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[calladraws101]

Mutual understanding

[in-danmei-hell-send-help]

I think what kills me about Jiang Cheng antis is that a lot of their talking points reek of anti survivor rhetoric. As someone who is a survivor and has done a lot of advocacy for victims and survivors of power based personal violence, I want to be the first to inform you that the narrative of the “pretty survivor” (which is steeped in cishet normative, white supremacist, and ableist ideas) is an extremely rare case. Trauma survivors are rarely pretty. The Wei Wuxian’s of the world are incredibly uncommon. 

Trauma–especially intense, horrific trauma like what Jiang Cheng went through–often leads to intense issues of anger and hatred. It makes you deeply emotional and can often lead to you becoming unstable. Jiang Cheng lost his entire family and community in the span of a few years. He didn’t have access to therapy (something that literally anyone would need to heal from that), he had to rebuild his entire sect, likely had to fight an uphill battle in order to be a significant part of Jin Ling’s life, all while cleaning up the mess that Wei Wuxian left behind.

This is not to hate on Wei Wuxian, he’s my third favorite character (after Jiang Cheng and Lan Wangji) and I love him deeply, but he left behind a legacy that Jiang Cheng had to clean up. Whether or not he realized this would happen, Wei Wuxian created a cultivation path (gui dao/ghost cultivation) that is extremely dangerous and horrific. While I still don’t know if I believe that Jiang Cheng killed every demonic cultivator he came across, I don’t know that it was necessarily a bad thing that he did kill them. We’ve talked a lot in the cxc server about gui dao and demonic cultivation and just how much it harms the mind and body. Wei Wuxian is the exception to the rule in having such control over it and even he eventually succumbed to it. If demonic cultivators are causing great harm, then a cultivators job is to stop that harm and the source of it. That may mean killing the demonic cultivator. I think people get mixed up when (I think it was Jingyi) said that Jiang Cheng kills the wrong person. I believe it was @twilightarc-gm who said that “wrong” doesn’t imply innocent but rather the fact that the person isn’t Wei Wuxian. We know that Jiang Cheng spent thirteen years trying to find Wei Wuxian and when he does find him, he doesn’t kill him despite having literally every reason to.

Like idk y’all, if the guy that got my entire clan wiped out, my sect burned down, and caused the deaths of my sister and her husband died and came back from dead, I wouldn’t just threaten him with a dog and yell at him. I would kill him. But he doesn’t he has every opportunity to in multiple instances after confirming that it’s Wei Wuxian, but he never does. He seems more interested in dragging Wei Wuxian home (literally stating that he’s going to bring Wei Wuxian home to Lotus Pier to kneel before his parents’ graves). Like that doesn’t imply that he’s going to kill Wei Wuxian, but rather make him repent. 

I think it’s telling that despite a lot of Jiang Cheng’s hurt and pain, he still chooses to not severely hurt or kill Wei Wuxian, it would be within his right to do so, but in the end after it’s all over, he let’s Wei Wuxian go. He doesn’t tell Wei Wuxian that he sacrificed himself for him, because he knew that Wei Wuxian would feel guilty and obligated to him, just like Wei Wuxian knew Jiang Cheng would feel guilty and obligated. That to me shows a survivor choosing to break the cycle of hurt and pain and I have to question why Jiang Cheng antis so often choose to ignore the side of him that does love Wei Wuxian (it’s up to the viewer whether they see that love as romantic or platonic), enough so to let him go and not burden him with pain.

Jiang Cheng’s story and character arc is at it’s core about trauma, survival, and rising above dire circumstances despite the odds. He attempts the impossible and manages to succeed in it. And to ignore that is a disservice to his character, survivors of trauma, and the effort MXTX put into creating such a complex and interesting character.

[sonik-kun]

Jiang Cheng canonically has the sexiest laugh out of all the characters, and I feel that's something we as a fandom don't talk about enough

[doubleca5t]

believe it or not i got my dick sucked because of that one tweet you did today

OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOOD

[doubleca5t]

Got some more asks after this one saying the same thing. Suck her dick sunday strikes again.

[doubleca5t]

[straykids-are-my-jam]

So I literally just started supporting Onlyoneof like uh like a week ago, but like it's so interesting to me how much backlash they're getting for their video/song LibidO???!!!

Like one of the problems people seem to have with them is that that were allowed to do the choegraphy on Mnet when Mnet will usually make people cover up tattoos and stuff, but like that literally just makes it cooler that they WERE able to preform on there unedited.

Like why are you guys all bashing on them for making progress in the kpop world???????

