Unapologetically Different

#MADD #AroAce #Introvert #INTP #Fuck Society's expectations #5w6 #TouchRepulsed #Experiencing emotions through fictional characters #Paras

[gumy-shark]

aromanticism is so funny. listening to the romantic struggles of my coworkers and family members nodding my head intrigued writing on my imaginary clipboard. hmmm yes i see. my diagnosis is that “being in love” appears to suck a lot of the time. my condolences to you and your family

[catharticresolve]

@saveyourhelplessspite

[minimosquitogirl-deactivated202]

no i actually don’t think that romance is an inherent good

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is sitting right underneath the giant flag in your room while someone asks what you when you're going to get a partner.

i have been inspired

[madd-aroace]

My dream is to live as a background character in every lifetime and every universe.

I want to observe life without life seeing me.

Like...don't look at me, don't mind me. Just let me be!!!

[aro-culture-is]

Non partnering aro culture is wishing people would stop asking you for advice on how to partner with someone they wish to partner with.

My answer every time is just gonna be communicate because I genuinely do not know! (/lh)

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[zurko48]

explaining that I imagine stuff all the time to people who don’t do that is crazy btw. bc wdym YOU don’t watch the TV shows in ur head of the characters…I am the writer the director I am EVERYTHING. I’m creating movies from scratch up there 24/7 and god forbid if you give me access to music on top of that? I am on season 1738 of my OCs show I’ve had going on since I was like 12 up there 😭

[daydreamkisses]

idc how long you’ve had madd - coming up with something for your daydreams is still the most gratifying feeling EVER!!

[simplygoingmadd]

blasting my silly little music and creating my silly little daydreams so i don’t lose my silly little mind

[love-too]

I hate that "I'm not interested" doesn't have the same power of "I have a partner"

[theconcealedweapon]

[heartless-aro]

I am aromantic and life is beautiful.

I’m told that I should long for a lover’s embrace so that I may be made whole, but when I feel sunlight dancing on my skin or laughter vibrating in my chest or air filling my lungs with life, I know that I am already whole. I’m told that there’s no greater joy than the taste of someone else’s lips, but I have smelled the rain and tasted warm food after coming inside from a storm and held an instrument in my arms and fallen into the music I create until it feels inseparable from myself, and I know that I have felt true joy. I’m told that I should fear being alone, but there is a community of people like me, and I know that I will never be truly alone.

I’m told that my life is missing something that will give me meaning, but I have seen the stars shining in the sky and admired the golden glow around the clouds during a sunset, and I have looked out at the ocean as far as my eyes can see, and I have met people who are so wonderfully and intrinsically different from me that I can never fully understand their experiences, but can only squint at those experiences and view them through the blurry lens of my own, and so I know that the universe is far too infinite for meaning to only exist in one form, in one place. I am aromantic and I am alive and I am so, so happy to be who I am.

[madd-aroace]

Imagine being an introverted, aplatonic non-partnering aroace (and touch repulsed).

That's ME. I really feel like challenging the whole base of society.

I just don't crave human interactions (Nor physical or emotional). I really enjoy having friends though and appreciate my family, but i really like them best *from afar*, and most of the time, I really don't mind not seeing them for a while. I just need to know that they are okay.

As for partners, I just don't need any. I can't stand people in my personal space (and this space has really wild dimensions)

So, to my dear friends, let's respect each other, let's be happy for each other when we achieve great things, let's be mad at people who hurt any of us, let's joke often, let's share our interests, let's have deep conversations about specific topics, let me give you some logical advice when you need it, let's understand each other, let's try to be a reliable friend to each other (We don't always need to meet each other face to face to do this, right?). Most of all, let's respect each other boundaries.....

BUT, let's also forget about physical and deep emotional connection, let's forget about using specific words, like "love", to describe our interactions. Let's not start getting lovey-dovey-bestie for God's sake. Let's not talk about feelings towards each other, because i don't feel anything of this kind and I really can't deal with other people's emotional needs.

I am happy to know that you'll be here if I ever need you, and i'll be there for you whenever you need me. That alone is enough from my opinion!!! Yesss, we are friends, but let's not get too emotional about it. Let's just let it flow naturally for our own sake.

Isn't this enough to you? Why do we need feelings and big words to validate everything???

[madd-aroace]

[An aromantic experience with romance in fiction]

The way I enjoy romantic love stories in fiction and deep, nostalgic love songs is insane. 😫 Yes I'm aromantic. I don't find any logic in it and I have absolutely no interest in getting involved in romance myself. Not today. Not ever. And i can't even appreciate it when people around me are involved in it. But it's still enjoyable in fiction.

It could never be me. BUUUT it's entertaining to just watch. The unrealistic scenarios. The stupid and unbelievable liessss. I enjoy them all.

Oh the songs (mostly the sad love songs)...... They'll make you wanna cry for no reason at all. Oh the melodyyyyy.......! 😭 Breakup songs are the best !!!!!

[This is what romance should be: ENTERTAINMENT, FICTION.] [I still can't believe this thing is real]

[mtg-player1]

I love that I can just be nonpartnering. I don't have to get a partner, ever. I can just be single, forever.

[madd-aroace]

Dear Lord, don't let society fxck me up please. Just let me be single forever...in peace... PLEASE!!!!!

This is my prayer... Amen!

[arowitharrows]

dreaming of a world in which people know about aromanticism. And by "know" I don't mean "having a vague idea of it's existence", I mean know. I mean a world where an in depth article discussing people's choice to stay single will include an aromantic perspective. I mean a world where people have an understanding of why love, as an emotion, is detached from morality. A world where people will ask you "what kind of relationships do you want in your life?" instead of asking "do you have a boyfriend?". I dream of a world where aromantic people can exist without the constant underlying expectation of being dehumanized, erased and belittled by an unexpected, unassuming comment. I try to create a microcosm of this world around me. I hope it will be easier one day.

[madd-aroace]

Do you know what's funny? The first time i've ever read about aromanticism was after reading an article shared by a friend on social media about "10 types of single women" and why they were single.

I checked the whole article and none of those descriptions explained my own situation. And since I know there's always a good meme to relate to on the internet, I went to Pinterest to find something... anything that could describe me better. And it happened... the magic word was there... AROMANTIC... The relief I felt this day can't even be explained.

How nice it would've been if I learned about this earlier.

[eosofspades]

i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

[loveless-arobee]

It's always "aros can still date!" "aros can still be in (any type of non-romantic or romantic) relationships!" "aros aren't heartless!" "aros can still love in different ways!"

Well, sure, you do you.

But not all of us. A lot of us are *completely* non-partnering. There's loveless aros. Aplatonic aros. Hell, even heartless is a label some aros use!

We don’t need to do anything to "replace" the romantic relationships we don’t have. People can be completely happy alone! Without a partner! (Shocking, I know!)

I'm just a bit tired of all the amatonormativity I still see under some of the trending aro-positivity posts...