Born Before Another

Teaching, exploring, learning. Somewhere between late 40s and immortal. He/Him. 18+ or you'll be blocked. NSFW dirty fetishy things seasoned with reflections on intimacy, individuation, communication, and self-awareness. Non-anon Asks remain private unless you give permission to post. Notify me if I'm inadvertently using your work and I'll credit it. Notify me if you don't wish your work on my blog and I'll remove it. var sc_project=10283260; var sc_invisible=1; var sc_security="148d72b5";

[lyephors]

It's my 12 year anniversary on Tumblr… yikes.

Through the porn ban, thru 43, thru a global pandemic, and more.

Anyone else from 2013 still here?

[ysl123]

[eldritchsuckubus]

I promise you, relationship anarchy is a good thing. Tell your friends you love them. Go on dates. Domme them. Take them to weddings. Have a relationship with the sub from the dungeon where she does your taxes or you mow his lawn. Help your neighbor plant begonias and become their honorary granddaughter. Become friends with your partner’s partners. Cuddle with your book club and talk about Polysecure or something, idk.

I don’t care. Just stop expecting every relationship to follow a specific pattern and instead find the beauty you both want in your specific relationship with that other person.

Life is more than the nuclear family and strict pseudo-Christian mythological ideals.

[lyephors]

This.

[whitepeopletwitter]

Choo Choo

[makoredeyes]

Fuck, ya’ll I’d nut so fast.

Imagine trying to get off WITHOUT the chuff chuff noises

[adoenamedbeeb]

wake up besties new back breaking coal labor dropped

[naamahdarling]

Is this the high speed rail everyone’s talking about?

[badroti]

@naamahdarling comedic gold

[urpersonaldoll]

picture this.. you’re a hot older daddy who makes me your young housewife, pumping my tight pussy with your cum every single day until you make me a teen mommy 💕

my tits get even bigger, my hips even curvier, i go with you to work events while all your colleagues/boss drool over the sweet little fuckmeat you’ve married and bred 🫶

[didichampleve]

*Add a witty, tongue-in-cheek comment here*

[lyephors]

Where’s that 💦 button, tumblr staff? Really good feature request from this young tart.

[psychotichemp]

[thoughtkick]

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too.”

— Ernst Hemingway

[anicklebittome]

Underrated

[daisies-in-thedark]

Aka healthy adult relationship goals. ~dd

[thlnkdifferent]

[chrissymiller89]

THIS. This is why I came back. I missed my outlet and the people I’ve met along the way over the past year or so.

When I started this blog my husband and I were barely having sex. If you followed me here, you know some of the obstacles we faced, and that things are rarely simple. But through that blog, and now this one, I am finding the courage to find myself.  

Some may ask why I started the blog daisies-in-thedark instead of continuing on with chrissymiller89, and the short answer (yeah right, nothing is short when I try to explain it - sorry) is that it had been a secret, whereas he knows about this blog. In truth, he knows about both now… I read him one of my more erotic writings and when I finished I told him, I wrote that, and he was shocked and asked where it was posted, and I told him, on my blog. he asked how long I’d had a blog and how many people followed me, and I said, um.. a long time, and just over 3000, but that I had stepped away from it because I didn’t want to be hiding anything from him, it’s not who I am or want to be. I explained how It is kind of my diary, and yet better in a way, because of the people that I’ve met that allow me to know I am not alone in my thoughts and fears, that I am not twisted or crazy.  That I use it as my emotional dumping ground to expel my hurt over his affair so as not to drag him back down with guilt, as he struggles enough with shame and hasn’t forgiven himself, but I need to be able to get it out somehow.  I do it for inspiration, for courage, for the affirmation and support of the amazing people that I’ve met here.  Then I sat in agonizing silence waiting for him to say something… anything.  ”Is it helping?” he asked me. “Yes.” I said.  ”Then you should do it,” he said.  I was happily surprised.  

I put the question back to him and added, we were barely having sex when I started my blog, we are intimate several times a week now, I am more expressive and have been able to try to ask for the things I need, which you know is really hard for me, and we are talking about things instead of bottling them up, so you tell me, has it helped?  He was thoughtful and replied “most definitely.”  

I still feel like my blog is the most selfish thing I’ve ever done, probably because I do very little in my life that is just for me…  but this is.  He didn’t ask to see my blog, and when it was apparent he was not going to, I told him that I didn’t keep it from him because I don’t want to share my blog with him, because I do share much of what I write, or post with him, but at the same time, I also need a place to explore and let out the things I don’t quite understand yet, the things I know he is no where near ready for yet, and so on.  (It’s funny, because I can always tell too.. As I sit next to him scrolling my dash I’ll show him an image that speaks to me now and then, and his facial reaction says all I need to know. Holy hell does it ever!!  And I gently remind myself - Baby Steps!!  But at least I’m trying.)  And again he understood.  It was one of the more difficult discussions I’ve ever had, but also a really freeing conversation.  

So, I am back because I missed my outlet, I missed writing, I missed my soul sisters - the beautiful women here that have been so amazing, I missed the affirmation, and the knowledge that I am NOT alone.  

I just wanted to take a minute and say Thank you to anyone that has followed me, taken the time to read my emotional ramblings, and those that have reached out to talk to me.  Thank you for being a part of my journey.  ~chrissymiller89  now  daisies-in-thedark

[lyephors]

Inspiring af.

[while-i-kiss-the-sky]

[deloveusion]

let’s be clear, intimacy isn’t just sex. it’s mental check in’s, date nights, conversations, forms of affirmations, the small simple things

[curlynsaucy]

[macrolit]

[ysl123]

[heretobrowseagain-deactivated20]

I hate the porn pullout shots of creampies. The best creampies don't start to leak out for hours. My husband came so deep against my cervix the night I got pregnant that it didn't start dripping out until the next morning. Don't barely spill onto her lips. Fill her so deeply she worries if even her birth control can keep her from getting knocked up. Or so deeply that she knows without doubt that tonight is the night she gets pregnant. Pull her so tight she can feel every pulse, can enjoy the heat that only comes from being filled with hot cum, so that cum drips out of her for hours, not minutes.

[onelittlekingdom]

The impetus behind modern social media platforms are antithetical to the character of a dominant. A dominant doesn’t need mass validation as a part of their role. A big audience doesn’t make you a better dominant. These things are only important if you’re a performer.