieces when we don’t question war. The weakest link, the most sensitive artistic would become the back sheep and would manifest mental illness. Your family, your community frequently DOESN'T want what is best for you but what is safe for them and makes them feel better and they like it. Tribalism, if you make them feel like less than... they will come for you. Every success, opportunity of yours,  generates resentment and jealousy so you're guilty for having your own SUCCESS that reminds others what they cant have. So its your freaking fault to make them feel like they are the NO ONE they may be. Set boundaries, you need to live independently of the good and bad opinion of others, don’t look for consciousness where there is not. Mum and dad they may just fucked you up, we still have big problems in the global human consciousness. I refuse to scapegoat a child of mine. I rather stay strong and clean the bad energy I have experienced. My history isn't over... so who knows but I don’t care about families if that means to only mob others, I rather expose evil which is a much better way to reproduce and wont ever call someone crazy without knowing what happened with them. My beautiful aunt who was a delicate fine lady who only and proudly did what she considered the best while surviving her time and family. She was not schizophrenic, she was a beautiful brave soul. My respect for your life aunty, I celebrate you and your courage, will always honor your memory.
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How do we recover
By fundamentally changing our philosophy of life. Being a people pleaser, codependent is intrinsically tied to PTSD. How do a normal person ends up isolated with someone that is not nice? Narcissistic codependent dance. Because the nasty says the nice is guilty for him/her not feeling well. If nasty makes the nice feel guilty that emotional flashback hooks the nice in the relationship. Shame and guilt and CPTSD which usually comes from the raising style of a narcissistic parent. All those emotional wounds, flashbacks are triggered by the narc like strings. Add some love bombing to the equation. The dark triad team can’t hook us if we know how to deal with our issues. Emotional flashbacks are key, historical events that take form or more likely seem to take form in current events, if we don't know some will use them against us and prevent our recovery from the happenings themselves and what nasty people did after that.