I was going to write an article on edging today, as many new Mistresses and subs ask me about the art of edging…however I was too busy edging one of my pets to write. I will add some of my own ideas for you soon, but I came across this post which has some wonderful information and perspectives from some other amazing Tumblr bloggers.
Please check out the blogs of @beautifulsecrets42 , @femdomdoneright & @herbodyonmymind
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Original version by: FemdomDoneRight
Many sites on the internet talk about ruining a male orgasm but don’t actually discuss the more effective/efficient enslaving FemdomArt…
What most ladies are much more interested in I find, is routine & habitual “edging”. That’s playing with him, fondling him, and masturbating/stimulating him right to the “edge” of orgasm but not actually letting him cum…
The real art with edging is to learn exactly how to get him as close as possible to an explosion without actually allowing him to erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation.
There’s nothing quite like edging for subliminally building a guys libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…
Here are some powerful training tips:
1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…
2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…
3 - Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second too early than one second too late, stroke - edge - deny - repeat…
4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…
5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…
6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…
Thanks to FemdomDoneRight for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.
Extra notes by HerBodyOnMyMind:
1 - Routine is critical. Edge him every day. For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend. If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix). This is one activity he will eagerly join. Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly. The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day. This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you. Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled. No more going to bed alone! Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love? No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise. Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.
2 - Edge him more than once. For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said. Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done. Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night. It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.” Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy. All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state. Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again. It should be easy. A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough. Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)
3 - Keep him guessing. Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth. Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives. You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes. It’s incredibly hot.
4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes. His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm. “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly. He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick. The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm. He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break. You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.
-BodyOnMind
