“La Negra tomasa” - Caifanes
November 2012-May 2018
Black Friday 2012 and 1 month after my break up of my longest relationship. The ex moved out and I had friends over a lot more often. This night my friend “Arrogant Basterd” gave me a call that there’s a friend he’s bringing over says he thinks I’ll like him.. I rolled my eyes and said whatever I was still bitter to the thought of hooking up with someone new again after my split. My friends arrive and there he was “Decaf”.
I remember this boy when I just turned 18 and he was still 16.. I was with my rebound at the time summer of 2008. I remember I asked him who that was.. he said thats “Decaf”.
Now Decaf is a 21 year old, tattooed, long haired, single dad. Apparently he knows who I am too. Not surprised since we have many mutual friends from our hometown.
I still came off mean and bitter to him. I knew what he was here for and I was like how dare our friend even try to hook us up. He was one of those guys with kind of bad rep and has been very popular among the girls in our hometown but eventually that night I caved.
It became a regular thing that winter I’d see him. He played his role as dad during the day, worked at night and since both our jobs ended after midnight it would be our time. We were absolutely just in lust.
There was one night I was expecting him. I left the door wide open to my one bedroom apartment. I was standing over my computer and in first few seconds of “La negra tomasa” comes on. I’m getting into it moving hips very slowly and dancing. It was a song that came on a lot during my kickbacks at my apartment. Then right at the first “Ay! Ay! Ay!” He’s walking in towards me singing that part. Then I’m sure you know what happens next.
Our friends knew this relationship was just one about one thing. We were quite mean to each other but had a few things in common and were able to have many intellectual conversations. Anyways we eventually stopped, he found someone he actually wanted to be involved with. Shit kinda broke me but I knew how he was and left it that. Over the next year we were just friends and I was able to meet his daughter on Christmas Day 2013. She was adorable. Then over the next 4 years we’d reunite and stuff but over that time I really learned he’s a scumbag.
I’m not going to leave it at that though. If it wasn’t for him and the heartache from the first year I knew him I may have not gotten into hooping then all the way to performing at Burning Man. Thanks asshole 🖤✨










