the pragmatic view of love honestly makes me so emotional
like what do you MEAN it’s up to us to create and nurture the relationships we want to have with people? what do you MEAN loving others and caring for others and being kind to them is a choice that we have to make every single day, in each moment? what do you MEAN we are the makers and sculptors and artists and architects of our own interpersonal relationships? i’m losing my mind!!
it really demystifies the whole affair. once you realise that love and thriving relationships don’t just drop from the sky or appear out of thin air, once you realise that it isn’t miraculous or due to “fate” or design, that it’s really just the choices that we make and the beliefs and values that we hold, everything becomes clear. you don’t just sit around and wait for things to change, or passively wish them to be different, clinging onto the idea that since it’s mystical, you’re not entirely responsible for shaping it. but you are. and that’s scary, but it’s also, like, the only thing that really matters at the end of the day?? i cannot