[memecliffy]

facts

[indigomovn]

let’s talk about onlyoneof.

if you don’t know whats going on, onlyoneof released an EP “instinct part 1” with the title track “libidO” on april 8th. this song got a lot of attention due to their highly suggestive dance and many called that queerbaiting and only doing this for attention.

as a bisexual woman, i don’t think this is queerbaiting. if you watch the whole music video, its about the discovery of sexual desire and drive within individuals or in this case, males, hence why it’s called libido. in their description it wrote “libido is considered a feeling that shouldn’t be openly talked about in real life and should be concealed, so its existence is often denied”. i like how they went this route to express a topic that majority of us are going through but its too taboo of a topic to be discussed. its okay to not talk about your sexual desires and experiences if you’re uncomfortable but its also okay to express them how ever you like. what’s not okay is to talk down to those who are willing to share their experiences to those who need guidance and/or advice because you’re uncomfortable with that. although there are scenes that are suggestive, most of the scenes i find pure as they are just doing things normal people do like walking while holding hands, running on tracks, having fun in the river etc. not only they’re discovering their sexual desires but themselves as well. if anything this concept to me is about self-discovery.

that part with love and nine was the only thing people pointed out as queerbaiting and while the suggestive choreography is well… questionable, you do have to admit if they were to get a female dancer for this, it would cause uproar. the members were okay with doing suggestive choreography with each other and in fact were excited to explore a topic that was stigmatised in korea. at the end of the day, they were completely okay with the concept and they are grown men so they are able to give consent before doing something different.

kpop stans reacting to this in a negative way because they are “queerbaiting” and such just shows how many stans are nickpicking what they like about queer representation. it’s okay to not like it, i’m not saying they have to like “libidO” but if they are fine with the fan service and ships between the members and even the fanfics erotic or not about them, but they draw the line at onlyoneof turning something so taboo into art, i honestly find that ironic.

before i finish, i wanted to say that we cannot assume their sexuality because of this. unless they come out themselves, we cannot give them a label. for now they have no label just like everyone else unless they tell you otherwise. also labelling them as straight is also assuming their sexuality in case someone wants to come at me.

edit: i also want to add that the LGBTQ community is not a place for sexual fantasies, so i find that refreshing to see scenes like walking on the beach holding hands being used as an example of how we are portrayed in media. it’s upsetting to know that people treat us as an aesthetic or even a fetish rather than individuals. we are human too.

[bananonbinary]

one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former Gifted Kid™ is that half-assed is better than nothing. take the 50%, 40%, even 20% job. scrubbing your face is better than not taking a shower at all. picking up your clothes is better than never cleaning. nibbling on some bread is better than starving.

DO THINGS HALFWAY. NOW YOU’RE 100% BETTER OFF THAN YOU WERE BEFORE.

[redheadhatchet]

One of my college professors used to say “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.”  I didn’t understand that for years because I didn’t do anything poorly, I couldn’t do anything poorly, I had to Do Everything Perfectly.

But brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all when that 2 minutes seems exhausting.  Doing ten minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible.  Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is impossible.  Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being in the house for three straight days because I don’t have the energy to go anywhere.

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly… because doing it poorly is better than not doing it.

[justalittleproblem]

Me, when AO3 starts to slow down: Load my page you coward

[memecliffy]

mood lmao

[inncorrect-stray-kids]

Minho: I have decided on a new constellation. I call it The Bees. If you look up at the night sky and see all those sparkly dots, congratulations. You see The Bees. I have just made astrology 10000x easier, you’re welcome.

Felix: those born under the sign of the bees:have emotions, think thoughts, is likely introverted or extroverted, has at least a few friends, was born at some point

Hyunjin: oh my god thats so me

[memecliffy]

lmaoo well- it works??

[parkchanwoohoo]

Sucks that “sleeping together” refers to sex. Sometimes a fella just wants to snooze with a pal.

[venomsunshine]

aesthetics 🌸

// lockscreens for you ✨

[just-high-school-things]

ads 6 months ago: “OoooOOOOooooOOOoo, look how fancy this car is! Don’t you wish you drove a Mercedes?”

ads now: *cheesy orchestral music* “Here at Mercedes-Benz, we understand that times are tough and nobody has any money because there’s a deadly virus ravaging the entire planet. Now buy a luxury car.”

[childweanedonpoison]

thirteen years of english classes and several exams only to see native speakers write ‘should of’ and be paid more than me

[harrehmadness]

xx

[sarahseeandersen]

[lostsometime]

i had a very illuminating conversation with a guy about 10 years younger than me that really put this change into perspective, which is this:

i have a very distinct memory, in my childhood, of the moment of my disillusionment.  i believed that grown-ups knew what they were doing, and that the things that seemed so obvious to me had to be obvious to them, too (things like DON’T GO TO WAR IN IRAQ, for example).  i believed that, and had that belief pulled out from under me, so my disillusionment comes with a sense of betrayal.

a mere 10 years younger than me, this guy has no such moment or memory.  he never believed grown-ups were fundamentally competent, or good, or reasonable.  he never lived in a world where things didn’t feel constantly careening wildly out of control.  there’s no betrayal in his sense that the government has failed him - of course it has, it was always going to.  he doesn’t remember a time pre-bush, or pre-9/11, or pre-iraq war.  this is just what the world has always looked like for him.  so it’s not really a sense of “disillusionment,” actually - his generation never had any illusions to lose.  they’ve just been in this world so long it’s all they’ve ever known.

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