Lilith is rarely covered in detail when it comes to synastry and Iâve been asked many questions about it as a result. I figured it was time for me to make a comprehensive post about it. These will be much more accurate and relevant if the aspect degree is small. You can refer to any Lilith you prefer, as it can apply to many of them. Please take all of these interpretations with a grain of salt. Lilith is highly controversial because it has so many different versions and many are just points, not physical beings. I did my best, but realize that many times Lilith will not be highly felt and that some of these interpretations can be too extreme in cases.Â
Lilith is the Dark Feminine and female sexuality that has not been censored. It refuses to be controlled or contained.
positive: the ego of the sun person can feel somewhat threatened by the nature of the Lilith person, but has an easier time accepting and enjoying the unabashed sexual energy of the Lilith person than negative sun-Lilith does.
negative: the ego of the sun person is highly threatened by the Lilith persons freedom, crudeness, and dark sexual energy. it is very tense. the sun person may try to control the Lilith person to coddle their own ego. the sun is also powerfully sexually attracted to Lilith, but will try to run from this. they will often lose.
positive: the mercury person picks up on all the crude comments and inappropriate sexual innuendos, jokes, and way of expressing their self. they are uncomfortable by it, but not entirely disgusted. in a sexual context, dirty talk is likely to occur.Â
negative: the mercury person could be disgusted by the lilith personâs crude remarks. they could really rub each other the wrong way when it comes to talking about anything sexual or taboo. could have a spark within the tension/arguing though that is somewhat hot (like the lilith person somehow charms through their vulgar talk).Â
positive: the moon versus the dark moon (if looking at black/dark moon lilith). the nurturing feminine versus the dark feminine. in positive aspect, the moon person is still going to feel a bit overpowered, uncomfortable, and easily torn down by the lilith person. however, because it is positive, the effect is less obvious and easier to ignore.Â
negative: yikes. with this, there is likely to be a huge conflict in what the moon person needs to feel comfort and what the lilith person is willing to give. the lilith may enjoy not giving the moon person what they want and have no problem over-asserting their own will. the moon person can feel bulldozed. the moon person, if the aspect is tight enough, may not be able to shake the dark energy coming from the lilith person and be unable to see anything but evil.Â
positive: exciting. venus is enticed with lilith, cannot help but be intrigued. the two can be extremely into each other, especially physically. much sexual attraction can occur.Â
negative: similar to positive, but this time it can be too much. it can be explosive, possessive, and dark. venus may not be able to, if the aspect is tight, stay away from lilithâs charm no matter how they try and lilith feels a similar way. they donât necessarily want to be so drawn to one another, but are. venus can easily felt overpowered and frightened by lilithâs force.
positive: mars can handle a lot of what lilith throws at them. sure, sometimes they will feel annoyance and a need to assert their dominance over lilith, which will only make lilith fight harder, but with this easy aspect, itâs not so intense. itâs competitive and can have a lot of tension and conflict, but mars likes a bit of fight! they can drive each other wild.Â
negative: expect a lot of fighting, power trips from both sides, possibly manipulation, and hate sex. the easiest way for both of these people to express themselves to each other is via sex and many times they will be expressing anger and annoyance at each other. itâs hot, but potentially dangerous and unhealthy.Â
positive: pluto can hang with lilith better than mars. pluto too deals with darkness and power in oneself. they also find comfort in destruction. this is highly, highly sexy. they canât keep their hands off each other. they may not butt heads too often if it is soft because pluto can understand lilithâs energy pretty well.Â
negative: very, very different from positive. the darkness, power, and destruction themes are going to be in conflict and cause a volcanic amount of tension that can lead to violence and rage from both. constant arguments could color the interaction. more so than mars, hate sex could occur: releasing pent up rage through sex. can be highly manipulative, possessive, obsessive, and erratic.Â
positive: eros seeks a certain amount of romance and connection from sex that lilith will not always extend. eros could feel rejected and hurt. sexually, though, when lilith does not feel choked by attempts at romance, they could really enjoy one another.Â
negative: eros will grow to hate the emotional connection that sometimes can be missing in sex. sex has more aggression in it and is rather hot.Â
positive: the lilith person may not be too much for the juno person. the juno person could find some of the traits attractive and captivating.Â
negative: the lilith person could be too much for the juno person and that could become a bigger problem as the relationship gets stronger, more intimate, and develops into a long term one. the juno person may have some reservations about the lilith person regarding their darker sexual, uncompromising energy.Â
positive: ascendant may notice lilith quickly and see the lilith traits in particular. it may rub them the wrong way, depending on the person, but they are highly intrigued and feel at least some amount of attraction.Â
negative: ascendant person may hate the lilith person. they could feel the tension very quickly. but the sexual part of the tension is so strong that they may not be able to stay away.Â
1st: similar to lilith aspecting ascendant, the asc person will feel the traits of lilith within the lilith person straight away and may run from it or like it depending on themselves. sexual tension is basically guaranteed.Â
2nd: the house person could find the lilith traits sensual and a spicy add in to romance - or find it too vulgar. house person could want to indulge lilith person in any way lilith person desires.Â
3rd: the lilith person will draw out conversations from the house person that they didnât know they wanted to have or could have. could talk about sex quite a bit. lilith could try to overpower in conversation. a lot of dirty talk possibly.Â
4th: house person could be rather uncomfortable at home or alone with lilith person. lilith personâs traits could be activated in home environment. house person could feel like they have rather different ideas about family and home life than lilith or feel like lilith could never really give them what they need in that regard.Â
5th: sexy. the house person could like the sometimes lack of emotion involved in the sex. could be a ton of sex. lilith person could often ran on house personâs parade.Â
6th: the house person may feel like they should fall at lilithâs feet and do whatever for them. the house person may be willing to indulge lilith quite a bit and submit to them especially sexually, which lilith loves. the lilith person could cause issues with the house personâs health or daily life.Â
7th: lilith could somehow be something the house person has always wanted, but also something the house person has always been slightly afraid of in the back of their head. lilith could dominate most aspects of their one-on-one time, which depending on the kind of person the house person is, will be a good thing or a bad thing.Â
8th: the house person is likely to enjoy the intensity and darkness of lilith and it is here where sex is likely to be the most explosive, mind blowing, and equal. power struggles may occur, but the house person really could admire lilith and the side lilith brings out of them. lot of sex.Â
9th: lilith could be mocking of the house personâs ideas about larger-than-life concepts or make their learning process harder. lilith could also expand the house personâs mind to think about more vulgar, taboo topics, which the house person may really like. could be very mind-body attraction or lack of it.Â
10th: the house person feels intimidated in the lilith personâs presence. they could feel some pressure in their appearance in public and job in order to please lilith. lilith could add tension to the house personâs goals/future. the house person may idolize lilith or be highly captivated by them.Â
11th: lilith is likely to bump heads with this house person. lilith will cause tension in friendships, perhaps even attempt to tease the house personâs friends sexually. the house person could be easily frustrated and not put up with it.Â
12th: lilith brings out the house personâs subconscious rather forcefully and uncomfortably. they try to bring it out, almost knowing they are doing so, possibly through manipulation and sex. the house person may reject the lilith person all together, or at least their lilith side.Â