Wanted to add my two cents to your thoughts about kinks: I wholeheartedly agree with your posts about the male loneliness epidemic, the lack of good men and the prevalence of women in society who would absolutely love to live a more traditionally feminine/housewife life but cannot due to financial and social circumstances. I am a woman who would love to have a big, loving family precisely because I figured out that I lacked it in my own life - I have a sister who is older than me by far, and who enjoyed the most spotlight in the family, while I was more of an afterthought. As such, I yearn for a man who would love and respect me, listen to my thoughts without judgement and have healthy expectations of me. Somebody competent, who can communicate clearly and has his principles and priorities. If I found a man like that, I would have no problem assuming a submissive position in our relationship for our benefit, because I could trust him. However, for one, I know that my environment would probably shame me for doing so, and for even daring to entertain the thought of being a housewife and submitting to a man, so there's the fear of social ostracization. Then, society is weirdly anti-kids while simultaneously shaming and financially penalizing women for having them, while proclaiming the birth rate decline a national catastrophe. Like, I would absolutely LOVE to have 5 to 6 kids, more if I could (afford), I have always dreamed about that. Thinking about being pregnant, giving birth, caring for my babies makes me so excited. I would LOVE being a mom and a full-time housewife, with all the work that entails (and it is a lot!). But realistically, only considering the having kids part would take me out of the workforce for at least 10 years, probably longer. Since it is not viable to be a housewife with that many kids without marrying ultra rich... Well, I would have to work eventually. And then there is the problem of the 'modern man' who wants to have his cake and eat it too - there would always be the fear of being left for another woman, or the man not coping well with the changes during and after pregnancy - a different lifestyle, my body changing (which I am most terrified of in this context, because I used to have an ED and was bodyshamed, so the man in question would absolutely have to be down for chubby, mom-body me). Like idk, I try to bury myself in work and hobbies, but I'd be lying if I said that I haven't cried at least once about this. I am obviously trying to be optimistic and all but yeah... the situation overall is pretty dire. Seeing people having large families nowadays just makes me sad. I wish that could be me so bad, though I wish them all the best of course.
Well said, and I do hope that you do get a semblance of what you're after some day. That's what we're all hoping for really.
The concept of a single income family is hardly unrealistic, it's very much been the case before of course. There are plenty of factors that have affected that obviously, it's not a cut-and-dry gender issue, rather a whole societal issue with far more aspects than I can be bothered to go into at the moment.
The simple fact of the matter is that there are willing men and women for such a lifestyle, but the best we can really do at the moment is try, and not to mention look out for the bad sorts who confuse gender roles for an excuse to be controlling.
