How To Message A POT First
I’ve had a few people ask me this question, and so I thought I’d make it into a public tip to share with you all.
Messaging a POT first can be scary, especially when you’re first starting out in the sugar bowl.
The fear of rejection, and not knowing what to say, can easily get in the way of hitting send. So here are a few tips on what to do.
•First, I need you to realize, you’re hot AF! Like damn, fam, look at you! Anyone would be lucky to get a message first from you! Your body is young and smoking, you have youthful skin, not to mention your beautiful hair and eyes.
Now look at the POT you’re looking at messaging. I’m certainly not saying they aren’t attractive, because maybe they are, but I know from personal experience, that a lot of the people we run into on SA or other sugar sites, are not. They’re older than you. Much older probably. Maybe their hair is greying, or maybe they’ve got wrinkles. You’re out of their league.
•Second, if you face any sort of rejection, it will most likely come from a monetary stand point. You will run into splendas who don’t wanna cough up a decent allowance, so they might pass if you have your standards where they should be. That’s okay! If they don’t wanna pay, they aren’t worth your time, I don’t care how nice, charming, or interesting they seem. This is your business
•Third, these messages you’re going to send, are the opener to your interview. You’re interviewing them for this position. I try to think of them less like men I’m interested in seeing, and more like men I’m interviewing for a job position, or business partnership.
I do stress, that respect and kindness are to be shown during this conversation to your POT, as well as expected from them. If you don’t receive those good vibes, time to say goodbye. 👋🏼
Additionally, if you move forward, it doesn’t have to continue in that way. Friendship is key in a healthy arrangement, and important to your success story. Daddies can be your friends and your companions, however your arrangement works, but when searching for the right POT, I like to keep myself detached from making anything too personal.
•Fourth. If you don’t know what to say, just say hello. Opening the door and introducing yourself is good. It doesn’t ways work, it doesn’t always get a reply, but it’s a start and it’s fine to start small. I recommend also adding in a question, such as how they’re doing, how their days going, or their weekend was.
With the assumption that you are messaging first, because you saw something on their profile that you liked, it’s always an okay thing to mention exactly what caught your eye.
Making your introduction personal to them, is a great way to catch their attention. People like to know that you took the time to read their profile and learn about them. Not only does it make them feel good, but it implies that you’re serious about your search.
1. “Hi, my name is Lynn! How are you doing today?”
2. “Hey, my name is Lynn, I saw your profile and just had to introduce myself. I liked what I read and am very excited because I believe we might be a compatible match. I hope to hear from you so we can get to know each other a bit. Xoxo”
3. “Hi, (insert their name here if provided), I just wanted to stop by and say how much I really liked your profile. It looks like we have a lot of the same ideas about the arrangement we are looking for. Would you be interested in talking a bit? Xoxo -Lynn 💋”
•Avoid text talk including, but not limited to, wyd, r, u, and hbu. These things are turn offs, coming across as lazy, uninterested, and uninvested.
•3 S’s to keep in mind when formulating your first message. Sweet, Simple, and Straight forward.
1. Sweet: Kindness is an attractive quality always. You can never go wrong with a sweet introduction. It’s called the sugar bowl for many of reasons.
2. Simple: Don’t get too carried away with a long message. Allow him to message you back, and interact with you to get to know more details. This makes it more of a conversation, so you can both feel out how you do interacting back and forth with each other.
3. Straight Forward: Let them know, you know what you want, why you’re messaging them, and what you’re hoping for. Someone who is good at communicating their intentions, and what they desire in their arrangement, is more likely to get replies. No one wants their time wasted on these sugar sites.
I hope some of this helps anyone who might have been struggling with this issue. I feel it’s more common than you think, but once you jump into it, you’ll start to get more comfortable 💕 good luck!
