Living In Daydreams

So I’ve discovered that there are more people like me and now I have no self control with any MaDD topic. My inbox is always open :D

[citiesonjupiter]

I don't understand how people just Do things without daydreaming. like how are you not off in a silly little fantasy world rn

[gazeofgrief]

It's either extensive daydreaming, Zoning out or scrolling social media, nothing in between I'm sorry.

[maad-strikes-again]

I miss the days when I could read a book until sunrise. Nowadays I can barely get past half the page without daydreaming

[daitheflu-mx]

you wanna watch some movie but you can't find anything because no movie can match plots in you head

[maad-strikes-again]

BRAIN CAN I PLEASE DO SOMETHING WITHOUT DAYDREAMING THAT ONE OF MY PARAS IS DOING IT INSTEAD OF ME ARE THIS MY MEMORIES OR HIS AHHHH

[maad-strikes-again]

I want to walk around the house so bad but people are nearby someone help me

[maad-strikes-again]

Why is it that whenever I’m about to sleep a daydream always makes it’s way into my mind. And the worst part of it is that I have to make such effort to not lose myself that it keeps me awake. Dude...

👏 I 👏WANT 👏TO 👏SLEEP

[maad-strikes-again]

Weirdly enough, I didn’t daydream a lot during vacations. But one week before school started again everything went down and I’ve been daydreaming non-stop. Just when I need to stay focused.

Help :^)

[livin9deadgirl]

A few things people with maladaptive daydreaming really wished you knew but we just can't tell you:

(Some of these are just from my experience and may not apply to everyone)

Don't be offended if we zone out during a conversation. Lots of things trigger us and sometimes in even the most interesting conversations we can't help but imagine what our paras are doing right now, or what we'll daydream about next.

DO👏NOT👏INTERRUPT👏US👏WHEN👏WE'RE 👏IN👏THE👏MIDDLE👏OF👏A👏DAYDREAM👏 long story short, the feeling of anger and absolute rage is so intense we literally want to snap your spine. The only reason we don't is because then that would mean we'd have to wait even longer to return to the daydream.

Certain songs may make us feel a certain way. We use songs to trigger certain daydreams, so certain music will touch us more than the average person. For example if someone played the song our para died too, we would almost feel like it's happening again. It's a bit like someone playing a song that was at a loved ones funeral, but worse.

Dating is hard for us. It's common for madders to have para lovers and so when it comes to dating we may feel like we're betraying our para.

Our daydreams are as complicated and intense as Harry Potter. We come up with some pretty dramatic stuff, which helps us cope with real life trauma. This is also why we're so creative.

Time flies for us. We get so immersed in our daydreams that sometimes up to 5 or 6 hours can pass and we don't notice. It's common for us to stop daydreaming and realise we've gone a whole day without eating, drinking, going to the toilet, or that our feet are almost bleeding from pacing so much.

We can't just stop. It may seem that simple, but the truth is, It's an addiction and a coming mechanism. When traumatic events happen in the real world, we use our daydreams to deal with it. Events such as our loved ones passing away may cause familiar events to happen in our paracosms. Even I've noticed that during 2020 my daydreams have become more traumatic (for example more paras have been getting hurt or even killed, and the relationships between my paras are more complicated).

8. Writing this was hard because I kept falling into a daydream.

[talkaboutmadd]

this is so nice i think it would help non madders understand our struggle ☺️

[elscapes]

the way i’ve been maladaptive daydreaming for literally as long as i can remember thinking i’m so weird for it and there’s?? an entire community that i had no idea about??

i’ve never discussed this with even my closest friends bc. idk. i’m kinda embarrassed to be living in a whole fantasy world that doesn’t exist at my age???

but!! omg!! hi this literally feels so freeing to know i’m not alone in this n i have people to talk about it with i’m🥺🥺

[maddiphicent]

No one:

Me: *takes 3 hours to watch one 45 minute long episode because I must pause it to fit my para in*

[celestialmadd]

every single time

[bauliya]

i think villains in general provide better, more epic romances because they're allowed to go to extremes. they're allowed to put their love over the greater good. they're allowed to be selfish. the best a hero can offer you is number two, because their duty comes first. villains, though. villains will burn down the world for a last kiss goodbye.

[cake-writes]

[maad-strikes-again]

After being stuck at the same daydream scenario for so long... it feels so weird and refreshing to finally remember all the other things I used to daydream about. It’s even better that I still have some passion for those old scenarios and I can continue from where I left it

[paraquestions]

Which para is most likely to stand up for a stranger?

[maad-strikes-again]

Kaz. He can’t help it, he has a hero complex. Even the stars seem to align to put him in situations where he is the only one that can help. Poor boy...

[paraquestions]

Which para is the most sensitive?

[maad-strikes-again]

Paris

[paraquestions]

Which para is the most street smart?

[maad-strikes-again]

ilang, followed by Kaz

[madd-and-bougie]

When crazy shit happens to your para and you act shocked even though you’re the literal reason it’s happening.