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Lee / 30 / Gemini ○ TAZ ○ Boku no Hero ○ JJBA ○ Overwatch ○ HP ○ Sherlock ○ crochet ○ cute animals ○ An anxious guy in the US of A living with his boyfriend and 3 cats.

[midoriyasour]

Time for Top Surgery!

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Tumblr's being fucky-wucky so you you are trying to talk to me, send me a DM on twitter @midoriyasour !

[studio-ami]

~Corgi Pattern~

So in celebration of the Queen’s jubilee today, I’m going to share my pattern for a cute little corgi! 

As always, please don’t claim/sell the pattern as your own and if theres something you don’t understand, please get in contact!

Happy crocheting!

(If you like my ami, please check out my facebook page- Studio Ami!)

xxx 

[shubbabang]

This is unrelated to anything but watching Lord of the Rings with friends while I work when one friend mentioned it would be a lot cooler if Gandalf had a Ford Fiesta

[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[farisyawritesfic]

This is the funniest fucking thing I’ve ever seen.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

enough toxic masculinity I'm ready for salubrious mexicanity. I'm ready for a social movement that encourages (esp straight, cis) men to indulge in things that make them more joyful, emotionally healthy, and help them strengthen not core muscles but core compassionate communication skills.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

I cannot stress enough that I have a minor speech impediment and voice-to-text decided it was more likely that I said "mexicanity" than "masculinity." I was not in fact alluding to the potential healing benefits of being Mexican. I am however perfectly content with this post being about that instead.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

many thanks to those who thought this post was about gomez addams. from this moment forward, tis

[mclennonyaoi]

it is insane how people do just . not know what objective is. like if you are trying to argue there is some objective difference between “good art” and “bad art” and your first argument is that “well objectively good art makes people feel good and bad art makes them feel bad” you . have no clue what art is. and also have no clue what objectivity is.

[mclennonyaoi]

[catasters]

[gryffon]

[midoriyasour]

for our twitter refugees and tumblypoos in making

This test unlocked the part of my brain that links text to images. Half of these I answered correct without actually remembering what the fuck the answer meant, just that it was correct haha

[celebswithhorses]

[theycantalk]

fears

[recoverr-deactivated20220605]

don’t let this world’s obsession with youth rob you of the big and small joys of adulthood. i spent most of my teenage years and early twenties struggling with my mental health. but there’s no timeline for happiness. for many people, getting older and growing up means having more chances to redefine their values, find their path and stability in life. some people go to college in their forties. some people marry in their sixties. some people recover better after their thirties. there’s no timeline for this kind of stuff. your childhood and teenage years won’t be the only chance you have at experiencing freedom and joy.

[dhdingo]

[icarus-suraki]

How come everyone has orbs now??? What the fuck!!! I want an orb!!! How do I get an orb????????

[cargopantsman]

Are you a wizard?

Gotta be a wizard to have an orb.

[icarus-suraki]

What kind of a question is that? Of course I’m a wizard! I’m over here doing hot wizard shit and everything.

[lew-basnight]

No no you have an orb! You showed me that one time! (Surreptitiously hands you a spare orb under the table)

[theunfairfolk]

ILLEGAL ORB TRANSFER

HALT, DIRTBAGS

[icarus-suraki]

YOU’LL NEVER CATCH ME! I HAVE THE POWER OF THE ORB!

[lew-basnight]

(scatters handful of very small orbs on the floor) I cast fall on your ass!

[theunfairfolk]

NOOOOOO

[neurodivergent-noodle-deactivat]

“but it’s my coping mechanism!” is not an excuse for shitty behaviour.

not to sound mean but some coping mechanisms are unhealthy. it’s your responsibility to find ways to cope that don’t hurt other people. yes, it can be a hard thing to do, but you’re still responsible for your actions. if it feels impossible, then you really need to seek help.

it’s not healthy to normalise the idea that all coping mechanisms are fine and good and valid, when some of them hurt either the individual, or those around them.

[bumblebeerror]

Hard truth that I’ve had to confront that I’m honestly not proud of:

Constantly voicing your abandonment issues lead to more people abandoning you.

I do not mean in Serious Conversations about what you need in a relationship or anything like that - I mean when your friend plays a video game with a different friend for a few days and you feel like your world is crumbling, that is not the time to talk about them.

I understand the fear that someone will decide they are done with you. I live that fear every single day, but here’s the rub.

If you tell people “you’ll probably leave me anyway” or similar things every time you feel that fear, people will leave you.

Not because they don’t want to be your friend, your partner, your roommate, whatever. Not because you aren’t deserving of friends (you are), but because it is exhausting to be constantly told by someone you like/love to go away.

Because that is how it feels on the other end. I don’t say this to make it worse, or to make you feel like you’re at fault. Your brain is hurting you, and it’s okay to feel things. But if you find that it’s hard to keep people around you, then you need to hear that outside of things like conversations about boundaries and triggers and such, it would be to your benefit to change your language.

Instead of telling people “you probably don’t like me”, try asking. “You like me? It’s much easier for them to reassure you when you don’t start with a negative, because it puts your brain in a different mindset, one that finds it easier to believe their response.

Sit with your issues. Parent them. And when they’re done screaming, hold their little hands and dry their little faces and try to remember that you are worth being loved. I won’t say it’s easy, because it’s really fucking not. I won’t say you’ll get it the first time, or that you’ll never fuck up. I still do. But you deserve friends and partners and love, it’s just that so do they.

[aqueerkettleofish]

Another thing about this is that you are waving a red flag.

Because here's the thing.

When your friend plays a video game with a different friend for a few days, and you talk about how that hurt you? You've just created a situation where you've placed the onus of your emotions on your friend, who did nothing wrong. Now your friend has to worry about what other perfectly reasonable activities are going to get them accused of hurting you, which is what you were doing whether you meant to or not.

And here's the other thing.

When you tell someone "everyone always leaves me", they wonder why. And it's very possible that they've dealt with someone who complained about this, then proceeded to demonstrate why. There is a particular kind of social parasite that will completely use up their friend group, then move on to new friends while shit-talking how they were treated by the last friend group.

[afniel]

Lotta people are BIG mad about the phrase "social parasite," but guys, news flash. If you routinely establish a social circle only to drive everyone in it away from emotional exhaustion, you are in fact being a social parasite and you need to stop that behavior.

Having BPD or whatever does not itself make you a parasite, no. That would be shitty being belief and isn't even true. But if you're performing the behavior, you're being the thing, and that's something you just have to confront in yourself. You can't just carry on with a toxic behavior and cry ableism when people call you toxic, regardless of the source of that behavior. That's some classic anti-recovery bullshit. It's everyone's job to look at themselves and decide what they're not going to put up with from themselves, and yes, that's harder for some and easier for some, but them's the breaks.

[v4d4v4d4]

i love you people i love this site i wish slutweed was real