So. I think pathetic, desperate, needy toys are hot. This is a fairly uncontroversial opinion, and from this emerges a genre of hypnokink: making someone more pathetic. Or, really, highlighting existing feelings of need/creating new feelings of need, and then letting a subject show them off or guiding a subject towards being unable to do anything except show them off. I'll be talking about that all here.
(Note: this is actually my second proper post on touch starvation, and I do share quite a few thoughts in my other post here, but it's a less approachable format. Additionally, this is actually responding to another post. It was going to be a reblog but got too long so I made it its own post.)
Essential in our understanding of patheticness is the idea that our ultimate goal is to force someone to display an emotional response. This can be done by inciting that emotion, and generally I tend to find that to be the easiest way of doing it, but in that we also observe that what we are looking for here is a kind of "broken mask". The idea of desperation and neediness contains an idea of "not safe to reveal" emotions. This idea that these are not proper things to feel and reveal, and that by revealing them we have done something wrong. Thus, on some level we must understand that what we are doing is "giving permission to be pathetic".
Next, how do we cause someone to feel an emotion like desire? On some level, this is rather easy. If you like chocolate, than if I were to talk about chocolate, you'd probably get hungry and desire chocolate. Generally, I approach this from the perspective of hypnosis, but I imagine someone with a background in writing or public speaking would give a similar answer. There are two components here: getting someone to engage and listen, and delivering the suggestion.
Generally, in any kink setting, I expect it won't be hard for you to get your subject to listen and engage with your ideas, but some subjects are difficult. Some subjects struggle to focus, and some subjects refuse to engage with ideas they consider silly.
For the prior subjects, give them things to focus on. Figure out what your subject likes to think about, how it likes to think about it, and deliver it fantasies and ideas that it can't help but be caught up in. To enhance this, incorporate as many senses as possible. In hypnosis, we'll call attention to the feeling of the subject's body, the sound of the speaker's voice, the focal point the subject is looking at, and even points of contact where we might be touching our subject to provide more to focus on. Even outside hypnosis, doing these things will help someone to focus and engage.
For subjects that refuse to engage because they consider things silly, I recommend either becoming so experienced that it doesn't matter what they think, or just avoiding topics and ideas that trigger that impulse in them. Finally, an additional important way to force a subject to truly consider something you are telling them is to have them repeat it back to you. This could take the form of merely repeating after you, or repeating a mantra that connects to what you're saying.
Then, delivering the suggestion. First, you'll want to understand what makes your subject feel the desired emotion. For touch starvation, you might have a conversation with it on another day where it tells you how it experienced touch starvation in the past. Write down the descriptive language it uses. For generalized neediness, you could just talk about how it experiences desire or lust. In any case, you will want to have a solid understanding of how your subject experiences these things to build off of. I'd also recommend observing how you feel the desired emotion, and being able to use that for inspiration as well.
Second, packaging the suggestion. Generally, there are two routes to go about: direct suggestion and inferential suggestion. With direct suggestion, you'll be directly telling your subject what it experiences. This works on some subjects in some contexts (especially subjects with past experience with hypnosis) but not others. With inferential suggestion, you'll be not directly stating what the desired response is, but implying it. This works less effectively than direct suggestion, but works on everyone where direct suggestion doesn't. Generally, these aren't truly "two different things" but rather represent different sometimes intersecting approaches. I tend to prefer less direct suggestions, personally, as they amuse me.
Third, suggestions as permission. In this special case of expressing neediness/desperation, we'll also want to note that you are giving permission. Many subjects will have a great amount of experience with feeling emotions and not acting on them, covering them up, and hiding them. You could try to achieve your goal by simply overwhelming the mask, but this is not always effective. Thus, I highly recommend in your suggestions containing notes to the tune of 'desired and expected behavior'. Describe how someone feeling the emotions you intend to cause can be expected to act. Describe what one might say or do. Or just let loose and describe how someone might be unable to control their responses, describe how someone might be justified in pleading or begging, describe how someone might be unable to contain their inhibitions. This is a precise and delicate category that some subjects will not need and others will desperately need. I highly recommend familiarizing yourself with how your subject can be expected to respond, and tuning your suggestions accordingly.
As an added note, it is in this "giving permission to express things" that you can prime a specific desired response. If perhaps your goal is to have your subject beg to be molested by you, then in your descriptions and suggestions of how a subject might respond, be sure to include that image, in as much detail as is necessary. If you really want that response, than you might even include it in a mantra. Consider "I need to be touched so much that I'm begging you to molest me" or something along those lines.
Then, uh, I think that about covers it. Hope this helps!
